<![CDATA[Growing old]]>I asked my one and only 15 year old child/son whether he will take care of and live with me if I am alone. He says see how and what his wife says!!! My dh says he’s too young and i should not be bothered by the answer!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/36072/growing-oldRSS for NodeSat, 18 Apr 2026 09:27:24 GMTFri, 25 May 2012 02:46:05 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Fri, 10 Jan 2014 10:57:03 GMT]]>good reminder for me to be strong for him when he needs me most....


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B_2jNTTf9WI&list=PL94450AD2D3F01DDA&index=39

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1187946https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1187946Fri, 10 Jan 2014 10:57:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Wed, 16 Jan 2013 13:16:29 GMT]]>

SarChar:
Wow ! SarChar , what a spread !! So sumptous ! You cook all these ?? We used to have regular makan sessions where all daugthers and dils cooked up a storm with my mil; everyone enjoyed the makan sessions.

Yes I cooked everything except the ham, satay & sushi. After the party, I took more than 3 days to recover!

Why do you say you \"used to\" have makan sessions?[/quote]

Hi SarChar, due to additional family member (new sil),things changed drastically. sil is very er... insincere typed of person,always very sarcastic towards everyone. all my other sils (DH's sisters) also felt the same way too.Well, don't know intentionally or ortherwise.

Prefer not to cook at mil place as all the cooking made a mess in the hse (btw she is staying with mil). So to prevent family hormony , we take turns to host makan session or eating out. 3 yrs now, still the same. Keeping a certain distance from her is for the best of everyone :siam:

Btw, I like all the utensils you have... I love buying all my utensil in white .. Collecting my wares now, slowly buying one pc by one pc...Hopely my inventory be like yours soon.... :xedfingers:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/939586https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/939586Wed, 16 Jan 2013 13:16:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 15 Jan 2013 13:11:24 GMT]]>I will go buy the dishes… makes everything look so appetising.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/938706https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/938706Tue, 15 Jan 2013 13:11:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 15 Jan 2013 13:00:47 GMT]]>Wow, sar char, your spread is really impressive! You re so capable to fix this buffet spread! My serving dishes are always disposable, and not as impressive as yours. I shall learn from you, tks for the tips 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/938704https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/938704Tue, 15 Jan 2013 13:00:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 15 Jan 2013 12:35:08 GMT]]>

SarChar:
cherrygal:

Hi Sar Char


Off topic but where did you get the serving dishes and stands? They look very professional. 🙂

heehee.........We love to entertain friends and family so it makes sense to buy proper serving dishes sets than using disposable trays.

Once my friends asked me who is the catering service?

I bought the serving dishes from Metro Department store few years back. Metro has much nicer designs now. I also have a glass stand to serve ham or cake and a nacho/dip plate. All other salad bowl or dishes are only in clear glass so that it will look more uniform on table.

I bought the table cloth from Spotlight. This year my guests started attacking the food before I had a chance to add trimming and candles to the table setting! So I just let it be.....

haha your food must be very nice. I shall go check it out at metro.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/938696https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/938696Tue, 15 Jan 2013 12:35:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 15 Jan 2013 02:07:08 GMT]]>

cherrygal:
Hi Sar Char


Off topic but where did you get the serving dishes and stands? They look very professional. 🙂
heehee.........We love to entertain friends and family so it makes sense to buy proper serving dishes sets than using disposable trays.

Once my friends asked me who is the catering service?

I bought the serving dishes from Metro Department store few years back. Metro has much nicer designs now. I also have a glass stand to serve ham or cake and a nacho/dip plate. All other salad bowl or dishes are only in clear glass so that it will look more uniform on table.

I bought the table cloth from Spotlight. This year my guests started attacking the food before I had a chance to add trimming and candles to the table setting! So I just let it be.....

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/938190https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/938190Tue, 15 Jan 2013 02:07:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Mon, 14 Jan 2013 14:54:13 GMT]]>

cherrygal:
Hi Sar Char


Off topic but where did you get the serving dishes and stands? They look very professional. 🙂
I want to know too! 😃

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937980https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937980Mon, 14 Jan 2013 14:54:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Mon, 14 Jan 2013 09:56:56 GMT]]>Hi Sar Char


Off topic but where did you get the serving dishes and stands? They look very professional. 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937816https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937816Mon, 14 Jan 2013 09:56:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Sun, 13 Jan 2013 15:48:18 GMT]]>Wow ! SarChar , what a spread !! So sumptous ! You cook all these ?? We used to have regular makan sessions where all daugthers and dils cooked up a storm with my mil; everyone enjoyed the makan sessions.[/quote]


Yes I cooked everything except the ham, satay & sushi. After the party, I took more than 3 days to recover!

Why do you say you "used to" have makan sessions?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937204https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937204Sun, 13 Jan 2013 15:48:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Sun, 13 Jan 2013 14:47:18 GMT]]>

SarChar:
http://i50.tinypic.com/2mmzh93.jpg\">


A yearly event - small Xmas Party for 50 people extended family.

For CNY - we will basically camp at my MIL house. Everyone is looking forward to this especially our family's 22 kids.

Wow ! SarChar , what a spread !! So sumptous ! You cook all these ?? We used to have regular makan sessions where all daugthers and dils cooked up a storm with my mil; everyone enjoyed the makan sessions.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937153https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937153Sun, 13 Jan 2013 14:47:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Sun, 13 Jan 2013 14:24:34 GMT]]>http://i50.tinypic.com/2mmzh93.jpg\">


A yearly event - small Xmas Party for 50 people extended family.

For CNY - we will basically camp at my MIL house. Everyone is looking forward to this especially our family's 22 kids.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937140https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/937140Sun, 13 Jan 2013 14:24:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 08 Jan 2013 00:40:02 GMT]]>

concernedparent999:
Hi, just let them do what they want. You know... sex

I agree with you. 🕺

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/932655https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/932655Tue, 08 Jan 2013 00:40:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 08 Jan 2013 00:39:02 GMT]]>Hi, just let them do what they want. You know… sex

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/932653https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/932653Tue, 08 Jan 2013 00:39:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Sat, 05 Jan 2013 15:41:07 GMT]]>hahaha…well CNY is around the corner…wait till the massive reunion dinner arrives!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/931063https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/931063Sat, 05 Jan 2013 15:41:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Sat, 15 Dec 2012 08:00:43 GMT]]>

SarChar:
Xmas is coming....everyone is excited about the 50-pax party at my place! Then my girl decided to invite her 6 friends to the same party......I was liked.....how can I deal with 22 family kids plus 6 extra!


Panic mode!
I guess make more food? Am sure you can whip up something for them! Still have time to plan!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/918743https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/918743Sat, 15 Dec 2012 08:00:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Wed, 12 Dec 2012 09:21:02 GMT]]>Xmas is coming…everyone is excited about the 50-pax party at my place! Then my girl decided to invite her 6 friends to the same party…I was liked…how can I deal with 22 family kids plus 6 extra!


Panic mode!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/917542https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/917542Wed, 12 Dec 2012 09:21:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Thu, 06 Dec 2012 09:12:53 GMT]]>

Kamp:
I think all parents and elders need to have some old age homes and assisted living at some reasonable price, which provide all necessity and luxuries facilites for them to live comfortably. Along with 24/7 nursing facility. As therer are some awesome old age home projects are working around some countries.

although still quite a young couple, at least young at heart :), me and my wife have already started planning what to do during old age. Seriously, i mean we are seriously planning.

We would be working harder now, so that we can enjoy our rewards later in life. Kids would probably have their own world, i mean look at most of us now. I mean, i still have meals 3 - 4 times a week with my parents, but that's about it. I would provide them with allowances as well. But how my mom spends her time? She goes to KTV at CCs, and go for courses and participate in CC activities.

For me and my wife, we know that most probably our kid will have her own life too. We are looking at places for us to really spend our remaining years.

Unfortunately Singapore is slightly too expensive for older folks. We are just looking across the causeway. We have a place in Singapore, but we are just looking around. Especially the Iskandar, Malacca, and Penang area.

What i can say, is that, hopefully we would not have to depend on our kid, and of course my kid does not have to depend on us too... 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/914919https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/914919Thu, 06 Dec 2012 09:12:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Mon, 29 Oct 2012 10:05:57 GMT]]>

prancingpony:
I asked my one and only 15 year old child/son whether he will take care of and live with me if I am alone. He says see how and what his wife says!!!! My dh says he's too young and i should not be bothered by the answer!

He is just giving you a very honest answer. Most of us busy with our own families & don't stay with parents or in laws. Even if your boy takes care of you when you grow old, you still need to have
your own friends & keep yourself occupied when he is busy with work.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/886149https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/886149Mon, 29 Oct 2012 10:05:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Mon, 29 Oct 2012 10:05:18 GMT]]>

prancingpony:
I asked my one and only 15 year old child/son whether he will take care of and live with me if I am alone. He says see how and what his wife says!!!! My dh says he's too young and i should not be bothered by the answer!

He is just giving you a very honest answer. Most of us busy with our own families & don't stay with parents or in laws. Even if your boy takes care of you when you grow old, you still need to have
your own friends & keep yourself occupied when he is busy with work.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/886147https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/886147Mon, 29 Oct 2012 10:05:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:04:08 GMT]]>I would like to share this video that i came across in YouTube. Some of you may have seen it. It made me cry the first time I saw it.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql5odcCvrbg

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877599https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877599Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:04:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:57:23 GMT]]>Hi SarChar, I have heard this saying that 1 mother can take care of 10 children but not all 10 children can take care of 1 mother. Obviously that is not the case in your big family and it is so nice to know how well you all get along! Both of your parents are truly blessed!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877591https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877591Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:57:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 16 Oct 2012 08:45:05 GMT]]>http://i46.tinypic.com/2hqv1tw.gif\">

I like how your DH turned a grim topic into such a light-hearted one. This one needs special talent you know? 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877564https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877564Tue, 16 Oct 2012 08:45:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 16 Oct 2012 05:44:15 GMT]]>

Lilac66:
Sarcha ,it must be really fun having such a big family gathering where EVERYONE looks forward to it.

Now I am not sure if it is EVERYONE..... :imcool:

For growing old together, I am very scared of being the last one standing with 22 kids. DH is 8 yrs older. Eldest BIL is 21 yrs older......I am the youngest DIL.

I worry about having to go through 20+ funerals and then having to grieve all of them. DH thinks I am being silly n emo here.

DH once said \" at least after a few times, you will know what to do (to prepare the wake) \" 😢

He also said \"finally you can sit the red table!\" :scared: meaning as each IN-LAW finally passes away, it will soon be my turn to sit at the red table during wedding dinners of our 22 kids's children. So lame, my DH.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877441https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877441Tue, 16 Oct 2012 05:44:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Growing old on Tue, 16 Oct 2012 04:59:05 GMT]]>

Sun_2010:

When your son sees this often, he will imbibe it too. And if he likes it maybe once in a way , he can spend his time too with her doing his thing.
Yes, Sun_2010, hopefully we can all set by example...:)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877414https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/877414Tue, 16 Oct 2012 04:59:05 GMT