<![CDATA[Sexual Predation -- Perspective from a father of boys]]>I was reading with some concern about the increasing frequency of underaged sexual activity. Whilst I certainly believe that the majority of the predatory behaviour is exhibited by older men on vulnerable young girls (and therefore the laws are commensurate), and is reprehensible, I am also concerned by the increasing frequency of the less-than-naive young girls who in fact bait their young boyfriends/netfriends into having sex.


In this environment, I actually think there is a greater challenge in raising boys to be sexually 'aware' and cautious. Here I am talking about boys getting into puberty and late teens/early twenties. With girls, you can be fairly black and white, and I believe girls have intrinsically have less of an inclination to be physically intimate with a partner they do not care about. Whereas for boys, its a greater challenge to thread the eye of the needle. I.e. allow them to grow into their natural manhood instincts, yet set the right boundaries for behaviours.

My elder boy is in only K2, and already a female classmate has him wrapped around her pinky.... :roll:

Female of the species is more deadly than the male..... :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/4789/sexual-predation-perspective-from-a-father-of-boysRSS for NodeSat, 18 Apr 2026 15:45:12 GMTThu, 06 Aug 2009 06:57:07 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Sexual Predation -- Perspective from a father of boys on Fri, 14 Aug 2009 03:03:38 GMT]]>I believe it is very important to educate them on sexual issues. Prevention is always better than cure.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/50728https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/50728Fri, 14 Aug 2009 03:03:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Sexual Predation -- Perspective from a father of boys on Mon, 10 Aug 2009 08:33:35 GMT]]>Agree that abstinence from premarital sex has to be from a religious dimension… then again with the widespread influence of peers, mass media, how resilient can a hormonally charged teenager be able to fend himself/herself against the temptation of premarital sex??


haha jus the thought of this sends chills down my spine…

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MLR:
Turned out that she got pregnant b4 chancing upon my cousin and decided to take opportunity, cos the b/f who got her pregnant MIA.

Scary isn't it. Boys really need to go into these things with their eyes wide open. Unfortunately at that age, the 'brain' resides below the waist and not above the neck.

Sometimes, in this age of relativism, it is so hard to argue against the dangers of pre-marital sex. Indeed, the only injunction would appear to be a religious one.

http://www.mendingthesoul.org/2005/04/chastity-and-the-goodness-of-god-the-case-for-premarital-sexual-abstinence/

I really pray that I will be able to walk that tightrope in not dampening their spirit but also keeping them wise to the pitfalls.

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MLR:
Luckily my aunt is alert enough to check with her son when was the act committed and varified how long is her pregnancy. Turned out that she got pregnant b4 chancing upon my cousin and decided to take opportunity, cos the b/f who got her pregnant MIA.

Oh my ! Your aunt is cool and steady ! Salute ! :celebrate:

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EN:
[quote]Hahahaha....I just knew you would pop by and say something, jedamum. No lah, he's just of better standard, more like a gentleman. And she says that he is funny (as in has a sense of humour kinda funny, not the cuckoo kinda funny). So you see, from young, gals are already looking for humour in guys.

I remember in another post that Sashimi was thinking that it's great to have future in law for his dd from KSP. Is Jedamum considered one of them? πŸ˜‰[/quote]Er..... no comment. LOL

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EN:
Since they look like of a same age, I put my stand as it takes two hands to clap. Both gender are responsible for their action.

Do agree, but when accidents happens, its the boy who the blunt of things. One incident that I can share happened to my young cousin. He was dating this girl since their sec days. When he got enlisted into army they drifted a part, she went on to poly. 1 year or so later, by chance they met again during X'mas party. Under influence of alcohol, he committed the act of foolishness. Later she came crying that she is pregnant and want my cousin to take responsibility. Luckily my aunt is alert enough to check with her son when was the act committed and varified how long is her pregnancy. Turned out that she got pregnant b4 chancing upon my cousin and decided to take opportunity, cos the b/f who got her pregnant MIA.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48506https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48506Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:38:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Sexual Predation -- Perspective from a father of boys on Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:29:00 GMT]]>I live in a hdb maisonette. In the past, the lift stops only at certain floor, so I have to walk down two levels to reach my place. Daily I will find a very young couple at the staircase wearing school uniform doing "coupling business". I literally had to walk down first to check to get this young couple to stop whatever they are doing because my kids were about to pass by.


So glad the lift now stops at my floor. No need to see such things. The couple is in secondary school clothes. Since they look like of a same age, I put my stand as it takes two hands to clap. Both gender are responsible for their action.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48498https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48498Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:29:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Sexual Predation -- Perspective from a father of boys on Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:21:21 GMT]]>DS is also complaining about a girl in his class wanting to ruffle his hair, poke his back etc. He finds her irritating because the girl likes to dig her nose and use the same hand to try and touch him. Yuuuuccckss.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48494https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48494Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:21:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Sexual Predation -- Perspective from a father of boys on Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:18:53 GMT]]>[quote]Hahahaha....I just knew you would pop by and say something, jedamum. No lah, he's just of better standard, more like a gentleman. And she says that he is funny (as in has a sense of humour kinda funny, not the cuckoo kinda funny). So you see, from young, gals are already looking for humour in guys. [/quote]
I remember in another post that Sashimi was thinking that it's great to have future in law for his dd from KSP. Is Jedamum considered one of them? πŸ˜‰

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schellen:

Hahahaha....I just knew you would pop by and say something, jedamum. πŸ˜‰ No lah, he's just of better standard, more like a gentleman. 😎 And she says that he is funny (as in has a sense of humour kinda funny, not the cuckoo kinda funny). So you see, from young, gals are already looking for humour in guys. πŸ˜‰
:rahrah: :rahrah:

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jedamum:
schellen:

So if she accepts any boys into her social circle, they have \"passed\" her stringent requirements. πŸ˜‰


:celebrate: :celebrate: :celebrate: πŸ˜‰
does it mean my boy is very girly 😐 😐

Hahahaha....I just knew you would pop by and say something, jedamum. πŸ˜‰ No lah, he's just of better standard, more like a gentleman. 😎 And she says that he is funny (as in has a sense of humour kinda funny, not the cuckoo kinda funny). So you see, from young, gals are already looking for humour in guys. πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48240https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48240Thu, 06 Aug 2009 09:29:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Sexual Predation -- Perspective from a father of boys on Thu, 06 Aug 2009 09:12:27 GMT]]>

tonypang:
you should be glad that he has taken a natural liking towards girls .....

Indeed..........

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schellen:
So if she accepts any boys into her social circle, they have \"passed\" her stringent requirements. πŸ˜‰

:celebrate: :celebrate: :celebrate: πŸ˜‰
does it mean my boy is very girly 😐 😐

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tonypang:
you should be glad that he has taken a natural liking towards girls .....

Ya lor, my 7yo DD dislikes boys cos she says that they are smelly, sweaty, dirty, rude, rough and don't treat girls nicely. So if she accepts any boys into her social circle, they must have \"passed\" her stringent requirements. πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48219https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48219Thu, 06 Aug 2009 09:07:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Sexual Predation -- Perspective from a father of boys on Thu, 06 Aug 2009 09:00:13 GMT]]>you should be glad that he has taken a natural liking towards girls …

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48199https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/48199Thu, 06 Aug 2009 09:00:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Sexual Predation -- Perspective from a father of boys on Thu, 06 Aug 2009 08:54:31 GMT]]>

MLR:
3Boys:

Female of the species is more deadly than the male..... :lol:


Which makes us better mothers, cos you don't mess with mothers πŸ˜„

Maybe you care to elaborate further about how the \"female classmate has him wrapped around her pinky\".... so that we can input some insights/experiences...

MLR,
its nothing very serious lah, just amusing to see that at such a young age, little crushes/infatuations, manipulations can occur.

This little girl he is friends with (she lives nearby and takes the same bus), he is always looking to ask her over for his birthday, wants to pop over to her condo, and when she called him smelly and 'don't want to be your friend', he came back sobbing from school.....

Stay away from my boys, all you evil girls :nunchuk: ........ :lol:

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3Boys:
Female of the species is more deadly than the male..... :lol:

Which makes us better mothers, cos you don't mess with mothers πŸ˜„

Maybe you care to elaborate further about how the \"female classmate has him wrapped around her pinky\".... so that we can input some insights/experiences...

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