<![CDATA[Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair?]]>My friend gave birth recently and I saw her hubby with another lady behaving intimately. Before my friend got pregnant with her second child, she was going through divorce proceeding with her hubby. They managed to resolve their differences and lived together again. Then my friend got pregnant not long after. My friend is beautiful and slim. Her hubby is fat. I saw another gorgeous girl behaving intimately with her hubby. Should I tell my friend?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/50593/should-i-tell-my-friend-that-her-hubby-is-having-affairRSS for NodeTue, 28 Apr 2026 10:54:07 GMTTue, 29 Jan 2013 08:43:13 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Fri, 25 Dec 2020 09:08:10 GMT]]>Hi. Yes, I understand, but the situation is not simple. But it is probably better not to create problems for yourself with such revelations, especially since they may be misunderstood. You can advise her to follow her husband. Special companies can help with this https://private-service.best/ for example and other services that can help to understand the situation.

Best of luck

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009607https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009607Fri, 25 Dec 2020 09:08:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Fri, 25 Dec 2020 02:50:38 GMT]]>

janice.g\" post_id=\"1734021\" time=\"1479486969\" user_id=\"150704:

have to test water. sometimes the wife may already know, but pretend not to know just to keep the marriage intact. afraid to face the reality plus maybe don't know how to cope if in the face...
Ya. My thoughts too.
That’s a very fair point of view.

Women not stupid one.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009563https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009563Fri, 25 Dec 2020 02:50:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Fri, 25 Dec 2020 02:37:41 GMT]]>It is still better to be honest. She is your friend and a true friend will do things in good conscience. Telling her what you saw about her husband is not gossiping, instead it is an action of care. 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009561https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009561Fri, 25 Dec 2020 02:37:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Thu, 24 Dec 2020 19:26:43 GMT]]>Yes.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009546https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009546Thu, 24 Dec 2020 19:26:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Thu, 24 Dec 2020 18:57:53 GMT]]>Yes, mrs cheng is definitely right. But would your friend trust you?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009544https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009544Thu, 24 Dec 2020 18:57:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Thu, 30 Jul 2020 13:35:54 GMT]]>I have been in the position of a wife who was told that her husband is cheating on her. My husband was on business trip and went there with a bunch of his colleagues, including female ones. I have just gave a birth to our son and you realize how I felt - happy, but tired as heck. So one of my \"friends\"came to my house and started a serious conversation that my husband has been cheating on me, as he left not on business trip, but to have fun with one of the women he was working with. I have been depressed with that fact, even tried to sign up for https://onlinedivorcecalifornia.com/ as far as I am a SAHM and couldn't afford a divorce lawyer, but when my hubby returned and saw that smth was wrong with me, we talked and I found out that the woman which I was tald to be my competitor had a long-term relationship with another woman. And they really were friends with my husband so they spend plenty of time together. Later on I invited her to the dinner party at our place and so that there was nothing to worry about. When I talked to my friend she insisted that I am stupid that I believe my husband and he is cheating and I am blind, however when I analyzed the facts I remembered that she just was toxic to me. That's my story and I assume that you might be absolutely sure about what you've seen, but still better think twice before interrupting somebody's family life.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1988548https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1988548Thu, 30 Jul 2020 13:35:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Wed, 02 May 2018 04:19:37 GMT]]>Had a very close friend and know her entire family well (incl extended family)


Years ago, I was staying with her young family interim whilst my home was renovating, the helper was unpacking her hubby’s luggage fr bz trip. She showed me the lipstick & underwear tt is not my frd’s. I advise the maid to keep quiet abt it as I know it will devastate her. Had it always in my heart, it was really a burden not to be able to reveal as I know not how it’ll affect her life.

Then as her kids grow up, she’s more relaxed & she has been taking up ballroom dancing & vacations visiting her kids in UK when they hv vacation time fr studies.

Not sure if my frd hv inkling, but if she does, she must hv been very brave thro the storm. If she doesn’t, thankful the husband didn’t continue coz thereafter the maid didn’t find any other tell-tale signs & his bz folded up 5 years down & he stopped traveling to that country. (Morale of story - we wifey shld always pack & unpack our hubby’s luggage personally).

Just thankful it ended well.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1845646https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1845646Wed, 02 May 2018 04:19:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Wed, 02 May 2018 02:45:53 GMT]]>

Michy79:
I would tell. Some may say it's none of your business but I disagree. If I saw someone light a house on fire I would rush to tell the owner who it was that I saw. You aren't the one cheating and you aren't the one who ruins the marriage, if it ultimate is.

Second this. Happened to a friend before and we told her. I wouldn't want to be kept in the dark either, the wife should have the right to know, and whatever happens after is a choice they make independently.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1845603https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1845603Wed, 02 May 2018 02:45:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Sat, 22 Jul 2017 08:29:17 GMT]]>I think it’s better to tell. don’t betray your friend. don’t betray your friend who is being betrayed!!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1786661https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1786661Sat, 22 Jul 2017 08:29:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Fri, 23 Jun 2017 03:27:58 GMT]]>A group of my friends experienced something similar last year. We eventually told our friend, but only after months of consideration. It’s a difficult decision to make, and sometimes interfering in others’ private home lives can be dangerous. I would say each situation is unique, so you’d have to consider carefully.


Is your friend emotionally and financially stable? Is she able to leave her husband and survive on her own with the 2 kids if things turn sour and they get a divorce?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1780359https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1780359Fri, 23 Jun 2017 03:27:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Tue, 29 Nov 2016 10:56:23 GMT]]>It’s easier to be subtle… Like say you saw someone who looks like her hubby but cannot confirm… Then just tell her keep an eye out in case. I feel this way it is not like dropping a bomb, and she can also decide her course of action and self-discovery… Instead of acting out of emotions because of my opinion of how it should be handled!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1737027https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1737027Tue, 29 Nov 2016 10:56:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Sat, 19 Nov 2016 10:43:14 GMT]]>Maybe tell girlfriend what you saw and ask her to take note.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1734104https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1734104Sat, 19 Nov 2016 10:43:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Fri, 18 Nov 2016 16:36:09 GMT]]>have to test water. sometimes the wife may already know, but pretend not to know just to keep the marriage intact. afraid to face the reality plus maybe don’t know how to cope if in the face…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1734021https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1734021Fri, 18 Nov 2016 16:36:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Tue, 15 Nov 2016 05:59:04 GMT]]>If your friend is a very close friend of yours, should inform her that her husband is having an affair, and where you obtain this source of info from

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1733254https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1733254Tue, 15 Nov 2016 05:59:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Mon, 14 Nov 2016 17:19:29 GMT]]>for very close friends, you call tell. may also discuss with them what to do next.

if not so close friend, better not…

a few years ago, my best friend’s husband was having affair… I accompanied her to see lawyer and etc.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1733156https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1733156Mon, 14 Nov 2016 17:19:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Mon, 14 Nov 2016 17:19:21 GMT]]>for very close friends, you call tell. may also discuss with them what to do next.

if not so close friend, better not…

a few years ago, my best friend’s husband was having affair… I accompanied her to see lawyer and etc.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1733155https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1733155Mon, 14 Nov 2016 17:19:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Thu, 28 Jan 2016 07:56:10 GMT]]>If I were you, I would tell her what I see factually and let her decide. I would not make judgements because sometimes being a \"good\" guy, you might not be appreciated. But if you don't say, its painful to see that your friend is hidden in the dark.


From my own experience I realised the person has to make the choice for herself, if you keep helping him or her to make the choice, she will bound to face the same issue again, and again, because its a loop. When she has decided to make the choice, then I would come to back her up. :rahrah:

With regards to big fat ugly husband vs a pretty slim wife, I would say love sometimes is really blind. Things that are logical are not logically :hugs:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1634961https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1634961Thu, 28 Jan 2016 07:56:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Thu, 28 Jan 2016 01:03:52 GMT]]>I’ll hint and see her stance on such thing. Some people cannot take it and would be in denial. After you tell them about the affairs, you become the enemy instead and they’ll shun you.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1634687https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1634687Thu, 28 Jan 2016 01:03:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Mon, 14 Dec 2015 07:50:41 GMT]]>If i were you, i will see how your friend behaves…

if she has decided to live with her husband, i will just close one eye and pretend nothing has happend.
but if she is still doubting about the marriage… maybe i can carefully come up with that issue…

normally i will wait until my friend talks to me about such matter…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1614841https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1614841Mon, 14 Dec 2015 07:50:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Fri, 30 Jan 2015 01:13:24 GMT]]>

SarChar:
SarChar:



I am very emo these few days because on Sunday, my colleague posted kissing pictures of himself and a girl (not his wife) on facebook. But he is married with 5 months old boy! I think the girlfriend was tired of waiting for him to divorce or simply wanted to cause trouble so she took his phone and update intimate pictures of their outings. The wife saw the pictures so did all of us at the same time!

So ruthless woman to bring such a blow to the wife.

A man I thought - good colleague, good manager, good boyfriend then a good husband and now a father etc .....has been living a double life since 2011 before he had a baby!

The shameless couple even created their own facebook....all the check in and the dates on facebook...Their public declaration of love for each other was too much even for me. I cannot imagine how his wife is coping with all these. The wife might have known it yet put up a brave front during our Xmas company dinner.

I posted this in 2013. I just thought I will give a quick update.

The very generous wife's patience paid off. The little woman left the husband. The Husband took 1 month off work to nurse his sorrows. His wife took good take care of him during this period.. No quarrel but tender love to cheer him. Long story short. They are back togther. Salute the Wife.

Salute to his wife!!!

Hopefully your colleague can be remorseful and treat his wife better. And not the other way round, take her for granted. :censored:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1459236https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1459236Fri, 30 Jan 2015 01:13:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Thu, 29 Jan 2015 05:16:19 GMT]]>Break it to her slowly. It’s bad between couples like her and her hubby to keep things in the dark.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1458755https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1458755Thu, 29 Jan 2015 05:16:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Sun, 21 Dec 2014 08:59:44 GMT]]>It’s hard to be a friend isn’t it. You don’t want to hurt her yet u know by not telling her you already are, and that if u tell her you will hurt her even more.


What a dilemma.

I will suggest just telling her. If you are close friends, chances are that she will be hurt yes, but better than her being kept in the dark.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1434913https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1434913Sun, 21 Dec 2014 08:59:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Sat, 02 Aug 2014 05:41:34 GMT]]>

SarChar:
SarChar:



I am very emo these few days because on Sunday, my colleague posted kissing pictures of himself and a girl (not his wife) on facebook. But he is married with 5 months old boy! I think the girlfriend was tired of waiting for him to divorce or simply wanted to cause trouble so she took his phone and update intimate pictures of their outings. The wife saw the pictures so did all of us at the same time!

So ruthless woman to bring such a blow to the wife.

A man I thought - good colleague, good manager, good boyfriend then a good husband and now a father etc .....has been living a double life since 2011 before he had a baby!

The shameless couple even created their own facebook....all the check in and the dates on facebook...Their public declaration of love for each other was too much even for me. I cannot imagine how his wife is coping with all these. The wife might have known it yet put up a brave front during our Xmas company dinner.

I posted this in 2013. I just thought I will give a quick update.

The very generous wife's patience paid off. The little woman left the husband. The Husband took 1 month off work to nurse his sorrows. His wife took good take care of him during this period.. No quarrel but tender love to cheer him. Long story short. They are back togther. Salute the Wife.


Thanks for the update. What if hubby finds new love again?

Will history repeats itself?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1349668https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1349668Sat, 02 Aug 2014 05:41:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Should I tell my friend that her hubby is having affair? on Fri, 01 Aug 2014 10:36:28 GMT]]>Yes salute. I guess 守得云开见月明


She’s very 宽宏大量

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