<![CDATA[How about maid's laptop?]]>My helper asked me if she can own a laptop, I said no, but she still bought it and even asked me if she can use my wireless account! Now every afternoon she stays in her room use her laptop and pretending she is ironing. How do I do? I warned her many times to control herself, but seems no use.

She is with me for more than one year. I am scared if change a new maid even worse than her.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/39584/how-about-maid-s-laptopRSS for NodeFri, 24 Apr 2026 13:44:07 GMTThu, 23 Aug 2012 03:58:08 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Wed, 17 Oct 2012 05:05:12 GMT]]>

verykiasu2010:
peapot:

[quote=\"Lynn2010\"]Do you think by saying \"use only after 8pm\" works? I already have to \"watch\" their phone usage.


My ex-maid didnt even ask me if she can have a laptop. She came back one day with one, saying that her boyfriend gave her. She asked if she can use the wireless at home, i said no. I told her she is not allowed to use computer as her job at my house does not require it. She can bring to her boyfriend's house and use it on Sunday.

Facebook, Twitter, etc are very addictive. We are all humans. Just look at our own children and people around us. Many are addicted to it.

They are free to use on Sundays, i dont care how. If they have an iphone, they want to use, they can use it after 8pm at night. My rule is \"Dont ever let me spot them using the phone in the day time\". This is not required as part of their JD

I think these days whatever rules you tell the maid, they don't really bother to listen. Because they know that they can always find another job elsewhere. There is a shortage of maids in Singapore.
Just like my current who is only with me for 2 weeks. I told her off day is every second Sunday of the month but she says no to me because her sister is off only 3rd Sunday. So what do you do? Give in....no choice because if I asked her to leave where do I another replacement without paying for ridiculous high agency fees with no guarantee of quality.

So if one day she wants laptop, do you think the maid gives a hoot of whether employer likes it or not?

That's the reality of life for employers in Singapore.

wow, peapot, cannot recognise u huh.......

best is to get a lowly educated maid, if need be, less headache to train than to manage behavioural problems[/quote]Unfortunately, from what I've learned through personal experience... that is soooo not true. My \"lowly educated\" helper has been giving me one problem after another. I didn't hire her for her educational qualifications (or lack thereof), but rather for her *supposed* honesty. Alas, I have been experiencing one lie after another. She's married in her early twenties, but I have to handle her like a pubescent teenager. But we are also held hostage by the current policies for hiring helpers. And there is no sure guarantee that the next maid will be better, and we'll just end up paying more and more.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/878000https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/878000Wed, 17 Oct 2012 05:05:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Mon, 17 Sep 2012 01:35:11 GMT]]>

peapot:
Lynn2010:

Do you think by saying \"use only after 8pm\" works? I already have to \"watch\" their phone usage.


My ex-maid didnt even ask me if she can have a laptop. She came back one day with one, saying that her boyfriend gave her. She asked if she can use the wireless at home, i said no. I told her she is not allowed to use computer as her job at my house does not require it. She can bring to her boyfriend's house and use it on Sunday.

Facebook, Twitter, etc are very addictive. We are all humans. Just look at our own children and people around us. Many are addicted to it.

They are free to use on Sundays, i dont care how. If they have an iphone, they want to use, they can use it after 8pm at night. My rule is \"Dont ever let me spot them using the phone in the day time\". This is not required as part of their JD

I think these days whatever rules you tell the maid, they don't really bother to listen. Because they know that they can always find another job elsewhere. There is a shortage of maids in Singapore.
Just like my current who is only with me for 2 weeks. I told her off day is every second Sunday of the month but she says no to me because her sister is off only 3rd Sunday. So what do you do? Give in....no choice because if I asked her to leave where do I another replacement without paying for ridiculous high agency fees with no guarantee of quality.

So if one day she wants laptop, do you think the maid gives a hoot of whether employer likes it or not?

That's the reality of life for employers in Singapore.

wow, peapot, cannot recognise u huh.......

best is to get a lowly educated maid, if need be, less headache to train than to manage behavioural problems

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850526https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850526Mon, 17 Sep 2012 01:35:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Mon, 17 Sep 2012 01:33:26 GMT]]>

Lynn2010:
Do you think by saying \"use only after 8pm\" works? I already have to \"watch\" their phone usage.


My ex-maid didnt even ask me if she can have a laptop. She came back one day with one, saying that her boyfriend gave her. She asked if she can use the wireless at home, i said no. I told her she is not allowed to use computer as her job at my house does not require it. She can bring to her boyfriend's house and use it on Sunday.

Facebook, Twitter, etc are very addictive. We are all humans. Just look at our own children and people around us. Many are addicted to it.

They are free to use on Sundays, i dont care how. If they have an iphone, they want to use, they can use it after 8pm at night. My rule is \"Dont ever let me spot them using the phone in the day time\". This is not required as part of their JD
I think these days whatever rules you tell the maid, they don't really bother to listen. Because they know that they can always find another job elsewhere. There is a shortage of maids in Singapore.
Just like my current who is only with me for 2 weeks. I told her off day is every second Sunday of the month but she says no to me because her sister is off only 3rd Sunday. So what do you do? Give in....no choice because if I asked her to leave where do I another replacement without paying for ridiculous high agency fees with no guarantee of quality.

So if one day she wants laptop, do you think the maid gives a hoot of whether employer likes it or not?

That's the reality of life for employers in Singapore.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850525https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850525Mon, 17 Sep 2012 01:33:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Mon, 17 Sep 2012 01:17:07 GMT]]>

Lynn2010:
Do you think by saying \"use only after 8pm\" works? I already have to \"watch\" their phone usage.


My ex-maid didnt even ask me if she can have a laptop. She came back one day with one, saying that her boyfriend gave her. She asked if she can use the wireless at home, i said no. I told her she is not allowed to use computer as her job at my house does not require it. She can bring to her boyfriend's house and use it on Sunday.

Facebook, Twitter, etc are very addictive. We are all humans. Just look at our own children and people around us. Many are addicted to it.

They are free to use on Sundays, i dont care how. If they have an iphone, they want to use, they can use it after 8pm at night. My rule is \"Dont ever let me spot them using the phone in the day time\". This is not required as part of their JD
I think if you say that the rule is \"after 8pm\" and they can't stick to it, then it should be made very clear what the consequences are. Of course we can't monitor them all the time - the same as my boss can't monitor what I'm doing when I'm at work - but the rule needs to be there.

Personally, I don't think saying that she can't have a laptop because her job doesn't require one, is not really feasible. What she does after she finishes work is her business; if she buys books to read they are not necessary for her job but would you stop her?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850504https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850504Mon, 17 Sep 2012 01:17:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Sun, 16 Sep 2012 22:57:49 GMT]]>Do you think by saying "use only after 8pm" works? I already have to "watch" their phone usage.


My ex-maid didnt even ask me if she can have a laptop. She came back one day with one, saying that her boyfriend gave her. She asked if she can use the wireless at home, i said no. I told her she is not allowed to use computer as her job at my house does not require it. She can bring to her boyfriend’s house and use it on Sunday.

Facebook, Twitter, etc are very addictive. We are all humans. Just look at our own children and people around us. Many are addicted to it.

They are free to use on Sundays, i dont care how. If they have an iphone, they want to use, they can use it after 8pm at night. My rule is "Dont ever let me spot them using the phone in the day time". This is not required as part of their JD

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850413https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850413Sun, 16 Sep 2012 22:57:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Sun, 16 Sep 2012 17:59:49 GMT]]>I have to let u guys know that my ex-maid accessed porn sites on her smart phone.


I accidentally found out that some social networking sites host porn. That includes Facebook. This particular account has only Filipino subscribers.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850400https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/850400Sun, 16 Sep 2012 17:59:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Mon, 03 Sep 2012 05:20:17 GMT]]>

verykiasu2010:
Zhuge:

probably a married maid will use less laptop


she will be on someone's lap top ? :evil: :evil:

lol good one.

Seriously, she's already so distracted with her smartphone. Laptop is definitely no-no. She'll never get any work done. She asked me to give her the password to my wireless. I refused. So now she pays for it out of her sim card.

How about you try changing your wireless password so she can't use the internet? IMO internet is the most distracting feature. I have no complaints if she just wants to use the laptop to practise typing or something.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/840638https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/840638Mon, 03 Sep 2012 05:20:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Mon, 27 Aug 2012 03:43:29 GMT]]>

Zhuge:
probably a married maid will use less laptop

she will be on someone's lap top ? :evil: :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/834122https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/834122Mon, 27 Aug 2012 03:43:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Mon, 27 Aug 2012 03:17:16 GMT]]>

ANGEL2011:
My helper asked me if she can own a laptop, I said no, but she still bought it and even asked me if she can use my wireless account! Now every afternoon she stays in her room use her laptop and pretending she is ironing. How do I do? I warned her many times to control herself, but seems no use.

She is with me for more than one year. I am scared if change a new maid even worse than her.
Having a laptop is fine and I don't believe you really have the right to stop her from buying one if that's what she wants to do but if she is using it during working hours then, as someone else said, that is insubordination.

I would suggest that you sit her down and tell her that you want to treat her like an adult but she needs to respect the rules and only use the laptop when she isn't working. If she cannot follow the rules then she will have to leave.

I have allowed my maid to have one and to use our wireless network but only in the evenings after the children are in bed and she has completed all her work.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/834080https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/834080Mon, 27 Aug 2012 03:17:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Thu, 23 Aug 2012 12:20:30 GMT]]>probably a married maid will use less laptop

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/830483https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/830483Thu, 23 Aug 2012 12:20:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Thu, 23 Aug 2012 11:13:42 GMT]]>My maid asked for advance salary and I gave it to her without asking reason thinking her family back home needs the money. But she came back from off day and bought a mini laptop. I told her it is ok to use as long as she finishes work but she took for granted. She started using so frequently and addicted to facebook with thousands f friends. I fed up and stopped her using my wireless. I asked her to keep her laptop but she already ‘addicted’ to Facebook so now she uses phone face booking. Sigh! Should have stop her using laptop before h gets ‘hooked’ to facbook. Anyway sending her off soon.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/830364https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/830364Thu, 23 Aug 2012 11:13:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Thu, 23 Aug 2012 09:06:51 GMT]]>This is ‘insubordination’. It’s time you send her off otherwise dunno what kind of pattern will come out next time when she sees that you can’t do much to her although you have specifically told her no to a laptop. She has obviously ‘climb over yr head’.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/830140https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/830140Thu, 23 Aug 2012 09:06:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How about maid's laptop? on Thu, 23 Aug 2012 05:08:06 GMT]]>This is not acceptable. I don’t mind my maid having a laptop, but she can only use it with her own internet access and only after she completes her work which is around 8PM. If she don’t listen, it’s time for you to start looking for another maid.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/829600https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/829600Thu, 23 Aug 2012 05:08:06 GMT