<![CDATA[Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis????]]>Hi,


Am seeking some input from daddies/mummies on this.

My DH will turn 40 early nxt yr. In the last couple of weeks, he mentioned to me a few times that he was quite bothered/affected at the fact that he will be turning 40 soon.

I told him to look at the positive side of things ie good health (unlike some of his peers), good job, achievements, wonderful DS etc..

In response to me trying to make him feel better, he told me that wasn't it.

I asked him to explain...

He said it was the number - the 40 yr old label. So I jokingly replied, \"is this like a prelude to mid-life crisis??\" He said, \"could be.\"

Later, he told me that apparently, some of his friends have gone through what he is going through now and at that time, he laughed it off when they confided in him. He didn't realize that it would happen to him. He then dropped a bombshell - one of his gd frds went and bought himself a porche to make himself better :!:

There was a pause, then I asked him v v softly, \"are you thinking of doing something similar?\"πŸ˜“ (although common sense tells me that DH is to practical for that sort of thing, I know he would rather invest the $$ in something more productive, but I just wanted to be sure). His reply was negative.

Anyone facing/faced with a similar situation? Is this a phase he is going through? Suggestions on how/what I can do/say I can make him feel better will be appreciated. My DH is by nature an easygoing, happy and positive person. For him to confide something like this to me means that this is really bothering him. 😞

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/7163/turning-40-a-pre-mid-life-crisisRSS for NodeWed, 13 May 2026 00:59:07 GMTSun, 29 Nov 2009 12:09:05 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sun, 14 Feb 2010 04:55:21 GMT]]>Guess the 'storm' is kinda over. Actually I wouldn't really call it a storm cuz it wasn't really very bad. Maybe more like a drizzle, aft reading/listening abt others' experiences.


He just needed to deal with THAT fact and I believe he has come to terms with it. :rahrah:

Don't know if it will be a recurrent thing ie happening b4 every bday evry year πŸ™ it won't.

Wonder how I'm going to react when I am nearing THAT age .... :?

Anyway, for those who have followed this thread, aft 1 year and 1 mth (quoting my DH) of serious pondering, researching etc.. (and once almost confirming but kena psychoed by bro not to), he has finally decided to buy himself the one thing he has been eyeing for the longest time.

I told him it was up to him when he sought my opinion as he has always tried his best to do the right thing and he never ever splurges on himself (he will think 10 000 x b4 buying something and go the extra mile to get the best px, but won't hesitate to get me or DS something) :lol:

Actually I am happy that he got something solely for himself.

I love my DH to bits :love: :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/124106https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/124106Sun, 14 Feb 2010 04:55:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:49:13 GMT]]>

Eagle-Ladybird:
Alamak, hung up the bike after 3,000km. Plse try to make a come back, cycling is good for oldies like us (like me I mean). No pounding, no impact.


I'm going thru this crazy period of bicycle-craze. Bought my son a Trek, bought my wife a Trek, and now shopping for my daughter. My case, is sure MLC . . . .
became kiasi that's why...:-)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/114038https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/114038Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:49:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:28:54 GMT]]>

buds:
:rotflmao:


Wuahahahaa! Hope not, ZacK! πŸ˜‰
Anyway am back to my dinner cereal diet at least for the rest of the week... I did binge a bit on Sat when I had to drop DS1 to his friend's bday party at Balestier... I hopped to Whampos Hawker just opp and had the famous Balestier Rd Hoover rojak (1st time having it, ordered $3 plus $1 for century egg, overall I liked it cos it tasted refreshing, the sauce was just nice with a tinge of lime. What made a difference for me was the use of parsley and chinese lettuce along with the usual ingredients) ... Followed by a plate of oyster egg ($4) and completed my meal with a bowl of ice kacang :drool:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112640https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112640Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:28:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:46:58 GMT]]>

Nebbermind:
kitty2:

My friend said her dh suddenly like to visit the XXXX website after he hit 40 :?


Perhaps the truth is that \"My friend said her dh suddenly like to visit the XXXX website after SHE hit 40 :?

Age doesn't limit one from going into those sites honestly. :roll:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112438https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112438Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:46:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:30:10 GMT]]>

ZacK:
Aiya... I boycott them and dun patronise them anymore lor... Just pray that they are not the ones that sell really good food that I have cravings for :oops:

:rotflmao:

Wuahahahaa! Hope not, ZacK! πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112419https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112419Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:30:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:04:37 GMT]]>

kitty2:
My friend said her dh suddenly like to visit the XXXX website after he hit 40 :?

Perhaps the truth is that \"My friend said her dh suddenly like to visit the XXXX website after SHE hit 40 :?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112402https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112402Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:04:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Mon, 25 Jan 2010 06:37:28 GMT]]>Alamak, hung up the bike after 3,000km. Plse try to make a come back, cycling is good for oldies like us (like me I mean). No pounding, no impact.


I’m going thru this crazy period of bicycle-craze. Bought my son a Trek, bought my wife a Trek, and now shopping for my daughter. My case, is sure MLC . . . .

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112393https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112393Mon, 25 Jan 2010 06:37:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sun, 24 Jan 2010 23:40:52 GMT]]>

Eagle-Ladybird:
I just went out and blow couple thousand dollars, for a road bike (bicycle) :shock: . . . . MLC ? :? , very likely

hmm... I did that in my mid thirties... Bit too early for MLC huh? But that was cos a friend who had just turned 40 galvanized a group of us of all ages to blow princely sums on road bikes n do triathlons. After almost 3 years n over 3000km on my bike in different countries I've hung up my bike but my friends are still going strong. Maybe I'm over my MLC now that i've hit the big 4 haha!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112195https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112195Sun, 24 Jan 2010 23:40:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sun, 24 Jan 2010 06:33:09 GMT]]>I just went out and blow couple thousand dollars, for a road bike (bicycle) :shock: . . . . MLC ? :? , very likely

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112069https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112069Sun, 24 Jan 2010 06:33:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sat, 23 Jan 2010 08:19:01 GMT]]>My friend said her dh suddenly like to visit the XXXX website after he hit 40 :?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111853https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111853Sat, 23 Jan 2010 08:19:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:33:29 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:
ZacK:

Hahaha... That's a good one... But worse is if the auntie is obviously older than you and then still calls you unker !!! 😒 I kenna once and I was like :roll: And I am not even in my 40s yet!!!


Yes... I had that happen to be too... it felt like the whole world was crashing around me 😐 It was the pot calling the china black.

Aiya... I boycott them and dun patronise them anymore lor... Just pray that they are not the ones that sell really good food that I have cravings for :oops:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/105814https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/105814Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:33:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:25:54 GMT]]>

buds hubs:
UncleLim:

So some of us launch into training for marathons, triathlons etc.




Hello \"uncle\" you talking about me huh? :?

πŸ˜›

Yes, you too, my fellow Uncle !! πŸ˜„ (Just take care of those knees, ok? )

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/105813https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/105813Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:25:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sat, 09 Jan 2010 11:10:56 GMT]]>

UncleLim:
So some of us launch into training for marathons, triathlons etc.



Hello \"uncle\" you talking about me huh? :?

πŸ˜›

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103693https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103693Sat, 09 Jan 2010 11:10:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sat, 09 Jan 2010 10:59:37 GMT]]>Actually I think these aunties and uncles grocers are just used to calling everyone "ah jie", "uncle", "brother" etc regardless of whether the other party is younger or older than them. You should actually correct them on the spot if cleary they are older than you and still calling you uncle.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103686https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103686Sat, 09 Jan 2010 10:59:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sat, 09 Jan 2010 09:43:54 GMT]]>

ZacK:
Hahaha... That's a good one... But worse is if the auntie is obviously older than you and then still calls you unker !!! 😒 I kenna once and I was like :roll: And I am not even in my 40s yet!!!

Yes... I had that happen to be too... it felt like the whole world was crashing around me 😐 It was the pot calling the china black.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103656https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103656Sat, 09 Jan 2010 09:43:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sat, 09 Jan 2010 09:06:01 GMT]]>

UncleLim:

Once in a while a hawker centre auntie will call me \"Ah Tee\" and I will have to be happy with that. πŸ˜‰
Hahaha... That's a good one... But worse is if the auntie is obviously older than you and then still calls you unker !!! 😒 I kenna once and I was like :roll: And I am not even in my 40s yet!!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103643https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103643Sat, 09 Jan 2010 09:06:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sat, 09 Jan 2010 08:03:20 GMT]]>

peapot:
Pardon my ignorance but does MLC crisis occur because of financial security or advancing age? If that is the case, then maybe exercise or savings may help to cushion it. Sorry I m not very sure of this but hope someone can tell me. My hubby is also over 40 but he don't seems to have this MLC.

my husband had his pre-pre-mid-life crisis way before 40. :!:
suddenly, his wardrobe is full of loud prints T-shirt (he used to don only mono-colour T-shirts) and he starts shopping for me (trying to shave off years off my true age maybe? :idea: )

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103616https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103616Sat, 09 Jan 2010 08:03:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sat, 09 Jan 2010 07:57:08 GMT]]>Why 40 is mid-life? If I live till 120, mid life is another 10+ years ma... After I turned 40, I felt much better and can cope with stuff much better... I love to be 40+! (and still look 20+) - ha ha! Like real! πŸ˜›

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103612https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103612Sat, 09 Jan 2010 07:57:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sat, 09 Jan 2010 04:55:37 GMT]]>Many men approaching or in their 40s ( LIKE ME !!) are suddenly shocked that time has flown and we are no longer just a bit older than the fit NS men with muscles and lightning-fast response.


Then we meet with friends who are also in their 40s with their big sounding job titles, beautiful wife/girlfriend/mistress and their shiny Porsche 911... and wonder what went wrong for us.

So some of us launch into training for marathons, triathlons etc. Others start look to changing to their dream car. Others try to re-capture their youth and re-grow lost hair.

But after a while we will accept our new phase in life and middle-aged-ness. I enjoy talking to my wife during our evening walks, discussing the news with my son, telling my little girl to call me after tuition. Humdrum but necessary events of everyday life.

Once in a while a hawker centre auntie will call me \"Ah Tee\" and I will have to be happy with that. πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103526https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/103526Sat, 09 Jan 2010 04:55:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sun, 13 Dec 2009 03:57:25 GMT]]>Pardon my ignorance but does MLC crisis occur because of financial security or advancing age? If that is the case, then maybe exercise or savings may help to cushion it. Sorry I m not very sure of this but hope someone can tell me. My hubby is also over 40 but he don’t seems to have this MLC.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/87833https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/87833Sun, 13 Dec 2009 03:57:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Mon, 07 Dec 2009 05:03:19 GMT]]>

Liubei5659:
ZacK:

Hey Buds and EN... Thanks :grphug:


Not out of the woods... But beginning to see a bit of the silver lining. Gotta hang on to the faith :celebrate:

we are on the same boat....never think of that...as M company closed down last year and still trying to adopt to new enviorement

Hope all goes well for your bro πŸ™ :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/86261https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/86261Mon, 07 Dec 2009 05:03:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Sat, 05 Dec 2009 02:02:09 GMT]]>

ZacK:
Hey Buds and EN... Thanks :grphug:


Not out of the woods... But beginning to see a bit of the silver lining. Gotta hang on to the faith :celebrate:
we are on the same boat....never think of that...as M company closed down last year and still trying to adopt to new enviorement

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/85839https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/85839Sat, 05 Dec 2009 02:02:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:06:54 GMT]]>Hey Buds and EN... Thanks :grphug:


Not out of the woods... But beginning to see a bit of the silver lining. Gotta hang on to the faith :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/85754https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/85754Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:06:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Turning 40 - A pre mid-life crisis???? on Thu, 03 Dec 2009 15:44:38 GMT]]>[quote]As long as we approach every stage of our life by... Maintaining a positive outlook... Taking things one step at a time... Embracing and accepting the challenges (be it mental/physical) at comes at the different stages... Finding alternatives/solutions to the challenges... Not be unduely stressed by it... Having the faith and belief that things will work out. We will find that we are able to overcome these challenges


Hmmm am I making sense? Am going through a rough patch now and not having enough rest... But life must still go on [/quote]Hey Zack, you definitely make sense. I seek solace in the embrace of faith when things get rough. Positive thinking, positive attitude, little steps at a time. Well said, bro. Take care & I hope whatever unfinished business will be resolved soon.

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