<![CDATA[Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams?]]>DS is only going to have his bronze swimming survival test tonight, and i m getting the butterflies in my tummy! :roll:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/5438/do-you-get-stressed-out-when-your-kids-are-having-examsRSS for NodeWed, 22 Apr 2026 05:20:56 GMTFri, 11 Sep 2009 08:21:41 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 05 Mar 2012 08:39:57 GMT]]>Haha, that's of course. I think I get more stress than my 2 ds. And they feel the heat then :rotflmao:

I do light yoga in classes with them and that actually helped to manage my stress better and my ds are able to focus better as well.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/723608https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/723608Mon, 05 Mar 2012 08:39:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:35:16 GMT]]>

Luvkid:
Can we talk about DO U GET STRESSED AFTER YOUR CHILD HAD EXAM??


YES, i do have it!!! And it is so bad till i could even dream of it. Ds just sat for his EL paper on Monday. He responsed,\" so easy, 😛 (this sound scary to me....cos he said that during CA and yet turned out to be NOT THAT TRUE LEH), BUT hor, comprehension too hard liao, cannot do, think only 1 correct.....That night itself, i 'saw' his EL paper in my dream with all the CROSS on the compre section!!!! 😢 The dream followed by his MT paper, the teacher in my dream complained ds not attentive and very careless. And he scored 39.5/85. FAILED!!! His MT shouldn't fail at all! I dun expect great marks though.... The next moment the teacher told me that was revision paper, so no worry, actual result was 89%, i was :rahrah: YEAH!!! Well, this \"nightmare\" kept me awake from 2 am to 7 am. Haiz.....too stressed liao. I tried to take it easy but no avail..... 😢

Sad to say, after seeing his result for EL paper, really 1 correct! :!: And the rest are all careless mistakes. Pray hard his oral, paper 1 & listening comp will help to push the marks up...... If my dream is really so true, i dun mind if he can score 89% for his MT, ya, i am really DREAMING.... :stupid:
:nailbite: yes I do................ 😞

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/72819https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/72819Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:35:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:08:59 GMT]]>Can we talk about DO U GET STRESSED AFTER YOUR CHILD HAD EXAM??


YES, i do have it!!! And it is so bad till i could even dream of it. Ds just sat for his EL paper on Monday. He responsed,\" so easy, 😛 (this sound scary to me....cos he said that during CA and yet turned out to be NOT THAT TRUE LEH), BUT hor, comprehension too hard liao, cannot do, think only 1 correct.....That night itself, i 'saw' his EL paper in my dream with all the CROSS on the compre section!!!! 😢 The dream followed by his MT paper, the teacher in my dream complained ds not attentive and very careless. And he scored 39.5/85. FAILED!!! His MT shouldn't fail at all! I dun expect great marks though.... The next moment the teacher told me that was revision paper, so no worry, actual result was 89%, i was :rahrah: YEAH!!! Well, this \"nightmare\" kept me awake from 2 am to 7 am. Haiz.....too stressed liao. I tried to take it easy but no avail..... 😢

Sad to say, after seeing his result for EL paper, really 1 correct! :!: And the rest are all careless mistakes. Pray hard his oral, paper 1 & listening comp will help to push the marks up...... If my dream is really so true, i dun mind if he can score 89% for his MT, ya, i am really DREAMING.... :stupid:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/72817https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/72817Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:08:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Tue, 03 Nov 2009 01:03:03 GMT]]>

EN:


watmekiasu, instead of stretching, how about finding out what causes the short fall between your dd marks to reach the full potential mark?

Ds analyzes his own paper and he comes to his own conclusion - CARELESS MISTAKE.

Riding on watmekiasu explanation of her dd, for children with high ability without much need to prepare for exam, the children should be nurtured. Any advise on how to nurture such children? (Note to moderator: Please assist to post this question to the appropriate thread if needed. Thousand apologies for the extra work 😉 )
You've said it - CARELESS MISTAKES. 90% of the time, it is careless mistakes, partly contributed by her atrocious handwriting which even she herself finds difficult to decipher. Her style of writing and doing math is like a flood - it comes fast and furious, hence all the mistakes.

Btw, I don't think my dd is the high-ability type. She's lucky she has lots going her way - great FT in school, good attitude towards school work and very competitive classmates who keep her on her toes. A major reason why she doesn't do much revision and etc at home is because she still takes hours to finish her meals and shower - there's just not much time left after homework.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70591https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70591Tue, 03 Nov 2009 01:03:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 02 Nov 2009 23:55:57 GMT]]>[quote]I usually don't get stressed over exams, maybe that's why my dd's such a coolcat. However, after joining this forum, some stress is starting to creep in. I think I am quite unlike most parents here. I don't look through my dd's school work. I rely on her to tell me on how she's coping. Once in a while, I'll get her to do some Sci revision on the assessment book as her FT is already doing Fabian Ng Math and Teacher@Work Synthesis in the class. Exam preparation means doing the past year papers of 3 top schools, excluding English. I'm ok as long as she averages in the 90s for Math, Sci and Eng and manages to stay in Band 1 for Chinese. Never aimed for high 90s - mebbe we should do so as I now learn from this forum that we should aim stretch our child to their full potential.[/quote]
watmekiasu, instead of stretching, how about finding out what causes the short fall between your dd marks to reach the full potential mark?

Ds analyzes his own paper and he comes to his own conclusion - CARELESS MISTAKE.

Riding on watmekiasu explanation of her dd, for children with high ability without much need to prepare for exam, the children should be nurtured. Any advise on how to nurture such children? (Note to moderator: Please assist to post this question to the appropriate thread if needed. Thousand apologies for the extra work 😉 )

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70569https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70569Mon, 02 Nov 2009 23:55:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 02 Nov 2009 09:58:59 GMT]]>

EN:
Boy, can ds blow up. His face turns all red & I thought I saw smoke coming out at the top of his head. When given that look, I sure :scared: Very stress when trying to beat the traffic just to be on time.


Haha! I can totally relate to that. My dd will give me a frown & reprimand me 'You are late!' She expects me to be the first to pick her up, otherwise she will nag nag nag who left before her, count down she is the second or third last to leave, why am I so late, blah blah blah :roll:

If I am on time, she will give me the sweetest smile & say 'I miss you today' :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70490https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70490Mon, 02 Nov 2009 09:58:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 02 Nov 2009 09:36:23 GMT]]>

watmekiasu:
Huh. is 90s as average for P3 SAP school high? Thought most parents here aiming for the sky. :oops: Looking at her level's SA1 median, she is above average but not outstanding cos she was only in the 12th position in class. Furthermore, it doesn't help that 2 of her old friends from another school are what I would call creme de la creme among the 9yos :!: and had already been spotted as potential top PSLE scorers by teachers. So my dd had always been kinda living under their shadow, in my eyes.

My son is in a SAP school and if he averages above 90 for all his subjects I will walking around with a silly smile permanently etched on my face. He doesn't and so I've a normal face 🙂 He is supposedly in one of the better classes in his school, so I suppose he is \"normal\" as well, for which I'm grateful.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70483https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70483Mon, 02 Nov 2009 09:36:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 02 Nov 2009 07:51:41 GMT]]>Huh. is 90s as average for P3 SAP school high? Thought most parents here aiming for the sky. :oops: Looking at her level's SA1 median, she is above average but not outstanding cos she was only in the 12th position in class. Furthermore, it doesn't help that 2 of her old friends from another school are what I would call creme de la creme among the 9yos :!: and have already been spotted as potential top PSLE scorers by teachers. So my dd has always been kinda living under their shadow, in my eyes.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70419https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70419Mon, 02 Nov 2009 07:51:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 02 Nov 2009 07:27:23 GMT]]>

kiasimom:
watmekiasu:

Today is Day 1 for P3 dd's Paper 1's.


I usually don't get stressed over exams, maybe that's why my dd's such a coolcat. However, after joining this forum, some stress is starting to creep in. I think I am quite unlike most parents here. I don't look through my dd's school work. I rely on her to tell me on how she's coping. Once in a while, I'll get her to do some Sci revision on the assessment book as her FT is already doing Fabian Ng Math and Teacher@Work Synthesis in the class. Exam preparation means doing the past year papers of 3 top schools, excluding English. :oops: I'm ok as long as she averages in the 90s for Math, Sci and Eng and manages to stay in Band 1 for Chinese. Never aimed for high 90s - mebbe we should do so as I now learn from this forum that we should aim stretch our child to their full potential.

Wow, your averages is 90?
That's quite high for an average 😛

Oh yes, you will be motivated after joining KSP forum :celebrate:

I think this average 90s differs from school to school so better don't use it as a benchmark and pressure your kids. Every school's standard is different, it would be enough to look at school's cohort's average to set a goal if you must otherwise all the kiasu-lets will suffer if everyone starts thinking 90s as an average is the way to go. Then the exam stress will heighten for parents in inevitably...... Just my 2 cts.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70403https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70403Mon, 02 Nov 2009 07:27:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 02 Nov 2009 06:48:00 GMT]]>90 average? :!:


Wow! :salute:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70368https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70368Mon, 02 Nov 2009 06:48:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 02 Nov 2009 06:45:17 GMT]]>

watmekiasu:
Today is Day 1 for P3 dd's Paper 1's.


I usually don't get stressed over exams, maybe that's why my dd's such a coolcat. However, after joining this forum, some stress is starting to creep in. I think I am quite unlike most parents here. I don't look through my dd's school work. I rely on her to tell me on how she's coping. Once in a while, I'll get her to do some Sci revision on the assessment book as her FT is already doing Fabian Ng Math and Teacher@Work Synthesis in the class. Exam preparation means doing the past year papers of 3 top schools, excluding English. :oops: I'm ok as long as she averages in the 90s for Math, Sci and Eng and manages to stay in Band 1 for Chinese. Never aimed for high 90s - mebbe we should do so as I now learn from this forum that we should aim stretch our child to their full potential.
Wow, your averages is 90?
That's quite high for an average 😛

Oh yes, you will be motivated after joining KSP forum :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70365https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70365Mon, 02 Nov 2009 06:45:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 02 Nov 2009 00:16:30 GMT]]>Today is Day 1 for P3 dd's Paper 1's.


I usually don't get stressed over exams, maybe that's why my dd's such a coolcat. However, after joining this forum, some stress is starting to creep in. I think I am quite unlike most parents here. I don't look through my dd's school work. I rely on her to tell me on how she's coping. Once in a while, I'll get her to do some Sci revision on the assessment book as her FT is already doing Fabian Ng Math and Teacher@Work Synthesis in the class. Exam preparation means doing the past year papers of 3 top schools, excluding English. :oops: I'm ok as long as she averages in the 90s for Math, Sci and Eng and manages to stay in Band 1 for Chinese. Never aimed for high 90s - mebbe we should do so as I now learn from this forum that we should aim stretch our child to their full potential.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70167https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70167Mon, 02 Nov 2009 00:16:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Sun, 01 Nov 2009 23:13:02 GMT]]>

Luvkid:
During the recent prearation for SA2, i dreamt of myself taking PSLE (though ds is still 5 years behind)!! And to my surprise, i could answer most of the questions, BUT, i did not check. Even requested the teacher, in my dream he was that same teacher iwhen i was taking my PSLE, wow that was over 2 decades liao, i told him PLEASE, MR XX, MAY I HAVE MY PAPER BACK TO CHECK, I DUN CHEAT, I PROMISE....And the next moment, i saw ds paper! Oh no his MCQ questions were in a MESS!!! In my dream, i was telling myself \"Siao liao....Siao liao....\" And that was only a dream duiring the preparation period.....

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70151https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70151Sun, 01 Nov 2009 23:13:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Sun, 01 Nov 2009 18:26:41 GMT]]>

Luvkid:
During the recent prearation for SA2, i dreamt of myself taking PSLE (though ds is still 5 years behind)!! And to my surprise, i could answer most of the questions, BUT, i did not check. Even requested the teacher, in my dream he was that same teacher iwhen i was taking my PSLE, wow that was over 2 decades liao, i told him PLEASE, MR XX, MAY I HAVE MY PAPER BACK TO CHECK, I DUN CHEAT, I PROMISE....And the next moment, i saw ds paper! Oh no his MCQ questions were in a MESS!!! In my dream, i was telling myself \"Siao liao....Siao liao....\" And that was only a dream duiring the preparation period.....

Siao liao siao liao, I think you are very stressed!!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70133https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70133Sun, 01 Nov 2009 18:26:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Sun, 01 Nov 2009 16:48:06 GMT]]>During the recent prearation for SA2, i dreamt of myself taking PSLE (though ds is still 5 years behind)!! And to my surprise, i could answer most of the questions, BUT, i did not check. Even requested the teacher, in my dream he was that same teacher iwhen i was taking my PSLE, wow that was over 2 decades liao, i told him PLEASE, MR XX, MAY I HAVE MY PAPER BACK TO CHECK, I DUN CHEAT, I PROMISE…And the next moment, i saw ds paper! Oh no his MCQ questions were in a MESS!!! In my dream, i was telling myself "Siao liao…Siao liao…" And that was only a dream duiring the preparation period…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70128https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/70128Sun, 01 Nov 2009 16:48:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Fri, 30 Oct 2009 05:28:40 GMT]]>Yes, I get stressed up during my children’s exam periods. I teach them myself and I monitor their work closely.

I will get the children to do past year papers so that I can brush up on their weak areas.
Today is the last day of my son’s exams and I can finally relax a bit.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/69391https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/69391Fri, 30 Oct 2009 05:28:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Fri, 16 Oct 2009 08:15:35 GMT]]>

Windy:
Get very stress during my children exam period. Today read about a P5, 11 yrs old boy jumped down from his flat after the oral exam. I am so worried for my P3 son. He seems to be something wrong somewhere but I don't know what's wrong. He is in P3, he scored 78 for science and 84 for maths in his mock exam and his teacher emailed to me and said that he don't seems to be doing well in his exam and he is not motivated to work hard. When I checked with him, he know the ans but he just don't feel like doing his best and some ans are blank. He is in the top class in school so they are being push very hard to score band 1 or 2. I am so worried that he was being stress and do not know he can cope with it. I rather have a stupid child than loss my child.

Mayb u should tell yr son that you are pleased with his performance and not to give himself undue pressure. He should view education as a means of increasing his knowledge and not a test of his ability.
Tests/exams are impt and is a source to assess how well he had grasp the subjects but marks is certainly not the main thing which you are going to guage him.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/65591https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/65591Fri, 16 Oct 2009 08:15:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:59:05 GMT]]>Get very stress during my children exam period. Today read about a P5, 11 yrs old boy jumped down from his flat after the oral exam. I am so worried for my P3 son. He seems to be something wrong somewhere but I don’t know what’s wrong. He is in P3, he scored 78 for science and 84 for maths in his mock exam and his teacher emailed to me and said that he don’t seems to be doing well in his exam and he is not motivated to work hard. When I checked with him, he know the ans but he just don’t feel like doing his best and some ans are blank. He is in the top class in school so they are being push very hard to score band 1 or 2. I am so worried that he was being stress and do not know he can cope with it. I rather have a stupid child than loss my child.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/65325https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/65325Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:59:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Tue, 06 Oct 2009 05:17:41 GMT]]>

EN:
:lol: Oh yes, very stress when thinking of finding car park, where to eat and what to eat. I have been late in fetching the kids before. Boy, can ds blow up. His face turns all red & I thought I saw smoke coming out at the top of his head. When given that look, I sure :scared: Very stress when trying to beat the traffic just to be on time.

Ya, traffic is one of Murphy's Law...when you least expect it, it can go very wrong... :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62204https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62204Tue, 06 Oct 2009 05:17:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Tue, 06 Oct 2009 04:05:02 GMT]]>[quote]Only stressed about trivias like

where to park?
where to eat?
where to rest?
is toilet clean?
and being late....*touchwood* so far never happen before. [/quote] :lol: Oh yes, very stress when thinking of finding car park, where to eat and what to eat. I have been late in fetching the kids before. Boy, can ds blow up. His face turns all red & I thought I saw smoke coming out at the top of his head. When given that look, I sure :scared: Very stress when trying to beat the traffic just to be on time.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62180https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62180Tue, 06 Oct 2009 04:05:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Tue, 06 Oct 2009 02:29:08 GMT]]>So far so good, thank God, no stress.


Only stressed about trivias like
where to park?
where to eat?
where to rest?
is toilet clean?
and being late…touchwood so far never happen before.

And totally afraid of Murphy’s Law which is still classified under trivias.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62130https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62130Tue, 06 Oct 2009 02:29:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:43:52 GMT]]>I’m not stress out by my kids exam. Not yet since they are not sitting for any big exam papers. Maybe when PSLE looms nearer, the anxiety will bite me too.


If they sit for competition, I am not stress either. By the time the competition day arrive, I more or less can gauge what their level of competency. If they put on good effort, I feel comfortable but if they are not serious, I feel sorry for them for being so ill prepared. But, they got to learn from their mistake as I have done my part by voicing out opinion and feedback. The choice is theirs to make.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62112https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/62112Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:43:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 21 Sep 2009 14:31:32 GMT]]>

PowerPuff Mum:
...I have exam phobia since school days..whether it's big or small exams. During my uni days, I don't sleep for 5 days straight until my exams ends and the crashed out for 2 days straight. I know it's crazy but I have like I said..exam phobia...

Wow... I'm the opposite. No matter how prepared I am, I sleep very early before exams. I don't do well in exams without sleep. So I have to prepare very early for exams just so I can sleep in peace before exams 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/58635https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/58635Mon, 21 Sep 2009 14:31:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you get stressed out when your kids are having exams? on Mon, 21 Sep 2009 14:20:48 GMT]]>I think we worry no matter what…it is just a question of how much…

I have exam phobia since school days…whether it’s big or small exams. During my uni days, I don’t sleep for 5 days straight until my exams ends and the crashed out for 2 days straight. I know it’s crazy but I have like I said…exam phobia.

Now it has transferred to my kids, I will suffer anxiety from swimming test, stage performances, even show and tell in cLass… not to mention exams. So as I am conscious of this "condition" of mine, I try to relax and meditate during those times…make conscious effort not to stress the kids with my anxiety.

So far, it’s been ok. I find that my kids are not really affected by me. BUt I have to suffer in silence!

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