jedamum:

kiddo:

jedamum - your DH and your path is as long as me and my DH
path to UNI, :salute:
fumble at P4 maths , u are not alone :hi5:

:hi5:
but we no highflier ah. living in 4-rm flat and paying HDB for the next few decades...but for us, the kids are healthy and wellbehaved, dh has a job to feed us, ILs not bad. no complaints.

kiddo:

jedamum - your DH and your path is as long as me and my DH
path to UNI, :salute:
fumble at P4 maths , u are not alone :hi5:

jedamum:

auntieauntie:

If a private school offers a better curriculum and teaching method for O and A levels, I would rather send my kid to that school than stay in a government school. There is something wrong with the education system if parents need to tax their children with more school work outside of regular school hours. There will be little time to play and be creative.


My sister's daughter suffered a nervous breakdown because she constantly worries about her grades. It has come to a point where she is seeing a psychologist to help manage her anxieties. She attends all kinds of tuition classes and enrichment programmes. Did quite well in school but this took a toll on her mental well-being.

It looks like the girl may be looking into other options as she is currently unfit to continue with her A levels in the junior college. But her mom is quite adamant that she goes to a good university...

parental support is very important.
i almost had a nervous breakdown too, struggling with 4 hrs of sleep each day trying to cope in JC. luckily my parents had no expectations of me and told me that all they wanted was for me to be healthy and not end up in a mental hospital. so how relieved i was to submit that withdrawal form when i received my O-level results although I qualified to stay at the same JC. there was no tuition whatsover for me last time and i had to rely on myself pouring over the class notes at 2am in the morning and still could not figure out Fmath. :stupid: i eventually went to poly and after 3 yrs, an Australian uni invited me (through my level head) for me to apply for overseas studies scholarship. i did not accept (financial difficulty at home hence no money for daily lodging etc, parents not looking forward for me to go overseas etc, still have younger sibling schooling etc) and started working and got married instead :oops: . applied NUS part time, got accepted, then rejected their offer (cos fees and time commitment was so much higher than SIM) and planned for our first child and then went on to get my degree at SIM. my husband dropped out of JC after 3 months too although he qualified to continue. he went private diploma (he took 2 'specialty' at the same time) and got his degree before he NS. all these possible because his parents were very supportive of him planning his own route (and also cos his parents could afford because no other siblings). he also shared that going private studies requires a lot of self motivated and determination. social circle and social life will be very limited (ie no such thing as campus life as in NUS/NTU kindof campus life ah). because he deferred NS (which he said is no longer possible now), failing is not an option and he accelerated his learning by taking max modules during a given time period. for backup, he also took another higher diploma while managing his degree. all these were planned by him, so his parents only provided morale (and money) support. no tuition last time too ah.

life is still very long ahead. my husband said that while getting a degree should be the aim for our kids, he is open to the different ways that our kids could achieve it so long at the end of the day, a uni degree is a must.
so bottom line, parental support is very important. kids usually get stressed from parental expectations rather than sch expectations. but unless parents envisage that at the end of the day, the quality of lifestyle they wanted their kids to have should be higher than what they are having now, then maybe that's why parents are pushing their kids to work harder. my ILs mentality had been so long my dh is independent and can earn a decent living, that is good enough. (my parents were so long i can get married, good enough for them :yikes: :oops: ).

but hor, now 2 uni grad parent fumbled at P4 math questions... :slapshead: ...how ah? tuition? :siam:

auntieauntie:

If a private school offers a better curriculum and teaching method for O and A levels, I would rather send my kid to that school than stay in a government school. There is something wrong with the education system if parents need to tax their children with more school work outside of regular school hours. There will be little time to play and be creative.


My sister's daughter suffered a nervous breakdown because she constantly worries about her grades. It has come to a point where she is seeing a psychologist to help manage her anxieties. She attends all kinds of tuition classes and enrichment programmes. Did quite well in school but this took a toll on her mental well-being.

It looks like the girl may be looking into other options as she is currently unfit to continue with her A levels in the junior college. But her mom is quite adamant that she goes to a good university...

auntieauntie:

If a private school offers a better curriculum and teaching method for O and A levels, I would rather send my kid to that school than stay in a government school. There is something wrong with the education system if parents need to tax their children with more school work outside of regular school hours. There will be little time to play and be creative.


My sister's daughter suffered a nervous breakdown because she constantly worries about her grades. It has come to a point where she is seeing a psychologist to help manage her anxieties. She attends all kinds of tuition classes and enrichment programmes. Did quite well in school but this took a toll on her mental well-being.

It looks like the girl may be looking into other options as she is currently unfit to continue with her A levels in the junior college. But her mom is quite adamant that she goes to a good university...

Anyway, I read that the London Edexcel IGCSE 'A' level course at Insworld Institute is structured such that each subject is divided into 6 units with examinations held every 6 months. Students can choose any number of units and are allowed to re-take examinations. The results are then accumulated as a full 'A' level certificate. So perhaps no need to cram so much info in the brain for 2 years before taking exams....Also, the school seems to have produced students that went to the Imperial College, UCL, Uni of Warwick, Uni of British Columbia etc...Perhaps it is something that my friend can consider. The girl has already done 1 year in JC so maybe can get advance standing to complete her A level.

Any comments other suggestions?

auntieauntie:

If a private school offers a better curriculum and teaching method for O and A levels, I would rather send my kid to that school than stay in a government school. There is something wrong with the education system if parents need to tax their children with more school work outside of regular school hours. There will be little time to play and be creative.


My sister's daughter suffered a nervous breakdown because she constantly worries about her grades. It has come to a point where she is seeing a psychologist to help manage her anxieties. She attends all kinds of tuition classes and enrichment programmes. Did quite well in school but this took a toll on her mental well-being.

It looks like the girl may be looking into other options as she is currently unfit to continue with her A levels in the junior college. But her mom is quite adamant that she goes to a good university...

Anyway, I read that the London Edexcel IGCSE 'A' level course at Insworld Institute is structured such that each subject is divided into 6 units with examinations held every 6 months. Students can choose any number of units and are allowed to re-take examinations. The results are then accumulated as a full 'A' level certificate. So perhaps no need to cram so much info in the brain for 2 years before taking exams....Also, the school seems to have produced students that went to the Imperial College, UCL, Uni of Warwick, Uni of British Columbia etc...Perhaps it is something that my friend can consider. The girl has already done 1 year in JC so maybe can get advance standing to complete her A level.

kiddo:

Chenonceau, where r u
Darling amber gal :love: :please: calling :rotflmao:

1amber:

kiddo:

[quote=\"Chenonceau\"]
Maybe you broke up because one went and the other did not... There are plenty of opportunities regionally. She just got offered a one month stint in China... allowance, food and lodging.. We are waiting and praying. Last thing we wanna do is to think that the traditional pathways are best... Oxford, Cambridge, Harvard... tried and tested, but maybe God has better plans.

We really like this boy. Talk about husband material... this is one. We aren't saying \"Don't go\". It's just such a big decision that all perspectives matter... and the 2 youths have their perspectives too.

How can anyone goes wrong with such \"level headed\" thinking
parents , Chenonceau- your DS/DD is so blessed to be your child. :hi5:

kiddo:

Chenonceau:

Maybe you broke up because one went and the other did not... There are plenty of opportunities regionally. She just got offered a one month stint in China... allowance, food and lodging.. We are waiting and praying. Last thing we wanna do is to think that the traditional pathways are best... Oxford, Cambridge, Harvard... tried and tested, but maybe God has better plans.

We really like this boy. Talk about husband material... this is one. We aren't saying \"Don't go\". It's just such a big decision that all perspectives matter... and the 2 youths have their perspectives too.

How can anyone goes wrong with such \"level headed\" thinking
parents , Chenonceau- your DS/DD is so blessed to be your child. :hi5:

Chenonceau:

Maybe you broke up because one went and the other did not... There are plenty of opportunities regionally. She just got offered a one month stint in China... allowance, food and lodging.. We are waiting and praying. Last thing we wanna do is to think that the traditional pathways are best... Oxford, Cambridge, Harvard... tried and tested, but maybe God has better plans.

We really like this boy. Talk about husband material... this is one. We aren't saying \"Don't go\". It's just such a big decision that all perspectives matter... and the 2 youths have their perspectives too.

Oppsgal:

http://singapore.gumtree.sg/c-Community-community-classes-courses-University-students-to-do-your-childs-homework-W0QQAdIdZ361177590


Came across this ad. :rotflmao:

Chenonceau:

toddles:

[quote=\"Chenonceau\"]

Oh dear... :oops: I forgot. She had Econs tuition for 5 months in J2. :oops: :oops: :oops: So... not that smart lah... Anyway, she doesn't know where she wanna go yet. There are 2 futures to decide, and must be done in co-ordination.

Her boyfriend wanna do law, and best place is Singapore. We like the boy and marriage is even more important than uni so I would rather they not separate. So, possible she will stay here. She is a girl after all. Marriage is more important than ivy league.

And I dun believe she has a place in Ivy League. USA places were already allocated before A levels (or something like that) and she was not confident and so she didn't apply. Cambridge rejected her. But that's all I know. I dun really keep tabs on her, unless I wanna get scolded.

Really ah?! Quite surprised to hear this perspective from a parent. I used to have that perspective too, and told my then-bf then I'd give up my chance at overseas study. He (bless his sweet heart) told me not to be silly, just go since I got such a gd chance.

We did break up after a few years, but very amicably, and I'm SO SO GLAD I didn't give up the chance of overseas study. It's an invaluable experience and broadens one in many ways.

Rlp wise, I'd say, if God meant it to be, it'll be. I know couples who have lasted the test of time and distance.

That's for the dating phase, plus they are so young. Staying in the same country might not guarantee ending up married. Then she might lament giving up the chance to go overseas for a rlp that didn't last after all.

toddles:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"Edureach\"]Chenonceau


Yeah, nowadays also hve classes specially tailored for students from top colleges. In subjects like chemistry. elit, hist and economics the national distinction rate(A-levels) is approx 37-38% only. If a student can score dist without attention tuition, he/she is really good.

Btw, yr dd got a place at oxbridge/ivy league uni?

Oh dear... :oops: I forgot. She had Econs tuition for 5 months in J2. :oops: :oops: :oops: So... not that smart lah... Anyway, she doesn't know where she wanna go yet. There are 2 futures to decide, and must be done in co-ordination.

Her boyfriend wanna do law, and best place is Singapore. We like the boy and marriage is even more important than uni so I would rather they not separate. So, possible she will stay here. She is a girl after all. Marriage is more important than ivy league.

And I dun believe she has a place in Ivy League. USA places were already allocated before A levels (or something like that) and she was not confident and so she didn't apply. Cambridge rejected her. But that's all I know. I dun really keep tabs on her, unless I wanna get scolded.

Oppsgal:

http://singapore.gumtree.sg/c-Community-community-classes-courses-University-students-to-do-your-childs-homework-W0QQAdIdZ361177590


Came across this ad. :rotflmao:

Chenonceau:

Edureach:

Chenonceau


Yeah, nowadays also hve classes specially tailored for students from top colleges. In subjects like chemistry. elit, hist and economics the national distinction rate(A-levels) is approx 37-38% only. If a student can score dist without attention tuition, he/she is really good.

Btw, yr dd got a place at oxbridge/ivy league uni?

Oh dear... :oops: I forgot. She had Econs tuition for 5 months in J2. :oops: :oops: :oops: So... not that smart lah... Anyway, she doesn't know where she wanna go yet. There are 2 futures to decide, and must be done in co-ordination.

Her boyfriend wanna do law, and best place is Singapore. We like the boy and marriage is even more important than uni so I would rather they not separate. So, possible she will stay here. She is a girl after all. Marriage is more important than ivy league.

And I dun believe she has a place in Ivy League. USA places were already allocated before A levels (or something like that) and she was not confident and so she didn't apply. Cambridge rejected her. But that's all I know. I dun really keep tabs on her, unless I wanna get scolded.

Chenonceau:

My friend just uploaded a form on Facebook entitled Request for Permission to Date My Daughter. You interested?

violin_lover:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"Daddy D\"]After A level... Plan for marriage liao? :razz:

:siam:

Yeah Daddies have a problem with letting their little girl go to another man eh?

Chenonceau:

Daddy

After A level... Plan for marriage liao? :razz:

:siam:

Yeah Daddies have a problem with letting their little girl go to another man eh?

Daddy

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"Daddy D\"]After A level... Plan for marriage liao? :razz:

:siam:

Yeah Daddies have a problem with letting their little girl go to another man eh?

Chenonceau:

Daddy

After A level... Plan for marriage liao? :razz:

:siam:

Yeah Daddies have a problem with letting their little girl go to another man eh?