<![CDATA[Siblings...North and South pole]]>Hi parents, do you have the same experience?


The characters of your two children are completely opposite!

How do you strike a balance between them?
Have you receive comments like’" Same parents but how come your two children are completely different?"

Do your children quarrel everyday? How do you handle them?

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jedamum:
ZacK:

so tell me... how not to love them right? For all the anguish they sometimes put us through, the joy fun and laughter that they give us is more than adequate to compensate for that πŸ•Ί


:goodpost: when children sleeps, they look like angels. very true!

AGREE!! Love them the most when they r sleeping. Quiet, angelic n sweet :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561313https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561313Tue, 23 Aug 2011 04:16:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Tue, 23 Aug 2011 04:07:40 GMT]]>

ZacK:
so tell me... how not to love them right? For all the anguish they sometimes put us through, the joy fun and laughter that they give us is more than adequate to compensate for that πŸ•Ί

:goodpost: when children sleeps, they look like angels. very true!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561300https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561300Tue, 23 Aug 2011 04:07:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Tue, 23 Aug 2011 03:48:24 GMT]]>

jedamum:
ZacK:


So in that sense, I am quite comforted to know that my two boys wont be going to the extreme end of causing grievous hurt to each other πŸ˜“

Zack,
similarly, my ds2, though impulsive, is a very affectionate boy. he will openly show his affection, his sadness, his impatience...can read him like a book.
yesterday while washing dishes, i accidentally dropped a thermo flask on the metal sink. loud piang! and from the living room, sat 3 boys (ds1,ds2 and dh) and ds2 was the only one who shouted,'mum! are you ok!' :love:

and of course at times when i scold my ds1 for never learning from mistake etc, ds2 will scold me,'don't scold my gege!' and proceeds to use his self-made captain america's shield to 'chop' off my head. πŸ˜“

Haha sooooo cuteeee... so tell me... how not to love them right? For all the anguish they sometimes put us through, the joy fun and laughter that they give us is more than adequate to compensate for that πŸ•Ί

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561255https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561255Tue, 23 Aug 2011 03:48:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Tue, 23 Aug 2011 03:46:48 GMT]]>

sleepy:
ZacK:

On one occasion, MIL tripped on the carpet and landed on the floor, wasnt a bad fall but she looked distressed for a moment. DS2 was there and he was stunned for a moment and quite instinctively, when MIL stood up, he ran over and hugged her around her thighs and said \"pain pain\" as he consoled her. Obviously he made his popo's day :love: On another occasion, I bumped my toe against the leg of the bed and yelped. As I laid on the bed to recover for a moment, DS2 was just beside me and next thing I knew he went to kiss my foot again saying \"pain pain\" as he consoled me.... πŸ˜„


He's so sweet πŸ˜„

Yes he is... He at this stage is particularly clingy to me... To the extent that sometimes I need to shower I need to do so discreetly and usually must :siam: while his attention is somewhere else, else he will wanna follow me and then sit in the toilet watching while I shower
:faint:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561251https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561251Tue, 23 Aug 2011 03:46:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Tue, 23 Aug 2011 03:18:11 GMT]]>

ZacK:

So in that sense, I am quite comforted to know that my two boys wont be going to the extreme end of causing grievous hurt to each other πŸ˜“
Zack,
similarly, my ds2, though impulsive, is a very affectionate boy. he will openly show his affection, his sadness, his impatience...can read him like a book.
yesterday while washing dishes, i accidentally dropped a thermo flask on the metal sink. loud piang! and from the living room, sat 3 boys (ds1,ds2 and dh) and ds2 was the only one who shouted,'mum! are you ok!' :love:

and of course at times when i scold my ds1 for never learning from mistake etc, ds2 will scold me,'don't scold my gege!' and proceeds to use his self-made captain america's shield to 'chop' off my head. πŸ˜“

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561174https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/561174Tue, 23 Aug 2011 03:18:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Tue, 23 Aug 2011 01:35:10 GMT]]>

ZacK:
On one occasion, MIL tripped on the carpet and landed on the floor, wasnt a bad fall but she looked distressed for a moment. DS2 was there and he was stunned for a moment and quite instinctively, when MIL stood up, he ran over and hugged her around her thighs and said \"pain pain\" as he consoled her. Obviously he made his popo's day :love: On another occasion, I bumped my toe against the leg of the bed and yelped. As I laid on the bed to recover for a moment, DS2 was just beside me and next thing I knew he went to kiss my foot again saying \"pain pain\" as he consoled me.... πŸ˜„

He's so sweet πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560878https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560878Tue, 23 Aug 2011 01:35:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Tue, 23 Aug 2011 01:33:00 GMT]]>

BigDevil:
If your DS1 does toughen up, then your two kids will both be hitting each other.

Another set of headache! πŸ˜‚
Toughen up when he is outside of home at least? :oops: ... So that I know that he will be able to take care of himself should he be subject to bullying outside etc... Given his nature he wont retaliate, but we told him he MUST report to teacher and keep us informed.

Though DS2 is a tad short tempered and basically just wants attention. Everytime he hurt himself we would kiss the part that hurts and console him, as a result he can be quite loving and caring. On one occasion, MIL tripped on the carpet and landed on the floor, wasnt a bad fall but she looked distressed for a moment. DS2 was there and he was stunned for a moment and quite instinctively, when MIL stood up, he ran over and hugged her around her thighs and said \"pain pain\" as he consoled her. Obviously he made his popo's day :love: On another occasion, I bumped my toe against the leg of the bed and yelped. As I laid on the bed to recover for a moment, DS2 was just beside me and next thing I knew he went to kiss my foot again saying \"pain pain\" as he consoled me.... πŸ˜„

So in that sense, I am quite comforted to know that my two boys wont be going to the extreme end of causing grievous hurt to each other πŸ˜“

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560869https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560869Tue, 23 Aug 2011 01:33:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Tue, 23 Aug 2011 01:09:15 GMT]]>If your DS1 does toughen up, then your two kids will both be hitting each other.

Another set of headache! πŸ˜‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560818https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560818Tue, 23 Aug 2011 01:09:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Mon, 22 Aug 2011 14:02:52 GMT]]>

jedamum:
Zack!

same scenerio with my boys.
ds1 gentle, ds2 tough.
i want ds1 to toughen up, so seldom step in.
cross line, ds2 to apologise, kiss and hug.
both bros very close; miss each other if one is in school.
πŸ˜„
:hi5: ... My only wish though is for DS1 to \"toughen\" up, he is the type kenna bully also wont retaliate type :slapshead: or at least defend himself... The only time when DS1 gets a bit frustrated is when he is playing his wii game or playing on his own and little brother goes and disturb him, otherwise most times we have 倩下ε€ͺεΉ³ lol πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560446https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560446Mon, 22 Aug 2011 14:02:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Mon, 22 Aug 2011 13:09:20 GMT]]>Zack!

same scenerio with my boys.
ds1 gentle, ds2 tough.
i want ds1 to toughen up, so seldom step in.
cross line, ds2 to apologise, kiss and hug.
both bros very close; miss each other if one is in school.
πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560377https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560377Mon, 22 Aug 2011 13:09:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Mon, 22 Aug 2011 09:42:55 GMT]]>DS1 (8 yrs old) is super mild by nature and usually it is DS2 (<3yrs) who is a bit more \"short\" tempered and at times can get physical by hitting DS1.


I would usually tell DS1 that there is no sympathy from me if he does not learn how to dodge his little brother's advances... As I would like him to be able to fend himself by not staying put and letting his little brother hit him.

But when I do observe that little brother is getting out of hand, I would make sure that DS2 stop and goes to DS1 to hug and apologise for hurting his elder brother... If DS2 is deviant at this point, he gets a punishment but most times he is wise by obeying so not major issues.... Fortunately for me, DS1 is really loving of his brother... Most recently when this happened two days back, after DS2 apologised and hugged his gege, DS1 just went... \"ohhhh sooooo cuteeeeee and gave his little brother a mmmmuack on his cheeks\" πŸ’‹

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560256https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/560256Mon, 22 Aug 2011 09:42:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Mon, 22 Aug 2011 00:40:50 GMT]]>fighting physically is unacceptable.

solve that first. enforce time-out. teach respect. teach self control.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/559067https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/559067Mon, 22 Aug 2011 00:40:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Mon, 22 Aug 2011 00:25:23 GMT]]>some time parents need to step in to be the peace maker and to impart learning points too, that is when they learn what is right and wrong, give and take


it is also time to mold character like being generous, forgiving, and learn to say sorry when one is wrong, learn to give and take

you can also set a time limit - like, say, settle among yourself in 5 minutes, after which mommy will invite every one to eat \"sugar cane\" :rotflmao:

sibling squabbling is normal and should be allowed to take place, that is where they learn to negotiate as well, is a social skill

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/559040https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/559040Mon, 22 Aug 2011 00:25:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Sun, 21 Aug 2011 19:07:11 GMT]]>My five year old gal and six year old boy fights a lot. Verbally, sometimes even physically. Do I settle their arguments? Or are they big enough to settle their problems? They can quarrel many times a day. If I am always their mediator, I think it will be no end. I am a SAHM and I still have a baby to care for. Help!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/558962https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/558962Sun, 21 Aug 2011 19:07:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Thu, 10 Dec 2009 05:39:34 GMT]]>I am not too sure, the twins characters are totally different, I guess its good too, to differentiate themselves

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/87241https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/87241Thu, 10 Dec 2009 05:39:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Mon, 07 Dec 2009 05:59:00 GMT]]>

Imp75:
my twins are poles apart too!

Hmmm, twins!
I thought twins should be identical πŸ™‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/86276https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/86276Mon, 07 Dec 2009 05:59:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Mon, 07 Dec 2009 04:17:25 GMT]]>my twins are poles apart too!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/86240https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/86240Mon, 07 Dec 2009 04:17:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Sun, 06 Dec 2009 14:15:45 GMT]]>On the contrary, I find it rare for siblings to be \"identical\".


One min, my children quarrel for the sake of quarrel.
And they will suddenly become best-friends again.
Sometimes, they will change \"alliance\" among themselves 😐

For me, the only constant..
..smaller kiddos always learn from their elder siblings, and are PR-savvy and mischievious :stupid:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/86144https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/86144Sun, 06 Dec 2009 14:15:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Thu, 03 Dec 2009 02:14:08 GMT]]>Hmmm, :?

So it seems pretty normal for parents to have two kids of opposite characters.

Aiyo, as parents, we are going haywire 😒

Have to apply tactic 1 to DS and have to apply tactic 2 to DD.
See, that's how we have split personality too :stupid:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/84764https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/84764Thu, 03 Dec 2009 02:14:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Thu, 03 Dec 2009 02:07:30 GMT]]>My two boys are opposites too, in characters and also in food choices.


The elder boy has always been very sensible. When he was in N2, we decided to get him a bigger bicycle as he was still riding his tricycle to the cc. His reply was : the tricycle is serving me well, no need to waste money to get a bicycle. When we went out to the shopping mall, he’s never the child who nags "I wish I can hv this or that". The only stuff he would buy are books.

The younger boy is the exact opposite when it comes to visiting the shopping mall. I keep hearing "Can I hv this?", "I wish I can buy this."

Elder boy belongs to the work first, play later type (like me) whereas younger boy is like the dad (play first, work later).

It would be interesting to see how these two turn out in adulthood.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/84760https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/84760Thu, 03 Dec 2009 02:07:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Thu, 03 Dec 2009 01:12:02 GMT]]>My boys definitely belong to the north and south poles. It's funny but I realised most mummies here seem to say that their second-born are in a more playful nature as comared to their first.


Wonder if there is some scientific explanation for it :?

DS1's reserved and introvert.
DS2's the lady's boy, funny and all.

When it comes to studying:
DS1 had never had a problem sitting on the desk with me for at least an hour since he was 2. No problem at all when I need to load him with work and he actually enjoys the 'alone time' to complete the assignments by himself.
DS2, well, he can last up to half hour now, but only if we do things that he likes. He's lagging behind his brother when it comes to coaching DS1 when he was at the same age. I hope it's me who worried too much.

When it comes to comments from school:
'DS1's so good and industrious.' (he scores stars and good comments in his work)
'DS2's really naughty but you know, he's very smart.' (they couldn't stop talking about him)

I don't know how too if they will be compared.
DS2 actually looks better than DS1 though I get comments that they look the same (come out from a similar mould). Plus people we know like to show more affection to DS2 as he's always the 'cuter' one (maybe girls like 'naughty' boys), as opposed to DS1 who is quiet type. DS1 earns the affection through his work and attitude, while DS2 simply gets it from people.

DH told me that both boys are different and we should respect their difference. It would be sooo boring to be coaching DS1's twin with identical characteristics. I do believe so, though sometimes I worry that DS2's nature might get him into trouble.

It's fun to see them interact now, as DS1 just learnt how to accept DS2 and giving him space for growth. He now coaches DS2 on certain gun-techniques (boys! :roll:) and build playgrounds using their mattresses. We just played space shuttle game made out of carton boxes left behind from the move and it was fun cos DS1 is the engineer who 'fixes' the space shuttle and DS2 is the runner in the space shuttle who does all the interaction and order-taking.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/84720https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/84720Thu, 03 Dec 2009 01:12:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Wed, 02 Dec 2009 01:00:19 GMT]]>When DS2 was born, we noticed that he was very different from DS1. DH and I always joked that we were raising extremists e.g. one is extremely active while the other is extremely quiet. I didn't know the cons of sending them to the same school until DS2 refused to choose to go to the same secondary school as DS1. 😐 He was always known as DS1 brother and felt that the teachers knew him cos of DS1 popularity and didn't want to live in his brother's shadow. The only saving grace was that he was compared positively to his brother as they are like apple and orange and has his own strengths and weaknesses. DS3 went to the same primary school after both brothers left, so there was no problem. Moreover, as DS3 academic performance far exceeds both brothers, his teachers viewed him in a different light. πŸ˜‰ He is the smart aleck in the family and brought lots of laughter with his wise cracks. πŸ˜‰ Thankfully, all 3 are living harmoniously with each other and bickering is minimal which may be due to their behavioural difference. 😐

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/84138https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/84138Wed, 02 Dec 2009 01:00:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Tue, 01 Dec 2009 11:55:28 GMT]]>

EN:

Will you put them in the same school?
i have not decide yet. the pros about being in the same school is the familiarization of school personnels and curriculum requirements/expectations which will definitely be beneficial to ds2.
the tentative decision is if they are to be in the same school, i will join the school's PSG; i will not hesitate to let ds2's teachers know that i am always available for feedback regarding ds2, and they should not be making comparisons of the bros; if i come across correctly, the teachers should be sensitive enough to keep these comparisons out of the students' earshot.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/83933https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/83933Tue, 01 Dec 2009 11:55:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Siblings...North and South pole on Tue, 01 Dec 2009 08:16:44 GMT]]>Both my children are in the same school.

DD is a student leader aka prefect while DS has never been a prefect.

DD is very well-behaved and is well-liked by her teachers.
DS is very active and naughty but luckily he is good in his studies.

DD and DS told me their teachers also commented that they are very different in characters.

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