How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid?

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Sun, 16 Dec 2012 15:36:14 GMT

Nebbermind — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 15:36:14 GMT

If the kid is defiant, how do one keep them at the naughty corner or stool or any confined space?

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Sat, 15 Dec 2012 00:54:09 GMT

TeachingMyToddlers — Sat, 15 Dec 2012 00:54:09 GMT

We have been using the naughty stool like Super Nanny recommends (do you guys have that TV show \"Super Nanny?\" Reruns are on youtube now. If you have never seen it, you will probably recoil in horror at how ill behaved the kids on this show are!). It's working fairly well overall, for some reason a stool in the corner is more effective than a time out without it. Perhaps because it's a defined physical place, I don't know, but my kids HATE it! Which means I love it because it's effective. :rahrah:

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Mon, 03 Dec 2012 14:14:48 GMT

Little Pudding — Mon, 03 Dec 2012 14:14:48 GMT

Instead of canning, maybe deprive her of things she wan… Eg. No tv, no snacks if refuse to eat, no going out etc instead of canning…

As for grandmas who spoil kids try explaining to her ur logic for the discipline, if it’s mum in law get the hubby or daughter to talk to her directly…

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Mon, 03 Dec 2012 10:40:26 GMT

Dandelion_Ivory — Mon, 03 Dec 2012 10:40:26 GMT

What if the grandma spoils the kid so much so that not only do you have to discipline the kid but also the claimed to know-it-all grandma? :faint:

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Fri, 02 Nov 2012 08:25:22 GMT

nightlone — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 08:25:22 GMT

when he was at that age, i’ll put him in a corner (the number of minutes = his age). it’s not so much as to punish but to allow him to calm down. after that, i’ll try to find out what is wrong or to explain what he did wrong. if he hadn’t calmed down yet, he’ll go to the corner and take a moment again. usually he will calm down. sometimes he tells me what’s bothering him and sometimes he doesn’t. so i just play by ear really.

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Wed, 04 Jul 2012 09:41:35 GMT

cherrygal — Wed, 04 Jul 2012 09:41:35 GMT

Caning a 2+ gal is not recommended lah… You can scare with mention of the cane. I think it’s too young to cane. She won’t understand and will be traumatised.

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Wed, 20 Jun 2012 09:38:01 GMT

needhelpmummy — Wed, 20 Jun 2012 09:38:01 GMT

if we have tried notti corner and counting to 1,2,3 and it doesnt work? what other methods can we use without having to hit them?

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Thu, 31 May 2012 15:01:09 GMT

Tamama — Thu, 31 May 2012 15:01:09 GMT

Have you ever think that your girl is different? She is two, how is her communication skill? Using words, phrases, or sentence? Can she express herself? If you have query about all these, I suggest you to see a child development doctor.

If everything are fine, try to discipline by using 123 method. Eg, she hits you. Step 1: warn her. She hits again. Step 2: you say one. She stops and become good behaved, then that's fine. You don't need to nag her for why shouldn't hit blah blah. If she becomes mad and hit some more, step 3: you say two. Allow a feww seconds to get her response. If she keeps on hitting or screaming,etc, step4: you say three. Immediately remove her to a designated time out place/corner. Time out her for two min (she is two). During timeout, totally no attention given to her. Pretend you are a rock. No look at her (at least she thinks that you are not looking at her), somemore make yourself disappear.
Count the time when she calms down, ie the two min doesnt incl those cranky times. Approach her when time is up. Talk to her in topics like continuing what you both initially want to do. But not bug her for the temper thing. Act like the temper was not there. No sorry required. Super nanny tells you to make the kid hug or say sorry, but in fact it's no need. Refer to the book 1-2-3 parenting. This works for 2-12 age of kids. I am using this skill since my girl and my boy and the skill works amazingly. No need to nag much and they just conform! Most of the time I only need to count to 1. You can try it out too.
And I did not even once hit them. I believe behavior is learnt. I do not want them to hit others. A friend told me someone is very proud that when she raises her arm up and is going to slap, the kids are so well behaved. She never needs to do the actual slapping. But if your kids teacher is like this, can you take it easy? For me I definitely will sue her to die. :yikes:
Only my opinion la.

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Thu, 26 Apr 2012 10:27:57 GMT

nkthen — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 10:27:57 GMT

First, did you or any of your family members scream at each other at home? If so, your child is learning it...

cherrygal and brainkid gave very good advice on what to do too.

For me, I DO hit my kids but I have to add in an additional step: I tell my kids WHY I am going to hit them. Once they understand why, I execute the action (Whack!) :evil:

This is much more effective for me, rather than just hitting without explanation.

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Mon, 16 Apr 2012 14:51:56 GMT

Brainkid — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 14:51:56 GMT

Actually, I have a 2+ yr also. I will walk away and let him throw his tantrums, even if it is in the public. At the start, he can even lie flat on the floor in the department store. I will just ignore. After some time, he will get up by himself when he sees me walk away.

And I will only appear when he starts to find me. It is only then that I will ask him if he knows why I walk away and explain the wrong of his behaviour.

As for throwing things, I will not pick up for him. Let him understand the idea of once thrown, gone forever. And I will tell him I will give away his toys since he wants to throw it away. There was once I really "give it away" (by hiding it) and he knows I meant what I say. To date, he has not seen "this toy".

By the way, I realized hitting does back fire also. Now I only threaten him with the cane or hit my hand hard on the table to produce the loud bang. I try not to hit him.

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Mon, 16 Apr 2012 06:59:25 GMT

cherrygal — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 06:59:25 GMT

My DH will carry her out for a short walk if she starts doing that. She will calm down faster. Distraction is the key.

Dun worry, it is a passing phase. They are trying to see how loud they can go and also trying to assert themselves. Testing water…

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Sun, 15 Apr 2012 14:51:44 GMT

kiasuchabo — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 14:51:44 GMT

omg , my gal recently like to scream anywhere she feels like to… sometime for no reasons… she screams in library, restaurant, home, in car… i ask her to stop that… she gets angry and start throwing things or even hit me with her hands…

what should i do? help…

thks

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Thu, 12 Apr 2012 13:42:30 GMT

cherrygal — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 13:42:30 GMT

My gal also learnt to scream from her childcare frens so each time she does it, I tell her she’s so loud and cover my ears. Then I play the whisper game with her. She doesn’t scream very often as there’s no fun doing it.

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Thu, 12 Apr 2012 13:14:14 GMT

cherrygal — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 13:14:14 GMT

Agree with Jennifer. You need to teach your kid to use words to express herself. I found it useful to help her verbalise her wants. My gal is about your gal’s age and she only flies into tantrums when we don’t understand what she wants.

So I tell her to wait, and start asking her to point to the thing she wants. I also help her by asking her to describe the thing she wants - where it is, what colour, how big etc. Usually this helps to defuse the situation. If it does not work, we distract with other things, a drink of juice, yoghurt, bun, walk around the estate etc.

So far, my gal only tried to hit twice - her stubborn bro for not giving a toy to her despite her asking repeatedly, and her blur dad for not understanding what she wanted. She did that as she could not accept "no" for an answer. Once I stepped in, I made her apologize and she did so quickly.

It is pointless to hit her for this as she will not understand your logic for hitting her (that hitting is painful to others). She will only cry louder.

Any other meaningful discipline can only come about after age 3. The naughty corner is a good method but takes patience. Even if you use the cane next time, it should only be used to scare, not hit. And I never like to cane girls coz I think they are too delicate.

You should now instil her respect for authority. Be straight faced when she tries to be notti. Never laugh and whack her at the same time - that confuses her. Shoot her a stern look or lower your voice to a growl and she will learn to mind her antics.

If you need more help, buy a copy of Super Nanny.

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Thu, 12 Apr 2012 08:56:08 GMT

Bigleg — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 08:56:08 GMT

You can try naughty corner, let her sit or stand at a corner for 2 minutes for 2 yrs old.

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Thu, 12 Apr 2012 05:24:41 GMT

Bunbun — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 05:24:41 GMT

hi kiasuchabo, I don’t know about others, but I do not advocate beating a kid to drive home a point, especially when it is about teaching the kid not to hit people. It seems counter-effective. Maybe you can consider not responding when she behaves the way she does? Like you said, she’s still very young, it may just be a passing phase she’s going through.

Reply to How to discipline a 2+ yr old kid? on Thu, 12 Apr 2012 05:07:33 GMT

Jennifer — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 05:07:33 GMT

Experts said young children who are unable to express their frustrations in words resort to physical outbursts or screaming.

Help her to phrase her needs verbally.