<![CDATA[How to care for someone with cancer?]]>Hi,


I have a close friend who has cancer and it is a stage 2b cancer. She has to undergo chemo and has lost her hair. She is rather depressed I have been visiting her but I am not sure what else I can do.

Anyone knows of any support groups of cancer patients that are good? Or anyone has any advice on what else I can do. I feel helpless seeing her like that. Her kids are still very young- 2 and 5 years old. Her husband is supportive but he still needs to travel for work. Am afraid she does not have the fighting spirit to go on.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/34948/how-to-care-for-someone-with-cancerRSS for NodeWed, 22 Apr 2026 11:39:59 GMTWed, 25 Apr 2012 03:26:19 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Fri, 20 Sep 2013 03:19:51 GMT]]>in brief my brother was confirmed by the ct scan, biopsy and pet scan that he was in lung cancer stage 3a. As suggeted by his lung cancer he had finish his lobectomy surgery. The cancer cell that removed during the surgery was sent for further test and now the report indicated that the cancer not originated from lung. The doctor proposed chemo and still in decision making what type of medicine to use. We are in doubt on the chemo and now thought of taking the sample cancer cell from the hospital and send for other lab to confirm. In this case, i would great appreciated if anyone can share with me the lab contact in singapore that I approach to. Thks

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1099447https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1099447Fri, 20 Sep 2013 03:19:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Tue, 19 Jun 2012 03:52:08 GMT]]>mediation is very good. One of my friend who has cancer did mediation. He is still fighting it but is very calm and peaceful. It helps in the fight

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/780174https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/780174Tue, 19 Jun 2012 03:52:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Wed, 06 Jun 2012 04:39:39 GMT]]>I didn’t think of online forums, that may be a good idea as she is not comfortable with face to face meetings. Thanks for the suggestion, UncleLim.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/774742https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/774742Wed, 06 Jun 2012 04:39:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Mon, 04 Jun 2012 07:19:48 GMT]]>glendt, encourage your friend to google for cancer support groups online forums, especially if she is more introverted and does not socialise so easily. Even foreign support forums are ok as long as they can be an encouragement.


Your friend’s hubby should also read up and learn more about caring and supporting his wife. It is not easy to be a caregiver and families can fall apart if ill-prepared to deal with the emotional ups and downs.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/773814https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/773814Mon, 04 Jun 2012 07:19:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Mon, 04 Jun 2012 05:39:29 GMT]]>Thanks Lilac66,


I can only imagine what a terrible journey it must be for someone with cancer and as her hubby is not around, i want to try to be there for her. But thankfully, now she is much better emotionally, I think she is coming to terms with it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/773770https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/773770Mon, 04 Jun 2012 05:39:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Sat, 02 Jun 2012 10:45:59 GMT]]>

glendt:
Yes that is one reason that she still tries to fight on..I called her after reading about Emma Yong and she was affected but not badly. I think she has her good days and her bad days and thankfully when she read about Emma Yong, it was on her good day.


Your friend is really blessed to have you. I'm sure with your determination in wanting to help her recover, she'll stay positive and manage her condition well. I hope mummies here can post more success stories of cancer survivors so as to raise her hopes and help her stay optimistic.

I can imagine the fear and the emotional upheaval she'll experience after reading such news (abot Emma Yong).

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/773319https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/773319Sat, 02 Jun 2012 10:45:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Fri, 18 May 2012 04:11:02 GMT]]>Yes positive attitude very important. My relative had stomach cancer stage 3. She managed to overcome it and is now cancer free for the past 6 years but it was an uphill battle and also over her fears and emotions. Your friend has a good friend in you. Helping her stay positive and having a fighting spirit is very important.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/764822https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/764822Fri, 18 May 2012 04:11:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Fri, 18 May 2012 02:25:16 GMT]]>This is my views on Cancer ....


In our Body there are health and unhealthy cells....

Unhealthy Cells are what Doctors called Cancer cells... :scared:

So when our body is weak, the unheathy cells will 'havco' and tried to destroy our healthy cells and organs..... :imdrowning:

So when a sick person is diagnosed with Cancer , he/she must gear up to face the battle against this unhealthy Cells .... :nunchuk:

Must be postive .....because the cells that turn Bad are actual part of of body...

If the sick person have this postive thinking of taming the bad cells to good cells, the Battle is 50% won....

I shall not make any comment on Chemo....since I do not have any postive comments about Chemo... :idea:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/764705https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/764705Fri, 18 May 2012 02:25:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Tue, 08 May 2012 02:39:20 GMT]]>Yes that is one reason that she still tries to fight on…I called her after reading about Emma Yong and she was affected but not badly. I think she has her good days and her bad days and thankfully when she read about Emma Yong, it was on her good day.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/758062https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/758062Tue, 08 May 2012 02:39:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Sat, 05 May 2012 05:15:21 GMT]]>If your fren has kids, that is reason enough for her to fight on. She won’t want them to grow up without a mother rite? And hope she doesn’t get even more upset reading news like Emma Yong’s death from Stage 4 cancer.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/756770https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/756770Sat, 05 May 2012 05:15:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Thu, 03 May 2012 06:40:48 GMT]]>Thank you everyone, I feel much better after reading your post, my friend has stage 3 cancer, she did not want us to worry and told us it was stage 2 and that was the early

diagnosis of the doctor before she went for surgery.

I think my friend does not have that strong family support but thankfully her husband is asking for a position in his company to stay in Singapore which would help a lot.

I will share with my friend on how your friends are doing well and coping…I think she needs to hear that more. She is not a very positive person and needs a lot of talking to to get her to
fight.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/755734https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/755734Thu, 03 May 2012 06:40:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Tue, 01 May 2012 13:36:55 GMT]]>

glendt:
May I know if your friend had the cancer spread to her lymph nodes? My friend has many of her lymph nodes removed and she has water retention and bouts of vomiting. All these add up to her feeling low. I would like to tell her these stories of people who survived to booster her confidence.

Yup, my fren had Lymphoma, like Lee Hsien Loong. She had to go for Chemo then Radiotherapy. She shaved off her hair and wore a wig. Thank God she was quite positive but her hubby was a nervous wreck and blamed himself for not taking good care of her. Many times, it's the caregivers getting the stress coz they worry. Her mom also moved in with her and made organic juice every morning and fed her well. She also took No Pay Leave for half a year to go for treatment and recuperate.

She had 3 beautiful children a few years after this brush with cancer. She's living happily like everyone else now, so much so that her hubby has forgotten her condition and \"bullies\" her now and then... hahaha

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/754722https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/754722Tue, 01 May 2012 13:36:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Tue, 01 May 2012 10:05:36 GMT]]>I think you can ask her gently how you can help. I also have a good friend who has ovarian cancer. She has asked for help in home cooked meals so I try my best to help her out in this area. Another friend has very early stage breast cancer. She has very strong family support. She declined any offer of help. So I told her to let me know if there is anything I can help.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/754649https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/754649Tue, 01 May 2012 10:05:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Wed, 25 Apr 2012 15:09:43 GMT]]>

angell:
Hi,

You hv PM
I have replied you, thank you very much.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/752210https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/752210Wed, 25 Apr 2012 15:09:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Wed, 25 Apr 2012 15:09:06 GMT]]>

cherrygal:
My friend had stage 2 cancer too and what I did was to pray with her. Ask your friend if she would like to pray about it and accompany her. She should rally her family, eg. her parents and siblings, to help her when her hubby needs to work. This is a time for strong family support. Frankly, as just a friend, we can't do much except to provide a listening ear and spiritual support. Sometimes we must also know when to back off especially if she doesn't want to talk about it.


Get her to speak to other women who have survived this. My friend spoke to her husband's colleague's wife who is a survivor and she drew strength from that. If your fren doesn't know anyone, she can approach the Cancer Society. I think they have support groups.

My friend is now in remission and is OK so far. Thank God.
I would like my friend to go for some support group but she is quite resistant to talking to outsiders. Her family is in another country and her in-laws are taking care of her but I think she has no one to pour out how she feels to on a regular basis.

May I know if your friend had the cancer spread to her lymph nodes? My friend has many of her lymph nodes removed and she has water retention and bouts of vomiting. All these add up to her feeling low. I would like to tell her these stories of people who survived to booster her confidence.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/752209https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/752209Wed, 25 Apr 2012 15:09:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Wed, 25 Apr 2012 10:04:46 GMT]]>Hi,

You hv PM

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/752111https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/752111Wed, 25 Apr 2012 10:04:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to care for someone with cancer? on Wed, 25 Apr 2012 07:07:12 GMT]]>My friend had stage 2 cancer too and what I did was to pray with her. Ask your friend if she would like to pray about it and accompany her. She should rally her family, eg. her parents and siblings, to help her when her hubby needs to work. This is a time for strong family support. Frankly, as just a friend, we can’t do much except to provide a listening ear and spiritual support. Sometimes we must also know when to back off especially if she doesn’t want to talk about it.


Get her to speak to other women who have survived this. My friend spoke to her husband’s colleague’s wife who is a survivor and she drew strength from that. If your fren doesn’t know anyone, she can approach the Cancer Society. I think they have support groups.

My friend is now in remission and is OK so far. Thank God.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/752014https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/752014Wed, 25 Apr 2012 07:07:12 GMT