Which is better, same-sex or mixed school?

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Mon, 19 Oct 2020 04:45:58 GMT

zac's mum — Mon, 19 Oct 2020 04:45:58 GMT

Oversoul\" post_id=\"1999167\" time=\"1602922493\" user_id=\"188385:

is st stephen school a good option?

There is an e-open house on their school website in case you didn’t know. Find out more here:

https://ststephens.moe.edu.sg/our-events/e-open-house

You may also wish to note that the current Principal of SJI Junior will be moving on to head St Stephen’s next year:

https://www.moe.gov.sg/news/press-releases/43-schools-to-welcome-new-principals

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Mon, 19 Oct 2020 04:32:25 GMT

F3parent — Mon, 19 Oct 2020 04:32:25 GMT

Oversoul\" post_id=\"1999217\" time=\"1602944343\" user_id=\"188385:

thank you - may i know what are the good and bad feedback on the school such that we can understand?

I can only speak in a generic sense that is has a positive reputation as a nurturing school with a good culture
lots of the kids go on to SJI
don't know of any bad things

edit: woah, i just realised i am upgraded to greenbelt
gxgx me

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Sat, 17 Oct 2020 14:19:03 GMT

Oversoul — Sat, 17 Oct 2020 14:19:03 GMT

thank you - may i know what are the good and bad feedback on the school such that we can understand?

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Sat, 17 Oct 2020 09:18:20 GMT

F3parent — Sat, 17 Oct 2020 09:18:20 GMT

Oversoul\" post_id=\"1999167\" time=\"1602922493\" user_id=\"188385:

is st stephen school a good option?

yes, there are many good things said about the school
backup option for those that did not get into SJIJ

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Sat, 17 Oct 2020 08:14:53 GMT

Oversoul — Sat, 17 Oct 2020 08:14:53 GMT

is st stephen school a good option?

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Sat, 17 Oct 2020 08:14:44 GMT

Oversoul — Sat, 17 Oct 2020 08:14:44 GMT

is st stephen school a good option?

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Thu, 24 Sep 2020 03:35:04 GMT

F3parent — Thu, 24 Sep 2020 03:35:04 GMT

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a gal approached my DS1 and ask whether can he be her boyfriend. And that was during his 3rd lang class. So BGR can be everywhere, not necessary in a mixed school. Both of them come from a same-sex school

wow, nowadays boys have it easy :shock:

to think just how long i had to work at wooing my gf at the time (currently wife) :?

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Wed, 23 Sep 2020 15:44:24 GMT

Hendon — Wed, 23 Sep 2020 15:44:24 GMT

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Hi all!

I’ve read thru all the threads from page 1. Seems quite a number of posts talking about the Secondary School and beyond part.

I would appreciate if anyone can advise me about the Primary school portion?

I’m living in Lavender and the nearest school to me is St Margaret Pri Sch. My alma matar is Fairfield Methodist which is at Dover Road. I’m at a dilemma where to send my DD for Primary school.

Can anyone shed some light as to whether it matters much whether co-ed or mixed school for Primary school level?

Depends on your daughter really. Some girls do better in a co-Ed environment, some don’t and to some it doesn’t matter

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Wed, 23 Sep 2020 13:22:25 GMT

Zenz79 — Wed, 23 Sep 2020 13:22:25 GMT

Hi all!

I’ve read thru all the threads from page 1. Seems quite a number of posts talking about the Secondary School and beyond part.

I would appreciate if anyone can advise me about the Primary school portion?

I’m living in Lavender and the nearest school to me is St Margaret Pri Sch. My alma matar is Fairfield Methodist which is at Dover Road. I’m at a dilemma where to send my DD for Primary school.

Can anyone shed some light as to whether it matters much whether co-ed or mixed school for Primary school level?

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Thu, 05 Dec 2019 08:32:14 GMT

zac's mum — Thu, 05 Dec 2019 08:32:14 GMT

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I am wondering if is there a study of which of the two, same-sex or mixed school, has a higher rate of bullying cases among students?

Not sure, but I think (generally) the type of bullying among boys is more of physical violence, whereas among girls it is more of verbal abuse/social exclusion like making some poor victim an outcast.

Neither type of bullying is ok, but the physical injuries tend to get more attention.

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Sat, 12 Oct 2019 13:52:40 GMT

bluepencil — Sat, 12 Oct 2019 13:52:40 GMT

I think a lot depends on the child also. Is it a single child growing up in a boys family or the other way around. So if it is a girl growing up with brothers then naturally the girl will adjust very quickly with boys by the time reach JC.

It’s important to remember that JC has this PW project work component that I know has caused some one’s stellar results child to miss out on president’ scholar prize, yikes!

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Fri, 11 Oct 2019 04:40:46 GMT

sharonkhoo — Fri, 11 Oct 2019 04:40:46 GMT

At 12yo, I would tell a child of either sex to just be a good friend, whether the other is the same or different gender. Rather than try to brief them on everything up front, I prefer to "debrief" them daily and help them navigate issues as they arise. If they and their classmates are not that mature, then I wouldn’t want to give them too much info too soon, and make them too aware too early.

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Fri, 11 Oct 2019 04:26:19 GMT

hurlyburly6.019192gmail.019192com — Fri, 11 Oct 2019 04:26:19 GMT

Depending on the individual girl, esp if she’s quite shy/soft-spoken/introverted, I’d say, learn to speak up. I think there is a slight tendency for boys to dominate group discussions etc if there are significantly more boys in the group, more so than if girls > boys. Depending on individual personalities of course.

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Fri, 11 Oct 2019 03:33:38 GMT

zac's mum — Fri, 11 Oct 2019 03:33:38 GMT

What do u mean by “how to behave”?

I recall when I moved from all-girl’s primary and Secondary, into co-ed JC, I was totally shocked by the crude Hokkien swear words coming out from the boys’ mouths. Is that what u mean, boys’ parent should maybe teach their boys to be more gentlemanly in front of girls?

Girls going to predominantly boys school…maybe might need to teach them to be more conscious how to sit…careful don’t 走光 when sitting in their skirts. I dunno what else.

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Fri, 11 Oct 2019 03:19:56 GMT

phtthp — Fri, 11 Oct 2019 03:19:56 GMT

1)

if enter into a co-ed (mixed gender) imbalanced Secondary school, where boys pre-dominant, how should girls behave ?

E.g.
For every 10 Secondary students in class, 8 are boys, 2 are girls

2)
If enter into a co-ed imbalanced school, where girls pre dominant, how should boys behave ?

Eg.

For every 10 Secondary students in class, 7 are girls, 3 are boys

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Fri, 11 Oct 2019 02:15:51 GMT

Janet32 — Fri, 11 Oct 2019 02:15:51 GMT

I have read this article from The Odyssey Online and I could relate to their explanation of the pros and cons of attending an all-girls school:

Pros
- You make best friends for life
- No Boys = No Boy Drama
- Getting to throw on sweatpants every single morning
- Helped me come out of my shell
- Distraction Free Zone

Con
- Boys are like a rare species when you see them

Link: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/pros-cons-all-girls-school

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Fri, 26 Jul 2019 00:45:40 GMT

Nebbermind — Fri, 26 Jul 2019 00:45:40 GMT

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Nebbermind\" post_id=\"1922607\" time=\"1564039434\" user_id=\"15571:
if co-ed is NYPS, really donch mind!
If you have a co-ed RI or a co-ed HCI, all these BGR concerns will suddenly disappear

ya boy! :rotflmao:

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 09:43:11 GMT

Hendon — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 09:43:11 GMT

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floppy\" post_id=\"1922616\" time=\"1564040838\" user_id=\"97579:
[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=1922609 time=1564039687 user_id=53606]What I mean by “distractions” is within the classroom, when answering teacher’s questions, having group discussions, project work etc...some people tell me that in mixed schools, the kids are doubly conscious of how they answer, who is impressed/not impressed with their answer, whoever they like is paying more attention to a love rival in the group project and so on...

Versus if they don’t even have to worry/bother about such issues, they can more freely be themselves and voice their real opinion, can better focus & contribute to the team project etc.
These issues, are they real? Yes.
Are they prevalent? Hmm...
The not-so-politically-correct way of putting it would be this, these distractions are not a single-gender or mixed school issues, it's a 'good' vs 'not-so-good' students' issues. Take the better mixed schools, NJC / DHS / RVHS, these are rarely flagged concerns. On the other hand... choose another mixed school further down the line.

I'm told that the advantage of single-sex schools for girls is that they are not socialised into being nice in the classroom/project group etc, and in particular don't feel any social pressure to led the boys take the lead/feel that it's perfectly fine for boys to take the lead. But perhaps this is outdated or just not true? (For what it's worth, I went to a single-sex secondary school and really liked it.)[/quote]I have heard this before.... girls can be girls ... and boys can be boys ..uninhibited for the initial years. For me, I know boys from boys school tend to deal with things better in NS.

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 09:13:24 GMT

floppy — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 09:13:24 GMT

laughingcat\" post_id=\"1922649\" time=\"1564044586\" user_id=\"3309:
:goodpost:

laughingcat\" post_id=\"1922655\" time=\"1564044976\" user_id=\"3309:[quote=laughingcat post_id=1922655 time=1564044976 user_id=3309]I am used to be in a single sex school for the longest time. By the time I went into JC1, I couldn't adapt. Takes a lot of effort to come out of the shell. Took a lot of effort to remove the shyness, fear and of course initially confidence plunge. My initial project work was like urghhhh.... Friends and teachers keep asking me to speak up. But all went well after much adjustment.

I was in a single gender secondary school. When I entered JC, majority of my classmates came from single gender secondary schools. I think only less than 7 of them came from mixed-gender schools

I think everyone simply needs a short period of adjustments and everything should be fine.

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:56:16 GMT

laughingcat — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:56:16 GMT

I am used to be in a single sex school for the longest time. By the time I went into JC1, I couldn't adapt. Takes a lot of effort to come out of the shell. Took a lot of effort to remove the shyness, fear and of course initially confidence plunge. My initial project work was like urghhhh.... Friends and teachers keep asking me to speak up. But all went well after much adjustment.

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:49:46 GMT

laughingcat — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:49:46 GMT

It all boils down to the maturity of the child. As parents we can talk to child and tell them what is their priority as a student. One do not need to restrict the type of school environment. There are equal advantages and disadvantages to co-ed and mixed school. It largely depends on the student on how they make full use of the environment to learn in a modern society point of view.

In the recent case of my DS1, he simply thank her for noticing him and advice her to concentrate on her studies instead.

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:43:00 GMT

hurlyburly6.019192gmail.019192com — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:43:00 GMT

floppy\" post_id=\"1922616\" time=\"1564040838\" user_id=\"97579:

zac's mum\" post_id=\"1922609\" time=\"1564039687\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=1922609 time=1564039687 user_id=53606]What I mean by “distractions” is within the classroom, when answering teacher’s questions, having group discussions, project work etc...some people tell me that in mixed schools, the kids are doubly conscious of how they answer, who is impressed/not impressed with their answer, whoever they like is paying more attention to a love rival in the group project and so on...

Versus if they don’t even have to worry/bother about such issues, they can more freely be themselves and voice their real opinion, can better focus & contribute to the team project etc.
These issues, are they real? Yes.
Are they prevalent? Hmm...
The not-so-politically-correct way of putting it would be this, these distractions are not a single-gender or mixed school issues, it's a 'good' vs 'not-so-good' students' issues. Take the better mixed schools, NJC / DHS / RVHS, these are rarely flagged concerns. On the other hand... choose another mixed school further down the line.[/quote]

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:42:03 GMT

phtthp — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:42:03 GMT

laughingcat\" post_id=\"1922628\" time=\"1564042540\" user_id=\"3309:

a gal approached my DS1 and ask whether can he be her boyfriend. And that was during his 3rd lang class. So BGR can be everywhere, not necessary in a mixed school. Both of them come from a same-sex school

wah ! this Sec 1 girl so bold, made the first move already. Your son must have attracted her so much that she is so daring. so how, your DS1 got reciprocate her feelings ?

Reply to Which is better, same-sex or mixed school? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:28:59 GMT

floppy — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:28:59 GMT

Hendon\" post_id=\"1922631\" time=\"1564042782\" user_id=\"142376:

laughingcat\" post_id=\"1922628\" time=\"1564042540\" user_id=\"3309:
a gal approached my DS1 and ask whether can he be her boyfriend. And that was during his 3rd lang class. So BGR can be everywhere, not necessary in a mixed school. Both of them come from a same-sex school
there is whatsapp, facebook, snapchat etc .. so many ways to stay in touch after enrichment!

Exactly what I said