mummy OnABudget:

ds is improving slowly thankful for it this ma nian is gona be good i hope

mummy OnABudget:

buds:

[quote=\"clay569\"]Buds, what's the title of the book?

Here's the book, clay569.

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mummy OnABudget:

My gf has started the action and consequence her son addiction is the com once he cross the line the password will be change till the date for release of use.

mummy OnABudget:

Today was a eyeopener for me i went to ds sch for this principle and parent meeting they actually got a life coach in to give the parents a talk on how to guide and teach our boys i will shqre some here maybe it will help other mummies and daddies too.


kids this age they value SELF ESTEEM if we can increase it they will CHANGE as they want to prove to us they are right.

1st step is THOUGHTS- we need to plant positive thoughts in them through praise
praise the child short and sweet and walk away e.g. oh u doing ur work boy so obedient of you good job, and then u walk away dont linger as you need them to register and process the thought through their brain that you are praising them.

2nd step is EXPERIENCE once you do it once they will feel more empowered try to praise the child for little achivements that you can find be it helpig with chores or good results even if only slight improvement in their work always keep it short and sweet.

3rd step is BELIEFS cause you are starting to praise your child they will start beliving that they are this good and changes will come.

4th is Outward ACTION by this time we will see our child wanting to progress even better cause they love being praise and in turn they be more well behaved.

DISCIPLINE
start with the action comes with consequence always make a agreement with the child before they want somthing make a agreement on the consequence if they ever cross the line.

for eg tv time once ur child cross the line lets say u agreed on 2 hours and u realize they cross the line just gently ask how long u been watching already and if the child say a little while more dont get angry walk away go take a bath, the next day when the child wants to watch the tv or play computer games make sure is unacessable by removing wires or remote control and if the child ask why cannot on ar u just reply oh remember we had a agreement if you cross the line theres a consequence then just smile and walk away and parents cannot give in and must hold on to the duration of the agreed punishment so as to let them know oh my mummy or daddy means business and slowly they will wake up their idea and become more automatic lol.

theres more la to share but i am tired le to type haha but i now got a new way to guide ds .

buds:

clay569:

Buds, what's the title of the book?

Here's the book, clay569.

Nebbermind:

mummy OnABudget:

teens need you the parent now more then ever to become their BFF how to that follow the below steps it may help


L- Listen more then talk (when child approaches u with problems hear them out first before saying anything if you need to say anything try to make it positive)

E- Encourage more then criticize

T- talk lovingly instead of hitting the child

S- Spend quality time with them


Teens dont rebel against YOU, they rebel against change.

And all the above require divine intervention, not to help our kids but to help us keep to them.

buds:

clay569:

Buds, what's the title of the book?

Here's the book, clay569.

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clay569:

Buds, what's the title of the book?

Nebbermind:

But ADHD seem to be quite common, most of whom were labelled as mischievous, or simply cannot keep to his task.

mummy OnABudget:

teens need you the parent now more then ever to become their BFF how to that follow the below steps it may help


L- Listen more then talk (when child approaches u with problems hear them out first before saying anything if you need to say anything try to make it positive)

E- Encourage more then criticize

T- talk lovingly instead of hitting the child

S- Spend quality time with them


Teens dont rebel against YOU, they rebel against change.

mummy OnABudget:

:?: :?: Today was ds follow up i cried i broke down he not only has ADHD he now also has ODD and he has all the symptoms of ODD luckily we discovered it early but my world has come crashing down.

clay569:

Buds, what's the title of the book?


Mummy onabudget, thanks for sharing the pointers. I was hoping you would write more.

We went edusave award ceremony recently. DS was surprised to see his (I'm sorry to say) academically not so strong ex-schoolmate in the uniform of a top school. The boy may have picked up and peaked along the years but that's not my point. I'd spoken to his mum a few times years ago. She always struck me as different but I couldn't pinpoint it. That day, I saw that it's the way she talks to her child. Very soothing tone, steady (as in not emotionally charged), not blaming even when the child did wrong, not judging, not comparing. I think she gives her child a sense of security, feeling safe with the mum's counsel and support. There's a steadiness in her voice that even when she talked to me, I felt she's calmed my mood. Want to learn from her. Haha why didn't I understood her wisdom earlier?

mummy OnABudget:

Today was a eyeopener for me i went to ds sch for this principle and parent meeting they actually got a life coach in to give the parents a talk on how to guide and teach our boys i will shqre some here maybe it will help other mummies and daddies too.


kids this age they value SELF ESTEEM if we can increase it they will CHANGE as they want to prove to us they are right.

1st step is THOUGHTS- we need to plant positive thoughts in them through praise
praise the child short and sweet and walk away e.g. oh u doing ur work boy so obedient of you good job, and then u walk away dont linger as you need them to register and process the thought through their brain that you are praising them.

2nd step is EXPERIENCE once you do it once they will feel more empowered try to praise the child for little achivements that you can find be it helpig with chores or good results even if only slight improvement in their work always keep it short and sweet.

3rd step is BELIEFS cause you are starting to praise your child they will start beliving that they are this good and changes will come.

4th is Outward ACTION by this time we will see our child wanting to progress even better cause they love being praise and in turn they be more well behaved.

DISCIPLINE
start with the action comes with consequence always make a agreement with the child before they want somthing make a agreement on the consequence if they ever cross the line.

for eg tv time once ur child cross the line lets say u agreed on 2 hours and u realize they cross the line just gently ask how long u been watching already and if the child say a little while more dont get angry walk away go take a bath, the next day when the child wants to watch the tv or play computer games make sure is unacessable by removing wires or remote control and if the child ask why cannot on ar u just reply oh remember we had a agreement if you cross the line theres a consequence then just smile and walk away and parents cannot give in and must hold on to the duration of the agreed punishment so as to let them know oh my mummy or daddy means business and slowly they will wake up their idea and become more automatic lol.

theres more la to share but i am tired le to type haha but i now got a new way to guide ds .