<![CDATA[Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor?]]>DS has been attending Chinese enrichment classes in a tuition centre since P2 and has a private Chinese tutor since P5. The Chinese tutor's main focus was on oral skills since we don't speak Chinese at home. Recently his Chinese tutor gave him a Hongbao for his performance in PSLE. The Hongbao contained $1xx! I feel that this is inappropriate especially considering the quantum. However, what should do? Returning the $ seemed rude....


Actually, I did consider giving her a bonus earlier... However, was not too sure what is the practice now? Don't recall my own Chinese tutors receiving bonuses - probably was not done during my schooldays. In the end, decided against a monetary bonus for 2 reasons: i feel that the enrichment centre and DS school teachers might probably helped more with his good Chinese results; and I did not want to set a precedent. What if she expects a bonus every year...particularly if she felt DS did well but I felt otherwise... Don't want unhappiness due to different expectations. So finally thought of getting her a gift nearer to Christmas.

Now, with this latest \"development\", I am reconsidering... Should I give her a monetary bonus? If so, how much is the norm (if indeed there is this practice)? Should I give a more expensive gift now? Or am I making a mountain out of a molehill? :? DH does not seem concerned about this at all, whilst I'm up at 12am plus thinking about it. :scratchhead:

Any advice or suggestion would be very very much appreciated. :?:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/46990/is-there-a-practice-to-give-bonus-to-tutorRSS for NodeTue, 28 Apr 2026 03:05:52 GMTFri, 07 Dec 2012 16:34:53 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Fri, 08 Jan 2021 07:44:15 GMT]]>I will totally agree that it is the thoughts that count.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2011317https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2011317Fri, 08 Jan 2021 07:44:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Thu, 15 Oct 2015 00:59:07 GMT]]>

janet88:
ChiefKiasu:

It was no big deal. I just followed the instructions at the back of the box of brownie mix... 😂


it's the thought that counts. any other suggestions which does not require baking?

You can buy a slice of cake rather than bake it? That's what I usually do 😄

Ultimately, it is the thought that counts. A simple gift is enough to show your appreciation for the tutor's effort 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592828https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592828Thu, 15 Oct 2015 00:59:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Thu, 15 Oct 2015 00:47:19 GMT]]>

Coolkidsrock2:
Wine, cheese .... I will give jams or spices sometimes as well.

Spices? Interesting. What spices and how does the package looks like? Hamper?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592824https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592824Thu, 15 Oct 2015 00:47:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Thu, 15 Oct 2015 00:19:06 GMT]]>Wine, cheese … I will give jams or spices sometimes as well.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592817https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592817Thu, 15 Oct 2015 00:19:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 22:37:25 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:
It was no big deal. I just followed the instructions at the back of the box of brownie mix... 😂

it's the thought that counts. any other suggestions which does not require baking?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592808https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592808Wed, 14 Oct 2015 22:37:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 14:33:59 GMT]]>It was no big deal. I just followed the instructions at the back of the box of brownie mix... 😂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592770https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592770Wed, 14 Oct 2015 14:33:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 14:26:19 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:
I baked some brownies for my girl's math tutor and she loved it.

That's a nice gesture...wow, you can bake. :udaman:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592764https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592764Wed, 14 Oct 2015 14:26:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 14:21:36 GMT]]>I baked some brownies for my girl’s math tutor and she loved it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592763https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592763Wed, 14 Oct 2015 14:21:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 13:16:16 GMT]]>i give a little ang pao during CNY for tutors…a little gift for teachers’ day.

maybe I should give something small for Christmas.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592747https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592747Wed, 14 Oct 2015 13:16:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 13:00:03 GMT]]>Thinking of getting special gifts for tutor for helping DS to achieve the targeted result, what are some suggestions of nice gifts?


I do give gifts for teachers’ day but not for other occasions like Mid Autumn Festival etc.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592742https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592742Wed, 14 Oct 2015 13:00:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Mon, 21 Jan 2013 21:57:14 GMT]]>I think giving Ang Paos to tutors may send the wrong signal to tutor and may make for an uncomfortable situation. Giving of gifts for special occasions such as Teacher’s Day or CNY is better and actually should be encouraged as it also shows to DC that the tutor should be appreciated in small ways and not just taken for granted. So by all means give a gift, I think that is a very nice gesture.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/943258https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/943258Mon, 21 Jan 2013 21:57:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Mon, 21 Jan 2013 17:53:01 GMT]]>I think better give some stuff which is more memorable for the tutor, rather than additional "bonus". U can give in some special occasion such as teacher’s day. Angpao for CNY is also good idea.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/943237https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/943237Mon, 21 Jan 2013 17:53:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:12:48 GMT]]>Won’t give bonus but will give angbao during Chinese New Year.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/920960https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/920960Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:12:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Wed, 19 Dec 2012 10:32:13 GMT]]>Like for example now Christmas is around the corner, either I baked cookies with kids and ask them to give tutor as gifts or something get a box of choco as a token of appreciation:)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/920804https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/920804Wed, 19 Dec 2012 10:32:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Wed, 19 Dec 2012 03:53:10 GMT]]>Thank you to all for your comments and suggestions. I have given her a more expensive gift to express our appreciation, as I am not comfortable with giving a monetary bonus. Will revert back to cookies etc for cny etc, later on.


She is very happy with my son’s results so I don’t think there is any "hidden" intention with the red packet. Nevertheless, I will have a chat with DS on possible inappropriate behaviors between tutors /teachers and students. It’s an appropriate time to do so since he will be going to a new school.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/920479https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/920479Wed, 19 Dec 2012 03:53:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Mon, 17 Dec 2012 05:07:47 GMT]]>I usually give gift but find giving gift card to Robinsons, Tangs, Cathay Cinema or Shaws depending on what tutor likes works best.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/919424https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/919424Mon, 17 Dec 2012 05:07:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Mon, 17 Dec 2012 02:42:54 GMT]]>I guess there are different ways to show appreciation, as long as you feel its right, then do it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/919348https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/919348Mon, 17 Dec 2012 02:42:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Sun, 16 Dec 2012 15:02:30 GMT]]>I don’t give bonus to tutors…but I gave chocolate during teachers’ day and moon cakes…no monetary bonus…but gifts. They have gone out of their way for my son…we truly appreciate that.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/919180https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/919180Sun, 16 Dec 2012 15:02:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Sun, 16 Dec 2012 02:29:47 GMT]]>Hi, my first time too hearing that. My kid’s tutor will give him gifts to encourage him only but not red packets.


On our side, DH will give her bonus after exams as she is really very good and my kids like her very much.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/918925https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/918925Sun, 16 Dec 2012 02:29:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Thu, 13 Dec 2012 09:27:22 GMT]]>Hi,

I dont being giving monetary bonus is a norm. Both from the tutor or from the parents.

Giving money as a reward for good work seems a negative reward when students are incentivised monetarily for good results.

Giving money to tutor can also increase the expectations of the tutor for more.

Although, on both sides, it can be seen positively. Kind of 50%-50%.

Regards,
Cami

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/917975https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/917975Thu, 13 Dec 2012 09:27:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Sat, 08 Dec 2012 13:18:55 GMT]]>Justin (Ace tutors), kellystarry and skyed, thank you!


Am somewhat relieved that I'm not the only one who does not give monetary bonus to tutor. She's my DS's only private tutor so was not sure what's the norm these days. Yes, I normally give cakes, cookies to her, especially during cny.

Tutor likes my DS who's the kwai sort and is very pleased with his results...so yes, it was meant as an encouragement. Though I still think the quantum was simply :yikes:

DS did do very well for his Chinese so she does deserve a token of appreciation. Was kinda of worried of \"insulting\" her if a monetary bonus is the norm these days. Will probably stick to the original idea of getting her a \"bigger\" gift as appreciation.

Thanks so much for your thoughts. Should be able to sleep more soundly tonight...I hope.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/915889https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/915889Sat, 08 Dec 2012 13:18:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Sat, 08 Dec 2012 04:56:05 GMT]]>I don’t give bonus but during holiday period eg Christmas etc will give gifts.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/915746https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/915746Sat, 08 Dec 2012 04:56:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Sat, 08 Dec 2012 04:55:08 GMT]]>Wow...first time hearing of this type of practice...normally i give gifts or bake some cookies and cakes 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/915744https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/915744Sat, 08 Dec 2012 04:55:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is there a practice to give bonus to tutor? on Sat, 08 Dec 2012 01:58:26 GMT]]>Wow this is really rare! I have not heard of tutor giving so much monetary reward to a private student. It could be a genuine token of encouragement for your DS. If you plan to continue with the private tutor, you should consider getting something as a show of appreciation. I have no idea whether should it be expensive or not though!

Gifting can be such a complex thing =p

-Justin

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