Nebbermind:

TheAnswer:

Snacks works miracles in my house
I also provide snacks for my son. Occasionally, an ice cream/home cooked dessert will be provided as an incentive.

how old is your son?

TheAnswer:

Snacks works miracles in my house
I also provide snacks for my son. Occasionally, an ice cream/home cooked dessert will be provided as an incentive.

ammonite:

Mmm, has he already been sitting down for long hours before you start teaching him? (in school, tuition etc) if so the best of him may already have been used up for the day. He may be able to settle better after a rest or a swim, depending on his condition. Or maybe on a Saturday morning. Or put a plate of snacks at the table when u work.

ammonite:

vinegar:

u know the problem! u gotta the catch.Yes,my ds only listens to outsider.I always tell him,if he listens to me,i could hv saved a lot $$ in tuition,and bring him go tour or buy his fav toys.Told him million of times,he is PAP,verbally agrees but no execution. :roll:

What if he has to pay for tuition himself? :evil: Choose between self funded tuition outside or mummy's free tuition. You may get an interesting reaction. like :sick: ... ... :shock: ... :scared:

Mummy is always good and generous, but mummy needs a holiday. She will like to save up for a trip to pamper herself and recharge. The tuition money will add up just nice to that. Anyway mummy already has her degree, so junior is really studying only for himself, not for mum.

I tell my children I will only pay for what I cannot teach. If I can teach it but they won't listen, I am perfectly happy to source for them and take them there, BUT they pay themselves. Their choice.

Remember, mummy is good and reasonable.

vinegar:

slmkhoo:

I agree with ammonite. I would have sacked this tutor long, long ago. If you can 'change hats' for an hour at a time and coach your son yourself, that may be an idea. THe benefit of the DIY approach is that you don't need to do a full hour - for my kids, once they get it, we stop. If not, a group situation may be better?

considered group tuition but the thought of sending him to tuition centre,look for parking,wait there...very tiring.He oredi has 2 group tuitions..

my boy is very active,somehow,he cannot sit still when i teach him.....hv to keep shouting n scolding....

vinegar:

janet_lee88:

with the change of exam format, there are several new components for chinese which my daughter has problems in...for eg the oe section in comprehension which requires her to find the 词语 from passage, find key points and fill in the box and last question that needs to explain in her own words. son only faced this type of format in p4 or 5. i wonder if it is the school or MOE's idea to introduce at P3.

My boy doesn't hv prob with 词语.He is relatively good in vocabulary.

Yet,he is weak in understanding n answering the \"why\",\"in your opinion\",\"if u r that person,what will u do? why? kinda questions.I realise the last Q is always try to test the children understanding in the whole comprehension story...sort of \"moral\" of story. So what i did is to summarize all the moral of story fr. story books,go thru with him....aiya,it always those few key words such as:being helpful is good, muz respect,cannot be selfish,spare a thought for others....

vinegar:

janet_lee88:

with the change of exam format, there are several new components for chinese which my daughter has problems in...for eg the oe section in comprehension which requires her to find the 词语 from passage, find key points and fill in the box and last question that needs to explain in her own words. son only faced this type of format in p4 or 5. i wonder if it is the school or MOE's idea to introduce at P3.

My boy doesn't hv prob with 词语.He is relatively good in vocabulary.

Yet,he is weak in understanding n answering the \"why\",\"in your opinion\",\"if u r that person,what will u do? why? kinda questions.I realise the last Q is always try to test the children understanding in the whole comprehension story...sort of \"moral\" of story. So what i did is to summarize all the moral of story fr. story books,go thru with him....aiya,it always those few key words such as:being helpful is good, muz respect,cannot be selfish,spare a thought for others....

ammonite:

Mmm, has he already been sitting down for long hours before you start teaching him? (in school, tuition etc) if so the best of him may already have been used up for the day. He may be able to settle better after a rest or a swim, depending on his condition. Or maybe on a Saturday morning. Or put a plate of snacks at the table when u work.

vinegar:

slmkhoo:

I agree with ammonite. I would have sacked this tutor long, long ago. If you can 'change hats' for an hour at a time and coach your son yourself, that may be an idea. THe benefit of the DIY approach is that you don't need to do a full hour - for my kids, once they get it, we stop. If not, a group situation may be better?

considered group tuition but the thought of sending him to tuition centre,look for parking,wait there...very tiring.He oredi has 2 group tuitions..

my boy is very active,somehow,he cannot sit still when i teach him.....hv to keep shouting n scolding....

janet_lee88:

with the change of exam format, there are several new components for chinese which my daughter has problems in...for eg the oe section in comprehension which requires her to find the 词语 from passage, find key points and fill in the box and last question that needs to explain in her own words. son only faced this type of format in p4 or 5. i wonder if it is the school or MOE's idea to introduce at P3.

slmkhoo:

I agree with ammonite. I would have sacked this tutor long, long ago. If you can 'change hats' for an hour at a time and coach your son yourself, that may be an idea. THe benefit of the DIY approach is that you don't need to do a full hour - for my kids, once they get it, we stop. If not, a group situation may be better?

ammonite:

vinegar:

[quote=\"slmkhoo\"]
I agree with ammonite. I would have sacked this tutor long, long ago. If you can 'change hats' for an hour at a time and coach your son yourself, that may be an idea. THe benefit of the DIY approach is that you don't need to do a full hour - for my kids, once they get it, we stop. If not, a group situation may be better?

yes,now i am considering group tuition.Reason of private tuition is more of its convenience n time saving in traveling.No doubt private tuition provides more tailor made coaching,i find there is no structure.I am not sure,perhaps my expectation is wrong.

i got her thru schtutor agent....no contract or nothing....probably does not nid to give notice....

how shld i tell her that i like to stop tuition?

vinegar:

slmkhoo:

I agree with ammonite. I would have sacked this tutor long, long ago. If you can 'change hats' for an hour at a time and coach your son yourself, that may be an idea. THe benefit of the DIY approach is that you don't need to do a full hour - for my kids, once they get it, we stop. If not, a group situation may be better?

yes,now i am considering group tuition.Reason of private tuition is more of its convenience n time saving in traveling.No doubt private tuition provides more tailor made coaching,i find there is no structure.I am not sure,perhaps my expectation is wrong.

i got her thru schtutor agent....no contract or nothing....probably does not nid to give notice....

how shld i tell her that i like to stop tuition?

vinegar:

u know the problem! u gotta the catch.Yes,my ds only listens to outsider.I always tell him,if he listens to me,i could hv saved a lot $$ in tuition,and bring him go tour or buy his fav toys.Told him million of times,he is PAP,verbally agrees but no execution. :roll:

slmkhoo:

I agree with ammonite. I would have sacked this tutor long, long ago. If you can 'change hats' for an hour at a time and coach your son yourself, that may be an idea. THe benefit of the DIY approach is that you don't need to do a full hour - for my kids, once they get it, we stop. If not, a group situation may be better?

ammonite:

vinegar:

hi ng2010,
my son is in P3....I took 3days to summarize all her notes...showed her the summary,she said very good,even asked if she could borrow n make copy DH said u pay her,but doing her job.bo bian le,she keeps saying no guidelines,so i've come up something for ds to refer to when he does the compo.I shld charge her for copyrights.

She showed me some of common phrases but didn't give the list-her reason,worried it'll confuse him.Ok,i agree.But later, she asked me to go thru the whole lists of phrases(expression,feelings) from a reference book that i bot :?

I think you should drop her asap and put the time and money elsewhere. Even if it is watching Ironman 3, the rewards will be greater. At least your son and you will have a good bonding time. (maybe you can bribe him to do an essay for you the way you want in return.)

You can either source for alternative, or you can ask your son if he wants to work with you (I think you know what you want and what needs to be done - you're better than the tutor!!) and the money saved can be put towards other (nicer) things. Of course, he must agree to listen and not complain for the two hours with you. Just a suggestion.

slmkhoo:

bebe:

I guess so long as the usage are effective, the quantity does not matter.

How do your kids feel about it? My kids have told me how thankful they are that I don't buy many such books for them!

bebe:

I guess so long as the usage are effective, the quantity does not matter.

vinegar:

vinegar:

Side track a bit...


I believe u've read some of my posts with regarding to my son current tutor.I've no choice but to put up with her coz i've not found a replacement.

I would like to seek some opinion fr u...

I find her a bit disorganized, papers everywhere.I've to organize everything, keep all the worksheets,books.I even summarized her notes(coz all scattered ard)n got her to revise wf my son. :roll:

I feel my son basic writing skills is not up to standard(the flow,sentence structure,grammar,tenses).I suggested her to work on the basic first(she did,only on introduction).She kept getting my son to practise writing,but no structure to follow...To me,this is very \"reactive\". :roll:

I asked her if the teacher would penalize for wrong grammar used,she said the grammar not impt,impt is the content n flow.

She oso mentioned planning is not necessary(last time said muz plan),just straight away write based on Problem & Resolution.But i feel it is necessary(simple planning) since my son does not hv good logical thinking.

She has introduced quite a number of creative phrases(some r quite \"chim\" but i doubt my son knows how to apply it.

my DH commented if the \"basic\"writing is not there,how to be \"creative\"writing?

hi ng2010,
my son is in P3....I took 3days to summarize all her notes...showed her the summary,she said very good,even asked if she could borrow n make copy DH said u pay her,but doing her job.bo bian le,she keeps saying no guidelines,so i've come up something for ds to refer to when he does the compo.I shld charge her for copyrights.

She showed me some of common phrases but didn't give the list-her reason,worried it'll confuse him.Ok,i agree.But later, she asked me to go thru the whole lists of phrases(expression,feelings) from a reference book that i bot :?

vinegar:

bebe:

My kid's tutor got us 17 chinese assessment books ..initially I was shocked but I notice that my girl did those assessment on daily basis..last time I had a hard time her to complete even 1 chapter of an assessment books. ..and some of the assessments drills on different section....I need my girl to practise more on her Chinese..as she has weak foundation in that language..

17?? that r a lot....did she asked u b4 buying??

i bot a lot of books for my kid too...he is P3,i even hv bot P3 or some compo guide books which can be used up to PSLE

vinegar:

Side track a bit...


I believe u've read some of my posts with regarding to my son current tutor.I've no choice but to put up with her coz i've not found a replacement.

I would like to seek some opinion fr u...

I find her a bit disorganized, papers everywhere.I've to organize everything, keep all the worksheets,books.I even summarized her notes(coz all scattered ard)n got her to revise wf my son. :roll:

I feel my son basic writing skills is not up to standard(the flow,sentence structure,grammar,tenses).I suggested her to work on the basic first(she did,only on introduction).She kept getting my son to practise writing,but no structure to follow...To me,this is very \"reactive\". :roll:

I asked her if the teacher would penalize for wrong grammar used,she said the grammar not impt,impt is the content n flow.

She oso mentioned planning is not necessary(last time said muz plan),just straight away write based on Problem & Resolution.But i feel it is necessary(simple planning) since my son does not hv good logical thinking.

She has introduced quite a number of creative phrases(some r quite \"chim\" but i doubt my son knows how to apply it.

my DH commented if the \"basic\"writing is not there,how to be \"creative\"writing?

slmkhoo:

ammonite:

[quote=\"vinegar\"]
hi ng2010,
my son is in P3....I took 3days to summarize all her notes...showed her the summary,she said very good,even asked if she could borrow n make copy DH said u pay her,but doing her job.bo bian le,she keeps saying no guidelines,so i've come up something for ds to refer to when he does the compo.I shld charge her for copyrights.

She showed me some of common phrases but didn't give the list-her reason,worried it'll confuse him.Ok,i agree.But later, she asked me to go thru the whole lists of phrases(expression,feelings) from a reference book that i bot :?

ammonite:

vinegar:

hi ng2010,
my son is in P3....I took 3days to summarize all her notes...showed her the summary,she said very good,even asked if she could borrow n make copy DH said u pay her,but doing her job.bo bian le,she keeps saying no guidelines,so i've come up something for ds to refer to when he does the compo.I shld charge her for copyrights.

She showed me some of common phrases but didn't give the list-her reason,worried it'll confuse him.Ok,i agree.But later, she asked me to go thru the whole lists of phrases(expression,feelings) from a reference book that i bot :?

I think you should drop her asap and put the time and money elsewhere. Even if it is watching Ironman 3, the rewards will be greater. At least your son and you will have a good bonding time. (maybe you can bribe him to do an essay for you the way you want in return.)

You can either source for alternative, or you can ask your son if he wants to work with you (I think you know what you want and what needs to be done - you're better than the tutor!!) and the money saved can be put towards other (nicer) things. Of course, he must agree to listen and not complain for the two hours with you. Just a suggestion.