Molest of Young Girls

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 06:49:51 GMT

millionaire394c — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 06:49:51 GMT

Not just girls get molested, Parent please watch out for your boys too!

I was molested by a man when I was between 10-11. he was pretending to ask for block direction suddenly I feel something "warm" on my palm. another time one fellow said he knew my mum and offer to send me to school. These ass-hole shd pay for legal services in Geylang instead of preying on young boys and girls.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 06:06:36 GMT

atrecord — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 06:06:36 GMT

slmkhoo:
atrecord:
Incidentally DD has been taking wushu as CCA this year. not sure if it's of any use/deterrence though...

must teach her more of how to deal with people when approached.
Sometimes, kids may be over-confident when they think they have some fighting skills, and they get into more trouble that way. 'Bad guys' won't play by the rules and will be bigger and stronger anyway. We just tell our kids to avoid or move away - don't try to be a hero!

Agree... it's best to adopt 三十六计，走为上记。

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 06:03:51 GMT

atrecord — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 06:03:51 GMT

slmkhoo:
atrecord:
Last Sat, we ask P4 DD to walk home on her own from tuition in heartland mall, just go through mrt station cross the road. I wanted to hide some distance away to see how is it, but didn't manage to see her. But she reached home ok...

we've not given her handphone yet, and while DW thinks maybe P5 can give, i was thinking of giving only in S1...
I know that area quite well and it's pretty safe. About mobile phones, when our kids were younger, we had a 'shared' phone which was not regarded as belonging to any child. They were allowed to take it with them when out alone as we felt it was safer for them to have one, but it was kept at home the rest of the time. They didn't get personal phones until they were in sec school.

OK... sounds like something we might be able to explore - get a shared phone for such purpose... maybe even take my mother's phone if she's at home

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:58:13 GMT

sharonkhoo — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:58:13 GMT

atrecord:
Incidentally DD has been taking wushu as CCA this year. not sure if it's of any use/deterrence though...

must teach her more of how to deal with people when approached.

Sometimes, kids may be over-confident when they think they have some fighting skills, and they get into more trouble that way. 'Bad guys' won't play by the rules and will be bigger and stronger anyway. We just tell our kids to avoid or move away - don't try to be a hero!

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:55:49 GMT

sharonkhoo — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:55:49 GMT

atrecord:
Last Sat, we ask P4 DD to walk home on her own from tuition in heartland mall, just go through mrt station cross the road. I wanted to hide some distance away to see how is it, but didn't manage to see her. But she reached home ok...

we've not given her handphone yet, and while DW thinks maybe P5 can give, i was thinking of giving only in S1...

I know that area quite well and it's pretty safe. About mobile phones, when our kids were younger, we had a 'shared' phone which was not regarded as belonging to any child. They were allowed to take it with them when out alone as we felt it was safer for them to have one, but it was kept at home the rest of the time. They didn't get personal phones until they were in sec school.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:48:50 GMT

sleepy — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:48:50 GMT

jetsetter:
Nebbermind:
Sleepy, you deleted very fast.

Anyway, I think some were forced by family circumstances (rich family, reputation, religion etc) to live the ' normal' life...and then later on in life decide to drop those and leave the 'normal' life.

How true! I had this rich-man-son friend who led a hedonistic homo life in London. He was always going to gay bars and even hit at another straight friend of mine. After he graduated, he went back to KL to fulfil his obligation as filial son...talk abt amphibious.

His wife 比较可怜

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:43:35 GMT

nicnac — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:43:35 GMT

They are always on the look out for places with open concept shower. And oh boy... I never knew about glory holes :yikes:

Regardless whether boys or girls.... Must teach them to be alert.. Anything weird.. Seek help.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:38:06 GMT

atrecord — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:38:06 GMT

Nebbermind:
concern2:
[quote=\"jetsetter\"]
This is so true in today's world. Read this in wanbao in June, was so disgusted by the tutor's act! Can't locate the article, but Malaysian website got the full narration! Yucks!....
:faint:

My bro also nearly got into trouble at public swimming pool shower room. Good thing he sensed something wrong and quickly left.

Not sure abt now but in the old days, there wasn't any door or curtain in the men's shower. And there were guys sitting ard watching people shower[/quote]I used to bring kids to yck swimming pool for lessons. There are cubicles with doors and also some open shower areas there. Didn't really notice any obvious 'predators' there, but yes, obviously the swimming pool toilet/changing rooms are ideal places for those perverts. Where else can they legally see all the bodies that they crave? The other possibility is probably the army, but even in the newer camps, the toilets are upgraded and have doors already...

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:07:27 GMT

atrecord — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:07:27 GMT

slmkhoo:
atrecord:
sigh...

Just as i'm starting to think when should we start to get DD to walk to tuition class on her own... and obviously from there on, later take bus on her own...

At this rate, we'll be too scared to start
How old is she? We started letting our girls go around by themselves around 10yo, but only well-defined routes and places in daylight. We also gave them a basic pep talk about how to stay safe (don't walk in lonely places, don't follow anyone anywhere, go to a shop or bus stop for help etc etc). We also told them never to be embarrassed to move away if any person made them feel uncomfortable by getting too close etc. They carried a mobile phone, so I said they should just call me anytime. Risks are everywhere, and we can't protect our kids forever. Teaching them how to survive is better protection than escorting them everywhere, but of course, you have to assess how mature your girl is before you start.

DD will turn 10 in 2 wk...

we were thinking of roughly the same thing, start off with easy/simple routes first, and it's actually very simple one that we started last Sat. Tmr I will attempt to hide somewhere to see how she does it again, and hopefully i won't miss her like i did last week.

She's quite kaypo and would like to stop to look at things though, hence our concern.

i was telling DW that when i was in P4, i was walking 1.5 km to/from pri sch, crossing a few roads. But now it's so very different. people are probably worse than last time, and the roads are so much more crowded with cars, and drivers are almost certainly worse, so it might not be safe... But despite this, you're absolutely right that we shouldn't be protecting them forever - so we've finally starting...

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:06:18 GMT

jetsetter — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:06:18 GMT

Nebbermind:
Sleepy, you deleted very fast.

Anyway, I think some were forced by family circumstances (rich family, reputation, religion etc) to live the ' normal' life...and then later on in life decide to drop those and leave the 'normal' life.

How true! I had this rich-man-son friend who led a hedonistic homo life in London. He was always going to gay bars and even hit at another straight friend of mine. After he graduated, he went back to KL to fulfil his obligation as filial son...talk abt amphibious.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:52:13 GMT

atrecord — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:52:13 GMT

concern2:
atrecord:
sigh...

Just as i'm starting to think when should we start to get DD to walk to tuition class on her own... and obviously from there on, later take bus on her own...

At this rate, we'll be too scared to start
Need to teach her not to trust people easily and some self-defence. Some girls are afraid of looking rude, in the end became submissive and become easy target.

Another instance on the bus. I was sitting right at the end, and alone. Some boys boarded the bus and sat at the long seat next to me. One of them started to edge close to me and started teasing me. Gosh, I couldn't believe how I could hold such a straight face - now I can recall how I develop my poker face :rotflmao: But the guys saw no fun in teasing me eventually, and by then it was time to get off the bus. I said a curt \"Excuse Me\" and looked straight into his eyes and he 'siam' aside to let me go. Phew!

Incidentally DD has been taking wushu as CCA this year. not sure if it's of any use/deterrence though...

must teach her more of how to deal with people when approached.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:49:42 GMT

atrecord — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:49:42 GMT

MMM:
atrecord:
sigh...

Just as i'm starting to think when should we start to get DD to walk to tuition class on her own... and obviously from there on, later take bus on her own...

At this rate, we'll be too scared to start
atrecord, think we are in the same vicinity if I don't remember wrongly...

My P6 dd started to go to tuition classes on her own (eg. kovan area, charlton area, highland centre, near punggol nasi lemak area) since she was P5. Depending on which part, she will either take the bus/ walk. She has a handphone to contact us.

Hi MMM, we prob are - still. i was staying in lor chuan, but moved to kovan 1.5 yr ago...

Last Sat, we ask P4 DD to walk home on her own from tuition in heartland mall, just go through mrt station cross the road. I wanted to hide some distance away to see how is it, but didn't manage to see her. But she reached home ok...

we've not given her handphone yet, and while DW thinks maybe P5 can give, i was thinking of giving only in S1...

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:18:00 GMT

ngl2010 — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:18:00 GMT

The more I read this thread, the more I :yikes:

So many places cannot go now...

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:16:32 GMT

Nebbermind — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:16:32 GMT

Sleepy, you deleted very fast.

Anyway, I think some were forced by family circumstances (rich family, reputation, religion etc) to live the ’ normal’ life…and then later on in life decide to drop those and leave the ‘normal’ life.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 00:43:39 GMT

nicnac — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 00:43:39 GMT

Yup and it is scary when some of these men Do have a wife and kids.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 00:23:23 GMT

sleepy — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 00:23:23 GMT

nicnac:
Nebbermind:
RV swimming had this notorious reputation of being a happy fairy haunt.

Katong is also one of them.. You see lots of macho men in white swim trunks tanning.

Seems like cck/yck is also a fav haunt..

In fact, I think it's everywhere and anywhere. Public toilets/ parks/ reservoirs are common meeting place.

My single female friends were lamenting how hard it is to meet eligible men.
No avenue. Don't know WHERE to begin.

Yet it's actually easier for men to meet men :scratchhead:

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Fri, 01 Nov 2013 00:12:54 GMT

nicnac — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 00:12:54 GMT

Nebbermind:
RV swimming had this notorious reputation of being a happy fairy haunt.

Katong is also one of them.. You see lots of macho men in white swim trunks tanning.

Seems like cck/yck is also a fav haunt..

In fact, I think it's everywhere and anywhere. Public toilets/ parks/ reservoirs are common meeting place.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Thu, 31 Oct 2013 23:59:34 GMT

iFirefly — Thu, 31 Oct 2013 23:59:34 GMT

Just wondering.. Do the mummies (& daddies) still have such close encounters of the \"colourful\" kind.. now ? :evil:

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Thu, 31 Oct 2013 23:46:22 GMT

Nebbermind — Thu, 31 Oct 2013 23:46:22 GMT

RV swimming had this notorious reputation of being a happy fairy haunt.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Thu, 31 Oct 2013 16:04:58 GMT

ngl2010 — Thu, 31 Oct 2013 16:04:58 GMT

nicnac:
concern2:
[quote=\"jetsetter\"]
This is so true in today's world. Read this in wanbao in June, was so disgusted by the tutor's act! Can't locate the article, but Malaysian website got the full narration! Yucks!....
:faint:

My bro also nearly got into trouble at public swimming pool shower room. Good thing he sensed something wrong and quickly left.

That is one of the gay community's favourite hangout place.... To hunt and be hunted. I recently realised the men's shower room is such a dangerous place.[/quote] :yikes: :yikes: :yikes:

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Thu, 31 Oct 2013 15:20:27 GMT

nicnac — Thu, 31 Oct 2013 15:20:27 GMT

concern2:
jetsetter:

This is so true in today's world. Read this in wanbao in June, was so disgusted by the tutor's act! Can't locate the article, but Malaysian website got the full narration! Yucks!....
:faint:

My bro also nearly got into trouble at public swimming pool shower room. Good thing he sensed something wrong and quickly left.

That is one of the gay community's favourite hangout place.... To hunt and be hunted. I recently realised the men's shower room is such a dangerous place.

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Thu, 31 Oct 2013 14:57:41 GMT

Nebbermind — Thu, 31 Oct 2013 14:57:41 GMT

concern2:
jetsetter:

This is so true in today's world. Read this in wanbao in June, was so disgusted by the tutor's act! Can't locate the article, but Malaysian website got the full narration! Yucks!....
:faint:

My bro also nearly got into trouble at public swimming pool shower room. Good thing he sensed something wrong and quickly left.

Not sure abt now but in the old days, there wasn't any door or curtain in the men's shower. And there were guys sitting ard watching people shower

Reply to Molest of Young Girls on Thu, 31 Oct 2013 14:31:06 GMT

limlim — Thu, 31 Oct 2013 14:31:06 GMT

KSP:
so at what age do u let your dd travel alone on bus or mrt from home to sch or centres?

mine one start at P1, one P2.