<![CDATA[Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up?]]>Don’t hesitate to ask advice from a divorce lawyer. Don’t be scared if you will be a single parent. I know a lawyer who can help you in your situation. Mr. Godwin Campos can help you with the process of your divorce. He will guide you on what to do, and since you have a child, you can negotiate with your husband for child support. 

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/61948/marriage-in-trouble-should-i-give-upRSS for NodeTue, 28 Apr 2026 06:01:17 GMTThu, 21 Mar 2024 06:51:53 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Fri, 20 Dec 2013 06:13:29 GMT]]>

pirate:
If you decide to stay in the marriage, the least you should do is to tell him to give you security. He can start by buying you a flat (without a mortgage) and put it in your sole name so that you and your children will have a place of refuge in case he gets violent again.


Buying a house under your name is totally no no... remember the \"coworker\" has impersonated your name and having your identity...

if you have bank accounts. Please immediately go for a authorisation with Thumbprint only. Do not use signatures as it can also be forged. And as what other forummers wrote..impersonating is a criminal offence.

free Legal Aid in singapore http://legalclinics.sg/

Please make a police report immediately on the impersonating matter. Please do not try to \"save\" face by not reporting and keep on thinking that this case will be a high profile case.

If some day come and the \"co worker\" commited some criminal offences...you will be implicated and do you think the police will let you go if you said its not you(bcos the details are yours). . So now the most important thing is to protect your identity.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1170148https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1170148Fri, 20 Dec 2013 06:13:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Wed, 18 Dec 2013 07:38:17 GMT]]>[quote]If you decide to stay in the marriage, the least you should do is to tell him to give you security. He can start by buying you a flat (without a mortgage) and put it in your sole name so that you and your children will have a place of refuge in case he gets violent again.[/quote]
I agreed.

At least you have an asset to protect yourself. If he can afford, maybe get him to buy you another asset (all under your name) to collect rental, this can be consider your \"INCOME\" in future should the drama come back all over again.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1168479https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1168479Wed, 18 Dec 2013 07:38:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Wed, 18 Dec 2013 06:52:10 GMT]]>Sound advices, pirate. :hugs:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1168444https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1168444Wed, 18 Dec 2013 06:52:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Wed, 18 Dec 2013 06:18:55 GMT]]>

Mummybaby:
Actually he has been \"punished\" by all his family members, my family members, his close friends, etc. For what he has done to me. Everyone has

been scolding him and giving him cold shoulders and I could see he is under a lot of stress and is trying to mend up to me and my girl. Everyone has been pressurizing him to sack his coworker and his elderly parents warned him that if he choose to leave us for that girl, they will disown him!

I even received an apology letter from my hubby and said he was deeply sorry and love us very much. He wants to mend the marriage to the best of his ability. He told me that he rather 'die' than divorce us.

My councillor told me that my hubby is a successful businessman and is very easy for him to divorce and set up another family easily but he does not know what is holding him back? He asked me to explore on that.

I am willing to accept his apology but I do not want to let go of that coworker for what she has done to me. I am in dilemma now.
All I am about to say is assuming that he really is a successful businessman worth millions, because unfortunately, a rich man marriage and a poor man marriage are played differently even though the rules may appear to be the same.

Forget about the co-worker. You need to focus on yourself and the children. Whether you decide to divorce or not, you need to start protecting yourself and your children.

If you decide to stay in the marriage, the least you should do is to tell him to give you security. He can start by buying you a flat (without a mortgage) and put it in your sole name so that you and your children will have a place of refuge in case he gets violent again.

The last thing you want is to forgive him and find yourself in the exact same situation again when he goes back to his old ways, which he will, because people like that have a tendency to go back to their old ways.

One last thing. If you do get a divorce, the other woman wins, because this is probably exactly what she wants. She will then in time be able to legitimately move in, and eventually her children will usurp your children's inheritance.

May you find the strength to prevail over the other woman and protect yourself and your children.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1168420https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1168420Wed, 18 Dec 2013 06:18:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Mon, 09 Dec 2013 19:07:44 GMT]]>Hi all,


I’m asking on behalf of my guy friend, he wanted to fight for the care n control of his 3 kids bt he earns lesser than his wife, aged 2, 3 and 5. How to make him wins the case? His wife has been bossy towards him and threatening him. Please advisr. Ty!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1164011https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1164011Mon, 09 Dec 2013 19:07:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Sun, 01 Dec 2013 23:51:12 GMT]]>

Mummybaby:


I even received an apology letter from my hubby and said he was deeply sorry and love us very much. He wants to mend the marriage to the best of his ability. He told me that he rather 'die' than divorce us.

My councillor told me that my hubby is a successful businessman and is very easy for him to divorce and set up another family easily but he does not know what is holding him back? He asked me to explore on that.

I am willing to accept his apology but I do not want to let go of that coworker for what she has done to me. I am in dilemma now.
I don't want to be rude but you can ask your counsellor to go fly kite.

There are such men around: selfish to the core. And your husband is such a man. He wants to have a 'family' and a mistress. He doesn't want to lose either. I didn't understand why these men refuse to let go of their wives they are torturing and treating like dirt, until I realised that it's really becos they are thoroughly selfish and want everything. They don't care about the hurt they inflict on the wife. They treat their wife as an inanimate object that is devoid of feelings. To them, a wife is simply an object to tell the world that they are established in marriage, but at the same time, they have an mba status ie. Married but available. They see this as a sign of being successful.

He doesn't want to spend time and effort to build another marriage with a kid. He doesn't respect marriage and women. They are simply objects to show that he is successful. The same goes for his adultery. It's a symbol of his success.

I can't believe your counsellor is asking you to 'explore on' why despite being 'successful' and is 'easy for him to set up another family', he doesn't want to divorce you. And I find it strange that your counsellor is constantly discouraging and you to take a stand against your betraying husband. I won't be surprised that the next thing he does is to suggest that you put up with his nonsense for whatever reason.

While a male lawyer is better for lawsuits, female counsellors are better able to see things from a female perspective for marriage crisis.

If you don't fix your husband, you won't be able to deal with that adulteress bcos your husband will always jump to her defence and you will always be in a dilemma, and eventually let her get away with the wrongdoings she's done to you.

Actually the greatest b*stard is your husband. He is just pretending to eat the humble pie by writing a sorry letter. And please do not, for a minute, imagine that it is love that is stopping him from divorcing you, bcos if he does love you a single bit, he wouldn't put in every ounce of his strength and his effort to hurt you like that. We can't comprehend what he's thinking and doing bcos we are not able to fathom how selfish a man can be.

There are indeed so many things that stop us from divorcing despite suffering great injustice ie. the kid, the house, the money, the security, the familiarity etc. I know bcos I went through it. Sometimes it takes years to have the heart truly died and get us used to the idea of divorce before we can do it.

Someone once told me,\"Think about the spiritual part first ie. is it good for your emotion/mental state? (not the physical aspect ie. house, money). It makes things easier.\"

Another person told me that his childhood was spent in a confrontational marriage and it is not good for a child even though the parents are 'married' on the surface. While we struggle to give our kids a 'complete' family, they may be developing scars within when they see their parents fight all the time.

Nobody can convince us to do anything unless we want to be convinced. A friend had all the signs of her husband's adultery right before her eyes, but she could not believe it until she wanted to believe it.

Continue to be strong. Perhaps ask yourself what you should do in the best interest of your child. Think for the child. Is this the kinda husband you wish for your child? For some reason, girls tend to marry the kinda men their father is.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1159519https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1159519Sun, 01 Dec 2013 23:51:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Sun, 01 Dec 2013 17:51:31 GMT]]>mummybaby,

I understand your concern. Of course the counsellor will advise you to try to save your marriage. Your question will be: are you able to continue to live with your hubby? If you choose to keep silent and status quo, are you sure they will not do more harm to you. In the end, they may engage in some illegal activities and use your identity. What if that woman use your particulars to borrow from loan sharks, etc etc? It will be difficult then for you to prove that you are not a willing party? I’m not frightening you, just hope that you are prepared for the worse.

Don’t worry about costs. You don’t have to hire so many lawyers, just one will do. Criminal offences like impersonating are taken care of by the State. You only need to proceed with divorce and can get legal aid. Go and seek help from Legal Aid Bureau. They provide free legal services. They will arrange for other aids like shelter for you to protect you from your hubby if
he is a potential threat. If you have relatives whom you can turn to, go to them immediately.

Trust me, as soon as you take the first step, everything will be easy. That hubby of yours will shit in his pants when he knows that you are not a weakling and his days are numbered.

Take care and be strong.




Hi tutormum,

I do not qualify for getting legal aid at legal aid bureau. My hubby has told me that he will never divorce me forever. He kept asking me why he doesn’t want a divorce if he is in love with that woman? (maybe best of both worlds).

Actually he has been "punished" by all his family members, my family members, his close friends, etc. For what he has done to me. Everyone has
been scolding him and giving him cold shoulders and I could see he is under a lot of stress and is trying to mend up to me and my girl. Everyone has been pressurizing him to sack his coworker and his elderly parents warned him that if he choose to leave us for that girl, they will disown him!

I even received an apology letter from my hubby and said he was deeply sorry and love us very much. He wants to mend the marriage to the best of his ability. He told me that he rather ‘die’ than divorce us.

My councillor told me that my hubby is a successful businessman and is very easy for him to divorce and set up another family easily but he does not know what is holding him back? He asked me to explore on that.

I am willing to accept his apology but I do not want to let go of that coworker for what she has done to me. I am in dilemma now.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1159489https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1159489Sun, 01 Dec 2013 17:51:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Sun, 01 Dec 2013 09:31:37 GMT]]>mummybaby,

I understand your concern. Of course the counsellor will advise you to try to save your marriage. Your question will be: are you able to continue to live with your hubby? If you choose to keep silent and status quo, are you sure they will not do more harm to you. In the end, they may engage in some illegal activities and use your identity. What if that woman use your particulars to borrow from loan sharks, etc etc? It will be difficult then for you to prove that you are not a willing party? I’m not frightening you, just hope that you are prepared for the worse.

Don’t worry about costs. You don’t have to hire so many lawyers, just one will do. Criminal offences like impersonating are taken care of by the State. You only need to proceed with divorce and can get legal aid. Go and seek help from Legal Aid Bureau. They provide free legal services. They will arrange for other aids like shelter for you to protect you from your hubby if he is a potential threat. If you have relatives whom you can turn to, go to them immediately.

Trust me, as soon as you take the first step, everything will be easy. That hubby of yours will shit in his pants when he knows that you are not a weakling and his days are numbered.

Take care and be strong.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1159278https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1159278Sun, 01 Dec 2013 09:31:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Sun, 01 Dec 2013 04:02:59 GMT]]>even if u don’t want to sue him or don’t want to go thru ugly divorce i still encourage you to leave him.

your councillor may be right. can u sit down and talk to him. what is it that he really wants? maybe in the end he just want a divorce without losing his asset. if that is what he wants and if that gives you the peace of mind then go for it. agree on a monthly maintenance for your girl.

i also strongly encourage u to start looking for a child care n put her in a half day or 3 hrs program. so that it will be easier for you to look for a job and easier for full day transition for her. it looks like this cannot be avoided.

stay strong.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1159189https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1159189Sun, 01 Dec 2013 04:02:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Sat, 30 Nov 2013 04:37:58 GMT]]>

Mummybaby:
Hi all,


If I make a police report against impersonation means I need to sue my hubby to jail in high court. Next, I will need to get personal protection order which means I need to sue him and he may get lawyer to defend him. And next, I will need to sue him for divorce in this highly contested case.....next, I will be famous overnight with the media...all these I hv to consider as I will need to hire a few lawyers to defend me from all these lawsuits... Where do I get all these monies n mental strength to go thru all these hell? How to take good care of my girl if I were to go thru all these lawsuits? I think I will be mentally collapsed. I will need tons n tons of bravery n mental stress to go thru this alone. I will need to hire family lawyer as well as lawyers for criminal lawsuits. If I pack my bag n leave, I hv no shelter for my girl n myself...is my girl going to suffer with me.

I hv spoken with my councillor and he has made me see the path I am abt to take in great details. Its an extremely hard for a SAHM to go thru all these. He is afraid I might not hv the strength to take care of my girl which she needs me the most as I only focus on my lawsuits. The wellbeing of my girl as I may become impatient, frustrated, sad, scared, worried, hurt etc...when dealing with all these lawsuits. The question is: is yr girl in good hands if u r mentally stressed out? My girl will more or less be affected by these.

My marriage adviser encourage me to settle these with my hubby amicably for the sake of my girl. Sometimes, the 'right' way or legal way may not be the best way depends on circumstances. Can we settle these without going thru lawsuit n fight till 'death'?

What do u think of my marriage adviser's opinion? He wants me to explore these
options as well before taking drastic actions.
Mummybaby,

Criminal trials will be fought by the state and your DH. As long the police finds sufficient evidence of a criminal act, your DH will be arrested and he will have to defend himself in court. You will be called as a witness and you don't have to spend a single penny.

The divorce is a civil case and you will need to hire family lawyer to fight it.

The marriage councilor's grasp of how law works is a bit lacking, but there is some truth in what he said. If it is possible settle it amicably to avoid any possible public attention. I would suggest a formal divorce but let him handle the proceeding, let him decide how much to give you and just take the necessary amount to support yourself and your girl while you rebuild your career.

I always believe in 'you reap what you sow'. Your DH will get his just dessert in the future, but you could choose to leave this situation with your head held up high and be an example to your girl.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1158805https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1158805Sat, 30 Nov 2013 04:37:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Sat, 30 Nov 2013 04:05:00 GMT]]>Hi all,


If I make a police report against impersonation means I need to sue my hubby to jail in high court. Next, I will need to get personal protection order which means I need to sue him and he may get lawyer to defend him. And next, I will need to sue him for divorce in this highly contested case…next, I will be famous overnight with the media…all these I hv to consider as I will need to hire a few lawyers to defend me from all these lawsuits… Where do I get all these monies n mental strength to go thru all these hell? How to take good care of my girl if I were to go thru all these lawsuits? I think I will be mentally collapsed. I will need tons n tons of bravery n mental stress to go thru this alone. I will need to hire family lawyer as well as lawyers for criminal lawsuits. If I pack my bag n leave, I hv no shelter for my girl n myself…is my girl going to suffer with me.

I hv spoken with my councillor and he has made me see the path I am abt to take in great details. Its an extremely hard for a SAHM to go thru all these. He is afraid I might not hv the strength to take care of my girl which she needs me the most as I only focus on my lawsuits. The wellbeing of my girl as I may become impatient, frustrated, sad, scared, worried, hurt etc…when dealing with all these lawsuits. The question is: is yr girl in good hands if u r mentally stressed out? My girl will more or less be affected by these.

My marriage adviser encourage me to settle these with my hubby amicably for the sake of my girl. Sometimes, the ‘right’ way or legal way may not be the best way depends on circumstances. Can we settle these without going thru lawsuit n fight till ‘death’?

What do u think of my marriage adviser’s opinion? He wants me to explore these
options as well before taking drastic actions.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1158795https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1158795Sat, 30 Nov 2013 04:05:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Fri, 29 Nov 2013 07:04:39 GMT]]>Mummy baby,

I agree with other posts. Pack up your bags and bring your child to the police station immediately. Tell them you are afraid for your life and get a court order for protection. AWARE will make arrangements to put you up in a shelter for the time being. You don't have to worry about legal costs cos you can get legal help.
Your coward husband (definitely coward) is trying to threaten you in submission and is bullying you as he thinks that you are too weak/afraid to fight back. His threats are to ensure that you won't fight him and cos him trouble.
Put your foot down immediately. The longer you delay in taking action, the more that coward think that you are afraid of him and give you more hell.
He knows that if you expose them, both of them will go to jail for what they have done. These are criminal offences and he'll lose everything. That is why he's threatening you so that you will be too afraid to do anything to him. Don't fall into his trap. Trust me, if you take the first step, he'll come begging to you to let him off. If he does, don't be soft-hearted cos when it blows over, he'll go back to his old ways. He does not care for you. If he really love you, he would not have treated you in this way. Worse, he even let the other woman hurt you.

I know too many cases like yours.
I have an aunt whose husband left her for a PRC woman. After a few years, he came crawling back after spending all his money. During his absence, his children got married and have their own families. My aunt was very docile, suffering in silence. She took him back as if nothing has happened. :slapshead:

Another case:
My friend worked 7 days a week to help supp family income. When hubby got retrenched, she even took over all expenses including paying for house mortgage. Her hubby took for granted and didn't give her any household allowance even when he got a job later. For a few years, he was in between jobs and the bulk of the financial burden fell on my friend.
Worse, he got himself into debt by incurring credit card bills. He would spent like there's no tomorrow and either paid minimum sum or not at all. Once he max a card, he'll apply for another from another bank. To get himself out of debt, he downgraded from private apt to 3 roomers. He was fortunate that they managed to make some money in this way to pay off his debts. So, every 2 years, they would have to sell their place and move cos after clearing off his debts, he would get himself into debts again after a year or so.
On top of that, he was seeing another woman. My friend was very :stompfeet: when she discovered that he even went on a holiday with her though he claimed that he was out of job and had no money for the family. She wanted to divorce him initially then but decided to give him a chance when both of their family members intervened and he promised to break off with her. However, he did not break off with her at all and continued to see that woman. He knew my friend was aware of his continued affair cos his eldest son ever bumped into them in a coffee shop just a year after their supposed break up. It was followed by more sightings by other people such as his siblings and friends. He was not discreet about it. He began to take for granted when he saw that his wife closed both eyes and did not confront him although she knew what was going on. My friend suffered in silence and her hubby thought that he had the best of both worlds. Family and friends have tried to talk to him but he refused to listen.
After a few years, my friend decided that enough was enough and went to a lawyer to initiate divorce proceedings. He dejectedly claim that he could not do anything since his wife wanted to divorce him. Till this day, it seems that he didn't know why his wife chose to divorce. :faint: :faint:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1158294https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1158294Fri, 29 Nov 2013 07:04:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Fri, 29 Nov 2013 03:53:19 GMT]]>Dressed for success and improve on beauty, wear 5.75 inch high heels. Fight with the other woman till the end. Ask for more money.


Frankly speaking, look after yrself first rather than kids.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1158106https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1158106Fri, 29 Nov 2013 03:53:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 04:08:09 GMT]]>Mummy baby,


You are in dire need of professional help.
Please approach the associations mentioned here asap.

You have to act now. I can only imagine your pain and fear. And the uncertainty of the future. It is not easy to take action , but you must do it. Take that first step - call AWARE, they will help you out.

Please reach out to someone you can trust - just to talk and share your emotions. Because it is necessary for you to be very strong.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157296https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157296Thu, 28 Nov 2013 04:08:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 03:53:26 GMT]]>Bluebells is right. Go and log a police report right away. This will leave a paper trail that will support your case. If you do not file a formal complaint, everything will be just "you say, he say". You can be accused of exaggerating things to expand your claims. With a formal complaint, it is in black and white.


You can also try to record your conversations with him and use that as supporting evidence (depends on clarity). Hand phones are underutilised tools.

Do not worry about contested case. From your descriptions, it sounds like a strong case with forgery, emotional/mental/physical abuse. He is digging his own grave with every act, but you must create a paper trail and collect evidence to help yourself. Eg. don’t just call the telcom. Follow up with a strong email so there is an electronic paper trail that YOU can pull out anytime instead of waiting for the telcom to slowly fish it out for you in future. And don’t just email customer service, call and demand for a higher authority and email that person.

He threw the heavy massage machine - take a photo of it after he is gone (I doubt he cleared it up), or better still, get your friendly neighbourhood policeman to come and take a look and take photo of it and any scuff marks on the floor.

did your daughter get a fever afterwards because of shock? If she did, take her to the doctor and tell the doctor what happened. This will add to your list of evidence and witnesses.

And frankly, other coworkers are bound to know something. If the case escalate and the police starts to dig (based on forgery), I am sure there will be more supporting evidence for you.

Other forummers have given you good helplines. Do call them. Don’t be afraid of him. Remember this is just an overgrown bully. Keep yourself safe, but mentally do not back off.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157285https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157285Thu, 28 Nov 2013 03:53:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 03:28:56 GMT]]>First off, lodge a police case if you have prove / or suspect that someone has impersonated you. Let police do the rest. Forgery is a crime.


If you have evidence of his violence (child witness of equipment thrown at him / her), file a PPO, logged a police case . For every violent act, log a case every time. All these cases will be taken into consideration when the need arise. if your child is in primary school, you might want to consider letting the school counsellor know so that help can be on hand to help manage your child's emotion, plus the psychiatrist from MOE can be called in to help your child (if need be) and these are accredited professionals who will have case records of how the happenings at home is impacting your child.

Call the law society to seek for pro bono legal assistance :

http://probono.lawsociety.org.sg/About-Us/Our-Services/

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157266https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157266Thu, 28 Nov 2013 03:28:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 03:20:35 GMT]]>

ngl2010:
Ummm... I am afraid they are trying to find fault with you. That is why they tried to get your past 6 months phone history.


Have you gotten a copy of all your husband's financial documents? Bank accounts, insurance, investments, etc? So you'll get your share when the divorce happens.

Be strong!

Hi,

I did not even do anything to them not even a phone call to office. There is nothing they can find fault at me. My life is so occupied with my child n daily chores but I sense my hubby is always very tense n deep in thoughts. Like hiding things away from me.

My friend told me if someone cheats or guilty of something, they always behave like that.

I am very afraid in the event of divorce, mine will be a highly contested one which is very confirmed already. I am afraid I am fighting a losing battle and I can't afford highly contested and long battle for yrs. My financial situation does not allow me to.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157256https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157256Thu, 28 Nov 2013 03:20:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 03:08:10 GMT]]>Ummm… I am afraid they are trying to find fault with you. That is why they tried to get your past 6 months phone history.


Have you gotten a copy of all your husband’s financial documents? Bank accounts, insurance, investments, etc? So you’ll get your share when the divorce happens.

Be strong!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157242https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157242Thu, 28 Nov 2013 03:08:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 02:56:06 GMT]]>[quote=\"Sun_2010\"]Mummybaby you have to be brave and calm.


[quote=\"Mummybaby\"]Hi all,

My hubby and that woman did something terrible to me. That coworker impersonate me and change my residential address, steal my personal info. and incurred unknown charges into my acct.!
[color=#000080]where did she change the residential address? Banks and other important organisations ask for IC. Did she get your IC ( like thru your husband?)
What unknown charges - in bank / tel line , where?

If you dont mind giving details, forummers can advise you on what to do to keep evidence

I hv called telecoms and all dialogues was recorded which I can use as an evidence. My hubby got the cheek to say that what harm can she do to you by stealing info from u! Did I get hurt or injured or suffered losses cos monthly allowances was given by him so indirectly he is paying my bills!

The next thing is: I had a heated argument based on the above issue and out of anger, he threw a heavy massage machine towards my two yr old narrowly missing her and smashed the machine violently on the floor as if he was being possessed! I could not imagine if it hit my girl, she may suffer from serious injury or worst! I quickly brought my girl into my bedroom and locked up the door.

My hubby even said if in the event of divorce, if he lose lots of monies in divorce and his company assets he will make me die together with him! He will not let me live in peace!

My marriage is getting more n more complicated and the amount of emotional stress that I suffered is beyond words. My hubby told me he is
getting the best lawyer here and fight me till the end irregardless of no. years or millions dollars of money which he could afford! I felt I am losing the battle against him cos I am not financially strong as him since I am just a SAHM.

]He is trying to scare you into submission. If you divorce he has much more to lose than you. What you would lose is a husband and a father for your child but he is hardly playing a good role anyway.
And because you are a SAHM, he will have to provide for you and your daughter. Of course , it is best to find ways to get independent.

Hi,

My hubby is the one who gave all my particulars to her including my I/c!
Both of them were scared that someone in the office secretly told me abt their movements n absence during office hrs!

That coworker impersonate me by telling telecoms someone hv hacked into my phone and she needs telecoms' help into giving her my last 6 months phone details and telecom told me that they printed 50 pages which requires her to pay for such services. She agreed to pay n telecoms hv charged these few hundred dollars into my acct!

Moreover she told Singtel, I hv moved out from my current residential address with immediate effect n all my mails hv all gone into her hands the last few months!

She impersonated me and tricked Telecoms in getting my particulars and selling the particulars to her and incurred losses for me. But my hubby claimed she is innocent. Telecoms told me to make police report against them but of course my hubby will be implicated although all evidences showed no man was in the picture.

This coworker had no tiny bits of respect for me by doing such unlawful acts and not scope of work as a secretary! My hubby hv threatened me that if I got her into trouble with law, he will not let go of me and make sure to fight till death!

What should I do now????

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157227https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157227Thu, 28 Nov 2013 02:56:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 02:46:41 GMT]]>Mummybaby


Don't get into anymore arguments with him. (Not worth it)
You & your child's safety is more important!!!!!
Keep your calm...... for your child's sake

His brain is \"spolit\", no matter how you fight with him now, he won't wake up
Don't let him use this opportunity to hurt you whether physically or emotionally.

They say it takes two to clap, if you don't fight with him, no matter how he fights with you, he won't win (If you understand what I'm trying to say)

Life is short enough, don't let him be the one to guide your emotions.
Be happy for yourself and your child.
If this way that you look at is unhappy just turn your head the other way

:hugs: Pls take care of yourself

Peace to all

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157220https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157220Thu, 28 Nov 2013 02:46:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 02:28:11 GMT]]>

Mummybaby:
Hi all,


My hubby and that woman did something terrible to me. That coworker impersonate me and change my residential address, steal my personal info. and incurred unknown charges into my acct.! I hv called telecoms and all dialogues was recorded which I can use as an evidence. My hubby got the cheek to say that what harm can she do to you by stealing info from u! Did I get hurt or injured or suffered losses cos monthly allowances was given by him so indirectly he is paying my bills!

The next thing is: I had a heated argument based on the above issue and out of anger, he threw a heavy massage machine towards my two yr old narrowly missing her and smashed the machine violently on the floor as if he was being possessed! I could not imagine if it hit my girl, she may suffer from serious injury or worst! I quickly brought my girl into my bedroom and locked up the door.

My hubby even said if in the event of divorce, if he lose lots of monies in divorce and his company assets he will make me die together with him! He will not let me live in peace!

My marriage is getting more n more complicated and the amount of emotional stress that I suffered is beyond words. My hubby told me he is getting the best lawyer here and fight me till the end irregardless of no. years or millions dollars of money which he could afford! I felt I am losing the battle against him cos I am not financially strong as him since I am just a SAHM.
Mummybaby...so sorry to hear what you are going through... :scared:
Please seek help:
http://www.aware.org.sg
AWARE Centre Association of Women for Action & Research
Block 5 Dover Crescent #01-22 Singapore 130005
Tel +65 6779 7137 Fax +65 6777 0318
Helpline 1800 774 5935 -

They give free legal advise...

Don't wait...try to seek for help.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157203https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157203Thu, 28 Nov 2013 02:28:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 02:24:43 GMT]]>Mummybaby you have to be brave and calm.

Mummybaby:
Hi all,

My hubby and that woman did something terrible to me. That coworker impersonate me and change my residential address, steal my personal info. and incurred unknown charges into my acct.!
where did she change the residential address? Banks and other important organisations ask for IC. Did she get your IC ( like thru your husband?)
What unknown charges - in bank / tel line , where?

If you dont mind giving details, forummers can advise you on what to do to keep evidence

I hv called telecoms and all dialogues was recorded which I can use as an evidence. My hubby got the cheek to say that what harm can she do to you by stealing info from u! Did I get hurt or injured or suffered losses cos monthly allowances was given by him so indirectly he is paying my bills!

The next thing is: I had a heated argument based on the above issue and out of anger, he threw a heavy massage machine towards my two yr old narrowly missing her and smashed the machine violently on the floor as if he was being possessed! I could not imagine if it hit my girl, she may suffer from serious injury or worst! I quickly brought my girl into my bedroom and locked up the door.

My hubby even said if in the event of divorce, if he lose lots of monies in divorce and his company assets he will make me die together with him! He will not let me live in peace!


My marriage is getting more n more complicated and the amount of emotional stress that I suffered is beyond words. My hubby told me he is getting the best lawyer here and fight me till the end irregardless of no. years or millions dollars of money which he could afford! I felt I am losing the battle against him cos I am not financially strong as him since I am just a SAHM.

He is trying to scare you into submission. If you divorce he has much more to lose than you. What you would lose is a husband and a father for your child but he is hardly playing a good role anyway.
And because you are a SAHM, he will have to provide for you and your daughter. Of course , it is best to find ways to get independent.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157201https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157201Thu, 28 Nov 2013 02:24:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Marriage In Trouble...Should I give up? on Thu, 28 Nov 2013 00:09:29 GMT]]>Both my kids are with me u I was nt working too fight him n remember sg is very pro mummy one. Take care all the best I know taking baby steps out is jt easy slowly u can.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157092https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1157092Thu, 28 Nov 2013 00:09:29 GMT