mummy of three:

pinky:

I notice many poly girls like to wear shorts to campus.

My husband's niece started doing this eversince starting poly. She ditched all her
jeans and pants and only wear shorts even though she keep complaining the
lecture halls are chillingly cold.

Some wear bikini with a jacket over it only!

Dreamaurora:

concern2:

For every consequence, there is a cause. And perhaps one of the causes had been the mentality that as long as I do something and don't get found out, I'll be fine - and when people get away with doing certain things and don't get punished or caught, more and more will join in. These could even be from one generation to another. I really don't blame the backlash. It is just one of the consequences and a snowball of the deed(s).


I also want to point to one thing that I found Singapore women like to do, and don't seem to be conscious of - or purposely doing it. That is, when they bend down to pick up/ do something, they don't have the habit of covering their low neckline. It is a familiar and common sight in Singapore. Every time got \"free show\" - supermarkets, foodcourts, bus-stops, schools, - everywhere! Male teachers get to see these \"free shows\" very often. I attended this enrichment centre where you need to remove your shoes before entering, and as I sat by the glass door waiting, I could see mummies removing/ putting on their shoes with their 'assets' hanging. :slapshead:

This one still okay lar. Normally if some women zaogeng like that, I just look away. Those that cannot escape ones are those young teenagers and women wearing shorts and flaunting their long slender legs. I think it's fine to wear like that at home but definitely not outside when shopping or hanging out.

concern2:

For every consequence, there is a cause. And perhaps one of the causes had been the mentality that as long as I do something and don't get found out, I'll be fine - and when people get away with doing certain things and don't get punished or caught, more and more will join in. These could even be from one generation to another. I really don't blame the backlash. It is just one of the consequences and a snowball of the deed(s).


I also want to point to one thing that I found Singapore women like to do, and don't seem to be conscious of - or purposely doing it. That is, when they bend down to pick up/ do something, they don't have the habit of covering their low neckline. It is a familiar and common sight in Singapore. Every time got \"free show\" - supermarkets, foodcourts, bus-stops, schools, - everywhere! Male teachers get to see these \"free shows\" very often. I attended this enrichment centre where you need to remove your shoes before entering, and as I sat by the glass door waiting, I could see mummies removing/ putting on their shoes with their 'assets' hanging. :slapshead:

Desserts:

Yes concern2, I agree with you fully, I see all these free shows every where! And wonder what the women are thinking. Unaware of their assets dangling or simply Bo chap, or think they should flaunt them :slapshead: There is no sense of modesty in their dressing and they dont think it will arouse the men! The tee kor peks will definitely be v happy.

mother777:

Hope people remember that recently there were cases where female instructors/tutors behaved intimately with their male students. So why are female tutors not shunned? Well I have no clue and answer to that..

mother777:

Wow don't you think 'chemical castration' as you defined it a bit extreme,

Imagine yourself as a teacher/educator and think about it. Woud you volunteer to join such a program..?

Educators are human being too.. Just because some foolish ones forgot their aim in joining the profession or let their baser urges guide the.. We cannot punish the whole lot of education professionals..

Educators have their own families.. They also need to have babies.. And grow their family.. Do you think a young lady or guy will join teaching profession if something like this came into a ruling.. Or become mandatory?

My motto is : behave to others in manner which you want others to behave with you..
Just my honest opinion..

And what about cases of molest rape by doctors, neighbours, relatives etc.. Can we apply this rule to them? Don't think so..

As parent we can only teach our kids to be socially responsible. And hope that in future their actions do not harm anyone.

lambchop1976:

ngl2010:

Currently, does MOE conduct assessment for new teachers (including relief teachers) to make sure that no paedophiles is employed as school teachers?

i dun thk MOE or any organisation is able to do that. May i ask is there such assessment to check if one is morally upright, will not steal will not casue harm to others (harm can be in any form may it be sexual acts or verbal etc)? Honestly no one can guarantee. It really abt each individual's beliefs and core values and his reactions whn tempted.

Likewise how do we know our spouse will not do things we dun like? We married the person we love and think is the best person of our life and our partner thk likewise abt us. We cannot guarantee or do assessment for our other half or even ourselves sometime that we will not be a liar, alcoholic, wife/spouse abuser, cheater etc. Isnt it?

Life...

So it is unfair for us to say \"why MOE is like that, cant screen teachers properly? Wow even schools are so unsafe\"..then we start n fall into thiss trap of telling our kids to dun trust people etc... kinda paranoid and sad. Let's put it this way: in this fallen world, everywher there are bound to have \"scary\" people.

What I would like to say is: as parents we can and we must impact the right and moral values to our kids. Also to teach our kids how to love themselves, to take care and protect themselves. We cant protect them forever.
and for those educators, leaders, people with authorities and those who have been trusted to serve (may it be MP, CEO, COO or pastors or nuns etc...): \"you are given great power/authority so it also come with great responsibilities.\"

lambchop1976:

ngl2010:

Currently, does MOE conduct assessment for new teachers (including relief teachers) to make sure that no paedophiles is employed as school teachers?

i dun thk MOE or any organisation is able to do that. May i ask is there such assessment to check if one is morally upright, will not steal will not casue harm to others (harm can be in any form may it be sexual acts or verbal etc)? Honestly no one can guarantee. It really abt each individual's beliefs and core values and his reactions whn tempted.
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ngl2010:

Currently, does MOE conduct assessment for new teachers (including relief teachers) to make sure that no paedophiles is employed as school teachers?

ngl2010:

So far, my experience with male tutors is not as good as with female tutors. They are just not as hard working as female tutors. Maybe it is just our luck for not able to find good male tutors. This is on top of not feeling safe to leave our DS with male tutor alone at home.

mother777:

Infatuation at this age also means disaster. Many kids are vastly impressed by their teachers, tutors, relatives and try to look for comfort as well as emotional support from them.
Sometimes a pervert person perceives this as a perfect opportunity to gain their confidence..physical intimacy can sometime lead to a false sense of belonging in kids who are deprived of emotional support from working parents or many reasons we cannot understand..
Must watch our kids and their behavior very carefully..