FQW:

And sometimes, even when one has the time and know-how, the patience part is lacking. I've a friend who's a qualified piano teacher but she sent her dd to be taught by another. She said that familarity breeds contempt; for both parties. She doesn't want every night to be a banshee vs harpy contest of will.

buds:

Not every family is privileged to have a stay home parent to guide the children, regardless the father or the mother. Not every family can afford to sustain on a single income. It is a sweeping statement to say that parents should all spend time with the children to teach them everything they need to know at home. Just because some of us can, it doesn't mean everyone can. Plus i have to say, not all who can stay home can teach well. Some parents who think they know how to teach end up doing more harm by teaching the wrong things. It's ok to outsource if things aren't our forte to begin with. Not everyone knows everything, right? :skeptical: As it is now, everyone can read how so many parents are griping over teachers in primary schools who have to teach Eng, Math & Sci (all three) while they may only be great at one and it is causing their children to have poor foundation in concepts which aren't their forte.

:goodpost: indeed. Everyone's circumstances are different. One size doesn't fit all.
Also not to say that parents who outsource are ones who never bothered to try in the first place. Different strokes for different folks, so i wouldn't judge the decisions of parents.

laughingcat:

For years, countries wondering why SGP always top in mathematics and science.

autumnbronze:

Hi DesertWind,


:hugs: to ya ...

But you are noble to me leh. You are actually attempting to give him one to one. Even though you say bo pian, but you have made a choice to see him through this .... :salute:

May I offer some suggestions :please:

You can try dropping by the educational shop at Thomson Plaza, (if it's convenient for you) I cannot remember the name. It's located opposite the POSB bank, along the same row as Bata. The sales lady is very helpful.

Two materials that were highly recommended are the Ants on the Apple Cd and Leapfrog phonics series DVDs.

Alternatively, if you have the time, you can peruse Tamarind's blog or buds' postings in the Montesorri phonics thread.

Hope these help

buds:

laughingcat:

At the end of the day.....who cares. Only parents care and responsibilities just fall back on parents. Might as well make do with the system. Accept it and move on. At least makes life simplier and less stress. Keep complianing on the system won't even help current situation. Afterall should the policy do change, it will takes yeeeeeaaarrsssssss.

I'm an educator too. I care. :please:
I have many educator frenz who care too.
We care enough to zoom in on whom we observe
need more help.. we explain things in a different way
should one way not work.. we share often with parents on
their children's weak areas & successes (no matter how small)
and partner them so we can overcome any challenges together so
the children will never be left behind.. in short, our doors are always
open and our hearts are always there... in the right place... where they
rightly belong.

There ARE still many good educators around. Even if we do get the \"off\" one
once or twice, it doesn't mean there are no longer good ones around. There are.. :love:

laughingcat:

At the end of the day.....who cares. Only parents care and responsibilities just fall back on parents. Might as well make do with the system. Accept it and move on. At least makes life simplier and less stress. Keep complianing on the system won't even help current situation. Afterall should the policy do change, it will takes yeeeeeaaarrsssssss.

Nebbermind:

firefly38:

If you have been following other ''rather similar'' threads (which i believe you have), you would have noticed, by now, that it has always been the very same ''righteous'' & ''noble'' few, who are ever cynical, critical and anti-everything about the s'pore's education system (GEP, SAP, PSLE, IP etc.. you name it, they ''anti-'' it)! And many of them do write extremely well too, which explains why they could coach their kids themselves, and hence do not understand why other parents could not do so!

Now I understand why I was specifically highlighted somewhere else. :evil:

concern2:

And to think that this problem isn't exclusive to our country and gets worse as countries develop. It takes each and everyone one's will and wisdom to make any change possible. And that is like 愚公移山.

Chenonceau:

laughingcat:

At the end of the day.....who cares. Only parents care and responsibilities just fall back on parents. Might as well make do with the system. Accept it and move on. At least makes life simplier and less stress. Keep complianing on the system won't even help current situation. Afterall should the policy do change, it will takes yeeeeeaaarrsssssss.

Yeah lor.... :sad: Sianzzzzzzzz

laughingcat:

At the end of the day.....who cares. Only parents care and responsibilities just fall back on parents. Might as well make do with the system. Accept it and move on. At least makes life simplier and less stress. Keep complianing on the system won't even help current situation. Afterall should the policy do change, it will takes yeeeeeaaarrsssssss.

LOLMum:

I wonder who is taking the lead now.


Is tuition centre trying to catch up with school or school trying to catch up with tuition centre.

buds:

BeContented:

[quote=\"buds\"]Because at present, i suppose i am just contented. :please:

Because i'm contented, i'm happy with what i have or can have.
(And so i guess i bitch less about a lotta stuff..)

While the almost-seemingly-Utopian task of revamping or change takes place, i make do with what i can and like the positive thinking others here, make the best of it... how i can.

PS. I didn't dare step into your good schools thread.. :nailbite: As you have already iterated, our bridges are a wee bit far apart.

Just a short note to share that i believe all schools are good schools... built to provide/offer education to our children with spanking facilities if compared to other less-privileged countries.. BUT it is the people facilitating the schools that makes the difference.

Every single one of them. :love:

I like. I like!!! :rahrah:
must show you how much I like mah ... kekeke.

firefly38:

If you have been following other ''rather similar'' threads (which i believe you have), you would have noticed, by now, that it has always been the very same ''righteous'' & ''noble'' few, who are ever cynical, critical and anti-everything about the s'pore's education system (GEP, SAP, PSLE, IP etc.. you name it, they ''anti-'' it)! And many of them do write extremely well too, which explains why they could coach their kids themselves, and hence do not understand why other parents could not do so!

buds:

autumnbronze:

ps: erhem, erhem, if I may just MIS-quote Yeats' Poem \"The Second Coming\"

Things fall apart, the centre cannot hold
Mere anarchy is loosed upon the depts/school ......

Okie, just trying to be cheeky here :siam:

Gosh, i dunno if it's just me cause i've just caught up on a notti version just by
looking at the ehem... poem.

FQW:

I've no quarrel with you, Chen. Peace :xedfingers:

Btw, sending my ds for enrichment is not solely motivated by marks alone. The fact that I'm getting my son to learn things that will never, ever be tested in exams tells me that part of my motivation is to expose him to the joy of learning itself.

In P1, he preferred to play the piano in the sch's foyer with his friends, rather than play in the field with his other friends during recess. In P2, he prefers to join his friends in the library to read books, rather than play in the field. In other words, he's more studious than sporty.

So as a parent, I take it upon myself to support him in his area of interest.

buds:

So like my sista autumn, with baby in arms now snuggled for his nap,
on only my iPhone and one hand I just had to drop a quick note...

You guys... (all three of you) :grphug: GREAT POSTS! :celebrate:
 

Chenonceau:

We mock the system itself, and in so doing, we hope to tell the Minister that parents are only half at fault. Unless MOE stops testing beyond at every level, even P1, then parents like me won't have to teach... and you won't feel that tuition is necessary.

Apologies if you felt targeted.

buds:

It is a sweeping statement to say that parents should all spend time with the children to teach them everything they need to know at home. Just because some of us can, it doesn't mean everyone can. Plus i have to say, not all who can stay home can teach well. Some parents who think they know how to teach end up doing more harm by teaching the wrong things.

LOLMum:

I wonder who is taking the lead now.


Is tuition centre trying to catch up with school or school trying to catch up with tuition centre.