<![CDATA[whats wrong with my kid?]]>Hi, I can empathize with your situation cos my kid is also like that. Even as a SAHM, I find myself nagging at her to get her work done almost everyday.


My kid has her nose in a book practically the whole day; she comes back and immediately plonks on the sofa to read in her uniform. I tell to her to eat/shower and everything is done is slow motion cos she hides in the toilet to read until I yell at her to come out, she sneaks books to the kitchen table to read while having her lunch until I banned that but allowed her to listen to audio books instead while eating.

She tries to sneak in a book in the study when I tell her to do her work, she hurries her work and gives tons of careless mistakes so she can quickly go back to her reading.

I'm a bookworm myself and I read everywhere so instead of discouraging her reading habit, I decided to lessen the amount of \"busywork\" she needs to do. She doesn't do any English assessments; she does fairly well in her grades because of the sheer amt of reading she does. I also read aloud classic children's literature to her every night.

We work on Math 3/4 times a week and I only circle some questions which I feel will challenge her, not page after page of work. If she can grasp the concept, I move on. I only focus on areas of weakness and have her practice random questions on the weak area until she gets it. The rest like arithmetic skills, I don't focus as much because she understands the concept. I don't believe more practice in arithmetic will lessen careless mistakes. I teach her time saving strategies for tests/exams and instill in her the habit of checking her work. For each careless mistake, she is rewarded an extra page of work. So if she's conscientious and focuses for less than 1/2 hr per day, she is free to read the rest of the day.

For Chinese, she practices composition writing a couple of times a week and we try read stories or model essays every other day. No Chinese assessment books. She has a chinese enrichment once a week.

All in all, she is doing well and still has plenty of time to play in the playground/read/daydream after school. My advice is: don't discourage a reader, find ways to support his passion instead. He's only p1, if he's doing well in school, let him read all he wants. 😄

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jetsetter:
sunset_dae:

no la.. he will call me on his own accord..


oic...then maybe you can gently advise son not to keep \"reporting\" to you during office hours so that you don't need to guess if every call syncs with his status. Draw up a checklist on a whiteboard at home. Ask helper to check off once he accomplishes a task (time stamp is optional).

Was thinking of suggesting that you hire a tutor to \"occupy\" him too...but not sure if you mind strangers coming into your house, cos helper won't be next to them at all times.

Both of these sound like a good ideas. You can ask him to call you only when all items on his list are completed, leaving it to his discretion how he arranges his schedule. Tutors - get one who will focus on helping him organise his time well and inculcate discipline, not one who will completely take over and make him dependent on adult supervision. Then maybe you only need the tutor for this year.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1324001https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1324001Fri, 04 Jul 2014 00:55:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Thu, 03 Jul 2014 12:43:35 GMT]]>sunset_dae,


Whatever happens in future, I’m sure your son will never forget the episode whereby he was forced to eat chilli. Children don’t simply forget things like that.

That’s what I call a colourful childhood.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323635https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323635Thu, 03 Jul 2014 12:43:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Thu, 03 Jul 2014 12:34:38 GMT]]>

sunset_dae:
no la.. he will call me on his own accord..

oic...then maybe you can gently advise son not to keep \"reporting\" to you during office hours so that you don't need to guess if every call syncs with his status. Draw up a checklist on a whiteboard at home. Ask helper to check off once he accomplishes a task (time stamp is optional).

Was thinking of suggesting that you hire a tutor to \"occupy\" him too...but not sure if you mind strangers coming into your house, cos helper won't be next to them at all times.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323619https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323619Thu, 03 Jul 2014 12:34:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Thu, 03 Jul 2014 05:33:26 GMT]]>Hi sun-dae,


A couple of things which I can identify and empathize with you…btw I also have 2 P1 kids…

1) Love for reading - my girls like books too, and they have the habit of reading and doing work AT THE SAME TIME, meaning do a few questions, read a few pages then carry on (if they still remember they have work…hahaha…). Reading is of course, better than say watching TV etc, however it can be very frustrating when a piece of work which probably can be done in less than 30 mins get dragged on because they stop to read half-way. If I don’t ask them to start their work, given a choice, yes, they would probably continue reading on and on…yes, I even thought of keeping ALL the books in the house at some point in time.

2)Need to nap - They are now in the afternoon session, so of course no chance to nap. During their kindy days, I also wanted them to nap as often as possible in the afternoon, else like you say they will tired our by the time we are back from work, and can’t do much constructive work by then (that’s the dilemma of a FTWM…). An alternative you can consider is to get a tutor to come during some afternoons to supervise/coach him in the afternoon to keep him away from his books and keep him meaningfully occupied while you are at work, even if he does not want to nap. Even if you get him to nap this year, don’t think it will get any easier when he is in P2, P3 etc…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323279https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323279Thu, 03 Jul 2014 05:33:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Thu, 03 Jul 2014 05:03:16 GMT]]>Sun-dae,

Since your boy is articulate, have you asked him why he said he has done his work when he has not? Hear him out. And let him know that it is hard for you to believe him next time if he continues his behaviour. It takes time for the message to sink in.

It does look like your boy is craving for your attention and approval. Give him the approval when he engages in positive behaviour and not just in academic work but traits like compassion and kindness as well.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323259https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323259Thu, 03 Jul 2014 05:03:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Thu, 03 Jul 2014 00:56:56 GMT]]>

sunset_dae:
no la.. he will call me on his own accord..

It does sound like your son just craves your praise and attention. I guess he doesn't get much from his caregiver? He' still young, and probably doesn't realise how serious lying is. I was a reader too, and I can understand why he prefers to read than nap or do homework! If you adjust his schedule so that he doesn't feel the need to lie to say he has done what you expect, it might reduce his lying. All the other teaching you do as well will help, of course. And if he is managing well enough, is it really necessary to coach him in the evenings? Maybe just spending time to play with him may be what he needs.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323065https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323065Thu, 03 Jul 2014 00:56:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Thu, 03 Jul 2014 00:54:42 GMT]]>Hi Han Seo


Thanks. In fact, when he call me, i didnt ask him about his homework.
I asked him like how's your school, how's yr day he will just tell me fine.
I asked him about the books he read, he could describe and explain to me the storyline and characters. but he will automatically call me up again the second time telling me he is doing his homework when in fact he had not.. now i makes some changes to his routine, hopefully can see some positive results.. keep u updated again 🙂

Han Seo:
Sun-dae,
The next time your child calls you in the office, other than discussing homework, ask about his day. Ask about the book that he is reading. Try and get into his world. If possible, read what your son is reading and have a conversation about the stories, like what you would do with an adult friend.

And tell us if the situation has improved 3 months from now. All the best.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323060https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323060Thu, 03 Jul 2014 00:54:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Thu, 03 Jul 2014 00:49:55 GMT]]>no la.. he will call me on his own accord..

jetsetter:
sunset_dae

My gawd! You are a micro-manager! You expect your son to \"report\" to you whilst you're at work? Or he calls you at every interval on his own accord?[quote]Call me up after he reached home 20 mins later telling me he had finished his lunch and shower and he is doing schoolwork now...
Call me in the afternoon telling me he had finished doing his homework...
Call me to tell me he had finished his homework and is going to take a nap at 4pm...
Can you be more flexible, i.e. as long as he finishes his hw and 8-10 pages of assessment books required by you by the time you reach home?

If you want son to be gainfully occupied in the afternoon, you can:
1) install CCTV at home to monitor him every second, every minute from your smart phone or laptop.
2) delegate the \"supervisor\" job to helper who will be appraised (and rewarded) if son meets daily target.
3) sack helper and place son in a Student Care which will ensure he is doing work every second, every minute.

I suspect your son already knows everything that's taught in P1 (won so many awards, attended so many enrichment since childhood - Shichida, Piano, CMA, languages), therefore he is confident that he can complete his school's hw without much effort. You should have more trust in him...

I don't think he is lying to you per se. He is merely procrastinating...He probably finds you a nag. Lying to me means failing his test and still insisting he didn't, forging your signature, borrowing pocket money from friends and not admitting or taking your money and denying it, etc.

Don't get so emotional as your son only wants to eat later, sleep later and do his hw later because he wants to chase a story. Reading is a good habit and should not be discouraged. Reading at night is bad for his eyesight. Let him manage his own timetable. If like you said, he is a confident and kiasu boy, he WILL complete his tasks. He is just \"massaging\" the timings a little.

If he can't earn your trust, pls quit your job and be a SAHM so that you can monitor him every second and every minute. You can save some chillies at the end of the day.[/quote]

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323057https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1323057Thu, 03 Jul 2014 00:49:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 15:49:14 GMT]]>Sun-dae,

The next time your child calls you in the office, other than discussing homework, ask about his day. Ask about the book that he is reading. Try and get into his world. If possible, read what your son is reading and have a conversation about the stories, like what you would do with an adult friend.

And tell us if the situation has improved 3 months from now. All the best.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322972https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322972Wed, 02 Jul 2014 15:49:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 15:00:35 GMT]]>Sunset dae,


Many parents would love to be in your shoe, having a child who loves to read. I know my sisters would. This is my analysis:

Your expectations:
Son must nap so that he can complete the work set by you.

Your son’s expectations:
Nothing is more interesting than the books I am reading

Obviously there is a clash here so some compromise is needed. It is important to go to the root cause of the behaviour rather than targeting the symptoms.

By all account you seem to have a very intelligent boy and you should capitalize on this. Not sure what those homework that you have set are but they seem to offer very little stimulation to your child. If I were you, I would talk to my child about the books that he has read. What was so interesting about the plot? How did the author develop the characters? If he were to re-write the story, how would he do it? If there’s any consolation to you, research has shown that such rich discourse at home will go a long way in developing your child intellectually. The myopia issue is a valid concern but you can work around this issue with your son eg reserve weekends and public holidays for nature walks as a family.

Chill it, you have a very bright child and you should work on his strengths and he is telling you with his behaviour. By all means lay down the ground rules when necessary (eg all school work has to be completed before bed time) but some flexibility on your part will go a long way towards a closer relationship with your son.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322945https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322945Wed, 02 Jul 2014 15:00:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 14:31:32 GMT]]>sunset_dae


My gawd! You are a micro-manager! You expect your son to \"report\" to you whilst you're at work? Or he calls you at every interval on his own accord?[quote]Call me up after he reached home 20 mins later telling me he had finished his lunch and shower and he is doing schoolwork now...
Call me in the afternoon telling me he had finished doing his homework...
Call me to tell me he had finished his homework and is going to take a nap at 4pm...[/quote]Can you be more flexible, i.e. as long as he finishes his hw and 8-10 pages of assessment books required by you by the time you reach home?

If you want son to be gainfully occupied in the afternoon, you can:
1) install CCTV at home to monitor him every second, every minute from your smart phone or laptop.
2) delegate the \"supervisor\" job to helper who will be appraised (and rewarded) if son meets daily target.
3) sack helper and place son in a Student Care which will ensure he is doing work every second, every minute.

I suspect your son already knows everything that's taught in P1 (won so many awards, attended so many enrichment since childhood - Shichida, Piano, CMA, languages), therefore he is confident that he can complete his school's hw without much effort. You should have more trust in him...

I don't think he is lying to you per se. He is merely procrastinating...He probably finds you a nag. Lying to me means failing his test and still insisting he didn't, forging your signature, borrowing pocket money from friends and not admitting or taking your money and denying it, etc.

Don't get so emotional as your son only wants to eat later, sleep later and do his hw later because he wants to chase a story. Reading is a good habit and should not be discouraged. Reading at night is bad for his eyesight. Let him manage his own timetable. If like you said, he is a confident and kiasu boy, he WILL complete his tasks. He is just \"massaging\" the timings a little.

If he can't earn your trust, pls quit your job and be a SAHM so that you can monitor him every second and every minute. You can save some chillies at the end of the day.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322925https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322925Wed, 02 Jul 2014 14:31:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 13:44:34 GMT]]>As for me, this looks like a quite normal behavior. Give her a couple more weeks and the problem should vanish on its own. Keep us posted!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322912https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322912Wed, 02 Jul 2014 13:44:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 09:31:48 GMT]]>Yes, I did. i almost cried out when i explain to him why he should not lied. I told him my tears almost rolled down in office, he said really meh? how u cry? everybody see u ah? :slapshead:


i started reading to him when he was 4 months old.
I bought alot of books, i put books every corner of my house.
i went for phonics class and taught him phonics. I started with alphabet books, then picture books, then short stories and young scientist, story box, comics then move on to fiction books. someone once told me a child is affected by the enviroment, if your house has a lot of books and you read to him widely he will pick up reading naturally. My younger son is influence by him. He will pick up a book and sit beside his brother and flipped the pages.
Ipad? i only let him play with ipad less than half an hour once a week. and i seperated into 3 sessios, every thur, sat and sun for about 5-10 mins each time. Im glad he is not hooked/addicted to his gadgets, sometimes he will tell me you can have the ipad, i want to read my books. I have seen kids that are obsessed with playing ipad, throwing a tantrum, crying drastically if ipad are not given to them or even threatening parents, let me play ipad first then i do homework.

kiasuchabo:
hi sunset_dae,

understand your feelings.. you must be real heated when you decide to punish him this way... but I am sure your heart hurts when you see him suffer... hope after this punishment , he will listen to you 🙂 Agree that he shouldn't read in the class while the lesson is on.. if he spends lots of time reading at home but can complete his homework .. its still better than hooking on computer games..

for the telling lies part, nowadays kids are very smart to create excuse and lies...even with such young age... since you have caught him red handed, hope he will really learnt his lesson from there..

He enjoys reading, its really a good sign... how do you train him to enjoy reading... I had want to learn from you. Did you read to him since young?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322763https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322763Wed, 02 Jul 2014 09:31:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 08:17:25 GMT]]>hi sunset_dae,


understand your feelings.. you must be real heated when you decide to punish him this way... but I am sure your heart hurts when you see him suffer... hope after this punishment , he will listen to you 🙂 Agree that he shouldn't read in the class while the lesson is on.. if he spends lots of time reading at home but can complete his homework .. its still better than hooking on computer games..

for the telling lies part, nowadays kids are very smart to create excuse and lies...even with such young age... since you have caught him red handed, hope he will really learnt his lesson from there..

He enjoys reading, its really a good sign... how do you train him to enjoy reading... I had want to learn from you. Did you read to him since young?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322708https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322708Wed, 02 Jul 2014 08:17:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 07:52:20 GMT]]>

firefly38:


Go easy on your child.. Explain to him nicely (he likes to read, so he should be a mature child).. Do not threaten him with cruel punishments, please.. This is my advice for you..
Hey firefly38, good advice !

:goodpost:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322688https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322688Wed, 02 Jul 2014 07:52:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 07:03:06 GMT]]>yes, he does speaks like an adult…he told me he learned his lesson after the chilli incident and dare not tell lies again. hope he had learnt from this lesson, if not I really dont know how to correct him…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322655https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322655Wed, 02 Jul 2014 07:03:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 06:29:08 GMT]]>

sunset_dae:
Hi All


My son is in P1 this year. Recently I found out he had been telling me many lies.
I find it hard to trust him anymore. what should I do? I have been telling him many times not to tell lies, anything just be frank and open and I will not be angry.
The common lies he would say is:
Call me up after he reached home 20 mins later telling me he had finished his lunch and shower and he is doing schoolwork now, where apparently he is not.
He is still munching his food and reading his books.
Call me in the afternoon telling me he had finished doing his homework and is reading when in fact he had not finished his homework.
Call me to tell me he had finished his homework and is going to take a nap at 4pm when in fact he is still busy reading him book, didnt take his nap at all and rush to do his homework at 5pm (he knew Im coming back)

I dont know how long he had been lying to me, the fact that I gave him a very harsh caning on Sat he still didnt amend his way. I warned him that I will feed him with chili if I catch him telling lies again. Last night, I caught him telling lies again. I got so angry early in the morning that I fed him with chili.

Does your kids lie to you? How would you deal with them?
Excuse me for saying this..

I am shocked to read that you fed your P1 child CHILLY coz he lied to you..

As I cannot eat spicy food (I presume your P1 child can't too), I can imagine the pain & discomfort you child must have felt, when he was forced to eat chilly.. Both physical & emotional pain..

My boys (12 & 15) take close to 2 hours, before they will TRY TO start their 'engines' to do some school work.. Your child is only 7..

Your child is very eager to please you (calling you to tell you things (lies) that you want to hear, thinking that it will make you happy).. But he is also very afraid of you (rushing to finish his homework before you come home)

Go easy on your child.. Explain to him nicely (he likes to read, so he should be a mature child).. Do not threaten him with cruel punishments, please.. This is my advice for you..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322633https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322633Wed, 02 Jul 2014 06:29:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 06:10:57 GMT]]>Hi, my daughter was like that too; very quiet, didn't want to reply to other people except her parents. I read scores of books, and figured out that she probably has selective mutism. Check out the book \"Helping your kids with selective mutism\" which is available in library. I tired the techniques mentioned in the book. She has since improved tremendously and is blossoming in a girls school.


I think it will be worthwhile to consult an educational psychologist to assess your child as early intervention is always the best.
[quote]Hi, my kid is in a preschool nursery class now. I feel that she has problem socializing with others. The teacher says she doesn't speak much in class and if she does, it will be with one word. At home she speaks well with us parents... but I do notice she didn't communicate with other people. She does not initiate a talk. If someone ask her a question, then she may answer... but sometimes people talk to her, she seems not paying attention and carry on with her things she is doing.

Recently, the school teacher told me she is not paying attention in class and like to disturb her friends while they are doing work or listening to story. She is usually not listening.. and not following teachers instruction.

However, with us , she understands and follow instructions. She also speaks well with us. I was quite surprise with what the teacher says.


What should I do to help her to speak with others?


Thanks [/quote]

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322626https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322626Wed, 02 Jul 2014 06:10:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 05:50:05 GMT]]>

sunset_dae:
ya, right homework i set for him. Its about 8-10 pages. Consider too much?


Well, everyone's standard is different. And it also depend on many factors - how many question per page, how many subjects covered in the pages, level of difficulty. My ds2 has never done 8-10 pages in a day, and my ds1 (P4) only does that when prepping for exams. But they are probably on the lower end of the spectrum where mum's work is concerned. I try to give them variety. Learning to locate some countries on the globe is also under \"mum's work\".


if there are days I dont set homework for him, he will read for hours.
I worried his myopia will increase coz he will read non stop.

Homework is also near work right? If you are concern about myopia, you can source for large print books online, or use an ereader where the font is adjustable. Teach him to take breaks and do eye massage. I guess he is an only child? You may want to get an art teacher to come in and do art with him, or if u have nearby sports facilities, arrange for swimming / tennis classes and perhaps get some neighbours onboard.

Even when I asked him did he behave in school, he will tell me yes, Im good boy. but sch teacher will say otherwise like he will climb onto the chair and walk ard the class when she is teaching. and when i look at him during parents teacher meeting he will keep quiet.

Honestly I don't know any child who will say he was a bad boy in school. They will either say they are good or laugh guiltily or keep quiet. And he sounds bored really. I guess the main thing here is whether he bothers other kids, knows his work, and how the teacher feel about it. You can also suggest ways to him on how to occupy himself without offending the teacher. But bear in mind that he is young.
I assume he speaks very well and in a mature manner? Sometimes when a child speaks well, we expect more emotional maturity and ability to self manage from them. But it may not necessarily be so. Just something to consider.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322612https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322612Wed, 02 Jul 2014 05:50:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 05:18:17 GMT]]>He didnt forget to do my homework, but he knows the time Im coming back from work and he will rush his work that where i spotted many questions either not done, or anyhow do with many careless mistakes.

Funz:
sunset_dae:

only the maid is supervising her.
He will call me automatically once he reached home, but i will call back at abt 2.10pm and he will tell me he had finished his lunch (when in fact he had not, he will read and eat at the same time)
I dont set routine or timetable for him, by 2.30pm i expect him to finish his lunch and start doing homework. I told him to finish homework by 4pm any extra time he can do reading or have snack. But he will call me at ard 3 plus and lied that he had finished his homework when in fact he is reading books and eating snacks.

In that case, I suggest that you work out, with his input, what his afternoon routine should be like.

He might be doing all these because he thinks you expect that.

He fibbed but at the end of the day he is still completing his work right before you get home right? Not a situation forgetting his homework or not doing them at all?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322576https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322576Wed, 02 Jul 2014 05:18:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 05:00:05 GMT]]>

sunset_dae:
only the maid is supervising her.

He will call me automatically once he reached home, but i will call back at abt 2.10pm and he will tell me he had finished his lunch (when in fact he had not, he will read and eat at the same time)
I dont set routine or timetable for him, by 2.30pm i expect him to finish his lunch and start doing homework. I told him to finish homework by 4pm any extra time he can do reading or have snack. But he will call me at ard 3 plus and lied that he had finished his homework when in fact he is reading books and eating snacks.
In that case, I suggest that you work out, with his input, what his afternoon routine should be like.

He might be doing all these because he thinks you expect that.

He fibbed but at the end of the day he is still completing his work right before you get home right? Not a situation forgetting his homework or not doing them at all?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322557https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322557Wed, 02 Jul 2014 05:00:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 04:59:18 GMT]]>ya, right homework i set for him. Its about 8-10 pages. Consider too much?

if there are days I dont set homework for him, he will read for hours.
I worried his myopia will increase coz he will read non stop.

Even when I asked him did he behave in school, he will tell me yes, Im good boy. but sch teacher will say otherwise like he will climb onto the chair and walk ard the class when she is teaching. and when i look at him during parents teacher meeting he will keep quiet.

ammonite:
Taking a stab too - my guess is he doesn't want to do your homework. (It is homework you set for him right? Not from school?)

Both my kids stopped napping since preschool, you cannot force someone to sleep. Ds2 dropped his naps since 2 years old.

Ds2 in p1 too. Reading, puzzles, playground - ok. Do extra work by himself? Nope. Unless there is a clear incentive. Maybe you can consider the work/volume and incentive chart for him. I think it is very normal.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322556https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322556Wed, 02 Jul 2014 04:59:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats wrong with my kid? on Wed, 02 Jul 2014 04:55:19 GMT]]>no leh, we are not high achiever.

In fact, its is my son.
He got many awards before 6 yrs old. He took part in abacus competition and won some trophies. He was selected by enrichment centre and received Genius award, he was also make to present his memory skills in front of many parents in the enrichment centre. We have always ask him for opinion, want to do or dont want to do it? He will say ok got certificate i want.
when i make mistakes, i apologise even to him..

slmkhoo:
sunset_dae:

Im not sure if he doesnt want to disappoint us, that y tell lies..

Since so many of the more common reasons for lying don't seem to apply, maybe this is the cause? Are you and your husband 'perfect' - ie. high achievers, don't let him see you make mistakes etc? Or do family and friends make it seem that 'perfect' is the ultimate aim? Maybe showing some flaws may help? Just guessing wildly here.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322554https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1322554Wed, 02 Jul 2014 04:55:19 GMT