youngmum:

get new maid. dont ever get ex - singapore, ex taiwan, ex - whatever country maid.. the have lots of demand .. they think their employers are fools... they think we cannot survive without them. .. there are so many maids wanting to come out to work, there is no lack of new maids at all. just walk into any agency (lots of them)and you see thick thick file of new maids waiting to find employer..

fcmaid:

Some are inclined to use facebook as they are IT savvy. Like those from myanmar, whose IT knowledge is not as advanced.

st2:

I'm thinking fresh Indo maid would be less inclined to have these FB type of problems.


Is it ex-sin Indo, Ph maids or all ex maids from Middle east, Malaysia as well ? They seem to need to have the whole world know what they are doing, need to feel like they are celebrity with followers?!?!?!?!? Really...... is there so much to talk about on the phone, to post on FB?!?!?!?

syen27:

\"we guide, we fuss, we nag, we get ourselves upset and upset them...\" this is so true! I found myself with another child to worry about since I got my helper..

Harlequin:

I don't think is right to take an office employment as the absolute guideline for employment of domestic helper.


As an employer of both groups, I am definitely using different yardstick.

Simply put--

I do not have staff that think that they can knock at my door anytime for salary advancement. If they are in need of money, that's not a problem of mine.

I do not get my gate crashed for they personal loan or loan shark. For that matter, they can't use my home address as theirs, they do not have a chance to disrupt my life.

I would not be held responsible when my staff got herself pregnant from her EMA.

I do not have to answer to any authority if she thinks she can manage another job after office hours, unless the part time job is conflict of interest that might compromised my business.

I do not also, at anytime, put my young children under their charge.

I do not eat what my staff cooked, even she hates me, I will have no worry that my food be spiked.

I do not let them in charge of the security of my house, my belonging.

I do not house them, I do not subject to their emotional blackmail, I do not have to worry that they failed bi-yearly medical check up... even they are HIV positive we can still retain their service because we do not need to have close personal contact to interact.

I do not have the obligation to fly her home should she resigned.

In short, I do not have that much of the obligation for the average office staff.


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Employer of a maid, is more to that... we are, their guardians... we have to ensure their safety and their well being, among other things...

Domestic helpers aren't our office staff. Period. Don't get yourself confused.

We cannot rely solely on them to auto assume their obligatory role to their employers, so, we exercise whatever influences we have on them, we guide, we fuss, we nag, we get ourselves upset and upset them...

For every right one wished to claim, there is also an obligatory duty to trade off, I am well aware of that... but if my maid is not aware of that, it's my duty to make her sees that, right?
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I hope people can be more objective when they weight such issues.

Harlequin:

I don't think is right to take an office employment as the absolute guideline for employment of domestic helper.


As an employer of both groups, I am definitely using different yardstick.

Simply put--

I do not have staff that think that they can knock at my door anytime for salary advancement. If they are in need of money, that's not a problem of mine.

I do not get my gate crashed for they personal loan or loan shark. For that matter, they can't use my home address as theirs, they do not have a chance to disrupt my life.

I would not be held responsible when my staff got herself pregnant from her EMA.

I do not have to answer to any authority if she thinks she can manage another job after office hours, unless the part time job is conflict of interest that might compromised my business.

I do not also, at anytime, put my young children under their charge.

I do not eat what my staff cooked, even she hates me, I will have no worry that my food be spiked.

I do not let them in charge of the security of my house, my belonging.

I do not house them, I do not subject to their emotional blackmail, I do not have to worry that they failed bi-yearly medical check up... even they are HIV positive we can still retain their service because we do not need to have close personal contact to interact.

I do not have the obligation to fly her home should she resigned.

In short, I do not have that much of the obligation for the average office staff.


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Employer of a maid, is more to that... we are, their guardians... we have to ensure their safety and their well being, among other things...

Domestic helpers aren't our office staff. Period. Don't get yourself confused.

We cannot rely solely on them to auto assume their obligatory role to their employers, so, we exercise whatever influences we have on them, we guide, we fuss, we nag, we get ourselves upset and upset them...

For every right one wished to claim, there is also an obligatory duty to trade off, I am well aware of that... but if my maid is not aware of that, it's my duty to make her sees that, right?
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I hope people can be more objective when they weight such issues.

Harlequin:

I don't think is right to take an office employment as the absolute guideline for employment of domestic helper.


As an employer of both groups, I am definitely using different yardstick.

Simply put--

I do not have staff that think that they can knock at my door anytime for salary advancement. If they are in need of money, that's not a problem of mine.

I do not get my gate crashed for they personal loan or loan shark. For that matter, they can't use my home address as theirs, they do not have a chance to disrupt my life.

I would not be held responsible when my staff got herself pregnant from her EMA.

I do not have to answer to any authority if she thinks she can manage another job after office hours, unless the part time job is conflict of interest that might compromised my business.

I do not also, at anytime, put my young children under their charge.

I do not eat what my staff cooked, even she hates me, I will have no worry that my food be spiked.

I do not let them in charge of the security of my house, my belonging.

I do not house them, I do not subject to their emotional blackmail, I do not have to worry that they failed bi-yearly medical check up... even they are HIV positive we can still retain their service because we do not need to have close personal contact to interact.

I do not have the obligation to fly her home should she resigned.

In short, I do not have that much of the obligation for the average office staff.


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.
.
.

Employer of a maid, is more to that... we are, their guardians... we have to ensure their safety and their well being, among other things...

Domestic helpers aren't our office staff. Period. Don't get yourself confused.

We cannot rely solely on them to auto assume their obligatory role to their employers, so, we exercise whatever influences we have on them, we guide, we fuss, we nag, we get ourselves upset and upset them...

For every right one wished to claim, there is also an obligatory duty to trade off, I am well aware of that... but if my maid is not aware of that, it's my duty to make her sees that, right?
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I hope people can be more objective when they weight such issues.

nms1:

Linlin:

Majority maid don't know how to control themselves. If your maid got hp, tablet or com and she behave well then gd for u. But for me, I don't tink is necessity to waste money to surf net, on the phone etc. Normally we cannot imagine but without hp, internet etc u still able to survive. I have many friends too but I know my purpose is to work not to play so I do my part. In indo, to surf net there is not very convenience compare to SG unless you got hp. The hp bill there for calling SG is very exp. In fact when I work indo drawing $400 a mth in the past so I'm able to describe the feeling. Is really the matter whether you want or you don't want to do ur job well. I live with the rest foreigner like Phili, PRC etc and I'm proud to say I do housechores everyday after my work. I helped the rest to wash clothes, ironing, prepare meal for lunch, sweep n wash the floor daily (not u using mop is being down wash that kind).

Even the locals there, also surprised that SG ppl can do housechores etc as they are not that hardworking.
When I stay there, there is no problem but after I came back SG a week plus my ex boss approach me and ask me question abt the place. My colleagues there experience \"dirty\" thing there and got disturb even there is prayers done but they have to move out.
I'm lucky that I didn't have such ghostly experience. I told my hubby where the 3rd eye ppl say she see (1 underneath the bed, living room corner n 2 toilets) and me, I always bend down to wipe underneath the bed and if that \"thing\" is always there I think he/she always stare at me.
I'm not working as helper, I'm a training teacher there.

I think the issue is that they are free to do what they want with their money - as long as it is legal. We cannot dictate that, we can only advise

My maid has taken several advances from us due to sickness and death in the family so when she asked again this month to send back for tuition I told her it was absolutely the last time and made her sign a paper to say that. I pointed out that she needs to save some money for herself and start saying no to the family. That much we can do but if they still choose to waste the money on phones, internet, clothes or whatever that's not our problem or responsibility. My boss doesn't tell me how to spend my salary!

gumiho:

It is common for maid to have facebook nowadays.

My maid has one......... Initially I cannot be bother about her having FB as I believe in fairness.
We can have one, why not the maid. They are also human like us.

This morning, my father mentioned to me that my helper was using our house phone everyday for an hour plus chatting with her boyfriend (when all of us are not around except for my father).
We allow her to own a handphone, we even allow her to chat on the phone during working hour (-_-\"\") then she has no reason to utilize our home phone for personal call because we are paying for the phone bill.
Again, I login to her facebook today. Shockingly, her status is \"In a relationship with XXXX\" and there are even mushy comments between her and her lover. (She was married with 2 kids).

Well...... I know I shouldn't bother in her personal affair but when she is using our home phone to chit chat with her lover..... It bothers me !!
All thanks to FB ! I know about her personal life when she is out of our house. It may not be bad for the maid to own a FB afterall.

Apparently, my main concern is to whether send her home or continue to tolerate her until her contract ends (Dec'13) ?

syen27:

Linlin, I also could not figure out why if my maid can tahan 1 year 4 months without hp cannot tahan not having hp for the day.. haha.. one word, addiction..

Linlin:

Majority maid don't know how to control themselves. If your maid got hp, tablet or com and she behave well then gd for u. But for me, I don't tink is necessity to waste money to surf net, on the phone etc. Normally we cannot imagine but without hp, internet etc u still able to survive. I have many friends too but I know my purpose is to work not to play so I do my part. In indo, to surf net there is not very convenience compare to SG unless you got hp. The hp bill there for calling SG is very exp. In fact when I work indo drawing $400 a mth in the past so I'm able to describe the feeling. Is really the matter whether you want or you don't want to do ur job well. I live with the rest foreigner like Phili, PRC etc and I'm proud to say I do housechores everyday after my work. I helped the rest to wash clothes, ironing, prepare meal for lunch, sweep n wash the floor daily (not u using mop is being down wash that kind).

Even the locals there, also surprised that SG ppl can do housechores etc as they are not that hardworking.
When I stay there, there is no problem but after I came back SG a week plus my ex boss approach me and ask me question abt the place. My colleagues there experience \"dirty\" thing there and got disturb even there is prayers done but they have to move out.
I'm lucky that I didn't have such ghostly experience. I told my hubby where the 3rd eye ppl say she see (1 underneath the bed, living room corner n 2 toilets) and me, I always bend down to wipe underneath the bed and if that \"thing\" is always there I think he/she always stare at me.
I'm not working as helper, I'm a training teacher there.

syen27:

After I found out she bought a hp, I confiscated it for one week. When she got it back after one week, she can only use it at night from 9pm onwards and must return it to me in the morning. She must rest by 10.30pm every night. If I found out she played hp after that, I will confiscate the hp for 1 week again. So far, i saw one sms that is timed after 10.30, I issued a warning. Another time, I will confiscate. She topped up a few times, eveyr time $8.. Dunno how she use, but can finish $8 in one night.. Now, she got another sim card of her own by using her own work permit yesterday.

I can see that she is addicted to the hp. She begged me for the hp to use during the day this morning. I firmly said no, just like how she said no to me when I asked her to cut her hair. Lets just see if she violate the rule of stopping hp at 10.30.. I will only have time to check during the weekends..