<![CDATA[Father's Day tribute]]>I was a really small girl since young, small in frame. And it lasted thru' out

my secondary school years... embarassingly. I was then the undiscovered
Kate Moss... Singapore version. Small, skinny... almost skeletal.. :lol: So,
even when i was supposed to be a big da-jie by secondary school, i was
not. Btw, Kate Moss is a model...

Though that didn't stop me from bullying others in school... :evil: :lol: If
you have read in the KS Parents Love Story, hubs referred to me as ultra
flat.. chested.. or rather he described me as being as flat as the runway
at Changi Airport. 😐 (back in secondary school years ) ....... which was
actually extremely true. And this was until secondary three... yup, i was
one of those late bloomers. It was to my blessing though, cos being a
typical tom-boy i was thee most sporty & active girl ever. I just cudn sit
still.. Having period at a later stage made playing football..... basketball,
swimming & all its rigorous training... riding motorbikes (etc) very easy &
comfortable. I've got nothing to anticipate... like leakage or staining
issues. Never had to worry about \"girl\" stuff other girls were hoo-haa-ing
about... I was more the ball-sy kinda chick. Ahakz! :lol:

One night, i started feeling crampy in my lower abdomen and cudn sleep
peacefully. I thought i had the usual diarrhoea-ic tummy ache. Daddie
sensed that i was up a coupla times that night cause he heard my door
open and close a few times and saw the toilet light on. My door frame
was not a perfect rectangle so when the door was fixed, it left a sweeping
sound underneath. :roll:

On my third trip to the restroom, i came out to see Daddie in the kitchen.
\"Sorry, Daddie... Did i wake you?\" I said immediately. Feeling guilty that
he may have lost sleep from all the sounds i was making that night and he
wud feel sleepy later at work. All my dad cared about was how \"I\" was...
\"Are you okay? Need charcoal pills? Cause i've got some in the medicine cabinet.\"
\"Naaah, i'm fine. I'm just like having cramps in my lower abdomen but i
don't feel like it is due to the usual i-need-to-pass-motion kinda cramps..\"
\"Ok, drink some of this warm water and try to get back to sleep, ok?\"

It didn't work. 😞

The next time i entered the restroom, i saw brown spots on my undies and
thought i had accidentally excreted! :shock: Yikes!

I kept going for the toilet visits till finally i realised i had the full blown
period liao. πŸ˜› Unsure of what to do, i wrapped up my lower body with
my towel and squat down to wash off the stains and i suppose the sound
of the water running from the tap woke my dad up again.. He peeped into
the toilet which was slightly ajar and asked, \"Everything ok? Need to go
to the doctor? I can bring you..\" From the corner of his eye, i saw him
glance-ing at the stained water in a small bucket i used for the detergent
mixture. Then just like that he was gone... i was like wuh? Where did he
go? He was just there a second ago.

After i was done, he was standing at the kitchen entrance and held out a
sanitary pad plus a hot water bag. He said, \"Get fresh pair of undies and
put this on. Then, place this hot water bag on the crampy lower abdomen.
After this, you should be able to sleep already. Tomorrow i bring you
shopping..\"

This time, it worked. :snooze: πŸ˜‰

I slept till the next morning. Thank goodness it was the final term break.
School wasn't due till next year which was roughly another 3 weeks time.
My dad woke up seemingly excited over this shopping trip and asked if i
was ready. My mum said, \"Hey, Daddie told me that you've now become
a woman. Finally... \" she said with a grin. I found out that was the pad from
her cabinet which dad gave me the night before...

Shopping was somehow weird that day cos i didn't expect what we were
reali shopping for. We seemed to keep hovering over women's items...
My dad was going around asking the sales ladies all sorts of questions.
First stop was the undies. My dad said to get some new ones cos i wud
be needing them in case i stained during the first few managing periods
occasions. Then, we headed to the brassiere department. He showed me
a few with \"underwire\" and said since i was still active in school for PE and
ball games, this wud be better support and wud seem less bouncy if i had
to run or jump and stuff. Didn't recall there were special sports bras then.
But he did get some ala sports bra kind of bra too... the stretchy kinds that
fitted at the rib cage. He bought me black ones cos if it rained and i got
drenched, the nips wudn show as obvious as those white ones. He still did
get the creme coloured ones and one skin coloured bra as well. We went
thru' together with the ladies from the brassiere department about sizing,
comfort... bra types... underwire... no wire... strapless... (etc). The ladies
were extremely helpful and helped inside the changing room too! I was
like being fussed around by mummies who were sooo taken by my dad's
hands-on approach relationship with me that they volunteered to help,
even when a few of them were not even in the same brand of bra section.
πŸ˜‰ And plus... we were the first customers that morning.

At thee end of it all, Daddie bought me a week's full battle gear to start
with. Told me to try wearing them first and give feedback on the comfort.
He added that we wud be having another shopping spree next month about
around the same time as that day. I remember he bought mummie two
beautiful lacey bras with matching undies too! 😎 Next, he brought me
shopping for pads. He showed me the kind mum used which was the
Kotex nite or something cos mum had heavy periods he shared. Good
for overnight comfort so one does not hafta wake up so many times to
change \"diaper\". Wuakakakakaa! He asked whether i knew which were
the brands my frenz were using and that i cud try them out, cos he said
young active girls will prefer the thinner ones like Whisper. He mentioned
wings and without wings. Wings won't stain the side of the undies too much
but the ones with wings might be cause a small discomfort during active
sports play... (etc)

We headed back for lunch with mummie and my two lil' brothers. They
both teased me BIG time about having to wear bras and all and that i
had to start being a girl now and NO FOOTBALL for me. Daddie then
explained to them... \"Now boys, jie-jie having her period does not mean
she has to stop what she enjoys doing. Can still do sports and stay active
which is also good for her... enough about that and eat your lunch.\"

\"After lunch, i wanna go through some stuff with you, ok?\" This time, my
dad went through some articles/journals on menstrual cramps, having
periods, late bloomers, (etc). πŸ˜‰

I did wonder how Daddie got all these information reali cos there wasn't
the ease of using the internet back then. 😎 But the fact that he did
compile all of them and took the trouble to explain them to me was
nothing short of amazing. Remarkably amazing... I have heard of boys
having a feminine side, but fathers understanding the feminine side of
their daughters.... RARE. I shared with my close friends with regards to
my pubescence... and my dad helping me through the initial phases and
they went like WUH?...WHAAT?... NO WAY...

Daddie was there for me every step of the way until i was independent
enough to manage periods on my own. :hugs:

After i was married to buds hubs... HE took over the \"being-there-for-me\"
role which was always... had been... only Daddie. Hubs buys the usual
packs for me, knows the wings and without wings thingies too.. and even
during my post-delivery stage... helped me all the way with the looped
maternity pads... with the warm showers... with the hot water bag... with
caring for baby extensively during the initial 2 weeks confinement (etc).

I dunno if you've heard of the saying, that girls tend to marry men that
take after their Daddies... assuming the girls are daddies' girls kinds...
But i suppose this is true for me..

I dun think i wud ever wish for a better father or a better husband than
what i already lovingly have now. They are the 2 irreplaceable men in my
life... together with my 2 brothers who have shared my life's journey with
me... They are my family, my life and my best friends! I share everything
under the sun with them. EVERYTHING! Hehehee... πŸ˜‰

I am not sure if this is the right thread to post this, but to the good men
in my life especially Daddie and Hubs... and all the wonderful fathers out
there a BIG Happy Fathers' Day from me...

:hugs:

To Daddie and Hubs, i love you so much.
Thank you for everything...

Cheerios everyone..
Have a fantastic weekend!
:celebrate:

:love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/3781/father-s-day-tributeRSS for NodeFri, 24 Apr 2026 06:47:49 GMTSat, 20 Jun 2009 03:09:36 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Thu, 23 Jun 2011 16:35:56 GMT]]>

smartmummy:
Hi JonC!

I read your article,life is short and unpredictable.So sad to hear your father suffered by liver cancer.My deepest condolence to you!
Thanks.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/454258https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/454258Thu, 23 Jun 2011 16:35:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Thu, 23 Jun 2011 16:30:07 GMT]]>to all those whose parents are still around - cherish them

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/454254https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/454254Thu, 23 Jun 2011 16:30:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sat, 18 Jun 2011 12:19:03 GMT]]>

Angelight:
Smartmummy, you are very blessed to have had such a loving dad. My father passed away earlier this year. I wrote an article \"A Daughter's Regret\" in remembrance of him.
Hi Angelight!
I saw your article in the home page.My deepest condolence to you!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449867https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449867Sat, 18 Jun 2011 12:19:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sat, 18 Jun 2011 12:16:30 GMT]]>

JonC:
Few years back, my dad passed away, it's just like yesterday.


http://www.cancerforums.net/threads/5175-Thank-you-and-in-memory-of-my-Dad?p=19892&viewfull=1#post19892

Sometimes when things happen the way it is, you look back, sigh, how you wish you have lived it differently. But the sad thing is, time goes only in 1 direction and never will it reverse back.
Hi JonC!
I read your article,life is short and unpredictable.So sad to hear your father suffered by liver cancer.My deepest condolence to you!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449865https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449865Sat, 18 Jun 2011 12:16:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sat, 18 Jun 2011 12:06:16 GMT]]>Smartmummy, you are very blessed to have had such a loving dad. My father passed away earlier this year. I wrote an article \"A Daughter's Regret\" in remembrance of him.

smartmummy:
Father's day reminds me of my father.

My father was a principal,in nearby secondary school, in my own country.He was very dedicated and disciplined principal.He was very strict as a principal.The pupils should attend the school in time.My father punished if they came late.

We lived nearby paddy field.There was a Lotus pond in the middle of the paddy field.Every evening,he brought me a walk,through the paddy filed and sat nearby pool and told me stories.He made sure I had eaten my dinner and had milk before slept.He carried me,around his neck,in his shoulders.I enjoyed the horse ride.If I remember correctly, he never beat me.When I was seven, he met an accident and passed away.I missed my lovable father a lot.Nobody fill my fathers place.My mother fell into the deep sorrow.

But my father still live in our hearts as well as pupils' hearts studied in his school.Whenever I met people in our country,they recall my fathers' dedication to the school, because my father only expand the school and add A/L for the school.The parents are very thankful to my father and respect my father.He was very disciplined as a man.So I follow his way.Probably,my kids also follows me.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449864https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449864Sat, 18 Jun 2011 12:06:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sat, 18 Jun 2011 09:37:55 GMT]]>Few years back, my dad passed away, it's just like yesterday.


http://www.cancerforums.net/threads/5175-Thank-you-and-in-memory-of-my-Dad?p=19892&viewfull=1#post19892

Sometimes when things happen the way it is, you look back, sigh, how you wish you have lived it differently. But the sad thing is, time goes only in 1 direction and never will it reverse back.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449793https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449793Sat, 18 Jun 2011 09:37:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sat, 18 Jun 2011 08:46:59 GMT]]>You also like me,how sad it is. :hugs:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449766https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449766Sat, 18 Jun 2011 08:46:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sat, 18 Jun 2011 08:41:44 GMT]]>Take heart smartmummy, I fully understand how you feel. My dad left me 6 years old, he is always and constantly in my mind. Esp those places we been to together, what we talked before, every moment, every detail. He lives in my heart. And believes the same for you, your dad lives in yours . :hugs:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449764https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449764Sat, 18 Jun 2011 08:41:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sat, 18 Jun 2011 07:12:59 GMT]]>Thank you so much ksi to take your time to reply.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449746https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449746Sat, 18 Jun 2011 07:12:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sat, 18 Jun 2011 05:13:00 GMT]]>So sad to know your dad passed away when you were so young but touching to know that he had left behind so much fond memories. I am sure he is proud of you and his grandchildren from where he can watch you. Happy father’s day would be a way to remember him fondly.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449715https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449715Sat, 18 Jun 2011 05:13:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sat, 18 Jun 2011 02:51:35 GMT]]>Father's day reminds me of my father.


My father was a principal,in nearby secondary school, in my own country.He was very dedicated and disciplined principal.He was very strict as a principal.The pupils should attend the school in time.My father punished if they came late.

We lived nearby paddy field.There was a Lotus pond in the middle of the paddy field.Every evening,he brought me a walk,through the paddy filed and sat nearby pool and told me stories.He made sure I had eaten my dinner and had milk before slept.He carried me,around his neck,in his shoulders.I enjoyed the horse ride.If I remember correctly, he never beat me.When I was seven, he met an accident and passed away.I missed my lovable father a lot.Nobody fill my fathers place.My mother fell into the deep sorrow.

But my father still live in our hearts as well as pupils' hearts studied in his school.Whenever I met people in our country,they recall my fathers' dedication to the school, because my father only expand the school and add A/L for the school.The parents are very thankful to my father and respect my father.He was very disciplined as a man.So I follow his way.Probably,my kids also follows me.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449683https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/449683Sat, 18 Jun 2011 02:51:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Wed, 16 Sep 2009 04:07:40 GMT]]>Well then, Eagle-Ladybird..


Here's to better fathers...
Better husbands... and all
the better men out there..
:celebrate:

I'm blessed to have both.
Through trying moments
we found our strengths...

At least I found my strength..
Through my adversities.. and
boy there were many! πŸ˜›

To have what I have today... :love:

:hugs:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57855https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57855Wed, 16 Sep 2009 04:07:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Wed, 16 Sep 2009 03:58:54 GMT]]>Yes, reading the thread feels good, Buds, for 2 reasons:


- nice to be reminded that Daddies/Hubbies are appreciated;
- Father’s Day is never celebrated to the scale of Mother’s Day (for obvious/valid reasons), and a story like yours just makes us strive to be a better Fathers

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57851https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57851Wed, 16 Sep 2009 03:58:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Wed, 16 Sep 2009 03:43:05 GMT]]>Whut feels good, Eagle-Ladybird... 😐

This thread feels good?
Well, can definitely say
it is better than the EMA
thread. :roll:

A lil' depressing that one.. 😞

But good guys are also not
without flaws. There ain't no
perfect person.

Someone ever told hubs and i
that such person doesn't exist.

A perfect person is a fantasy person..
A person whom we fancy having... with
this traits and that character and so on.
There isn't a limitation of the stuff one
perceives of a perfect person. Must look
like this... must have this... must know
how to this... and it is an endless
configuration of an unrealistic person.

While one can never find the perfect person,
there's still hope and there is the possibility
there can be someone who is perfect for us.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57843https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57843Wed, 16 Sep 2009 03:43:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Wed, 16 Sep 2009 02:55:52 GMT]]>wah . . . . feels good . . . feels good

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57826https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57826Wed, 16 Sep 2009 02:55:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Mon, 14 Sep 2009 06:13:09 GMT]]>

winth:
Great sharing there buds!

:celebrate:
winth:
Same same! Think I heard of this after experiencing it myself too. Actually, I also heard that girls would go for husbands either
the same as their daddies or the exact opposite.
Yes yes..... Daddie and hubs are both
similar and opposite in different ways.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57361https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57361Mon, 14 Sep 2009 06:13:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Mon, 14 Sep 2009 06:10:56 GMT]]>

buds:
What did the troll put up here?

Can someone share.
wonder what it was too.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57359https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57359Mon, 14 Sep 2009 06:10:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Mon, 14 Sep 2009 06:08:42 GMT]]>Geez... i was wondering why i

received so many email notifications
and yet there weren't any new updates
to the threads at all when i checked... :idea:

I missed all the action. :stupid:

What did the troll put up here?
Can someone share. Good to
know a different perspective
from someone else. Or mebbe
the content was sensitive to the
poster in a way?

:?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57358https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57358Mon, 14 Sep 2009 06:08:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Mon, 14 Sep 2009 03:39:36 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:
You need to thank the troll for bringing this up again πŸ˜‰

Sigh, I think I missed out the 'activity', heard he now lies in the execution grounds.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57317https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57317Mon, 14 Sep 2009 03:39:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Mon, 14 Sep 2009 03:11:02 GMT]]>

winth:
Wow, that article is dated back in June!!!!


Didn't realise it! :shock:

A real pity to miss it 3 months straight!
You need to thank the troll for bringing this up again πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57311https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57311Mon, 14 Sep 2009 03:11:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Mon, 14 Sep 2009 02:57:00 GMT]]>Wow, that article is dated back in June!!!!


Didn't realise it! :shock:

A real pity to miss it 3 months straight!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57306https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57306Mon, 14 Sep 2009 02:57:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Mon, 14 Sep 2009 02:50:24 GMT]]>

buds:
I dunno if you've heard of the saying, that girls tend to marry men that

take after their Daddies... assuming the girls are daddies' girls kinds...
But i suppose this is true for me..
insider:
The above sentence captured my attention that girls tend to marry men that take after their daddies (and the same applies for boys tend to marry women who take after their mommies). This relates back to the Oedipus Complex 恋母/ηˆΆζƒ…η»“ of Freud's theory (this is one of my most flavoured theorists coz I really find his theories interesting).
Great sharing there buds!

Same same! Think I heard of this after experiencing it myself too.
Actually, I also heard that girls would go for husbands either the same as their daddies or the exact opposite.

And my husband does resemble alot of my father's traits - the level of commitment to children & wife and how he insists that we do things as a family. We would go for enrichment classes/bring children to school together everyday, no matter how busy he was. I was never left alone to bring my children anywhere. That's also why, we have lunch almost everyday near his workplace. Very sticky hubby.

My father is a very hands-on family man and loving father too. Err... but he lose out hands-down to your dad on the caring of the menstruation portion and shopping for bras. My father is the more conventional China-man who refuses to do anything that he felt more feminine.

I remembered how he trained me into remembering all those multiplication tables & played memory games with me (which I half suspect why my memory is good), played nintendo & uno & monopoly & perfecting my reversi skills, worrying about me when I sleepwalk to him with my AMaths text (asking him how to solve some algebra sums, I was facing tremendous stress then when I failed my first maths test). And getting very upset when I told him that I couldn't (afford to) buy him land in China where he can grow old there as a farmer. To a child, buying a piece of foreign land sounds really too expensive and I didn't want to make empty promises. But I didn't realise that he was asking me to test my filial piety towards him. Think that's how 'straight' I was.

He was very proud when I entered uni that he threw a feast for my relatives. He would always tell me how he wished I was a boy given my character and how good it would be to bring pride to his family (told you he's the conventional china-man). He would have been proud if he had internal grandchildren bearing his surname (my grandparents and his only sis had died when I was P3, and he was the only person left).

Now, as a grown-up, I do almost the same things to my children to make sure they grow up well and strong. I improvised from the things my father may have done 'wrongly' to ensure that they have a good and memorable childhood as I (think I) did.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57301https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/57301Mon, 14 Sep 2009 02:50:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sun, 26 Jul 2009 12:19:35 GMT]]>

buds:
So.... whaddya' say to the advertisement question? πŸ˜‰

Initially, i tried to :siam: the question, i said \"will explain when u get older\" but my colleague advises that since question had been propped, is the best time to explain to him HONESTLY, no hiddding any facts. Well, started telling that girls menstrual cycle, blood will discharge from our PP, then this sanitary pad will protect us to get stained or dirty. He responses \" just like didi wearing diaper\" Ya, the concept is there. To my surprise, he listen attentively in every detail i went thru. Something make me laugh when we were in miracle of birth, \"how papa's sperm run into your body? u both got to run very very fast?? 😐

Look like we are out of topic hor? Should we go to something like
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=3402
πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/43046https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/43046Sun, 26 Jul 2009 12:19:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Father's Day tribute on Sun, 26 Jul 2009 12:02:04 GMT]]>So.... whaddya' say to the advertisement question? πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/43042https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/43042Sun, 26 Jul 2009 12:02:04 GMT