<![CDATA[Bad maid Headache No More]]>totally agree that we can’t be too nice to the maid and must definitely be strict with them and not too much freedom. My current maid we are in the situation whereby I could not tolerate anymore. She uses her hp heavily, waste water,like to request to go out to run her personal errands on normal work days, make ridiculous requests ( e.g. Want to go home leave during hari Raya on her 5th mth w us, want to go see new year fireworks), not clean with housework. All these we can keep our eyes close. But recently she stolen money from us which help me make the decision to terminate her as soon as we got a relacement. We paid her quite well above market rate, but she is a spendthrift… Saw that her cupboard is full of her shopping and she is even taking expensive health supplements. Really can’t stand it anymore having to feed a thief in the house.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/72503/bad-maid-headache-no-moreRSS for NodeWed, 29 Apr 2026 20:49:49 GMTSat, 16 Apr 2016 07:13:04 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Wed, 06 Apr 2016 15:27:09 GMT]]>Dan’s Services is bad! Stay clear. They have the most unfair contract, unfair to the employer and exorbitant charge for a so called replacement maid! 1.7K! We treated our maid nicely, but like many said, she just climbed over our head and talked back and became lazier after the loan was paid off. Dan’s didn’t even bother to follow up after we send the maid back as the agent handling the maid wasn’t around. Stay clear from Dans.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1664726https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1664726Wed, 06 Apr 2016 15:27:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Tue, 20 May 2014 18:39:18 GMT]]>Mtrisha26,


Sorry to hear about your case. Just so I understand correctly…
You think your maid has left Singapore, on the way back to the Philipines, you are not sure?

You maid is expecting you to send her money until she finds a new job?

I know it may sound stupid to ask…is there someway you had or can record (in the future) the maid threatening/blackmailing you this way?..how can this be happening in Singapore???..it is surreal!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1296175https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1296175Tue, 20 May 2014 18:39:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Tue, 20 May 2014 17:50:02 GMT]]>Update:


Maid: My maid talked to me yesterday. She had a lot of guts to threaten me again and scolded me and insulted me. BUT for every insult, I came back with what truly happened. I guess those were my aces. And I have more in store. She was threatening me that she will go ti MOM and tell lies there so that a case will be opened. What she doesnt know is that I have already prepared for that because she had been telling the agency about her plans.

Later on, she agreed to go back to the Philippines if I give her pocket money plus monetary support every month until she gets a new job.

Agency: The maid wanted to lie about her son and husband from her country And the agency even went along with the lie. The agent in the agency told me that they cannot control what the maid wants to put in their bio data. Even if it is deviating from what the maid told them years ago. I found that quite unethical because putting false information on the maid’s biodata just to be able to sell her faster will jeopardize the safety of us employers and our families. Specially the ones with elderly and young children. I will never trust this agency ever again.

They even tried to get money from me too to arrange for sending the maid to the airport.


I feel like I was in a horror movie where the maid and the agency were the Tandem killers.

Anyway the maid should be in the plane now going back to the Philippines. I know that she will continue to bug me for money. I know also that she will try to come back here too. But I put a feedback at MOM and hopefully alerting all new employers about her.

PS. Avoid Dans Services. They were not professional and truthful and very unethical with the way they handled this problem. They were enabling my maid to lie in her biodata. Which is scary. I will never trust any info from a maid’s biodata from them. i have a copy of my maid’s biodata before and her biodata now. It’s scary to get false info specially from strangers that we ask to live with us and tale care of our family members. Just a WARNING.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1296171https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1296171Tue, 20 May 2014 17:50:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Sat, 17 May 2014 12:53:25 GMT]]>Just to give you all an update.


Since I gave a feedback to MOM. The agency called me up and asked me what feedback I gave about her. I refused to say and told them that MOM told me that I will only talk to the employer. SO her new employer called me up.

She was actually willing to hire her despite her attitume towards me but what took her aback eas that when I accidentally told her about the maid’s family at back in her country.

Apparently, the agency told the employer that her husband works here in Singapore and that she does not have any child.

I was told by the agency that they asked her why she put that and she told the agency that her son died a long time ago before she came to Singapore.

On Monday I will be arranging for her repatriation.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1293271https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1293271Sat, 17 May 2014 12:53:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Sat, 10 May 2014 10:41:08 GMT]]>I have some friends whose maids do not sleep till they have cleaned up the house after any gatherings...another one has maid standing beside employer's mum while she has her meals (I feel this is too much since the maid also human)...I hardly have guests but friend would have dinner when she comes back from overseas...my maid still disappeared at 8pm.

strangely maids couldn't wake up at 6am...reason is because they send sms late into the night.
sil doesn't give face to her maid in public and yet can renew 4 years...amazing :yikes:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1286674https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1286674Sat, 10 May 2014 10:41:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Sat, 10 May 2014 10:02:49 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
I see my SIL treating her maid like one and the maid can even renew another 2 years...but when I treat my maids well, they make me very disheartened and I have to send them off after 8 months. Why? Don't these maids like to be treated well?

Exactly! Don't understand the weird logic, right? i have friends who are extremely strict with their maids, no HP, no off days...and end up, their maids can renew contract with them and not much problem.

I also treated my ex-maid quite well, allow her to have HP, gave her extra off days when she requested, didn't allow my kids to abuse her by asking her to do every minor thing, bought gifts for her and her son everytime when we go for holiday and gave her 100% freedom on how to do housework and she even have her own room and she disappears into her room at 8 plus every night. Most of my friend's maids work until pretty late like 10 plus, 11 plus and they never complain.

So my conclusion is that cannot treat them too nice becos they will climb all over your head. don't abuse or ill treat them but no need to treat them very nice as well...no choice, not that we don't want to but somehow, they just don't appreciate it. 🤷

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1286660https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1286660Sat, 10 May 2014 10:02:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Tue, 06 May 2014 23:27:05 GMT]]>I do not call her a maid nor allow the kids to call her that either.

They are humans too and believed that treating them well and they will reciprocate...unfortunately it is not to be.
My agency used to tell me not to spoil them with tidbits or whatever, other than 3 meals or they will have the expectation...used to go to IMM around 3-4pm...my kids would ask for snacks...so buying an additional curry puff seems ok...how was I know it became 'expected'?
When there is leftover food from the prev night, if I can eat why can't the maid? No...she won't eat :stompfeet:
After 6 years not having a maid, I don't think I welcome the idea of having one again. Besides, my daughter will not be willing to give up her room.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283729https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283729Tue, 06 May 2014 23:27:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Tue, 06 May 2014 15:28:54 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
I see my SIL treating her maid like one and the maid can even renew another 2 years...but when I treat my maids well, they make me very disheartened and I have to send them off after 8 months. Why? Don't these maids like to be treated well?

Which is my main problem I think. I do not know how to treat them badly. My thing is that they already have a hard life so I in return want to treat them fairly. But then it seems like when we have soft hearts for them, it is so easy for them to abuse us.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283637https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283637Tue, 06 May 2014 15:28:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Tue, 06 May 2014 13:11:36 GMT]]>I see my SIL treating her maid like one and the maid can even renew another 2 years…but when I treat my maids well, they make me very disheartened and I have to send them off after 8 months. Why? Don’t these maids like to be treated well?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283542https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283542Tue, 06 May 2014 13:11:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Tue, 06 May 2014 13:03:06 GMT]]>

gumiho:
matrix0405:


My agent had the same advice. Their reaction is opposite. The 'worse' you are, the better they get.

TOTALLY AGREE !!


I need to learn how to be like that hahaha

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283531https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283531Tue, 06 May 2014 13:03:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Tue, 06 May 2014 07:25:23 GMT]]>

matrix0405:

My agent had the same advice. Their reaction is opposite. The 'worse' you are, the better they get.
TOTALLY AGREE !!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283200https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1283200Tue, 06 May 2014 07:25:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Mon, 05 May 2014 03:10:51 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
Agency told me Indonesian maids do not have 人情味...no matter how well you treat them, they take it for granted and will take advantage...leaving employer very disheartened. But I can't bring myself to be harsh with her...even if she doesn't appreciate, I want to have a conscience. So far, only one maid appreciated.

My agent had the same advice. Their reaction is opposite. The 'worse' you are, the better they get.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1282238https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1282238Mon, 05 May 2014 03:10:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Fri, 02 May 2014 15:12:58 GMT]]>Agency told me Indonesian maids do not have 人情味…no matter how well you treat them, they take it for granted and will take advantage…leaving employer very disheartened. But I can’t bring myself to be harsh with her…even if she doesn’t appreciate, I want to have a conscience. So far, only one maid appreciated.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1280644https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1280644Fri, 02 May 2014 15:12:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Fri, 02 May 2014 03:23:47 GMT]]>

Mtrisha26:
chixchix:

my agent always tell me respect your maid and treat as a human, but don't be too nice or they climb over 😂



That is my philosophy also. My relatives have maids serving them for more than 30 years. I have had a maid take care of me since I was young until I was 13.

This maid is by far the worst that I have seen. My parents treat the maid the way I did. Our maid even eats with us when I was young. BUt the maids never became abusive like this one. She hurt my child as well. Our maids when I was young never laid a hand on us. Never scolded us too.

I agree..last time the quality of maids were so much better. My mum's ex-maid, now married to ang moh, is my frd on FB and always asks about us. But nowadays, very hard to get good maids, or maybe even an ok one.

I also thought if I treated the maid nicely, trust her and give her freedom and respect she will also treat me back nicely. But sad to say, it was not the case. Instead, she took advantage of my niceness and now I regret for being so lenient to her.

Anyway, good luck to finding an OK maid! :xedfingers:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1280134https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1280134Fri, 02 May 2014 03:23:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Wed, 23 Apr 2014 16:16:14 GMT]]>Thanks !

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1273478https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1273478Wed, 23 Apr 2014 16:16:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Wed, 23 Apr 2014 15:49:41 GMT]]>

rainrain:
Hi Matrisha,


Sent you an email.
Reply sent!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1273468https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1273468Wed, 23 Apr 2014 15:49:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Wed, 23 Apr 2014 14:24:51 GMT]]>Hi Matrisha,


Sent you an email.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1273370https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1273370Wed, 23 Apr 2014 14:24:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Wed, 23 Apr 2014 11:53:49 GMT]]>

Beatrice_NoQ:
All the best, Mtrisha26! It really is tough to find good domestic workers nowadays that are trustworthy. Perhaps ask around for recommendations from friends?


Thanks! I agree. It is indeed very difficult to get a new maid nowadays. Very difficult to trust. Now, I am scared to get one.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1273123https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1273123Wed, 23 Apr 2014 11:53:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Tue, 22 Apr 2014 09:27:19 GMT]]>All the best, Mtrisha26! It really is tough to find good domestic workers nowadays that are trustworthy. Perhaps ask around for recommendations from friends?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272132https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1272132Tue, 22 Apr 2014 09:27:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Mon, 21 Apr 2014 14:18:01 GMT]]>

chixchix:
my agent always tell me respect your maid and treat as a human, but don't be too nice or they climb over 😂


That is my philosophy also. My relatives have maids serving them for more than 30 years. I have had a maid take care of me since I was young until I was 13.

This maid is by far the worst that I have seen. My parents treat the maid the way I did. Our maid even eats with us when I was young. BUt the maids never became abusive like this one. She hurt my child as well. Our maids when I was young never laid a hand on us. Never scolded us too.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1271380https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1271380Mon, 21 Apr 2014 14:18:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Mon, 21 Apr 2014 01:34:24 GMT]]>my agent always tell me respect your maid and treat as a human, but don't be too nice or they climb over 😂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1270717https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1270717Mon, 21 Apr 2014 01:34:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Sun, 20 Apr 2014 14:59:31 GMT]]>

looking4Tutor:
Mtrisha26:

And yes. I have learned my lesson. Hard lessons. NOT to be too kind to Maid.


We should be kind to one another. But not to the extend of being taken advantage of.

In the midst of these bad apples there are always good ones around.

Hope you will get a good one soon.

Thanks! I hope so too.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1270573https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1270573Sun, 20 Apr 2014 14:59:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Bad maid Headache No More on Sun, 20 Apr 2014 14:51:01 GMT]]>

Mtrisha26:
And yes. I have learned my lesson. Hard lessons. NOT to be too kind to Maid.

We should be kind to one another. But not to the extend of being taken advantage of.

In the midst of these bad apples there are always good ones around.

Hope you will get a good one soon.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1270565https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1270565Sun, 20 Apr 2014 14:51:01 GMT