Sometimes Single Parent?

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Tue, 08 May 2018 01:01:46 GMT

Gilian039 — Tue, 08 May 2018 01:01:46 GMT

Sometimes single because … Husband, manages employees where he travels at least one week a month. Best advice … Find friends in similar situations. Stays connected to husband by … Talking on the phone twice daily, usually when he can speak with the kids as well. The time difference is severe and makes this difficult, so we fill in with e-mail.

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Mon, 09 Jan 2017 17:45:53 GMT

Jojo1312 — Mon, 09 Jan 2017 17:45:53 GMT

Single parent pls help to share out this centre.

This childcare located at Punggol area and is under one of the temple named Fo guan Shan.
I am a single mother currently my Husband is fighting over for my children. I arranged for court order to allow him to meet the kids only on Mon, Wed and Fri. I am holding the interim care and control order over for my kids.

However, the school is blocking me from seeing my children. This is a ridiculous act.

My concern is the lawyer already mentioned that the kids must walk and follow the dad and they cannot force physically or verbally the kids to go with him. My youngest child and 2nd child is in this education center. Firstly, the principal and teacher are not experienced into such matter according to how they handle my child and force my children to go with the father. There was once they allow the dad to come into the classroom and my child got beaten by the father that day and was injured. The teacher do not deny this fact that the principal allow the father to go inside to the classroom and he was force to a corner. Until date, no one from the school explain to me what happen and why my child got beaten by the dad on the palm and no one is taking any responsibility for my child safety. Principle will push the blame to their Temple incharge which they always told me there’s a head person over there to teach them what to do.Secondly, they will always carry my youngest son and quickly hand it over by carrying and the father will immediately rush off the center not allowing my child to run away. I am writing in because this seriously affect my children and I. The center should not handle this case this way. They carry my youngest child and quickly hand it over to my husband which is an unacceptable way . My youngest child still do not know how to communicate that he is afraid. Each time when my child comes home, he will cried to sleep and sick . I believe he is afraid of the teacher as well as the father. My children already had phobia going to school and always have nightmare during his afternoon sleep and this was told by his form teachers.

This center changed 4 times of principle.Recently, the school came another new principal. This new principal don’t want to meet me as I would like to explain things to her and let her know the situation currently now. She asked my children quickly go inside to the classroom and shut the door . Yes ever though Mon, Wed and Fri is my husband access to fetch them after school, I am still allowed to supervise to ensure my children safety. I have video and pic that my children is very scared and once they forced my children to a corner and when he saw me , he came dashing out cry and hug me and said he dont want to follow the father go and he is very scared.

The current new principal asked me not to TURN UP to school on the following days. This is too much. Firstly no problems was being created. I am here to witness my children suffering and I cannot do anything because the school is afraid of the father side. The father apparently sent lawyer letters to the school to warn them. So the school is in favor of the father side and I don’t think this is correct method to justify this situation. I told the school they don’t have to get involve and create unnecessary problems. I told her that she should not continue to allow the father to go in the classroom and let him just carry my children and quickly disappear. The principal keep arguing and said she will discuss with her teachers. She is the principal and she can’t make a simple decision over such a small matters. There is one day I went to the school and realise that the school apparently locked me out from the school and closed all windows and cover it up. Things get uglier when they do not allow me to even stand outside the school gate. This is totally shocking because I am holding the interim care and control for my kids and i have the rights to supervise that my children is willingly and safety in the hands from the school to the dad! The school should not stop me from seeing my kids even having a glance. This is outrages. Alot of parents outside witnessing the incident as well. The principle told me to call their head which Is one of the monk at the Temple but the call keep engaged and no response. My mother in law was not suppose to appear but she appeared outside the school and the the school acknowledge and allow her to stand outside the gate and let my husband went inside the classroom. I am not putting any risks to allow my children get hurt in terms of mentally or physically again. On The next day I went to school and asked for a withdrawal letter. The school happily gave me the letter. This is not my fault. I enrolled them into this school and now when i want to withdraw, the school mentioned that I should consult the father first and do the withdrawal together. I PAID for the school fees, I apply them to this school and why is there a need for the father consent? This is too much. They are bullying me as I am alone and they thinks that i dont have the money to hire lawyer to sue them. The school is afraid of my husband because the school did mention my husband lawyer sent many lawyer letters to the school to instruct them to listen to him. A school is an institution for educating children and should be safe. I do not want my children to go through such traumatic experience since young. Emailing the school doesn’t works and i email to ask ECDA for help. This concerns my children growth in a healthy environment. After 1 month, the child care sending me email and even sent letter to my place told me to come and collect my child belonging If not they will bring to their WAREHOUSES! This is so horrible. From the start, they always acknowledge me by my Full name without Mrs or Mdm. Even I told them but they are very rude and look down on single mother. They will start to give many excuses or even bring down our family members which they know through social media and make things more complicated.

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Fri, 01 Oct 2010 02:53:15 GMT

atrecord — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 02:53:15 GMT

kuzco:

I've used the sticky trap before but the lizards in my house seem to be very smart. I didn't catch any lizards at all. They seem to know how to avoid the trap. So I have resorted to whacking the life out of them with a rolled-up newspaper or a slipper. I think word has gone around among them to avoid my house unless they want to go to lizard heaven. I still see the occasional droppings though.....

I too have many rolled up newspapers on standby, in my living room, kitchen, etc. but they are quite smart, always run behind/below fridges, cupboards, etc.

For the trap, must put some bait too. i think lizards like rice. also, there are many types of traps: those most convenient one is the most useless. It is packaged in such a way that it has only 2 openings on 2 sides, while the whole trap is shaped like a 3-D box with flaps that can be (un)folded, so that u can box it up easily when done. The lizards are smart enough not to venture into such strange places.

The most effective ones are the totally flat ones, where it's just like glue on a piece of paper (but must be sturdy enough not to fly off everywhere.)
And when one gets trapped, it might cry for help, causing others to try to rescue it. So in one night, one of the traps i put caught three adults... of course, if scared, it is not easy for the hands to go so near the lizards when clearing/disposing of the trap...

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Thu, 30 Sep 2010 01:58:05 GMT

kuzco — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 01:58:05 GMT

atrecord:
......As for the lizards, the easy way is to buy some of those sticky traps, and leave them around the frequently-visited areas. Temp fix, until the next platoon comes by to replenish this batch.... :evil:

I've used the sticky trap before but the lizards in my house seem to be very smart. I didn't catch any lizards at all. They seem to know how to avoid the trap. So I have resorted to whacking the life out of them with a rolled-up newspaper or a slipper. I think word has gone around among them to avoid my house unless they want to go to lizard heaven. I still see the occasional droppings though.....

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Wed, 29 Sep 2010 01:36:27 GMT

atrecord — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 01:36:27 GMT

haha... well, almost nothing works. The lizards will come back.

The cat idea is good. A friend told me his cat was great, will catch and eat up all the lizards and mouse/rat in the old terrace house. The only prob was that for the mouse/rat, it would leave the head behind after its meal, so my friend and his family would have to clean up

As for the lizards, the easy way is to buy some of those sticky traps, and leave them around the frequently-visited areas. Temp fix, until the next platoon comes by to replenish this batch.

if they are stupid enough to be on low enough height, apparently hot water works great - if you don't mind cleaning up. A friend told me this method after trying it out. The cold-blooded reptile cannot tahan heat. first burst it will wriggle violently, then kanna again it will not move anymore again :evil:

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Wed, 29 Sep 2010 01:09:54 GMT

duriz — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 01:09:54 GMT

fussyMummy:
Actually any idea how to prevent to have lizard.. or how to get rid of them? :?

Before we were married, PILs had an exterminator come in to flush out cockroaches, works like a dream. But it did nothing for the lizards.

After we got married and I moved in with them, I brought my cat along. The lizards started to disappear one by one. What I dread now are snails, especially so now due to the wet season.

Now for roaches, lizards or any house pests, I'd prefer not to use any chemicals because of DD. But you can get any commercial pesticides in powder or liquid form (depending on preference) at Homefix or old fashion hardware (wu jin) stores.

Here's something for a laugh:
http://www.expatsingapore.com/forum/index.php/topic,3240.0.html

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Wed, 29 Sep 2010 00:52:32 GMT

fussyMummy — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 00:52:32 GMT

Actually any idea how to prevent to have lizard.. or how to get rid of them? :?

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Wed, 29 Sep 2010 00:41:19 GMT

janet88 — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 00:41:19 GMT

The lizards in my house are very bold and spiteful…always leaving shit all over :x So I told hubby we gotta try and get rid of them. They start ‘singing’ every night and once we switch off the lights at night, they come out to party.

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Tue, 28 Sep 2010 02:19:39 GMT

atrecord — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 02:19:39 GMT

On pests, there was dengue outbreak at my neighbourhood just when DW was away in July, and NEA cleaned the vicinity more, and also washed and i think sprayed something down the chute. During that period, I prob killed more roaches in the 2 weeks than the rest of the 10 yrs i've been staying there, combined...

we'll kill lizards in the house too, if we can find them. But at my mum's place (upstairs), she will tell me not to kill. So those bold lizards can come out dancing on the walls and floors too Once I was so angry when 1 of those large ones went onto the dining table when we were not in the kitchen, and i got a sticky pad/trap, overnight, got 3 adults stuck there. My mum called me to go over quickly, then tell me she was very uncomfortable seeing them like that and asked me to dispose of them quickly...

personally, i can't stand mosq the most, and will try to hunt them down if they appear. I'm training my kids to do the same too

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Tue, 28 Sep 2010 02:11:58 GMT

atrecord — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 02:11:58 GMT

starting from last year, DW would need to travel to China around May-Aug, for either 2 or 4 trips. Supposed to be 4 last year but reduced to 2 cos of the bird flu concern.

This year she was away 2 wk each for both trips, with a week in betw.

It was worse off last year because both kids took turns to fall sick just when she was away

Can be tough as need to make adjustments both at work and at home. Luckily my parents helped out more during the period.

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Fri, 24 Sep 2010 12:45:15 GMT

janet88 — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 12:45:15 GMT

I hate cockroaches…the more you try to whack them, the more they will fly towards you. I scream whenever I see cockroaches esp the ADULT ones. Oh yes, I also scream when I see cats. The way they approach is so eeks ! There was once my uncle brought us to a place in East Coast to have dinner…there were many cats…half the time I was looking for them rather than at my meal. Oh yes, I sat on the chair with my legs crossed and swear never to go there again, although the pork chops were DELICIOUS.

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Fri, 24 Sep 2010 12:23:46 GMT

westmom — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 12:23:46 GMT

verykiasu2010:
we have some house pets with name like Proud Lizard who would strut his / her stuff at night, walking in front of u slowly, like a model on catwalk runway, crossing the living room in broad night light......showing us how fat he / she is .....

wow...your house sure must be free of mosquitoes and insects right?

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Fri, 24 Sep 2010 02:12:03 GMT

verykiasu2010 — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 02:12:03 GMT

we have some house pets with name like Proud Lizard who would strut his / her stuff at night, walking in front of u slowly, like a model on catwalk runway, crossing the living room in broad night light…showing us how fat he / she is …

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Thu, 23 Sep 2010 16:51:08 GMT

cfan — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 16:51:08 GMT

Ha ha me too super frightened of cockroach, yikes!! Gets goosebumps every time… DH is super good at killing them, he will roll up whatever he can gets his hands on and smacks them flat… Ha ha ha…

DD2 is like him, DD1 will scream when she sees it but DD2 just steps on it (when they saw it outside of home) and says "you are bigger than the cockroach"…

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Wed, 23 Jun 2010 09:04:38 GMT

butterwaffles — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 09:04:38 GMT

ChiefKiasu:
I didn't realize how fast my sister can move until an encounter with a flying cockroach. There was just a most deafening shriek and then - a vacuum - in the chair just next to me which was occupied by my sister less than 0.0s ago. Yes... reaching escape velocity with zero acceleration is possible... just power the rocket with flying cockroaches.

Haha, this reminds me of the time when i was 8months plus pregnant. I'm very very scaredf of cockroaches and somehow, they only appear when my husband is not in town. I was mopping the floor in the living room at night, staring blankly at the floor when suddenly, i caught something brown at the corner of my eyes. Turns out to be a hugh cockroach crawling towards me. I screamed at the top of my lungs and literally escaped to my kitchen in one hugh olympic leap. After i managed to drown the cockroach in bygone, i was still very scared so that night, i ended up sleeping on the kitchen floor

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Wed, 23 Jun 2010 02:22:29 GMT

watmekiasu — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 02:22:29 GMT

kuzco:

................... lizards give me the creeps because they are cold and soft. Eww! And they are nasty too cos lizards like to deliberately jump on you from the wall or ceiling if you try to kill them.

Thank God I've never met a JUMPER. My scream is enough to make them run for their lives. :lol:

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Wed, 23 Jun 2010 01:19:42 GMT

kuzco — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 01:19:42 GMT

jedamum:
to me, lizards are scarier than cockroaches.

i treat cockroaches as beetles to bring down the fear factor.
i don't like lizards cos they have eyeballs and can stare at me! :!:

Haha..agree with you. I really can't stand cockroaches and lizards. However, lizards give me the creeps because they are cold and soft. Eww! And they are nasty too cos lizards like to deliberately jump on you from the wall or ceiling if you try to kill them.

When we were young, my parents used to tell us to to beware of lizards' tails that fall off cos it can jump into our ear. :!:

I think I :offtopic: liao.

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Wed, 23 Jun 2010 00:08:08 GMT

watmekiasu — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 00:08:08 GMT

ChiefKiasu:

Some 20 years ago, I had to take the bus back to my girlfriend's home right after I just left it because a lizard fell into her sink and couldn't get out. The things you girls make us do... haiz.

What a hero!!!! :udaman:

Honestly speaking, you modern guys should be grateful to us girls for letting you act heroic over simple deeds like getting rid of cockroaches, lizards, moths, beetles etc. If not, when would you get a chance to act heroic and safe your poor, helpless girl - it's not often (if at all) that we fall off cliffs, get nearly run down by vehicles, get robbed etc.

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:46:59 GMT

ChiefKiasu — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:46:59 GMT

jedamum:
to me, lizards are scarier than cockroaches.

i treat cockroaches as beetles to bring down the fear factor.
i don't like lizards cos they have eyeballs and can stare at me! :!:

Some 20 years ago, I had to take the bus back to my girlfriend's home right after I just left it because a lizard fell into her sink and couldn't get out. The things you girls make us do... haiz.

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:45:06 GMT

ChiefKiasu — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:45:06 GMT

fussyMummy:
:udawoman:

I super scare of those cockroaches which can fly.... :slapshead:

They fly.. I jump...

I didn't realize how fast my sister can move until an encounter with a flying cockroach. There was just a most deafening shriek and then - a vacuum - in the chair just next to me which was occupied by my sister less than 0.0s ago. Yes... reaching escape velocity with zero acceleration is possible... just power the rocket with flying cockroaches.

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:40:25 GMT

tree nymph — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:40:25 GMT

ksi:

I agree.....I can squash cockroaches without qualms but I cannot touch a lizard.....

me too! in my younger days we stayed in kampong. my cousins are quite cruel. they catch lizards and pin them on a board and throw the flying darts at them!!!

:shock: :shock: :shock:

I'm more worried that the tail dropping into my mouth if i hit it...

:roll: :roll:

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:37:01 GMT

tree nymph — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:37:01 GMT

ksi:
tree nymph:

they are but just a small insect. just roll up some newspaper, aim and hit. as simple as that. if i see it crawling on the floor, and i don't wanna dirty my hand, i will use some toilet paper and crush it, then using the same toilet paper, pick it up and throw inside the toilet bowl.

not scared not scared hor...
Hey twin! I do exactly the same except I don't throw into toilet bowl in case cannot flush off and keeps floating inside, will throw straight down the rubbish chute........hahaha :hi5:

:hi5:

:shock: :shock: :shock:

gosh! we are really alike!

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:33:58 GMT

corneyAmber — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:33:58 GMT

jedamum:
to me, lizards are scarier than cockroaches.

i treat cockroaches as beetles to bring down the fear factor.
i don't like lizards cos they have eyeballs and can stare at me! :!:

I agree.....I can squash cockroaches without qualms but I cannot touch a lizard.....

Reply to Sometimes Single Parent? on Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:40:32 GMT

jedamum — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:40:32 GMT

to me, lizards are scarier than cockroaches.

i treat cockroaches as beetles to bring down the fear factor.
i don’t like lizards cos they have eyeballs and can stare at me! :!: