<![CDATA[Parents with sec 1 kids]]>How are your kids doing? My ds is getting very forgetful. Seems like his memory bank is full after P6. He is so forgetful. He has forgotten his file, his technical class apron, PE uniform and today, even forgot he has the NAFA test to take. Suppose to be in school earlier but he has completely forgotten all about it :slapshead:


He even forgot to bring in the keys, it was left on the main door. :faint:

Is this normal for sec 1 boys? :roll:

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BeContented:
janet_lee88:

i pick son (150pm) after daughter (130pm) as their dismissal time is just nice...what pisses me is teacher doesn't seem to be able organize time. if she holds kids back for 20 min, what am i to do ?


On hindsight, i think DS would make a good boyfriend next time since he is so used to waiting for us. DD on the other hand gets all impatient & :rant: whenever I tried to fetch the son & she had to wait instead. Buay tahan. :slapshead: I wonder is that how man feel :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

daughter is dismissed at 130pm...takes about 20 min to go to son's school, yet have to wait another 20 min. son makes a lousy boyfriend bcos he would expect punctuality.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984735https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984735Fri, 12 Apr 2013 04:13:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Fri, 12 Apr 2013 03:54:17 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
i pick son (150pm) after daughter (130pm) as their dismissal time is just nice...what pisses me is teacher doesn't seem to be able organize time. if she holds kids back for 20 min, what am i to do ?

Last year, both DS & DD were dismissed at 1.30pm (Different schools). I would try to always fetch DD first then drive over to DS ~8 mins away.
but problem was DD always come out late by 10-30mins. No choice, DS would just wait at bus stop (no phone then) till I arrive.

On hindsight, i think DS would make a good boyfriend next time since he is so used to waiting for us. DD on the other hand gets all impatient & :rant: whenever I tried to fetch the son & she had to wait instead. Buay tahan. :slapshead: I wonder is that how man feel :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984708https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984708Fri, 12 Apr 2013 03:54:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Fri, 12 Apr 2013 03:28:11 GMT]]>i pick son (150pm) after daughter (130pm) as their dismissal time is just nice…what pisses me is teacher doesn’t seem to be able organize time. if she holds kids back for 20 min, what am i to do ?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984685https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984685Fri, 12 Apr 2013 03:28:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Fri, 12 Apr 2013 01:33:36 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
One thing I am trying to adjust:

1) long hours and teachers holding back kids after school with no prior notice.
2) oral exam is held days after notification and no info is given what would be tested...son is now going through all his notes for the oral 2moro.
3) speech day next Friday...so he would be involved till 8pm bcos of CCA...it's ok since next day no school.

Other than Chinese, no more assessment books. No time for that...no past year papers either. Busy yes, but new phase of life...including some fierce teachers.
Yes, I find that very annoying esp. when I have prepared food for him to eat. Must they do that to the kids? If no prior notice, it means no proper planning in my opinion.

Heavy bag is another issue. My ds comes home on his own and he takes the bus. He is skinny and the bag really weighs him down :imdrowning:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984607https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984607Fri, 12 Apr 2013 01:33:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Fri, 12 Apr 2013 01:13:36 GMT]]>

BeContented:

Hello Flowermonaster, Good to hear that your DS found Sec Sch life interesting too :rahrah:
Similarly, my DS is used to staying back for activities since P4, so not much difference except a much longer transport time. It does seem that some do enjoy their new stage of Sch life. 🙂
My DS has all along been self-disciplined in finishing up his schoolwork. So no issue for me. But the homework is quite little (~1 hour a day). I supposed since its not as structured as the 'O', they are supposed to do self-learning, so this is where my concern is, cannot just do homework. Anyway shall wait for mid year to assess again 😓
My P6 DD, pout her lips so frequently :gloomy: cos she is still rushing her work while ge-ge already in dreamland. Her P5 was comparable to his P6 load & her P6 is worse than his Sec1. Let's hope my DD will enjoy her Sec life like the bro next year. Now must find out which girls' Sch is 'holistic'? Any advice?
Your DD looking into IP, dual-track or O level? Sorry, I am not familiar with girl's school. I just feel Cedar Girls not bad. As for the 2 branded girls school, think here must be a reason why they r so popular though I m not sure if there r \"holistic\" or not. Must go visit open house to learn more. I always wanted to visit girls school but no chance. 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984593https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984593Fri, 12 Apr 2013 01:13:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 23:53:53 GMT]]>

Flowermonaster:
BeContented:


My son similar situation - 2CCA & 3rd Lang. Only that he chose to sleep about 11pm. But I am feeling stressed cos he is way too relaxed leh. 😉

BeContented, so your DS must be enjoying his sec sch life now! 😄

My DS is enjoying himself as he finds sec sch life much more interesting than his Pri sch. Classmates & teachers are so much better than before.
As for coming home late, he has been used to it since primary school years so not much difference to him. He still able to keep his sleeping time at 10:30pm after completing his homework & project work.

I was a bit stressed like you when I found him too relaxed also. Nag him a bit but not getting any positive response from him. So, I decided to leave him alone to handle since he is already sec1 not P1. Homework wise he will auto-pilot but only if he remembers them. I warned him not to be forgetful & if he did, go face the music with his teacher/s. So far so good. 😉

Hello Flowermonaster, Good to hear that your DS found Sec Sch life interesting too :rahrah:
Similarly, my DS is used to staying back for activities since P4, so not much difference except a much longer transport time. It does seem that some do enjoy their new stage of Sch life. 🙂
My DS has all along been self-disciplined in finishing up his schoolwork. So no issue for me. But the homework is quite little (~1 hour a day). I supposed since its not as structured as the 'O', they are supposed to do self-learning, so this is where my concern is, cannot just do homework. Anyway shall wait for mid year to assess again 😓
My P6 DD, pout her lips so frequently :gloomy: cos she is still rushing her work while ge-ge already in dreamland. Her P5 was comparable to his P6 load & her P6 is worse than his Sec1. Let's hope my DD will enjoy her Sec life like the bro next year. Now must find out which girls' Sch is 'holistic'? Any advice?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984563https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984563Thu, 11 Apr 2013 23:53:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 23:12:01 GMT]]>

BeContented:

My son similar situation - 2CCA & 3rd Lang. Only that he chose to sleep about 11pm. But I am feeling stressed cos he is way too relaxed leh. 😉
BeContented, so your DS must be enjoying his sec sch life now! 😄

My DS is enjoying himself as he finds sec sch life much more interesting than his Pri sch. Classmates & teachers are so much better than before.
As for coming home late, he has been used to it since primary school years so not much difference to him. He still able to keep his sleeping time at 10:30pm after completing his homework & project work.

I was a bit stressed like you when I found him too relaxed also. Nag him a bit but not getting any positive response from him. So, I decided to leave him alone to handle since he is already sec1 not P1. Homework wise he will auto-pilot but only if he remembers them. I warned him not to be forgetful & if he did, go face the music with his teacher/s. So far so good. 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984550https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984550Thu, 11 Apr 2013 23:12:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 15:56:39 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
Could it be due to additional workload that kids become forgetful?

With more subjects, son had to take out something and put in another book bcos bag is simply too heavy. His bag is like some NS man.
This mummy here very 心痛.
Dont worry. It's just adjusting to new environment. He will overcome it. just be supportive.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984515https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984515Thu, 11 Apr 2013 15:56:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 15:23:26 GMT]]>My DD1 doesn’t have enough sleep during weekdays. She told me all her classmates also sleep after midnight, doing homework. Then come weekend, she sleeps till 10-11am. I’m afraid it will affect her health.

When I asked her to do her work immediately after bath and dinner, she said she need to rest after a long day in sch. True, but if she starts at 9pm, how to finish early?
If the sch keeps them in sch till late, why still give so much homework?
Can the students have max 40 hours work week?
I usually work late, but I still have weekend free. But for the students, weekend is to do more homework and revise??? So as parents, weekend is to moonlight as tuition teachers to our kids??

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984482https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984482Thu, 11 Apr 2013 15:23:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 14:39:19 GMT]]>One thing I am trying to adjust:

1) long hours and teachers holding back kids after school with no prior notice.
2) oral exam is held days after notification and no info is given what would be tested…son is now going through all his notes for the oral 2moro.
3) speech day next Friday…so he would be involved till 8pm bcos of CCA…it’s ok since next day no school.

Other than Chinese, no more assessment books. No time for that…no past year papers either. Busy yes, but new phase of life…including some fierce teachers.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984431https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984431Thu, 11 Apr 2013 14:39:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:55:06 GMT]]>Am stressed too because DD is very relaxed. In bed by 10pm if not 9pm. Minimal homework. Spends 8 hours a week on CCA and 3 on CIP. This excludes her time on non-academic enrichment which we continued through the years. Do not see her touching her books much at home.


Wondering if I should give her tuition to ensure that she is on track.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984365https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984365Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:55:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:52:41 GMT]]>

BeContented:
Dreamgear:

My DS in Dual track school is pretty busy with projects and 2 CCAs and 3rd language, but not to the extents above... Still sleep before 10pm, still reading and playing his computers and tv.


No tuition, and we basically leave him alone. Teacher wrote us an update during the holiday, and there the parent portal if we wanna track...

But then i suppose not representative of all school...

My son similar situation - 2CCA & 3rd Lang. Only that he chose to sleep about 11pm. But I am feeling stressed cos he is way too relaxed leh. 😉

Your son is in Sec 1 this year?

My sons are a few years older. I remembered they really enjoyed Sec 1: new school and friends, new subjects, more time for CCA and many other school activities. No more boring assessment books and past year papers... They were busy but very happy. Many of their friends in the same and different Sec schools were happy, too.

I was wondering if things have changed for the worse in the last few years. Hopefully not :xedfingers:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984363https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984363Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:52:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:33:50 GMT]]>

Dreamgear:
My DS in Dual track school is pretty busy with projects and 2 CCAs and 3rd language, but not to the extents above... Still sleep before 10pm, still reading and playing his computers and tv.


No tuition, and we basically leave him alone. Teacher wrote us an update during the holiday, and there the parent portal if we wanna track...

But then i suppose not representative of all school...
My son similar situation - 2CCA & 3rd Lang. Only that he chose to sleep about 11pm. But I am feeling stressed cos he is way too relaxed leh. 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984353https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984353Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:33:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:05:55 GMT]]>

rains:
kamom:

How are your kids doing? My ds is getting very forgetful. Seems like his memory bank is full after P6. He is so forgetful. He has forgotten his file, his technical class apron, PE uniform and today, even forgot he has the NAFA test to take. Suppose to be in school earlier but he has completely forgotten all about it :slapshead:


He even forgot to bring in the keys, it was left on the main door. :faint:

Is this normal for sec 1 boys? :roll:

Not just boys. My girl is on a losing spree - lost her house key, lost her homework, lost her forms. She even lost her pe attire! My husband asked her when she would lose herself.

Oh...if talking abt secondary kids losing things....i can submit a long list too.... 😆
Their minds are full of things to remember.....(that's what she told me 😂 )
so perhaps some things have to be \"sacrificed\" to leave more room for imp stuff.... 😉 😂

She lost her watch last yr.... :slapshead:
Asked her...how could a watch which was worn on her wrist be lost...
She explained that she took in out becos her wrist was itchy and she couldnt remember where she had placed it... 🤷 .

Almost everyday, i see her searching through her piles of notes to find something.... :roll:
and her notes/incomplete worksheets/assignments are all over the house....i even see some in the bathroom :faint:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984344https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984344Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:05:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:37:14 GMT]]>Could it be due to additional workload that kids become forgetful?

With more subjects, son had to take out something and put in another book bcos bag is simply too heavy. His bag is like some NS man.
This mummy here very 心痛.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984286https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984286Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:37:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Thu, 11 Apr 2013 07:57:02 GMT]]>

kamom:
How are your kids doing? My ds is getting very forgetful. Seems like his memory bank is full after P6. He is so forgetful. He has forgotten his file, his technical class apron, PE uniform and today, even forgot he has the NAFA test to take. Suppose to be in school earlier but he has completely forgotten all about it :slapshead:


He even forgot to bring in the keys, it was left on the main door. :faint:

Is this normal for sec 1 boys? :roll:
Not just boys. My girl is on a losing spree - lost her house key, lost her homework, lost her forms. She even lost her pe attire! My husband asked her when she would lose herself.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984250https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/984250Thu, 11 Apr 2013 07:57:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Wed, 10 Apr 2013 11:53:25 GMT]]>

KSmom8:
Have not heard of any Sec 1 kid who is relatively relaxed / free... Yet. Amongst my friends' sec 1 kids, all are busy with schoolwork and CCA. Most days are spent in school, then at home it's schoolwork, project, CCA stuff, etc. They are kids doing 'O' level and IP. I think sec school life now is vastly different from our time.
doubt any sec 1 kid will be relaxed...school hw, CCA(s) for some who have to take 2, and tests are keeping our kids very busy.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983668https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983668Wed, 10 Apr 2013 11:53:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Wed, 10 Apr 2013 11:13:13 GMT]]>My DS in Dual track school is pretty busy with projects and 2 CCAs and 3rd language, but not to the extents above… Still sleep before 10pm, still reading and playing his computers and tv.


No tuition, and we basically leave him alone. Teacher wrote us an update during the holiday, and there the parent portal if we wanna track…

But then i suppose not representative of all school…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983654https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983654Wed, 10 Apr 2013 11:13:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Wed, 10 Apr 2013 10:10:42 GMT]]>Have not heard of any Sec 1 kid who is relatively relaxed / free... Yet. Amongst my friends' sec 1 kids, all are busy with schoolwork and CCA. Most days are spent in school, then at home it's schoolwork, project, CCA stuff, etc. They are kids doing 'O' level and IP. I think sec school life now is vastly different from our time.


Lately, DS does not want to accompany us out. I think it's a teenager thing, wanting to assert his individualism. Don't think he'll ever want to go grocery shopping again with me, there are probably a million things he'd rather do. However, once a week or fortnight, we'll still go out for a meal. Of course, dinner everyday is a family affair, even though our dinner does get late cos DS gets home late.

I think this year is a challenge for DS and me.... New school, different lifestyle plus he's now a teenager.... All that hormones and attitude :yikes: ....Trying not to nag and give his room, learning how to loosen the line and hoping that all will be well. 🙏

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983631https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983631Wed, 10 Apr 2013 10:10:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Wed, 10 Apr 2013 07:01:31 GMT]]>

slmkhoo:
It seems that the feedback is mixed - some kids are overloaded and some are relatively free. For those who have teachers who overload, have you tried feeding back to the teachers in the first instance?

are those on O-level track more overloaded than those on IP-track? or opposite?
or depends on the ranking of the classes?
or depends on the portfolio that the kids are having?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983545https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983545Wed, 10 Apr 2013 07:01:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Wed, 10 Apr 2013 06:41:51 GMT]]>It seems that the feedback is mixed - some kids are overloaded and some are relatively free. For those who have teachers who overload, have you tried feeding back to the teachers in the first instance?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983524https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983524Wed, 10 Apr 2013 06:41:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Wed, 10 Apr 2013 05:59:37 GMT]]>Gotta log out…kids are back.


3 words…my plea to MOE…have a heart.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983488https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983488Wed, 10 Apr 2013 05:59:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Wed, 10 Apr 2013 05:35:46 GMT]]>

kamom:
Would it help if mums band together and submit our concerns to MOE?

Do you think it will help?

We used to be able to go grocery shopping as a family but not anymore.
Time is now spent getting projects done, homework completed, tests to study for and CCA project. Next week, my boy told me about some Speech Day and he would need to stay back till 8pm. What kind of life is this?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983467https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/983467Wed, 10 Apr 2013 05:35:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Parents with sec 1 kids on Wed, 10 Apr 2013 05:32:36 GMT]]>Frankly, if your son behaviour was not like this before, you might want to find out whats happening first… The forgetfulnes seems rather extreme, not likely due to tiredness to me…

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