<![CDATA[Mummy Funz's Funhouse]]>Just joined. This forum gives good info.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/3423/mummy-funz-s-funhouseRSS for NodeSun, 26 Apr 2026 04:19:42 GMTWed, 27 May 2009 04:54:55 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Fri, 31 May 2024 02:33:54 GMT]]>Funz


Your being, to some degrees, has been shaped by your dad’s presence in your growing up years. Some of his values will continue through you. His genes has be passed and will continue express in you. His cares have created an environment that nurture your growth. Whatever happen in future, if you want, your dad will forever lives on through you.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134455https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134455Fri, 31 May 2024 02:33:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Fri, 31 May 2024 02:00:26 GMT]]>Thank you everyone.


Yes, one never knows how long we have. Guess all the while at the back of our minds we know that our time with Dad is limited. This diagnosis just forces us to face it head long.

And yup there should be no regrets as we are a very close knit family. I have so many good memories with Dad. When I was young, I will wait, with a storybook in hand, for Dad to come home from work. The moment he changed out of his work wear and sit down to chill, I will climb onto his lap for him to read me the book. That was our daily routine. When he had to go overseas for work, he bought me books with audio tapes and told me to play them as a replacement of our daily story session. This scene repeated itself with my kids. My parents helped to look after them when they were young and I will go back there after work every day. Many a times, I go back and see DD/DS cuddled in Dad lap and Dad reading to them.

Prostate cancer is actually highly curable especially if caught in the early stages. Even if at late stage, it is still manageable. Just that given Dad’s age, the odds of cure is like halved. But in all honesty, Dad may succumb to age related ailments rather than the cancer. What we hope is that the cancer will not affect his quality of life too much.

Prostate cancer is quite common in men so I think for men, do make prostate checks a yearly or bi-yearly affair. For your elderly men at home, get them to take note of decreased/weak pressure when urinating or slow urine flow as it may not be as simple as old oredi muscle weak/ bladder weak.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134453https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134453Fri, 31 May 2024 02:00:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 30 May 2024 05:33:56 GMT]]>Don’t be frustrated.


In Year 2010, my late FIL was diagnosed with nasopharyngeal carcinoma stage 3, then he went for Radiation therapy but the size of of the tumour did not decrease. Then we just told him the tumour was disappeared and he was recovered and only needed to take some medication to stop it from recurrence. The whole family together with relatives never mentioned cancer again in front of him. The doctor told us when the tumour burst, then he would die and we just wait for the day to come.

However, FIL became healthy again and lived until Mar 2022. He was died from pneumonia not cancer at the age of 96.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134441https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134441Thu, 30 May 2024 05:33:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 30 May 2024 04:15:15 GMT]]>There’s no knowing how long you will have together, so make the most of the time now. Take care!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134436https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134436Thu, 30 May 2024 04:15:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 30 May 2024 02:41:44 GMT]]>Sorry to hear that, Funz. With good medical care, a strong will to live on and family support, hopefully can extend for many more years.


From your earlier sharing, I feel that you and your parents are quite close and you treat them well/with respect. So you don’t feel guilty. Just constantly motivate your dad to persevere on, the will to live on and a positive mindset are very important for cancer patients.

Take care.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134430https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134430Thu, 30 May 2024 02:41:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Wed, 29 May 2024 22:22:26 GMT]]>Funz, hope your father able to get through this difficult stage strong and you able to spend many many quality years with your dad.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134426https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134426Wed, 29 May 2024 22:22:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Wed, 29 May 2024 15:57:16 GMT]]>Funz

Tks for sharing.
A gd reminder to treat my dad better bec all along our relationship isn’t that OK.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134425https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134425Wed, 29 May 2024 15:57:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Wed, 29 May 2024 12:30:04 GMT]]>Funz,


I’m sorry u’ve to go thro so much. I feel you. With aging parents, there’re lots that our elderly will depend on us. It’s an opportunity for us to be part of their life processes as they age & become more dependent.

Whilst I was going thro my surgery, my MIL have lots of complaints of a painful right leg. Had to chase to find docs willing to diagnose & write a full AIC report in order for her to do rehab physio at St Luke as she doesn’t want any AIC physio at the PolyClinic. Also had to accompany her for all her sessions so I know which exercises she need to do to target her issue. After some months, it didn’t seem to resolve that pain, so I’m trying to get her a referral to my orthopedic doc. Then y’day, she asked me to help her SIL to get in for St Luke. All her children nvr bothered to u’stand her health issues.

Take heart that yr dad hv you for help to Interfaxe with the doc for his treatment, which o’wise might render him feeling despondent & hapless. I’m sure he values yr presence too. Reminds me of my time spent in my mum’s last days & I was initially struggling to get docs to heal her. Eventually , a very resolutely involved doc came to put me in perspectives to be ready to let her go, as there’s no quality of life living in pain or disability and that she wld hv lived a worthwhile life & we as children shld let her go in peace. At her wake, our Pastor assured me she’ll be released to eternity w/o pain or tears and that our rewards & treasures are not earthly but eternal. My heart immediately rests with all these assurances & comfort. I’m thankful that I’ve spent my life with her & had many good memories to tap. Even sharing her recipes with my family & my stories abt her s’times draw interesting questions fr the young ones.

Hope you find assurances in my sharing & value every moment you get to spend with your parents.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134421https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134421Wed, 29 May 2024 12:30:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Wed, 29 May 2024 08:04:05 GMT]]>I’m so sorry for that turn of events.

To accept living, one has to accept dying. It’s how life comes a full circle.
Spend time getting closer to your dad now. Time that you can remember and cherish for the rest of your days.

For some reason, one of the clearest memory I have of my dad was when he scolded me for taking apart the family iron. Maybe it was the only time I ever remembered him scolding me. I remembered feeling very upset at the time, and flabbergasted that he actually scolded me. But now, that memory only bring tears to my eyes. If scolding me means increasing the time I could spend with him, then he should have kept scolding me forever to keep me smiling all the time.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134411https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134411Wed, 29 May 2024 08:04:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Wed, 29 May 2024 07:09:27 GMT]]>It has been a rather tough few months. Since Feb parents have been taking turns falling sick. Maybe due to her age, mum was taking longer than usual to bounce back from a common cold and feeling the effects more. I had to bring her to the clinic for repeated consults and even to A&E when she complained of chest and upper back pains and weakness in her arms.


Just when mum’s issues were resolved, Dad was hospitalized for problems with urinating and passing motion. Initial checks and scans showed a swollen prostate that was obstructing his urinary tract and bowels. We were initially told that it is likely just swollen prostate that is something very common in men his age and Dad has to undergo surgery to open a channel for him to pass urine. So a consult was fixed with the surgeon. During the consult with the surgeon he did another check on Dad and told us that he could feel some nodules on the left prostate which is highly suggestive of prostate cancer. A series of MRIs and scans were arranged along with bloodworks and the surgery where they will be taking some cells to confirm the presence of cancer. Dad recovered well from that surgery. Met with the oncologist and it is confirmed that it’s cancer and given the size of the tumour, stage 3 or early stage 4. So far from the MRIs and scans it appears not to have spread but it is not conclusive. Now we are arranging for a detailed scan to be sure that the cancer is localised and has not metastasized. We will also have to decide if we want to go for radiation which will provide a chance of cure or just hormone treatment to manage the cancer. Surgery to remove the tumour is not recommended given Dad’s age.

Through the whole process, I felt my hope and positivity being chipped away. 1st we prayed that it is not cancer, but it turned out to be cancer. Then we prayed that it is early stage but it turned out to be rather advance. Now we are praying hard that it is localised. Cancer aside, given Dad’s age and his health condition, I think Dad can have a good 10yrs or more. Now with this development, we are looking at maybe 3-5yrs. If he responds well to treatment, be it radiation or hormone treatment, maybe 6-8 years or so. Nothing is cast in stone but the thought of having only 3 yrs left with him is devastating. I am greedy for more time with him.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134405https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2134405Wed, 29 May 2024 07:09:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Tue, 13 Feb 2024 06:11:20 GMT]]>

Funz\" post_id=\"2128889\" time=\"1707795104\" user_id=\"6230:

This CNY was filled with questions about when he will be enlisting, his IB results, his army vocation, uni applications, etc.

Oh boy, so many opinions. SIL basically bombarded us with msgs about applying for Ivy League unis and scholarships. When she heard that DS prefers to just go to NUS for his degree, she insisted that he should aim for better unis and kept telling DS to do Meds. Friends too offered their rather strong opinions. 😓

DS shaved his head yesterday. He will be enlisting in a couple of days. He is excited yet nervous. His father is beaming with pride, his sis is amused, while the mum is experiencing a mixed bag of emotions. The dog did a double take when DS 1st appeared before him with his botak hairstyle. He stood there looking at DS until DS called him then he went up to DS jumping all over him and kept sniffing his head. 😂

DS is embarking on another stage of his life and so will DH and I. Now that kids are all grown, I have more time to focus on my ageing parents.
I’m thankful relatives hv did not bombard with questions or opinions. I won’t hv survived it coz DS will think I put my relatives up to it. Anyway, I’ve not meddled with DS’s choices, allowing him to learn to make impt choices in his own since his PSLE days. I recall I was keen for DS to do NUSH whilst DH was dreaming of RI career, but we both stopped ourselves after we read his dream school on the classroom board. Today, we are indeed proud he is decisive & can rationalize why he might choose what he target to embark on despite his grfd choosing medicine.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2128897https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2128897Tue, 13 Feb 2024 06:11:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Tue, 13 Feb 2024 03:36:47 GMT]]>

Funz\" post_id=\"2128889\" time=\"1707795104\" user_id=\"6230:

This CNY was filled with questions about when he will be enlisting, his IB results, his army vocation, uni applications, etc.

Oh boy, so many opinions. SIL basically bombarded us with msgs about applying for Ivy League unis and scholarships. When she heard that DS prefers to just go to NUS for his degree, she insisted that he should aim for better unis and kept telling DS to do Meds. Friends too offered their rather strong opinions. 😓

DS shaved his head yesterday. He will be enlisting in a couple of days. He is excited yet nervous. His father is beaming with pride, his sis is amused, while the mum is experiencing a mixed bag of emotions. The dog did a double take when DS 1st appeared before him with his botak hairstyle. He stood there looking at DS until DS called him then he went up to DS jumping all over him and kept sniffing his head. 😂

DS is embarking on another stage of his life and so will DH and I. Now that kids are all grown, I have more time to focus on my ageing parents.
funz
I understand you though i dont hv a boy.
When my dd opted to stay in the hostel, i went thru a mixed bag of emotions too. After work, i faced an empty nest etc.
I was reminded my mum went thru such when I went for my overseas study and then got married.

haha. i laughed when you mentioned your dog sniffed your boy's botak head :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2128890https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2128890Tue, 13 Feb 2024 03:36:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Tue, 13 Feb 2024 03:31:44 GMT]]>This CNY was filled with questions about when he will be enlisting, his IB results, his army vocation, uni applications, etc.


Oh boy, so many opinions. SIL basically bombarded us with msgs about applying for Ivy League unis and scholarships. When she heard that DS prefers to just go to NUS for his degree, she insisted that he should aim for better unis and kept telling DS to do Meds. Friends too offered their rather strong opinions. 😓

DS shaved his head yesterday. He will be enlisting in a couple of days. He is excited yet nervous. His father is beaming with pride, his sis is amused, while the mum is experiencing a mixed bag of emotions. The dog did a double take when DS 1st appeared before him with his botak hairstyle. He stood there looking at DS until DS called him then he went up to DS jumping all over him and kept sniffing his head. 😂

DS is embarking on another stage of his life and so will DH and I. Now that kids are all grown, I have more time to focus on my ageing parents.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2128889https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2128889Tue, 13 Feb 2024 03:31:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Fri, 27 Oct 2023 02:06:19 GMT]]>Ah fast…Funz’s bb is turning a macho man soon.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121591https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121591Fri, 27 Oct 2023 02:06:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 23:45:53 GMT]]>

Imp75\" post_id=\"2121570\" time=\"1698296034\" user_id=\"2358:

Funny. My J1 girl was invited for scholarship talk with mindef. Obviously my girl is not interested. Why would mindef want to offer girls? I see all the Chiefs are all male so does it seem like career limiting move to be bonded to mindef for girls?
There have been female SAF scholars in recent years. The Chiefs may be male, but there are many roles for women too. Especially now that there is cybersecurity arm of the SAF. Not everyone, even males, aspire to be Chiefs.

Some links if anyone is interested:
https://www.mindef.gov.sg/oms/scholarship/data/pdf/smsw_brochure_2016.pdf
https://www.swhf.sg/profiles/lee-mei-yi/

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121588https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121588Thu, 26 Oct 2023 23:45:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 07:52:11 GMT]]>

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2121582\" time=\"1698305099\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2121582 time=1698305099 user_id=195250]
Hi Zac's mum,
Sorry, I am lost, what is the meaning of \"the 2nd coming\"? The 50th anniversary is for what?
I am worrying the safety of my sponsored Palestinians girl in the West Bank. :sad:[/quote]
It refers to the prophecies in the Bible about the 2nd coming of Jesus.

The 50th “anniversary” of the Yom Kippur War, was the date that Hamas chose to attack.

I hope your girl is taking refuge somewhere safe right now. It is not fair to the innocents who are caught up in this war.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121585https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121585Thu, 26 Oct 2023 07:52:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 07:24:59 GMT]]>

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2121576\" time=\"1698301275\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2121576 time=1698301275 user_id=53606]
There are psychological & other types of assessments that they have to clear first, to be selected for the elite training. If someone really doesnt want to be there, he will not last thru the whole training process anyway. So dun worry too much.

As for the 2nd coming…not yet…it is but the beginning of the birth pangs…i still remember last year when DS and I were in Israel, the guide told us about the Yom Kippur War and the impact. The PM at that time was Golda Meir. Exactly on the 50th anniversary, the enemy struck again. Yet again they were unprepared. History does repeat itself.[/quote]
Hi Zac's mum,
Sorry, I am lost, what is the meaning of \"the 2nd coming\"? The 50th anniversary is for what?
I am worrying the safety of my sponsored Palestinians girl in the West Bank. :sad:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121582https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121582Thu, 26 Oct 2023 07:24:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 07:18:54 GMT]]>Man (and i mean humankind) is but a pawn in the grander scheme of things. Prophecy is prophecy.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121581https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121581Thu, 26 Oct 2023 07:18:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 07:14:55 GMT]]>Yes DS went through a couple of psychometric tests.


There are some conspiracy theory going around about the Israel/Gaza unrest. 🤷

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121580https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121580Thu, 26 Oct 2023 07:14:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 06:21:15 GMT]]>

Funz\" post_id=\"2121572\" time=\"1698299332\" user_id=\"6230:

Actually my thinking is these are elite units, then shouldn't the people who have to go thru the training be people who choose that vocation, like the airforce pilots. These are units who will be at the forefront, should it not be made up of people who really want to be there and committed to be there? Of course these people have to meet certain criteria to join the units.
Funz\" post_id=\"2121572\" time=\"1698299332\" user_id=\"6230:
Actually my thinking is these are elite units, then shouldn't the people who have to go thru the training be people who choose that vocation, like the airforce pilots. These are units who will be at the forefront, should it not be made up of people who really want to be there and committed to be there? Of course these people have to meet certain criteria to join the units.
There are psychological & other types of assessments that they have to clear first, to be selected for the elite training. If someone really doesnt want to be there, he will not last thru the whole training process anyway. So dun worry too much.

As for the 2nd coming…not yet…it is but the beginning of the birth pangs…i still remember last year when DS and I were in Israel, the guide told us about the Yom Kippur War and the impact. The PM at that time was Golda Meir. Exactly on the 50th anniversary, the enemy struck again. Yet again they were unprepared. History does repeat itself.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121576https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121576Thu, 26 Oct 2023 06:21:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 05:59:35 GMT]]>

Funz\" post_id=\"2121571\" time=\"1698298746\" user_id=\"6230:

DS shows no interest in politics and military. He does read a fair bit of history but treat it more like just knowing what happened last time than delving into the politics of things that happened.

When the Israel/Gaza thing started, DH was chasing every single news about it and every conversation we have is about the unrest there. And yes, our nation is also on heightened alert and doing more exercises, we hear more fighter planes flying pass. Usually we hear them only when it is near national day.

DH was all doom and gloom. MIL started calling us and telling us these are all signs of the 2nd coming. 😓
Same here. DH very closely following on a daily basis. Men will somehow form some kind of interests as Spore was once dependent on Israel advanced artillery & armoury as the British left is with very old & non-functional ones to fend for ourselves. I hope our NS boys will be sensitized & alert to regional & world geopolitic changes & apply themselves for their own future protection.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121574https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121574Thu, 26 Oct 2023 05:59:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 05:48:52 GMT]]>

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2121553\" time=\"1698293418\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2121553 time=1698293418 user_id=53606]
It depends on what they indicated??! He took a look at the form to indicate. He asked why Commandos is missing huh. We told him, those are elite units, they pick you not you pick them 😆 (they do select only sons. And four-eyed ones too. In case u wondered)

Anyway, DS will be happy will whatever he’s allocated. I cant help laughing at that NS ad where they featured an auntie in NS gear having “magnified” worries in the jungle (“how your mum views NS”). I think that’s probably all of us mums hor![/quote]
Actually my thinking is these are elite units, then shouldn't the people who have to go thru the training be people who choose that vocation, like the airforce pilots. These are units who will be at the forefront, should it not be made up of people who really want to be there and committed to be there? Of course these people have to meet certain criteria to join the units.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121572https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121572Thu, 26 Oct 2023 05:48:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 05:39:06 GMT]]>DS shows no interest in politics and military. He does read a fair bit of history but treat it more like just knowing what happened last time than delving into the politics of things that happened.


When the Israel/Gaza thing started, DH was chasing every single news about it and every conversation we have is about the unrest there. And yes, our nation is also on heightened alert and doing more exercises, we hear more fighter planes flying pass. Usually we hear them only when it is near national day.

DH was all doom and gloom. MIL started calling us and telling us these are all signs of the 2nd coming. 😓

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121571https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121571Thu, 26 Oct 2023 05:39:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Funz's Funhouse on Thu, 26 Oct 2023 04:53:54 GMT]]>Funny. My J1 girl was invited for scholarship talk with mindef. Obviously my girl is not interested. Why would mindef want to offer girls? I see all the Chiefs are all male so does it seem like career limiting move to be bonded to mindef for girls?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121570https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2121570Thu, 26 Oct 2023 04:53:54 GMT