<![CDATA[Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare]]>Hi everyone,


Need some advice here.
I am in the process of getting my 19mth old girl in a PCF childcare.
But after getting to know abit about their routine, I am worried about the type of food that they are going to feed my baby.

They are serving mainly solid food at the childcare, but my girl rarely eats solid food. Even if she eats solid food its usually mashed up before feeding her. Furthermore the childcare lets the toddlers self feed their only serving of milk. But my girl do not really drink the milk herself, she is usually more interested in playing with the milk than drinking it.

I am worried that she might go hungry. Is it a good idea to let her go to the childcare and hope that she picks up the skills fast enough so that she wont go hungry for too long?

What can I do to make things easier for her?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/54828/food-type-and-feeding-routine-for-19mth-old-at-childcareRSS for NodeFri, 19 Jun 2026 08:23:04 GMTTue, 23 Apr 2013 00:32:58 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Wed, 05 Jun 2013 06:18:25 GMT]]>

shaima111:
I do agree with mummys who say that in any special circumstances, they have to opt for cc. But those who opt for cc just for the sake of increasing home income do not do justice to their kids. This is my opinion to which others may strongly disagree but i am saying it again that children and family come first.

I don't think it is a question of \"doing justice to their kids\", it is a matter of doing what is best for the family as a whole.

Yes, we could survive on just my husband's salary - although it would make more sense for him to stay at home as I earn more but that's another issue - but it would involve a substantial change in lifestyle i.e. downgrading our house etc.

I am also certain that I am not cut out to be a SAHM. Yes, I felt bad when my daughter used to go the maid or my mil when she was younger. Yes, I get frustrated by my maid not doing things the way I want. Yes, I don't like missing out on things that happen or not being able to be with them when they are sick. But I can't imagine not working. I also work in a job and an industry which, unfortunately, does not take well to people taking career breaks meaning it would be virtually impossible for me to stop then come back to a similar role with a similar salary.

Having children is often about compromises - it is up to the individual to decide what they are.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014896https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014896Wed, 05 Jun 2013 06:18:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 04 Jun 2013 23:59:23 GMT]]>Er, as a SAHM for the past nine years without a maid, I must disagree. Money aside, some women are not suited for the life of a SAHM. It is better for them and their families if they work. The time together is then happier. There are mothers who firmly believe that they must stay home to look after the kids but end up feeling burned out and resentful and wishing they never had kids in the first place.


Better the path of moderation for everything, and different seasons of life do call for different responses. The best is to know oneself.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014710https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014710Tue, 04 Jun 2013 23:59:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 04 Jun 2013 03:50:20 GMT]]>

shaima111:
Well this luxury is given to every mother of the world. All what is important is priority. Unfortunately some people have less prioritize their children.

Not every parents wants to just \"throw\" their kids at cc for an easy life. When you have no one to look after your baby because you have to work, you have no choice.

With the current situation, many families are unable to survive on a single income.

You think that it is wise to scrape through each month without savings on a single income so that the mum can stay home to look after the kids?

What happens when there is an emergency? How are you going to pay the bills if your kids fall sick and needs to be hospitalised?

Every family have their unique challenges, some have the luxury to have one parent stay at home some don't.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014289https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014289Tue, 04 Jun 2013 03:50:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 04 Jun 2013 02:10:31 GMT]]>

shaima111:
Well this luxury is given to every mother of the world. All what is important is priority. Unfortunately some people have less prioritize their children.

No it is not.

Not when a person is a mother of 2 young kids and her husband was killed in an accident.

Not when the husband is in jail for embezzling company funds.

Not when both husband and wife have ailing parents to support.

Not when the person is divorced because of an abusive husband.

You are entitled to your views, you can say you prioritised base on your set of circumstances and kudos to you for putting your child first. But what do you know of the other mothers' circumstances for you to agree or disagree with their decisions.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014229https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014229Tue, 04 Jun 2013 02:10:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 04 Jun 2013 01:41:49 GMT]]>

shaima111:
I disagree with those mothers who leave their children at day care centres or child cares. What a mother can do for her child, no body can do. That is why a mother always feel insecured about these artifical care centres. A mother should prioritize his child's upbringing more than anything else.

Everyone has his or her own circumstances. You have the luxury of being able to care for your child full time. Many do not have this luxury.

Be thankful that you have that choice but do not put others down.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014207https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014207Tue, 04 Jun 2013 01:41:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 04 Jun 2013 00:45:46 GMT]]>

shaima111:
I disagree with those mothers who leave their children at day care centres or child cares. What a mother can do for her child, no body can do. That is why a mother always feel insecured about these artifical care centres. A mother should prioritize his child's upbringing more than anything else.

This is a life decision which each family makes according to its individual circumstances; I don't think any outsider should make such sweeping judgements. I have been a SAHM for nearly 17 yrs, but I do know that many parents make different decisions for very good reasons.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014159https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1014159Tue, 04 Jun 2013 00:45:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Thu, 25 Apr 2013 17:05:58 GMT]]>I'm worried about the same problem too but slightly diff from urs as my son takes solid food well, it's just that he likes to play with it instead of feeding himself properly. I'm the main caregiver so I'm training him letting him feed himself solid food before he goes CC next month. Its a lot a lot of frustration, I can say! All the mess n when I see him play with food, I feel like scolding him but can't 😞


I hope he will learn to feed himself better when he copies the older kids at school.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/993632https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/993632Thu, 25 Apr 2013 17:05:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 08:52:33 GMT]]>Thanks 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991951https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991951Tue, 23 Apr 2013 08:52:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 08:44:07 GMT]]>

joajas:
@slmkhoo

I am not really worried about her adapting to the environment, just concerned about her feeding habits. she's very sociable and we had brought her along to the CC during the enrollment. Can see that she likes the place.
Feeding habits should be the least of your worries as long as your child has no developmental issues or disabilities. Normal kids will not let themselves go hungry, so if she has to eat, she will!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991949https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991949Tue, 23 Apr 2013 08:44:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 08:23:58 GMT]]>@slmkhoo


I am not really worried about her adapting to the environment, just concerned about her feeding habits. she’s very sociable and we had brought her along to the CC during the enrollment. Can see that she likes the place.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991937https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991937Tue, 23 Apr 2013 08:23:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 07:23:25 GMT]]>

Dora1:
When you or your wife accompany her to cc the 1st few days, dun immediately assume that your child can't feed herself during mealtimes. Ask her to observe the other children and encourage her to pick up the spoon and feed herself like the other \"big children\". Assist only if she's unwilling to try self feed. If she's eager, let her do it even though it means spilling half the bowl and end up her not eating enough. Dun worry,bits just a few days. As long as her interest is there, she will pick it up very fast.

In fact, the sooner your wife can fade into the background and leave, the better for your daughter's adjustment.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991902https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991902Tue, 23 Apr 2013 07:23:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 06:23:33 GMT]]>Thanks Dora, will let my wife know.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991867https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991867Tue, 23 Apr 2013 06:23:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 06:18:10 GMT]]>When you or your wife accompany her to cc the 1st few days, dun immediately assume that your child can’t feed herself during mealtimes. Ask her to observe the other children and encourage her to pick up the spoon and feed herself like the other "big children". Assist only if she’s unwilling to try self feed. If she’s eager, let her do it even though it means spilling half the bowl and end up her not eating enough. Dun worry,bits just a few days. As long as her interest is there, she will pick it up very fast.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991865https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991865Tue, 23 Apr 2013 06:18:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 06:03:58 GMT]]>Thanks SAHM_TAN,


I have already informed the supervisor about the situation. She says that the teachers will feed my girl till she is able to feed herself, but my girl will need to drink her milk on the own with any help.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991859https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991859Tue, 23 Apr 2013 06:03:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 05:34:48 GMT]]>Depending on her progress, you might want to let the cc know about your dd’s situation. It’s not to ask them to make special food preparation but to let them understand the reason if your dd does not take to food readily after a few wks in cc.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991846https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991846Tue, 23 Apr 2013 05:34:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 05:27:49 GMT]]>Thanks Dora for your input. It makes me feel better to know that things are not all that bad. Today lunch is the first time for my girl to try rice, hopefully she likes the food and don't get constipated due to solid food. 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991844https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991844Tue, 23 Apr 2013 05:27:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 04:33:51 GMT]]>Actually sometimes children are a lot more adaptable then we think. My girl was a super fussy eater, takes 2 hrs for each meal with lots of coaxing before she will eat. And she will only refuse to drink formula, only BM. when she entered infant care at 15 months, she started to eat everything that they serve within 1 week. And within 2 weeks, she was drinking her formula milk, things that I have never succeeded in getting her to do at home. I must say that my girl was very lucky as the infant care was new and she was the only infant there, so she had full time attention from her teacher. But still, sometimes we just have to have faith in her teachers and just try it out. 19 month old not being able to solid food is a habit problem, unless there are associated medical issues. And she is obviously capable of holding her own milk bottle, again it’s a habit issue.

Frankly, once she has settled down in CC, you will see a big change in your girl since she is over pampered by your mum now. She will be more independent and disciplined, and you will be glad of your decision. If the teachers at the CC are responsible.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991806https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991806Tue, 23 Apr 2013 04:33:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 01:46:04 GMT]]>Thanks for the advice.


My mum will be going for her trip on 3rd May. My girl will be starting childcare on 2nd May. I guess I will just have to try to convince my mum to change her method and let my wife try to get my girl used to adult food.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991661https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991661Tue, 23 Apr 2013 01:46:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 01:26:21 GMT]]>

joajas:
Yes I agree with you, my mum is the main person looking after her. And my mum pampers her alot. Therefore my girl is quite reliant on her for many things. Plus my girl does not speak coherent words that's meaningful. Haiz...


My wife just left her job recently so I had told her to get our girl into the childcare's routine, but she's not too good with that. Plus with my mum around its kinda difficult for my wife to do things the CC way. I foresee more fights coming up in the next week before my mum leaves for her trip.

And also my girl doesn't really chew her food, and it causes her to puke out her food if it triggers her gag reflex. Is there anyway we can get her to chew her food properly?

Thanks.
My older daughter was like that too. Actually, mushy or sticky food can make it worse unless it's very watery. Try giving solids that are not mushy like rice that is dryer and small pieces of meat and veg that are not too fibrous or chewy. And just keep reminding. It's best if the child concentrates on the food too, which means no TV or toys during meals. My daughter has motor coordination problems so she had more difficulties even though I started solids with her at 12mths, but some normal kids who are given baby food too long miss the window for learning to eat solids which makes them lazy to chew.

When does your mother go on her trip? Either you convince her to let your wife take over, or you have to let it go until she leaves. It's not fair to your wife to have to deal with this unless your mother won't oppose it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991644https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991644Tue, 23 Apr 2013 01:26:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 01:08:48 GMT]]>Yes I agree with you, my mum is the main person looking after her. And my mum pampers her alot. Therefore my girl is quite reliant on her for many things. Plus my girl does not speak coherent words that’s meaningful. Haiz…


My wife just left her job recently so I had told her to get our girl into the childcare’s routine, but she’s not too good with that. Plus with my mum around its kinda difficult for my wife to do things the CC way. I foresee more fights coming up in the next week before my mum leaves for her trip.

And also my girl doesn’t really chew her food, and it causes her to puke out her food if it triggers her gag reflex. Is there anyway we can get her to chew her food properly?

Thanks.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991630https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991630Tue, 23 Apr 2013 01:08:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Food type and feeding routine for 19mth old at Childcare on Tue, 23 Apr 2013 00:48:01 GMT]]>

joajas:
I am worried that she might go hungry. Is it a good idea to let her go to the childcare and hope that she picks up the skills fast enough so that she wont go hungry for too long?


What can I do to make things easier for her?
Start giving her solid food and milk like the childcare at home now. Kids can eat normal table foods after 12 mths. If she is hungry, she will manage. Often, it's because their caregivers at home 'baby' them that they don't learn the skills, not because they can't. And kids will copy each other.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991620https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/991620Tue, 23 Apr 2013 00:48:01 GMT