<![CDATA[stressful marriage]]>There’s no such thing as perfect marriage. I always hear this from a lot of married people. It’s the way you handle your relationship that will make it successful

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/72033/stressful-marriageRSS for NodeThu, 30 Apr 2026 21:15:25 GMTThu, 01 Oct 2020 04:32:15 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Fri, 18 Sep 2020 06:18:06 GMT]]>Financial stress is one of the biggest obstacles in a marriage. Always discuss with the family so everyone will know and everyone can help with each other.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1995486https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1995486Fri, 18 Sep 2020 06:18:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Fri, 24 Jul 2020 05:17:40 GMT]]>You will know it is that ‘stressful’ when you don’t know how to handle the stress anymore

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1987488https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1987488Fri, 24 Jul 2020 05:17:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Wed, 08 Jul 2020 06:40:07 GMT]]>Take things one at a time, try to handle things smoothly

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1984609https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1984609Wed, 08 Jul 2020 06:40:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Sat, 06 Jun 2020 11:01:53 GMT]]>only you can tell how much you can take the "stress".

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979789https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979789Sat, 06 Jun 2020 11:01:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Wed, 03 Jun 2020 04:20:56 GMT]]>I agree w/ oh Siong , when you see no hope that’s a big factor of whatever your decision will be

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979188https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979188Wed, 03 Jun 2020 04:20:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Mon, 01 Jun 2020 12:42:54 GMT]]>

EmmaYang\" post_id=\"1976064\" time=\"1589540386\" user_id=\"183230:

Need advice. When can you say that the stress you're getting from your marriage is enough and needs to be done?
a generic answer is \"depends\"
but, i believe is done, when u no longer see any hope , which means, all factors have zero chance of changing

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979002https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979002Mon, 01 Jun 2020 12:42:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Fri, 15 May 2020 10:59:46 GMT]]>Need advice. When can you say that the stress you’re getting from your marriage is enough and needs to be done?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1976064https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1976064Fri, 15 May 2020 10:59:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Wed, 13 May 2020 06:46:23 GMT]]>Most people struggle to manage their stresses in marriage effectively. And unmanaged stress in one spouse usually escalates stress in the other. But reactions can be complex.

https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/how-to-handle-stress-in-marriage/

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1975620https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1975620Wed, 13 May 2020 06:46:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Mon, 03 Jun 2019 03:40:43 GMT]]>Holding your emotions all together and be strong always when you’re in a serious situation helps a lot. Don’t say a lot of words when you’re angry, that could hurt your partner so much. You got to keep your calm and talk to each other when you’re calm. This always works for us.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1913126https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1913126Mon, 03 Jun 2019 03:40:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Thu, 09 May 2019 23:27:40 GMT]]>I hope by having support from fellow wives here can make things feel better for those in stressful marriage

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1909612https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1909612Thu, 09 May 2019 23:27:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Mon, 22 Apr 2019 05:42:47 GMT]]>Have fun together. Movies, walks, picnics, games, trips…not just fun but hilarity. Laughing together is great relationship medicine. This will help if you are both stress…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1907316https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1907316Mon, 22 Apr 2019 05:42:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Wed, 03 Aug 2016 03:33:37 GMT]]>Sorry to hear that too.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1706820https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1706820Wed, 03 Aug 2016 03:33:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Tue, 08 Mar 2016 06:09:08 GMT]]>Its really sad about your situation. Even though you didn’t want to get divorce you can ask for maintenance .Please get consultation from renowned legal firm.May god bless you!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1653066https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1653066Tue, 08 Mar 2016 06:09:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Mon, 04 Aug 2014 06:21:21 GMT]]>

wekrlav:
stressful marriage is better than simple marriage.So anyone can try this now.

Pardon?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1351298https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1351298Mon, 04 Aug 2014 06:21:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Mon, 04 Aug 2014 06:18:03 GMT]]>stressful marriage is better than simple marriage.So anyone can try this now.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1351294https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1351294Mon, 04 Aug 2014 06:18:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Thu, 19 Jun 2014 06:21:50 GMT]]>Hello,

Tell me how long you are having this curse, yes curse because having this kind of person in life could be make our life only and only worse. So i would suggest you to talk with him just last time whether he is gonna change or not? if it not gonna happen the take any strict action... :rant:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1315131https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1315131Thu, 19 Jun 2014 06:21:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:25:45 GMT]]>troubled mummy, do you have help from your own family? Siblings?


My friend was exactly in your predicament. She had to work three jobs to make ends meet. All the loans were slapped on her. Hubby ran off with their children's education savings and all of their joint savings. She had to see her furnitures taken away one by one.. she didn't know that everything was on loan.. she co-signed all the loans, hence everything fell upon her when her husband left for a Thai woman. She had to fully pay for the car that he used to ferry his new family everywhere, while she suffered one blow after another.

Hang in there. :hugs:

I'll try to see if i can get some information abt your housing issues, from a close friend. Stay safe.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272369https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272369Tue, 22 Apr 2014 15:25:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Tue, 22 Apr 2014 14:08:54 GMT]]>

troubled mummy:
Also to add, I do not want to hold this flat coz

1. He used the address to borrow from loan sharks and not paying. I would danger myself and my kid.
2. In order to solely owe this flat, I need to settle the outstanding bank loan which I cannot afford.
3. Bank will not approve me of any loan becausebof my status as bankrupt.
4.hdb approved single owner loan is not sufficient for me to cover the outstanding loan. Any balance will have to be paid in cash.
It has been hard on you. Be strong.

You may like to seek help from http://www.helpfsc.org.sg

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272288https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272288Tue, 22 Apr 2014 14:08:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Tue, 22 Apr 2014 13:17:20 GMT]]>Also to add, I do not want to hold this flat coz

1. He used the address to borrow from loan sharks and not paying. I would danger myself and my kid.
2. In order to solely owe this flat, I need to settle the outstanding bank loan which I cannot afford.
3. Bank will not approve me of any loan becausebof my status as bankrupt.
4.hdb approved single owner loan is not sufficient for me to cover the outstanding loan. Any balance will have to be paid in cash.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272242https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272242Tue, 22 Apr 2014 13:17:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Tue, 22 Apr 2014 13:11:48 GMT]]>I used my credit cards to purchase all furnitures and electricals for this current flat. When hdb issued us the chq from the sale of the previous flat, he dragged and did not gave me the money to pay off my credit cards. I started getting suspicious when the contractor called me to say there is still outstanding payment to be made for renovation.

When I question him, he said he had used up all the money. I was put into renovation loan debt, credit cards debts and also renovation balance to pay contractor. I did go and refinancing but the amount is too much for me to cope. That is why I declare bankrupt solely.
I am not eligible for legal aid is coz I have only a kid. They do not issues like household maintenance etc as consideration.
I did consider renting a flat now while going through separation but it will cost me a bomb. Does anyone knows whether I can apply for a new bto flat while going through separation?
Will looking for mp helps in getting me a rented flat? I only need an empty flat as I intend to move all my furniture over.
I did check with hdb on surrender value. It is actually 60 to 80 percent of the value of the price we paid for when we bought it.
I do not want to affect my kid more as she just started school and just adapt to him. She is alsp affected with what is happening at home. Receiving of threaten phone calls and letters.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272238https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272238Tue, 22 Apr 2014 13:11:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Wed, 16 Apr 2014 08:40:25 GMT]]>all marriages are stressful!

that’s why so many choose divorce! the number one cure for marriage! if he(husband) still did the same things over and over again. The best solutions for it. Tell him to get a life by his own!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1267861https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1267861Wed, 16 Apr 2014 08:40:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Tue, 15 Apr 2014 10:23:27 GMT]]>You and your child constitute a family, so I doubt you will have to sell your house. Also, what about relatives and in-laws? Anyone who can help you out if you do fall into the situation of losing your house? When it comes to breaking ties, it’s better now than later. Try to eliminate the exposure of your kid to your husband’s bad habits… That would be the most worrying.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1267037https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1267037Tue, 15 Apr 2014 10:23:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to stressful marriage on Mon, 14 Apr 2014 08:15:52 GMT]]>

hquek:
slmkhoo:

[quote=\"troubled mummy\"]If I file for a divorce now, I cannot get a flat and I need a roof for the both of us.

And hdb will get back the flat at a very low value.

Are you sure you need to sell your flat if your divorce? I think it's possible for the settlement to allow you to remain in the flat until your child has reached a certain age or you choose to leave, and your husband will only get his share when it is sold. Maybe you can check if this is possible in your case?

Yup. As long as you can form a family unit (i.e. u and your child), you should be able to keep the flat.

Sad to hear of your troubles and hoping that the sun may shine again once more v soon.[/quote]Even if one can form a family unit with her child, hdb will still examines her financial status to see if she is financially able to pay off the flat. From what she says, it doesn't seem she's financially able.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1266012https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1266012Mon, 14 Apr 2014 08:15:52 GMT