<![CDATA[When does your children start to study by themself?]]>

lchunleo:
KimNYou:

Hi Parents!


To make a child study on his/her own, you have to first trigger an interest in them.

How to trigger?
Reward-base system

If they perform well, give them a verbal compliment. If they perform not up to your standard, tell them how disappointed you were and encourage them to do better. Tell them that you believe in them and that no question is a stupid question.


It is also essential to share with them the ''fishing story\".
Tell them that you/teacher can feed them with knowledge but one day all humans will pass away.
He/She has to learn to acquire knowledge on their own.

Kids will not get it the first time. All you have to do is to repeat relentlessly.


Cheers! We hope it helps! ๐Ÿ™‚

am puzzled, why should parent be showing the disappointment? Shouldn't parent should love the children by their efforts and not by their result? Kids should not get the wrong idea that parent love for them is by the yardstick measurement of result/outcome that they have delivered.

And \"perform by your standard\", i think the child should be performing comparing himself now and then rather by anyone standard. Parent standard can be high and not appropriate for the child. Child can be easily demoralized by the high standard that Parent has set.

My 2cents worth opinion.

Good observations, lchunleo. Your opinion is worth more than 2 cents. ๐Ÿ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/79081/when-does-your-children-start-to-study-by-themselfRSS for NodeFri, 17 Apr 2026 19:26:16 GMTFri, 12 Aug 2016 03:11:35 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Thu, 11 Aug 2016 17:37:57 GMT]]>She started managing her projects and revision in P5.

She is now P6 and on autopilot mode.
I do still check her worksheets occasionally.

I benchmark her results to the median scores, especially for her weaker subject, Chinese.
Happy if she can hit median. No point comparing with those strong in Chinese as will be demoralising for her.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1709662https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1709662Thu, 11 Aug 2016 17:37:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Thu, 11 Aug 2016 16:40:57 GMT]]>

KimNYou:
Hi Parents!



To make a child study on his/her own, you have to first trigger an interest in them.

How to trigger?
Reward-base system

If they perform well, give them a verbal compliment. If they perform not up to your standard, tell them how disappointed you were and encourage them to do better. Tell them that you believe in them and that no question is a stupid question.


It is also essential to share with them the ''fishing story\".
Tell them that you/teacher can feed them with knowledge but one day all humans will pass away.
He/She has to learn to acquire knowledge on their own.

Kids will not get it the first time. All you have to do is to repeat relentlessly.


Cheers! We hope it helps! ๐Ÿ™‚
am puzzled, why should parent be showing the disappointment? Shouldn't parent should love the children by their efforts and not by their result? Kids should not get the wrong idea that parent love for them is by the yardstick measurement of result/outcome that they have delivered.

And \"perform by your standard\", i think the child should be performing comparing himself now and then rather by anyone standard. Parent standard can be high and not appropriate for the child. Child can be easily demoralized by the high standard that Parent has set.

My 2cents worth opinion.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1709656https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1709656Thu, 11 Aug 2016 16:40:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Thu, 04 Aug 2016 01:48:00 GMT]]>Hi Parents!



To make a child study on his/her own, you have to first trigger an interest in them.

How to trigger?
Reward-base system

If they perform well, give them a verbal compliment. If they perform not up to your standard, tell them how disappointed you were and encourage them to do better. Tell them that you believe in them and that no question is a stupid question.


It is also essential to share with them the ''fishing story\".
Tell them that you/teacher can feed them with knowledge but one day all humans will pass away.
He/She has to learn to acquire knowledge on their own.

Kids will not get it the first time. All you have to do is to repeat relentlessly.


Cheers! We hope it helps! ๐Ÿ™‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1707288https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1707288Thu, 04 Aug 2016 01:48:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Sun, 20 Mar 2016 09:05:27 GMT]]>only when he did badly in his papers then only he will start study by himself

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ChiefKiasu:
metz2:

I think I have to be very patient.


My P4 has insisted that I must help and push her. She has no problem completing her school work but has no idea how to prepare for tests and exams.

Right now, I am getting her to strengthen her weaker areas and guiding her to make notes for self study. Time management, along with study skills, is also on the list.

It's a long process but I hope my effort will help her to become an independent learner.

You are a great mummy! In my case, my kids are poles apart when it comes to self-study.

Thanks, ChiefKiasu.

What I observed from my two kids is that both personality and maturity play a very important part when it comes to self study. My daughter is a motivated learner but she still lacks the maturity to handle everything by herself.

Regardless, giving them proper guidance and tips on how they can self study will definitely be helpful.

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metz2:
I think I have to be very patient.


My P4 has insisted that I must help and push her. She has no problem completing her school work but has no idea how to prepare for tests and exams.

Right now, I am getting her to strengthen her weaker areas and guiding her to make notes for self study. Time management, along with study skills, is also on the list.

It's a long process but I hope my effort will help her to become an independent learner.
You are a great mummy! In my case, my kids are poles apart when it comes to self-study.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1593401https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1593401Sat, 17 Oct 2015 02:52:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Sat, 17 Oct 2015 02:28:15 GMT]]>

Elgarmummy:
How do you get them to study ting xie on their own? I remember depending on my mother to test me, and in Sec 1, I sheepishly told my teacher and the whole class nobody was there to test me, so that was why I could not do the ting xie. In the end, I recorded my voice and tested myself.


Right now, my son is in K2, and it is a pain getting him to learn the chinese characters.
Hi Elgarmummy,

I like your idea of recording voice and testing oneself.

From a friend, I learnt how to make up silly stories about the chinese characters (especially the more difficult ones), why they are written in certain ways. I'll also point out characters that look similar, like how ๆ—ถ and ่ฟ‡ are different just by changing the parts. My kids are always on the lookout for such words and it makes learning tingxie easier and more fun.

However, my daughter has a problem with writing chinese characters. At times, she will write words like ็Ÿฅ with the ๅฃ in front. We are still trying to sort that out.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1593392https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1593392Sat, 17 Oct 2015 02:28:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Sat, 17 Oct 2015 01:59:16 GMT]]>

janet88:
metz2:

I think I have to be very patient.


My P4 has insisted that I must help and push her. She has no problem completing her school work but has no idea how to prepare for tests and exams.

Right now, I am getting her to strengthen her weaker areas and guiding her to make notes for self study. Time management, along with study skills, is also on the list.

It's a long process but I hope my effort will help her to become an independent learner.

Same here. Completing school homework is her responsibility...followed by revision (my work). I plan her revision schedule for tests/exams.

That's one thing we have to learn - planning revision schedule. Revision schedule had never worked for me during my school days. However, for my daughter, I do realise she has a preference for one. Definitely one area I have to work on with her.

Recently, I got my daughter to write down her mistakes in a small note book as I went through English with her. She finds it useful as it helps to remind her certain areas she finds confusing.

For Science, she has been making notes since early this year. For revision nearer the exam, she would depend on them. She can tackle MCQs by herself. It's OEQ section that I'm worried about. Fortunately, her brother is free to teach her some answering skills. The answering skills are not easily picked up if not guided.

Chinese is one subject she's been trying her very best. For chinese compo, we rely greatly on chinese compo books. She would pick up good phrases/idioms and include them in her writing. One regret I have is not suggesting her to practise writing compo at home. That will be another area we'll work on after exam. For Paper 2, comprehension is our biggest headache. I'm still figuring how I can help her besides doing more compre exercises.

I'm glad that my efforts are starting to bear some fruit. For the recent Social Studies exam, she was able to make notes and handle the revision herself.

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daddy2007:
slmkhoo:

Just keep going, and gradually shift the responsibility over to her. Some kids just take longer to get the hang of it, or are dependent by nature and won't do it if not forced. My older girl is like that - she would do homework but didn't really know how to revise, but I did what you are doing, and she gradually got the hang of it. I was probably watching over her to some extent until sec school! To balance things, my younger girl was pretty much self-sufficient in homework and revision from about mid-P1!


P1 got revision to do? No exam right?

We were in China then and my kids were in a school system that had daily homework, tingxie and exams from P1.

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slmkhoo:

It's a long process but I hope my effort will help her to become an independent learner.
Just keep going, and gradually shift the responsibility over to her. Some kids just take longer to get the hang of it, or are dependent by nature and won't do it if not forced. My older girl is like that - she would do homework but didn't really know how to revise, but I did what you are doing, and she gradually got the hang of it. I was probably watching over her to some extent until sec school! To balance things, my younger girl was pretty much self-sufficient in homework and revision from about mid-P1![/quote]

P1 got revision to do? No exam right?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592991https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592991Thu, 15 Oct 2015 08:23:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 07:09:28 GMT]]>

slmkhoo:

Just keep going, and gradually shift the responsibility over to her. Some kids just take longer to get the hang of it, or are dependent by nature and won't do it if not forced. My older girl is like that - she would do homework but didn't really know how to revise, but I did what you are doing, and she gradually got the hang of it. I was probably watching over her to some extent until sec school! To balance things, my younger girl was pretty much self-sufficient in homework and revision from about mid-P1!
Thank you for the encouragement, slmkhoo.

My son has also been able to deal with everything by himself so far. As for my daughter, she could handle the lower primary homework and exams by herself too. But this year, her curriculum is much more heavier, I realised there's a need to help and nudge her every now and then. I attributed it to her more playful nature and being more forgetful, compared to her brother. Of course, her habit of looking for the easy way out doesn't help too if I don't step in. She just shared with me for her EL exam today, she nearly answered a comphrension question with \"To help...\" when she remembered my \"threats\" if she does that. She said it was less work do that instead of writing \"It was to help...\".

I told her if she could take things more seriously and be more focused, I would have less to worry.

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metz2:
I think I have to be very patient.


My P4 has insisted that I must help and push her. She has no problem completing her school work but has no idea how to prepare for tests and exams.

Right now, I am getting her to strengthen her weaker areas and guiding her to make notes for self study. Time management, along with study skills, is also on the list.

It's a long process but I hope my effort will help her to become an independent learner.
Just keep going, and gradually shift the responsibility over to her. Some kids just take longer to get the hang of it, or are dependent by nature and won't do it if not forced. My older girl is like that - she would do homework but didn't really know how to revise, but I did what you are doing, and she gradually got the hang of it. I was probably watching over her to some extent until sec school! To balance things, my younger girl was pretty much self-sufficient in homework and revision from about mid-P1!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592603https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592603Wed, 14 Oct 2015 04:33:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 04:29:38 GMT]]>

Elgarmummy:
How do you get them to study ting xie on their own? I remember depending on my mother to test me, and in Sec 1, I sheepishly told my teacher and the whole class nobody was there to test me, so that was why I could not do the ting xie. In the end, I recorded my voice and tested myself.


Right now, my son is in K2, and it is a pain getting him to learn the chinese characters.
Just practise writing and test yourself a few at a time (as memory permits). There's no need to have a complete test. Or write out the hypy and use that to test yourself for characters, or vice versa.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592597https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592597Wed, 14 Oct 2015 04:29:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 01:32:39 GMT]]>

metz2:
I think I have to be very patient.


My P4 has insisted that I must help and push her. She has no problem completing her school work but has no idea how to prepare for tests and exams.

Right now, I am getting her to strengthen her weaker areas and guiding her to make notes for self study. Time management, along with study skills, is also on the list.

It's a long process but I hope my effort will help her to become an independent learner.
Same here. Completing school homework is her responsibility...followed by revision (my work). I plan her revision schedule for tests/exams.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592503https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592503Wed, 14 Oct 2015 01:32:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 00:55:55 GMT]]>

nlhyx:
P2


Wah so good.

My ds - at Sec 4 (just recently only).

:evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592476https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592476Wed, 14 Oct 2015 00:55:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Wed, 14 Oct 2015 00:39:17 GMT]]>How do you get them to study ting xie on their own? I remember depending on my mother to test me, and in Sec 1, I sheepishly told my teacher and the whole class nobody was there to test me, so that was why I could not do the ting xie. In the end, I recorded my voice and tested myself.


Right now, my son is in K2, and it is a pain getting him to learn the chinese characters.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592460https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592460Wed, 14 Oct 2015 00:39:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:17:39 GMT]]>I think I have to be very patient.


My P4 has insisted that I must help and push her. She has no problem completing her school work but has no idea how to prepare for tests and exams.

Right now, I am getting her to strengthen her weaker areas and guiding her to make notes for self study. Time management, along with study skills, is also on the list.

Itโ€™s a long process but I hope my effort will help her to become an independent learner.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592363https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592363Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:17:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:08:21 GMT]]>P2

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592356https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592356Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:08:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:49:03 GMT]]>P3

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starlight1968sg:
janet88:

[quote=\"starlight1968sg\"]studying by themselves = studying on their own w/o parents' nagging?

dd is 16 and at times, I still nag.

13...but I still have to monitor him. my little spy told me he pretends to study when I walk into the room. it's ok, he can pretend but grades don't lie.

haha, dd = little spy?[/quote]yes. since she was in p1.

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janet88:
starlight1968sg:

studying by themselves = studying on their own w/o parents' nagging?

dd is 16 and at times, I still nag.

13...but I still have to monitor him. my little spy told me he pretends to study when I walk into the room. it's ok, he can pretend but grades don't lie.

haha, dd = little spy?

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starlight1968sg:
studying by themselves = studying on their own w/o parents' nagging?

dd is 16 and at times, I still nag.
13...but I still have to monitor him. my little spy told me he pretends to study when I walk into the room. it's ok, he can pretend but grades don't lie.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592339https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1592339Tue, 13 Oct 2015 11:50:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When does your children start to study by themself? on Tue, 13 Oct 2015 11:44:41 GMT]]>studying by themselves = studying on their own w/o parentsโ€™ nagging?

dd is 16 and at times, I still nag.

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