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Desserts:

Really afraid for our dds who ll fall asleep in the bus, and these wolves just 趁机会 :mad: i told dds that it can happen to them, and sometimes when it happens, they can't react as fast as us, adults. So best to cover their fronts with files, or if they sleep on the bus, hug their haversacks.
真是防不胜防, these days simi pattern also have. We can only teach our daughters (ok, I don't have) as much as possible. But practical tests feel entirely different. Whether \"can perform under pressure\" or not is another aspect.

But one thing for sure, with that two experience, I will definitely do something to help myself or other ladies. Maybe not upfront confrontation but definitely not going to let these 死色狼爽到 :nunchuk:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/69399/deleted-sorry-for-being-so-kay-pohRSS for NodeThu, 23 Apr 2026 02:30:12 GMTFri, 21 Feb 2014 08:06:10 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Fri, 21 Feb 2014 07:18:00 GMT]]>[quote=\"Imami\"]I had two encounters. Dont know got more or not.


One when I was 22, I used to take bus to work. During the journey, I would cover myself with a cardigan, fold my arms and close my eyes to rest. One day, a young man (shd be around his twenties too) sat beside me. He kept his distance, ie our shoulders were not touching. After a while, I felt something caressing the underside of my arm. At first, I thought it's the corner of his sleeves. You know, if you iron the sleeves very well, there will be a \"bone\" that extends from the shoulder patch down to the end of the sleeves. So I covered up even more.

But the \"corner\" kept coming. Somehow I fidget a little and saw his index finger retreated back. Ooooh....死色狼! :mad: But but, i didn't have the courage to confront him. I donno what to do if he turn back and said something like,\"who want to molest you? Gt proof or not?\" but it's not me to 吃闷亏. Guess what I did? :evil: :evil:

I shifted nearer to him, took out my home key with my left hand, folded back my arms (so now my left hand would be at my right) and started poking him (he was sitting on my right) with the key as hard as I could. I reckoned he wouldn't dare to voice out and boi, I was right! That man quickly stood up and alighted at the next stop. Our eyes met as he waited for the doors to open. Hey, he looked the 斯斯文文kind, those most mothers will ok as the daughter's bf! 真是人不可貌相.

真是死色狼 :mad:

Almost Same thing happened to me on the bus, a man was sitting beside me, inching towards me purposely. His tighs pushing mine as I was sitting inside, just beside the window. Then I got up, moved side ways, yanked my bag hard at him, and got down before my stop! If i confronted him openly, he might give the excuse that the bus swerved towards my side, therefore he had to lean over and not his fault.

Really afraid for our dds who ll fall asleep in the bus, and these wolves just 趁机会 :mad: i told dds that it can happen to them, and sometimes when it happens, they can't react as fast as us, adults. So best to cover their fronts with files, or if they sleep on the bus, hug their haversacks.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220245https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220245Fri, 21 Feb 2014 07:18:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Fri, 21 Feb 2014 06:40:19 GMT]]>

starlight1968sg:
I never want to encounter such situations but have been telling myself to fight back if I ever encounter.

Have you face situations when a man, possibly unknowingly, walked into female toilets? I encountered twice and didnt hesitate to shout at him that he has entered the wrong toilet.
No need to be so fierce lah. Sometimes it's just an honest mistake. It happened to me once. I accidentally walked into the male toilet in church as it was located at a more secluded spot where I seldom go. When I saw one of the youth (I'm auntie to these young men), I screamed as I realised my mistake. The poor guy also screamed as he was alarmed. :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220224https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220224Fri, 21 Feb 2014 06:40:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Fri, 21 Feb 2014 02:52:51 GMT]]>I had two encounters. Dont know got more or not.


One when I was 22, I used to take bus to work. During the journey, I would cover myself with a cardigan, fold my arms and close my eyes to rest. One day, a young man (shd be around his twenties too) sat beside me. He kept his distance, ie our shoulders were not touching. After a while, I felt something caressing the underside of my arm. At first, I thought it's the corner of his sleeves. You know, if you iron the sleeves very well, there will be a \"bone\" that extends from the shoulder patch down to the end of the sleeves. So I covered up even more.

But the \"corner\" kept coming. Somehow I fidget a little and saw his index finger retreated back. Ooooh....死色狼! :mad: But but, i didn't have the courage to confront him. I donno what to do if he turn back and said something like,\"who want to molest you? Gt proof or not?\" but it's not me to 吃闷亏. Guess what I did? :evil: :evil:

I shifted nearer to him, took out my home key with my left hand, folded back my arms (so now my left hand would be at my right) and started poking him (he was sitting on my right) with the key as hard as I could. I reckoned he wouldn't dare to voice out and boi, I was right! That man quickly stood up and alighted at the next stop. Our eyes met as he waited for the doors to open. Hey, he looked the 斯斯文文kind, those most mothers will ok as the daughter's bf! 真是人不可貌相.

Another incident more disgusting.

In my mid twenties, I was waiting at a bus stop. I saw a dirty looking man moving around in some tall bushes. These bushes were located just behind the bus stop, very tall, more than 2m and very thick. There was a small drain and railing separating the bus stop and the bushes. Actually I donno what this man was doing in the bush. He was already inside there by the time I noticed him. For a while, I thought he was one of those workers trimming the bushes.

I heard him whistling, looking at my direction, and then I heard noises like the movement of zip and buckle of the belt. From the corner of my eyes, I could see that his pants was dropped to the ground. :yikes: he continued whistling while I deliberated if I should run.

I didn't move off through out. Because I still feel safe enough, I supposed and partly because I didn't know what he was doing.

Then I heard noisy that sounded like pouring liquid onto the ground, then I heard the sound of buckling the belt again and that man moved off.

I told my hubby about this. He believed that that man in bush was m*bating. :sick: :sick: :sick:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220054https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220054Fri, 21 Feb 2014 02:52:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Fri, 21 Feb 2014 02:10:52 GMT]]>I never want to encounter such situations but have been telling myself to fight back if I ever encounter.

Have you face situations when a man, possibly unknowingly, walked into female toilets? I encountered twice and didnt hesitate to shout at him that he has entered the wrong toilet.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220025https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220025Fri, 21 Feb 2014 02:10:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Fri, 21 Feb 2014 02:05:54 GMT]]>spoke to a few of my girl friends, most of them had encounter such cases in their life at least once.


when i was 13 that year, one of my classmate came to school looking troubled, she told me the SBS bus driver exposed his penis to her when she was standing in front of the bus. it was crowded and happened she was the only one facing the driver. she was too shocked to react and due to her young age, she is fearful and doesnt know what she should do.
poor her, avoiding and pretending not to see until she reached the school.

2nd encounter is a friend of mine, also happened in a crowded bus. we were all in school uniform and standing at the aisle (no more seats), as the bus is very jerky and this man tried to touch my friend boobs when the bus did a turn. luckily one of my classmate was vigilant to pull her a side.

3rd incident happened to me when i was 16:(
i was walking alone to the bus stop after school, and to walk there, i have to cut across a block of old deserted flats. then i saw a teenage boy around 18 sitting on the corner stone bench masturbating. i was damn scare and run back to school to tell my boy classmates who then follwed me to the scene. but by then, that boy had already ran off. i was so pissed that it had to happened to me. but now that i think back, that boy is still young, he probably need to see a doctor.
but for adult men to do these to girls need to be thrown in the jail.

most of these cases happened to the secondary or teen girls, these bastard like to target them as they are young and high chances they will just suffer in silent.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220014https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1220014Fri, 21 Feb 2014 02:05:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:15:55 GMT]]>It didn't seem that the lady actually felt anything in my opinion. In crowded trains, it is quite usual that everyone bumps into everyone else. Besides, the lady appeared to have her earphones plugged in nicely to realize anything fishy or bumpy.


I doubt the guy felt anything either. His tummy was really a big bumpy obstacle.

Jetsetter... that was some \"twerking\" all right. :rotflmao:

These days, ppl are so swift with their smart phones it is scary.
Everything's up for the world to see within seconds.

Be it a video, an email or a close up photo. 🤷
I kinda feel for the fella in the vid. His face was so clear for all to see. He could jolly well be someone's hubby, someone's father, brother, friend or mebbe who knows, could even be a teacher!

Without seeing the big picture cos the frame was only fixed at one area, can't really tell. Can't tell if he was looking outside, saw someone familiar on the train, or looking out for empty seats. It's easy to assume he was up to no good from that pretty long video. I mean it was long enough for me to have probably said something to the lady if I thought she was being taken advantage of, instead of just filming it at that duration for the intention to shame the chap.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219632https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219632Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:15:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:02:29 GMT]]>

straffan23:
... first time encounter with perverts, I ran home and cried. My mom even blamed me for it. I wanted a second opinion so called my father... whom rushed home to assure me that it wasnt my fault. He also told me that if I ever encounter such situation... hit where it hurt most, or shout or attck the fella. It is never my fault. So I toughened up and wised up. These people continue to do things because they think they can get away with it.

Actually this afternoon I was thinking that there are signs for Fine if we drink/eat/smoke or even bring durian to MRT but there is no sign for Fine/other form of punishment for these molesters. I know that it is laughable to have signs but these things should stop.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219623https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219623Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:02:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 11:40:42 GMT]]>… first time encounter with perverts, I ran home and cried. My mom even blamed me for it. I wanted a second opinion so called my father… whom rushed home to assure me that it wasnt my fault. He also told me that if I ever encounter such situation… hit where it hurt most, or shout or attck the fella. It is never my fault. So I toughened up and wised up. These people continue to do things because they think they can get away with it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219606https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219606Thu, 20 Feb 2014 11:40:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 09:54:29 GMT]]>I had two experiences when I was much younger at the age of 14 . Both are dirty old fellows in their 50s. One happened at the bus and apparently, he (Indian) was brushing himself and his target was on us - school girls as we were from all girls’ sch. He tried initially and I stared at him hard. He went to the next victim which happened to be my classmate and she pushed him off. He was persistent and went to the 3rd gril who was alone and did not move. I guessed she was too timid to raise the alarm. It was disgusting to note the ‘fluid’ stained at the back of her pinafore.


Another incident happened when we were patronising some books at the bookstore. This old Chinese fellow approached us and claimed that our school badges were unique and special. He wanted a closer look at our badges ( you know where school badges are placed near the bosom area ) as he could not see well. Instead of ‘admiring’, his hand was carassing that spot instead. I noticed when he did that to my classmate and I told her to remove the badge quickly. He tried to do the same to me and I told him the badge was already there for him to see. What else he wanted to see. Knowing that, he quickly walked away.

If things are happening now to me again, trust me that I will never give 2nd chance to these old fellows. They deserved to be handcuffed by police to shame for their actions!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219551https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219551Thu, 20 Feb 2014 09:54:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 09:46:26 GMT]]>

Nebbermind:
Funz:

All these people, use HP to film but do nothing to stop the act. Why did the fella filming not just tell the girl to move away? The girl in the 1st vid also a bit strange, the train doesn't look that crowded, why did she not move away?


I suspect that he may be close but not close enough to touch the girl. The video was taken from a higher level, and it appeared like his tummy is at her bums. I have my doubts that they were touching. Even as a guy, I will feel uncomfortable if someone stand too close.

Agree, if I were the victim, I also don't know what to do.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219544https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219544Thu, 20 Feb 2014 09:46:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 09:28:13 GMT]]>

straffan23:
This kind, I kana before when taking bus... I slapped the fella and shouted at him lah... he hurried off the bus immediately! I do not believe in suffering in silence...

Wow, you're brave! Something similar happened to me before on the train too. Surprisingly these things do happen quite often in Singapore, especially during rush hour.

The man in the video is really daring though. You can see that it's not rush hour and the train isn't even very crowded, and yet he had the guts to behave in this manner.. Repulsive!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219536https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219536Thu, 20 Feb 2014 09:28:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 08:40:04 GMT]]>This kind, I kana before when taking bus… I slapped the fella and shouted at him lah… he hurried off the bus immediately! I do not believe in suffering in silence…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219487https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219487Thu, 20 Feb 2014 08:40:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 04:36:41 GMT]]>Maybe i should send my DD to martial art /Thai boxing/karate classes soon.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219319https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219319Thu, 20 Feb 2014 04:36:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 04:11:11 GMT]]>

GLORYmum:
I was in a very crowded shopping area and noticed a man pressing himself and rubbing his lower half against the woman in front of him. He kept moving from one victim to the other. When he walked next to me and approached behind DD, I angrily glared at him and reprimanded him 干什么！He heard me then hastily walked away and disappeared in the crowd.


Teach our kids to stay vigilant at all times and Don't succumb to these perverts disgusting act by fear of moving away or speaking up.
Try to do this to my wife (and my daughter when she gets older) in front of me, and I'll recall the unarmed combat I learnt during NS >2 decades ago and give the guy a kick to the groin! All ladies should learn to do that too.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219307https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219307Thu, 20 Feb 2014 04:11:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 03:11:48 GMT]]>Look closely sth is ongoing …

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219265https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219265Thu, 20 Feb 2014 03:11:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 03:07:57 GMT]]>Was there any contact ? If there was, why didn't the girl feel 'something' and move away quickly ? There was empty space on her right. Don't think the man would dare to follow her (if she had moved away), coz there were commuters on the train watching him..


The man also seemed to be eyeing other victims (who were not captured on camera).. :scared:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219256https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219256Thu, 20 Feb 2014 03:07:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:50:44 GMT]]>i think he is just twerking…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219245https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219245Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:50:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:50:29 GMT]]>

atrecord:
This type of situation is tricky.


I fumed when i saw this. Most important to do is to alert the lady about it. As a guy though, i'm apprehensive in that the lady might not trust me if I were to alert her. It is better to come from another lady.

But of course, there is a danger that the man might turn violent and threaten any female 'whistle-blower' who might appear 'weak', in which case the other guys around should do their part to help and protect her. In any case, this guys looks a pervert but doesn't look too threatening.

We need to get rid of these people to make our society safer.

If he's a FT, then first thing to do is to send him back, after jail time and if not exceeding age limit, rotan. Period.
Sometimes a simple and quiet 'do you need some help' to the lady or girl is all it takes to give them that chance to get away from the situation. If they appear oblivious then just suggest to them that they may be in a compromised position and leave it up to them whether they want to move. Most of the time the perp will not retaliate as they do not want to be caught.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219243https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219243Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:50:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:48:58 GMT]]>

Funz:
All these people, use HP to film but do nothing to stop the act. Why did the fella filming not just tell the girl to move away? The girl in the 1st vid also a bit strange, the train doesn't look that crowded, why did she not move away?

I suspect that he may be close but not close enough to touch the girl. The video was taken from a higher level, and it appeared like his tummy is at her bums. I have my doubts that they were touching. Even as a guy, I will feel uncomfortable if someone stand too close.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219241https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219241Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:48:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:39:11 GMT]]>I was in a very crowded shopping area and noticed a man pressing himself and rubbing his lower half against the woman in front of him. He kept moving from one victim to the other. When he walked next to me and approached behind DD, I angrily glared at him and reprimanded him 干什么！He heard me then hastily walked away and disappeared in the crowd.


Teach our kids to stay vigilant at all times and Don’t succumb to these perverts disgusting act by fear of moving away or speaking up.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219230https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219230Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:39:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:17:47 GMT]]>This type of situation is tricky.


I fumed when i saw this. Most important to do is to alert the lady about it. As a guy though, i’m apprehensive in that the lady might not trust me if I were to alert her. It is better to come from another lady.

But of course, there is a danger that the man might turn violent and threaten any female ‘whistle-blower’ who might appear ‘weak’, in which case the other guys around should do their part to help and protect her. In any case, this guys looks a pervert but doesn’t look too threatening.

We need to get rid of these people to make our society safer.

If he’s a FT, then first thing to do is to send him back, after jail time and if not exceeding age limit, rotan. Period.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219215https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219215Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:17:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:07:48 GMT]]>Hey… You are helping to create awareness.

Thanks for the good sharing.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219202https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219202Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:07:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Deleted - Sorry for Being So Kay Poh on Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:07:14 GMT]]>Use backpack - it creates a definite space between one’s bum and the person standing behind.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219199https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1219199Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:07:14 GMT