<![CDATA[Motivational needs for a Single Dad....]]>Am a single dad for my 4 yr old boy. Got a 3 yr old girl who is with my ex-wife. Am also striving very hard to perform both roles of being a father and a mother. Luckily my parents are the main care-givers.


Need the extra ‘punch’ and motivational needs to carry out my duties. I am always at a loss to perform both roles. Lack of enthusiasm and energy. Sigh… At times, will feel sad that my boy and girl comes from a broken family.

I know that I need to provide the best for my boy who is currently in nursery and going for K1 next year. He can’t speak fluently yet and I had arranged and attended with him many sessions of speech-therapy trainings in KKH. Curently, I had engaged a tutor (home-based) to teach him writings and activity exercises like puzzles, blocks, etc…

Wondering if any kind people out here would recommend a home-based speech tutor (not too experienced, money no enough) like say $20 an hour type?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/5092/motivational-needs-for-a-single-dadRSS for NodeSun, 26 Apr 2026 11:50:54 GMTFri, 21 Aug 2009 07:03:07 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Sun, 28 Feb 2010 14:37:36 GMT]]>

superdad wannabe:
Thanks once again. I have last minute unexpected financial commitments at the moment and can't take up any lessons for my son. I will try teach him for myself and will post here again should I require any therapist or help. Thanks a lot! You guys are great!

hi,
read that you will be doing self-teaching. any resources to share? TIA.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/132849https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/132849Sun, 28 Feb 2010 14:37:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Thu, 08 Oct 2009 04:12:33 GMT]]>Kind souls? :? I just cant get any in real life :!:


Anyway, thanks daisyt babe....

Superdad wanabe... Keep it up.. all the way!!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62731https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62731Thu, 08 Oct 2009 04:12:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Thu, 08 Oct 2009 03:10:18 GMT]]>hi superdad wannabe,


Not sure where you are staying, but in Bukit Batok, my fren's kids attended a holiday class on phonics and found the teachers very good. they specialise in kids with learning difficulties (the phonics was one off).

You may like to contact them.

http://www.southwestcdc.org.sg/MungoBlobs/874/229/MethodistChildrenYouthCentre.pdf

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62708https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62708Thu, 08 Oct 2009 03:10:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Thu, 08 Oct 2009 01:37:59 GMT]]>Jia you Superwoman fussymummy and superdad wannabe !! Life is not easy being a single parent. But don't worry, if you have any problems on kids matters, this is the forum you can trust on and rely on. There are many kind souls here willing to listen, share and help 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62661https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62661Thu, 08 Oct 2009 01:37:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Tue, 06 Oct 2009 07:39:20 GMT]]>Hi,


I am a single mum who divorced on year 2005, with two kids (1 girl age 9 and 1 boy age 6)...

Is not easy and get frustated most of the time, esp my ex doesnt give maintance and I have to apply it from court month by month, like never ending story...

I also dont know how long can I hang on.. well, just move on...

You still lucky as your parents will take care of your kid. For my case, my parents are stay at msia,which I dont have any \"backup\"... You know, I go where also bring my kids along with... A lot of people say just leave them at home to be independent.... For my sake, I always scare they are too young stay at home, what if some accident happen? Rather play safe....


Life is tough, still have to move on... And you will become stronger ..

Just share with all of you here, for some laughs...
I have a nick ---------> superwoman :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62274https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62274Tue, 06 Oct 2009 07:39:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:28:01 GMT]]>Yes I will. Thanks for sharing and the encouragement. I am touched.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53680https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53680Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:28:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Tue, 25 Aug 2009 04:05:23 GMT]]>

superdad wannabe:
II know the road ahead is tough. I must always tell myself I can do it for the sake of my son and a better future. That's why I call myself a 'SUPERDAD WANNABE' !

I have a girlfriend who is a divorcee, who loves clubbing and do not wish to take the custody of her 2 daughters..

As a mother, I hate her behavior so much that I almost tell myself to stop be-friend with her ... but after some good thought we are still friend till date.

I know her since she had her first daughter and we share alot on parenting tips in those days...

Her elder girl age 7, changed after their divorce.
Her younger girl age 4, changed too after the incident.

No doubt my girl friend said her elder is coping well but as an outsider, i can see the pain in the 2 girls everytime talking to them. Despite the 3 years separation, the girls are still in a high hope of their parent being together again one fine day.

Is really sad to look at the girls. They r innocent yet going thru' all these tough long journey knowing they are different from others in the school who has either Mummy or Daddy to talk about each day..

Remember! He deserve the loves from you and your ex-wife to cope with the great impact of loss inside him..

加油，加油！Be strong and be very loving to your son!

Please give him :grphug: and 💋 for me.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53498https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53498Tue, 25 Aug 2009 04:05:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Mon, 24 Aug 2009 10:45:28 GMT]]>Thanks once again. I have last minute unexpected financial commitments at the moment and can’t take up any lessons for my son. I will try teach him for myself and will post here again should I require any therapist or help. Thanks a lot! You guys are great!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53360https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53360Mon, 24 Aug 2009 10:45:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Mon, 24 Aug 2009 05:55:09 GMT]]>Hi Superdad Wannabe


Sorry to hear about your situation. But good to know that you are staying positive and motivated for the sake of your son.

its a long journey but hang on tight and try your best. if you trip once in a while dont feel bad - we are all humans. most important thing is dont give up on your son.

all the best!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53232https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53232Mon, 24 Aug 2009 05:55:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Mon, 24 Aug 2009 02:42:24 GMT]]>Dear Superdad Wannabe,


Without trying, you're already a Superdad in your son's eyes.

I fully applaud your WILL to give your child the best in spite of all he's going through. I do not have contacts with speech therapists though, but I can share - as a(n) (almost) single mum-that it's the TIME we give the young ones who would make a difference in their lives.

You hang in there and yes, KSP.com is the place. :love: :love: :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53140https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53140Mon, 24 Aug 2009 02:42:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Sun, 23 Aug 2009 18:32:57 GMT]]>Thanks everyone for the positive comments. I will persist on my quest to teach my son well.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53102https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53102Sun, 23 Aug 2009 18:32:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Sun, 23 Aug 2009 12:32:14 GMT]]>

superdad wannabe:
I was divorced since mid 2008. My ex-wife insisted on taking the daughter although I told her to leave both children under my care so she can have whatever fun she wanted to have. We have joint custody but different care and control for each child.


I know it's painful to let my son know the fact that he comes from a broken family. But I have to eventually when he grows up. Last time kept thinking why this situation had to happen when I just wanted to have a loving family. I did not do any wrong to anyone.

I have to let the teacher in the nursery know that I am a divorcee which I had overlooked. Life is harsh now but I have to grit my teeth and move on with my life. I have to admit that I don't enjoy parenting nor do I have any experience in doing so. Now, the ball is in my court. Either I serve it back correctly to the opposite side or I could just simply hit it outside the court. I can't be irresponsible to my son's future. I choose to slowly serve and guide the ball back correctly to the opposite with accuracy.

I know the road ahead is tough. I must always tell myself I can do it for the sake of my son and a better future. That's why I call myself a 'SUPERDAD WANNABE' !
I am glad that you have the attitude to wanna do your best in parenting your children. It's ok to take your time to serve and control your volley back to the opposite court ... Becos you want to stay in the game as long as you can 😄

Do share your problems / issues / concerns you have online so that members here may offer some suggestions that you may consider.

Hang in there :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53063https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53063Sun, 23 Aug 2009 12:32:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Sun, 23 Aug 2009 12:17:28 GMT]]>I have a contact of a teacher who does home sessions, but she charges $60/hr. She’s very good and can help children with speech delay. Do let me know if you would like her contact.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53061https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53061Sun, 23 Aug 2009 12:17:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Sun, 23 Aug 2009 11:48:33 GMT]]>

superdad wannabe:
Life is harsh now but I have to grit my teeth and move on with my life. I have to admit that I don't enjoy parenting nor do I have any experience in doing so. Now, the ball is in my court. Either I serve it back correctly to the opposite side or I could just simply hit it outside the court. I can't be irresponsible to my son's future. I choose to slowly serve and guide the ball back correctly to the opposite with accuracy.


I know the road ahead is tough. I must always tell myself I can do it for the sake of my son and a better future. That's why I call myself a 'SUPERDAD WANNABE' !
:celebrate: to you for your spirit and great attitute. It is tough for us with both parents trying our best, its even tougher on single parent.
AS always, there is always KSP forum with you and all the ever helpful members.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53058https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/53058Sun, 23 Aug 2009 11:48:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Sat, 22 Aug 2009 18:09:35 GMT]]>I was divorced since mid 2008. My ex-wife insisted on taking the daughter although I told her to leave both children under my care so she can have whatever fun she wanted to have. We have joint custody but different care and control for each child.


I know it's painful to let my son know the fact that he comes from a broken family. But I have to eventually when he grows up. Last time kept thinking why this situation had to happen when I just wanted to have a loving family. I did not do any wrong to anyone.

I have to let the teacher in the nursery know that I am a divorcee which I had overlooked. Life is harsh now but I have to grit my teeth and move on with my life. I have to admit that I don't enjoy parenting nor do I have any experience in doing so. Now, the ball is in my court. Either I serve it back correctly to the opposite side or I could just simply hit it outside the court. I can't be irresponsible to my son's future. I choose to slowly serve and guide the ball back correctly to the opposite with accuracy.

I know the road ahead is tough. I must always tell myself I can do it for the sake of my son and a better future. That's why I call myself a 'SUPERDAD WANNABE' !

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52996https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52996Sat, 22 Aug 2009 18:09:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Fri, 21 Aug 2009 13:30:40 GMT]]>

superdad wannabe:
Am a single dad for my 4 yr old boy. Got a 3 yr old girl who is with my ex-wife. Am also striving very hard to perform both roles of being a father and a mother. Luckily my parents are the main care-givers. ...

Welcome, superdad wannabe! I think it is important that your son does not feel that he is different or inferior to his peers because of your situation, which might have deep impact on his confidence in his growing years. He is too early to understand the situation, so you should allow him to bond with his mother as much as possible. You will also have to put in a great deal of effort to spend time with him and make sure he is never alone with non-relatives for too long.

The good thing is that your parents can help you to look after him. That is a luxury that not many people have, so it is good to count your blessings now and then.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52784https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52784Fri, 21 Aug 2009 13:30:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Fri, 21 Aug 2009 07:45:59 GMT]]>Gambatte ! superdad !

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52682https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52682Fri, 21 Aug 2009 07:45:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Fri, 21 Aug 2009 07:38:25 GMT]]>Hi kitty2 - Pm you already…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52676https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52676Fri, 21 Aug 2009 07:38:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Motivational needs for a Single Dad.... on Fri, 21 Aug 2009 07:24:01 GMT]]>

superdad wannabe:
Am a single dad for my 4 yr old boy. Got a 3 yr old girl who is with my ex-wife. Am also striving very hard to perform both roles of being a father and a mother. Luckily my parents are the main care-givers.


Need the extra 'punch' and motivational needs to carry out my duties. I am always at a loss to perform both roles. Lack of enthusiasm and energy. Sigh... At times, will feel sad that my boy and girl comes from a broken family.

I know that I need to provide the best for my boy who is currently in nursery and going for K1 next year. He can't speak fluently yet and I had arranged and attended with him many sessions of speech-therapy trainings in KKH. Curently, I had engaged a tutor (home-based) to teach him writings and activity exercises like puzzles, blocks, etc...

Wondering if any kind people out here would recommend a home-based speech tutor (not too experienced, money no enough) like say $20 an hour type?
Sorry hear about your problem.May i know where do you stay?Perhaps i've someone to help you.

All the best

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52672https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/52672Fri, 21 Aug 2009 07:24:01 GMT