<![CDATA[Is mummy the better parent?]]>Interestingly, it is difficult to find a parenting resource, online or offline, that does not have an overwhelmingly "Mummy" focus. Why is daddy often left out in the cold? Is it because people think parenting is best left to mummy and daddy should just focus on earning his nuts and playing golf?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/38/is-mummy-the-better-parentRSS for NodeMon, 15 Jun 2026 11:24:56 GMTThu, 08 Nov 2007 14:40:41 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Tue, 23 Feb 2010 13:05:07 GMT]]>Family =


F- father
A - and
M - mother
I - i
L - love
Y - you

Mummy and daddy will play different roles in your little ones life
( be it good or not -
be it up to expectation or not)

Kids are blessed when mummy and daddy
play their respective roles diligently … hehehe

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/128976https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/128976Tue, 23 Feb 2010 13:05:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Thu, 04 Dec 2008 07:13:42 GMT]]>I have 2 girls. The elder one was very close to the dad since young. But surprisingly the second one sticks to me like a leech, doesnt like the daddy at all!! I wonder why... :roll:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/11815https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/11815Thu, 04 Dec 2008 07:13:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Fri, 21 Nov 2008 02:47:33 GMT]]>

jedamum:
super_dad:

I think it depends on whether your child is a girl or a boy. I think girls are usually closer to dads.


In other words...dads are usually closer to daughters...in other words, am I glad I have only 2 sons. :lol: *selfish selfish me* :lol:

LOL... I can't disagree... I only have the one girl in my family. Only child. She's closer to me than my wife. But I think that's because I am a long-time sufferer..... I am ....*drumroll*.... a hands-on father. I don't regret it, she can be very sweet to me. But very very tough life, can die one. Almost did when i was sole breadwinner.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10913https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10913Fri, 21 Nov 2008 02:47:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Sat, 08 Nov 2008 23:15:25 GMT]]>I guess mum and dad play different roles.


Mummy is usually the first person you go to for comfort… be it physical or emotional. That’s why moms has to know when to be tough and when to be soft and accomodating to the children.

Father on the other hand, always play the constant anchor role. Someone you can always count on, give you advice/counsel and fall back to with his arms open wide… waiting for a hug. : )

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super_dad:
I think it depends on whether your child is a girl or a boy. I think girls are usually closer to dads.

In other words...dads are usually closer to daughters...in other words, am I glad I have only 2 sons. :lol: *selfish selfish me* :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/534https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/534Fri, 18 Jan 2008 00:17:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Thu, 17 Jan 2008 23:34:20 GMT]]>I think it depends on whether your child is a girl or a boy. I think girls are usually closer to dads.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/533https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/533Thu, 17 Jan 2008 23:34:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Thu, 17 Jan 2008 09:48:41 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:


But hey... if you and your husband are drowning in the sea and he can only save 1 person, who do you think he will save without even thinking about it? You of course.
😄 Oh yeah.
I use that to 'coax' him to learn swimming...or rather, I told him that his dad will save me and so he will have to save himself. so he has no choice. :shock:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/530https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/530Thu, 17 Jan 2008 09:48:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Thu, 17 Jan 2008 08:07:00 GMT]]>

jedamum:
When I raise my voice at my boy, he is scared.

When my husband raises his voice at the boy, he is very very scared.

When I nag 100x, my boy then leaps into action.
When my husband stares at the boy, the boy leaps into action.

When I praise my boy, he is happy.
When my husband praises the boy, he is very very happy.
But hey... if you and your husband are drowning in the sea and he can only save 1 person, who do you think he will save without even thinking about it? You of course.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/529https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/529Thu, 17 Jan 2008 08:07:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Thu, 17 Jan 2008 06:26:30 GMT]]>When I raise my voice at my boy, he is scared.

When my husband raises his voice at the boy, he is very very scared.

When I nag 100x, my boy then leaps into action.
When my husband stares at the boy, the boy leaps into action.

When I praise my boy, he is happy.
When my husband praises the boy, he is very very happy.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/528https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/528Thu, 17 Jan 2008 06:26:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Tue, 20 Nov 2007 00:48:04 GMT]]>Bribery to my son? Wow, any other better idea, what happen if next time I become victim of my our bribery and at the mercy of my son. Maybe I just act tough and show my son who is the boss hehehe

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/150https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/150Tue, 20 Nov 2007 00:48:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Sat, 17 Nov 2007 14:53:46 GMT]]>

phantom:
I do carry them and help change diapers when my son is a baby. Well my wife forbid me buying sweets for my son, but she buy goodies for him. Maybe that's why he is closer to my wife

Wah lao... like that you lugi. Do all the work and yet still lose to your wife. Time to resort to bribery to change the balance! 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/146https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/146Sat, 17 Nov 2007 14:53:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Thu, 15 Nov 2007 07:41:32 GMT]]>I do carry them and help change diapers when my son is a baby. Well my wife forbid me buying sweets for my son, but she buy goodies for him. Maybe that’s why he is closer to my wife

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/145https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/145Thu, 15 Nov 2007 07:41:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Thu, 15 Nov 2007 06:59:03 GMT]]>But daddy does the most important function…buy sweets.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/142https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/142Thu, 15 Nov 2007 06:59:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Wed, 14 Nov 2007 07:25:32 GMT]]>hee hee. my observation is that most kids prefer mummy because they know who take care of them most. Of course, this may not be the same for all guys.

Aside the 9 months of carrying the kid, daddies need to ask themselves:
1. Who bath, change cuddle the kid most of the time?
2. Who is there to play with kid , read stories, sing song most of the time?
3. Who feed baby, when they are younger, wake up to comfort baby when baby cried at night, most of the time?
4. Who knows what kid needs and meet their needs most of the time?

If the answer is mummy to most of the above then is there any wonder the kids look for mummy and most resources cater to mummy. I don’t think that people think parenting is best left to mummy and daddy should just focus on earning his nuts and playing golf.

Some daddies can be very nuturing and take on their parenting roles with passion. Unfortunately, there are lots of daddies out there who are not and mummies are stuck doing most of it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/141https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/141Wed, 14 Nov 2007 07:25:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Sat, 10 Nov 2007 12:03:19 GMT]]>

phantom:
Quite true, my son will want his mum to put him to sleep instead of me. He does not like me to put him to bed when his mum is there. Any idea if this is always true and how to change that?

I would say let well enough be. You weren't the one that carried him everywhere you went for 9 months. We can't change nature. If you have a girl, she will normally prefer daddy after a certain age because daddy tends to be much softer on her than on her brothers. She's his little princess after all!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/104https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/104Sat, 10 Nov 2007 12:03:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Sat, 10 Nov 2007 09:28:05 GMT]]>Quite true, my son will want his mum to put him to sleep instead of me. He does not like me to put him to bed when his mum is there. Any idea if this is always true and how to change that?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/102https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/102Sat, 10 Nov 2007 09:28:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Fri, 09 Nov 2007 21:15:49 GMT]]>Most kids look towards daddy for fun and mummy for comfort. Sorry guys, we are just a nice to have :lol: .

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/99https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/99Fri, 09 Nov 2007 21:15:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Fri, 09 Nov 2007 02:53:08 GMT]]>I totally agreed with that. Need a white face and a black face. Unfortunately, I am often the bad guy. Father actually are closer to boys than mum are when it come to physical activities.


My son will always look for me when he want to play sports game like balls.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/92https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/92Fri, 09 Nov 2007 02:53:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is mummy the better parent? on Fri, 09 Nov 2007 00:56:37 GMT]]>I think parenting has to be a dual approach...the good guy/bad guy combo. 🙂


I am the good one.

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