<![CDATA[What time your maid comes home on off day?]]>All my 3 maids will go out ard 10am and I told them to be back by 7pm.

Only my 2nd Pinoy maid will break rules at time and text me ard 4pm+ to extend for another hour.
The other 2 maids will always be back before 7pm…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/62839/what-time-your-maid-comes-home-on-off-dayRSS for NodeSat, 09 May 2026 17:41:36 GMTTue, 26 Nov 2013 09:42:47 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Tue, 12 Nov 2013 02:52:09 GMT]]>my maid went out at 9am and return home at 7pm.

not sure if she return back on time as im at my in law house till 9pm every sun
I trust her la, and I warned her dont take for granted

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1143445https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1143445Tue, 12 Nov 2013 02:52:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Tue, 12 Nov 2013 02:41:47 GMT]]>Different people has different management style, you need to see what you feel comfortable. My colleague’s neighbour maid came back late drunken, in my view not acceptable as it does not fit with my family culture and value.


Some people need curfew and some do not need. It is always better to be strict first then relax a bit if you are unsure or inexperience in handling maid.

As i have a young child at home, I prefer my maid to come back home early than late. But I will close my eyes if she is a bit late as long as she still perform sastisfctorily and I know she does not involve in illegal/immoral activities out there.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1143435https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1143435Tue, 12 Nov 2013 02:41:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Mon, 11 Nov 2013 12:30:19 GMT]]>

Tamama:
For me I didn't put much attention on this. On day one we went thro the house rule together. I mentioned the curfew time to her. I told her she could go out when it is dawning. And back before 9pm. I never know what time she is out in the morning, cos I am still sleeping. I noticed sometimes she may be a bit late in coming back. But I think it's ok cos it is not like an hour late or what. After she is back she will walk my dog one more time and go to bed. I think off day is her time. I do not want to let her feel the pressure. So I prefer not to intervene. And no need.


You are a good employer and set a good example.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1143156https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1143156Mon, 11 Nov 2013 12:30:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Sat, 09 Nov 2013 15:30:16 GMT]]>For me I didn’t put much attention on this. On day one we went thro the house rule together. I mentioned the curfew time to her. I told her she could go out when it is dawning. And back before 9pm. I never know what time she is out in the morning, cos I am still sleeping. I noticed sometimes she may be a bit late in coming back. But I think it’s ok cos it is not like an hour late or what. After she is back she will walk my dog one more time and go to bed. I think off day is her time. I do not want to let her feel the pressure. So I prefer not to intervene. And no need.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1142126https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1142126Sat, 09 Nov 2013 15:30:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Fri, 08 Nov 2013 05:57:03 GMT]]>my maid goes out at 8am and back around 6pm

she attends church and classes on her off day
sometime she will meet her auntie (working here too).
so far quite consistent in her timing.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1141205https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1141205Fri, 08 Nov 2013 05:57:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Fri, 08 Nov 2013 05:41:13 GMT]]>Before my maid go out for the first time, i take the MOM newsletter and show her that MOM says we can ask our maid to do light chore but it is subject to her agreement. So I ask her is it ok if you do this … do that… just simple thing, do not expect to do the heavy duty thing blah blah blah… Also I told her come back by 6 sth as I said it is not nice to linger outside when the day gets dark.

So far she come back on time, pretty discipline for 1 year plus. I knew she hang out with my relative helper who also never late back home. I guess if they already mix with friends who come back late then it will be a problem.
If we know our relative or neighbour maid (check with neighbour if she is good at home, ok) is good, we should encourage and give them opportunity to mingle, & vice versa. Afterall they need friends, chatting helps them to release stress.
If possible, try to print out some articles about the past cases where the maid kill each other, kena cheated, moonlightning/prostitution and got caught, etc and pass to them to read. Always show that we are concern about them (not ourselves) and hope they do not end up like that and being sent home/or kena chopped into pieces.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1141189https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1141189Fri, 08 Nov 2013 05:41:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Thu, 07 Nov 2013 09:42:45 GMT]]>i am grateful that i have changed my phinoy maid to my current Mynmar maid. My phinoy maid can go off before 7am! and come back after 9pm! told her before and still do the same.


for my current maid, very "automatic"…she goes out after 10pm and i told her before to come back by 8pm…and throughout the 2 yrs with us…she never breaks the 8pm time…always will reach home before 730pm. just renewed her contract and hope she can work for long…cause changing maid is a hassle…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1140561https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1140561Thu, 07 Nov 2013 09:42:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Fri, 11 Oct 2013 02:13:24 GMT]]>From the responses so far, it seems that my cut-off time for my maid is the latest already, at 9 pm. She does not need to cook on her off day and we allow her to go out as early as 7 plus which she will sometimes do. To me, more than 12 hours out is already long enough so coming back beyond 9 pm is something I find hard to swallow. I think coming back late once or twice is acceptable but there is something not quite right if its every time. I gave her the cold shoulder for a week plus. She sensed it and apologised to me and said that she would be punctual the next time. I am not sure if she will change but I have learnt that if I were to have other maids next time, it is better to set the cut-off time earlier and monitor it and nip the problem in the bud before it becomes out of hand cos it seems that there are not many options that employers can adopt to deal with these matters as nowadays giving offday to maid is a practice.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1118798https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1118798Fri, 11 Oct 2013 02:13:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Thu, 10 Oct 2013 09:39:40 GMT]]>10-15 mins grace time is ok…

Best is to fix ground rules and be consistent, not subject to changes as and when as she likes.
When a maid gives excuses most of the time, better watch out. Compensate their off time with money may not be attractive to this type of maid.
Don’t you think she might mistreat ur child later or spike something in your food/drink if u scold her?
If can’t tolerate her, it’s time to change one.
This is the trouble u need to deal with when u have a maid…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1118269https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1118269Thu, 10 Oct 2013 09:39:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Thu, 10 Oct 2013 05:52:16 GMT]]>My maid leaves at 9am and comes back at 6pm but never on time. Latest was 6.45pm. I just pretend to look angry when she is late so that she won’t dare to go overboard. In reality I don’t really need her around on Sundays.


I think whether she works after she is back from her off day is something that is sort out between the employer and the maid. Both sides should not be calculative. I mean if you are carrying your crying baby and the maid just came back from off, the maid cannot help out by making milk for the baby just because it’s her off day?!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1118002https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1118002Thu, 10 Oct 2013 05:52:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Thu, 10 Oct 2013 04:21:56 GMT]]>Mine goes out around 9am, sometimes later and is supposed to come back by 6pm. If she has a special event or reason then I will extend but that is usually only once every few months. She did go through a stage of coming back later and not informing me but I told her she just needs to SMS so now she is much better.


In your case, why not tell her that if she comes back 30 minutes late then she will go out 30 minutes later the following week?! They need to learn to manage their time - I can’t tell my boss I was late because the coffee queue was too long or I had to wait for the train; we have to take that into account.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117916https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117916Thu, 10 Oct 2013 04:21:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Thu, 10 Oct 2013 01:21:09 GMT]]>My maid comes back at 5pm latest 6pm as she claimed that the bus was late and too crowded at Orchard. I told her she should know that and gauge the time properly. I cannot expect the same excuses from her all the time.


However, she still cook dinner on Sunday once she is back. Else, if no need to cook, she will still get something to do. We have to give and take. She was a transfer maid hence I think after being ill-treated by her previous employer (abused her), she appreciates us more. We also increased her pay from $550 to $600 even though she had been with us for only 6 months. We can see that she is hardworking.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117695https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117695Thu, 10 Oct 2013 01:21:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Thu, 10 Oct 2013 01:01:26 GMT]]>Mine came back around 7-7.30pm. If she wants to come back later than that, she will have to call me to inform me or at least an SMS. Failing which, I will scold her. Reason for her is that she has to at least inform me to let me know she is "safe" if she want to come back at a later time. That the minimum requirement.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117678https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117678Thu, 10 Oct 2013 01:01:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Wed, 09 Oct 2013 17:29:17 GMT]]>

isetan:
Question is, contractually, if they are entitled for the off day, they can come home before 2359 hrs. On the hand, even if they come home say at 7pm, is she supposed to work for the rest of the night?

😄 Day off means DAY off? Does not include night? :evil:
Actually, we're not supposed to ask that they do any work for us on the day off. But if she offers to do so, or does so on her own initiative, it's ok.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117591https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117591Wed, 09 Oct 2013 17:29:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Wed, 09 Oct 2013 16:06:22 GMT]]>Question is, contractually, if they are entitled for the off day, they can come home before 2359 hrs. On the hand, even if they come home say at 7pm, is she supposed to work for the rest of the night?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117569https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117569Wed, 09 Oct 2013 16:06:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Wed, 09 Oct 2013 14:42:57 GMT]]>Mine supposed to reach home at 8pm but sometime go beyond the timing. She will gave excused here and there, but what can I do. I have learned to close both eyes. We need them more than they need us.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117532https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117532Wed, 09 Oct 2013 14:42:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:39:57 GMT]]>

also-mummy:
On her off day, my maid usually goes out at about 8 plus to 9 am. Initially, she will come back at 7 pm. However, since this year, she has been coming back past 9 pm, sometimes even at 9:40 pm. At the beginning, she would tell me that its due to long queues at taxi stand or she had to wait a long time for her food. Every time when this happened, I would tell her to manage her time properly as she is supposed to be back by 9 pm. I talked to her nicely and explained to her the rationale why she should be back by 9 pm (so that she could have adequate rest, can prepare for the next day, etc). Every time when I talked to her, she would tell me that she would come back by the designated timing the next time. However, on her next off day, she would continue to come back past 9 pm, although it would be about 9:10 or 9:15. For the past few times, as the soft approach did not seem to work, I have been using the hard approach to tell her off for her lateness and tell her that I would fine her if she continued to not keep to the timing, however, her attitude is \"ok, go ahead and fine me\". I am very angry with her \"bochap\" attitude as she is not following house rules set and I find that my authority is being undermined. However, I also don't want to appear as too sticky due to the 10-15 minutes (someone told me to keep my eyes close as its only 10-15 minutes late, she said even in office, there is also some allowance). Can anybody share some experience?


Try using a different approach. Ask her to come home by 6pm to cook dinner for the family & compensate her with half a day pay ($10)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117326https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117326Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:39:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:02:15 GMT]]>🙂 Mine was 6pm and stretches to 7pm. Fortunately it's quite inconsequential what time she comes back as we would pack dinner. But she wakes up early on weekdays 530am (and sleeps about 930pm). I think may be hard to reel in the time if habit has formed. Good luck

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117292https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117292Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:02:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What time your maid comes home on off day? on Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:59:42 GMT]]>goes out abt 10am after simple chores and back by 6.30pm. the ‘curfew’ time was given to her the day she arrived in our home. very punctual so far for the last almost 2 years. she comes back by bus

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117289https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1117289Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:59:42 GMT