mrswongtuition:

Question should be:

Why do these girls seek love and understanding from each other in the first place?

My answer:
Parents don't given adequate attention to their girls and did not educate them well from young. Many of them are not 'born lesbians' who have 'natural' attractions to people of the same gender from birth.

They 'date' their 'girlfriends' to obtain love and understanding. Based on my experience studying in a girls' for 10 years and teaching in 2 different girls' schools for a period of more than 4 years, these are my observations:

- Family prefers males over females. Girl becomes a 'bunk' - which is an extreme version of a tomboy - to gain the family's recognition as a 'male'.
- There's no male role model at home. Girls do not understand the natural attraction to the opposite gender and confuse 'sisterly love' among friends as love. Also, sometimes it's the parent's constant quarrelling/arguements that make the girls think that 'men are all bad' and reject having any love for males.
- The girls like the attention they recieve from other girls. Well, boys can sometimes be quite 'slow' at humouring girls. But girls usually know what girls want and will be able to 'provide better' in terms of emotional support.
- It's a passing fad. My best friend since we were 5yo became a lesbian at the end of our P5 year. She dated many many many different girls and eventually got expelled from school when she was S2. Being a lesbian was not the cause of her getting expelled, it was other influences such as smoking and drinking that got her into trouble. And the one who introduced smoking and drinking to her were a group of boys she met outside school. She wanted to stop being a lesbian after some nasty comments passed by teachers and took the chance to make more friends with boys. She woke up and took up a hairdressing course in HK. She's now a hairdresser with a good income and a very loving BF who knows all about her past. Out of all the lesbians I know during my time, only 1 is still a lesbian today - that's after she got divorced with her hb who cheated on her.

I've counselled many girls on this issue and many of them lack emotional support from home. Once they work it out with their families, most of them are able to get support from their parents and siblings and come out stronger from the experience. Some of them are stubborn and persistent but they'll change once they move on to tertiary education.

I remember at a class gathering sometime back, one of my best friend's 'ex-gf' came with her 3 kids! I was so amazed that she has 3 kids!

Don't worry too much as long as you've put some good sense into your girls. Remember: Even if your girl takes the 'wrong route', you have to be supportive and help her to realise it's wrong, not alienate her and blame her. Once they feel the love and family support, they'll slowly get over it.

VitoRelax:

My friend told me to beware that girl's school of late a lot lesbian.


Though, I have nothing against them personally but is it true that it getting fashionable to be a lesbian ? What worries me is that my friend tole me that the girls think it is cool to be a lesbian nowadays.

Is that true ?

Can comment ?

Thanks

CrazyDad:

DadOfGirl:

My Daughter is likely to score 234 or less. Looks like all Independent/ Autonomus schools are out of scope. Are there any options ?


She is Strong in Languages not in maths/ sciende, but this year Maths paper was tough ... we are hoping there will be some moderation...

Stressed out... Help please :? :?

I am pretty sure that your dd can go to TKGS because this year the COP will generally be lower by 2-3 points. U can refer to \"Choose sec school for 2010 page 22\" for more detail analysis. :celebrate:

DadOfGirl:

My Daughter is likely to score 234 or less. Looks like all Independent/ Autonomus schools are out of scope. Are there any options ?


She is Strong in Languages not in maths/ sciende, but this year Maths paper was tough ... we are hoping there will be some moderation...

Stressed out... Help please :? :?

mathsparks:

very difficult to say, really. these 3 schools cop very similar. consider the distance? someone also mentioned that Cedar (or is it Crescent) is rich in history while the other CGS is a a future school that use tablet pc. If in doubt, check out the schools and let yr girl make the final decision.

vlim:

Original Title: PSLE 2009 - Sec Girls School Summary


Hi, would like to find out from u parents out there which are the good and 'decent' all girls secondary school..and please rate them such as
1. RGS
2. NYGH
.... and so forth

mathsparks:

julongmum:

i wish to know the pros and cons of girl sec sch and mix gender sch.

Girls' school definitely. The girls can be themselves, have opportunities to be leaders, to speak up without being conscious of boys, and no BGR to worry about. Teenagers have raging hormones. So, by reducing opportunities to interact, they keep their raging hormones under control..till they reach JC, where some become boy hungry or, like my daughter, mixes well with the boys..with none of the i-must-impress-boys mentality some girls from girls school adopt when they reach JC.

confused? :? Yep. Parenting is difficult and confusing. I'm just rambling. Pardon me.

julongmum:

what abt homosexual problem in girl sch huh? just trying to weigh the pros and cons. would it be too late till JC to mix with opposite sex huh? would girls fr girl sch dislike boys or cannot get along later?

julongmum:

what abt homosexual problem in girl sch huh? just trying to weigh the pros and cons. would it be too late till JC to mix with opposite sex huh? would girls fr girl sch dislike boys or cannot get along later?

julongmum:

i wish to know the pros and cons of girl sec sch and mix gender sch.

westmom:

Go to Booklet 2, all the rankings and value added awards are there. Just go to MOE website to filter out only \"girls secondary schools\". From there, seach in Booklet 2 to look at their rankings (go to the right page because some schools have both express and normal rankings), CCA, niche areas, awards etc. Remember to look at \"value added\" awards because this is the recognition for academic performance beyond MOE expecation based on PSLE entry scores.