<![CDATA[The Birds and the Bees]]>Hi Parents,


Have you had a chance to discuss this topic with your children? If so, how did you bring it up? If not, how do you plan to bring it up for discussion? At what age do you think would be more appropriate for such a discussion?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/793/the-birds-and-the-beesRSS for NodeSat, 18 Apr 2026 22:16:07 GMTTue, 12 Aug 2008 07:38:59 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Tue, 24 May 2022 18:59:09 GMT]]>Honestly, I am always very worried when we are walking with Daniel outside that he won’t get stung by a bee, this is one of my biggest fears.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2068561https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2068561Tue, 24 May 2022 18:59:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Tue, 05 Apr 2022 09:47:00 GMT]]>

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2063515\" time=\"1649060081\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2063515 time=1649060081 user_id=195250]
Since your DS has received a HRN last night, you have to make sure he do the ART test these few days, forget the wet dream for the time being.[/quote]
Yah, every morning doing. His new nightmare now.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063625https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063625Tue, 05 Apr 2022 09:47:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Mon, 04 Apr 2022 08:14:41 GMT]]>

shisan\" post_id=\"2063502\" time=\"1649050828\" user_id=\"145867:

It didn’t happen last night, so he’s a little less anxious, and also because he received a HRN late last night, so now his focus is off that for now.
Since your DS has received a HRN last night, you have to make sure he do the ART test these few days, forget the wet dream for the time being.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063515https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063515Mon, 04 Apr 2022 08:14:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Mon, 04 Apr 2022 05:40:28 GMT]]>

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2063461\" time=\"1648972401\" user_id=\"28674:

Why don't you ask the dad talk to the boy? It seems it would be the natural thing to do since there is a dad. I think the boy is likely to be reassured more when it's a man explaining it, or saying that there's nothing wrong?
I did. He just shrugged at me and said he cannot remember, more-so twice in a row. And i dont know if going to a doctor is over-doing it, scaring him even more. I asked my mom, she said my brothers never mentioned anything so she’s just as clueless.
It didn’t happen last night, so he’s a little less anxious, and also because he received a HRN late last night, so now his focus is off that for now.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063502https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063502Mon, 04 Apr 2022 05:40:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Sun, 03 Apr 2022 07:53:21 GMT]]>

shisan\" post_id=\"2063449\" time=\"1648956454\" user_id=\"145867:

The poor boy cleaned up, sat there and was extremely worried. He knew it was ok to happen once a while but immediately after, he got all frightened. I also don’t know any better.
The dad knows nothing… i don’t know why. It’s not happening everyday but twice in a day *shrug*
Why don't you ask the dad talk to the boy? It seems it would be the natural thing to do since there is a dad. I think the boy is likely to be reassured more when it's a man explaining it, or saying that there's nothing wrong?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063461https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063461Sun, 03 Apr 2022 07:53:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Sun, 03 Apr 2022 03:46:59 GMT]]>It is just a normal bodily process that will occur as they grow up…sit with him and reassure him patiently until he grows sleepy again…imagine if it is a nosebleed (or hiccups, or urine bedwetting, or similar bodily things beyond one’s control) and treat it as such. Not frightening. Even if it was a nightmare, u need to reassure the child it will pass.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063452https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063452Sun, 03 Apr 2022 03:46:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Sun, 03 Apr 2022 03:27:34 GMT]]>The poor boy cleaned up, sat there and was extremely worried. He knew it was ok to happen once a while but immediately after, he got all frightened. I also don’t know any better.

The dad knows nothing… i don’t know why. It’s not happening everyday but twice in a day shrug

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063449https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063449Sun, 03 Apr 2022 03:27:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Sun, 03 Apr 2022 02:59:09 GMT]]>

shisan\" post_id=\"2063439\" time=\"1648953389\" user_id=\"145867:

Hi all, I’m back… my son is so afraid and I’m not so sure if he’s ok. He had wet dream again last night at 4am. So he woke up to get changed. Then went back to sleep. An hour later it happened again, and he got very frightened and worried, saying there must be something wrong because it happened twice in a night. I don’t really know how to help him. Is this excessive or normal?
You may bring him to see a doctor and ask the doctor whether it is normal to have wet dream twice in a night and see what the doctor say first. My eldest brother had frequent wet dream before but he was never afraid of it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063447https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063447Sun, 03 Apr 2022 02:59:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Sun, 03 Apr 2022 02:52:34 GMT]]>I don’t think it’s anything abnormal or worrisome. Just calmly clean up and try to go back to sleep. I suppose if a daughter had unexpected menses start in the middle of the night (or a heavy flow woke her up with stained underwear), we would try to calm her down and assure everything is fine, no need to overreact ba.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063443https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063443Sun, 03 Apr 2022 02:52:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Sun, 03 Apr 2022 02:36:36 GMT]]>Hi all, I’m back… my son is so afraid and I’m not so sure if he’s ok. He had wet dream again last night at 4am. So he woke up to get changed. Then went back to sleep. An hour later it happened again, and he got very frightened and worried, saying there must be something wrong because it happened twice in a night. I don’t really know how to help him. Is this excessive or normal?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063440https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2063440Sun, 03 Apr 2022 02:36:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Sat, 22 Jan 2022 16:04:51 GMT]]>Ah i see. Ok my first time going through boy-puberty. And absolutely no idea about wet dreams, how they begin and what actually happens for the young boy. The father only says “it’s like that one”. Yes yes, he’s still innocent, and Im grateful. Other set of problems though, like poor attitude, talking back, rude…

But i do agree, he can be easily kan cheong - like me. I kept calm in front of him, then quickly google ‘wet dreams’… but to the extent of psychiatric help, probably not yet, although an aunt once suggested so because my son seems insecure.
I just gotta assure him it’s normal.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2056627https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2056627Sat, 22 Jan 2022 16:04:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Wed, 19 Jan 2022 16:18:36 GMT]]>

shisan\" post_id=\"2056114\" time=\"1642502079\" user_id=\"145867:

Im facing this now. My 11.5 yr old was so flustered that he had a wet dream, so kan cheong he kept cleaning the bed at 2am. I also dont know how to talk to him or what to say. Or are we supposed to even have anything to say to him? So he doesnt feel like he’s strange?
And this age is too young to have wet dreams, no?
I think it is important to normalise this phenomenon for him so that he would not think he is strange. In fact he is still a good innocent boy. Wet dream is a biological phenomenon not controllable. These days, whether boys or girls, changes in them occur earlier than the usual 13-year-old guideline, so nothing to worry about.

Congratulate him that his body is telling him ahead that more changes would be coming his way(voice change, new body hair etc), like a harbinger of good news of his healthy growth. Everyone needs to grow up and growing up means learning more responsibility. Cleaning himself and his bed is part of the responsibility, definitely not viewed as an anxiety. Praise him for being responsible but let him know that you would put a laundry bag aside for his clothes or bedsheets so he would not need to rush to wash them at 2am.

This is a simple and good article as a guide.
https://www.metroparent.com/parenting/tweens-teens/wet-dreams-boys-deal-part-life/

As a parent, it is good news for you that your son is still innocent, if you know what I mean.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2056343https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2056343Wed, 19 Jan 2022 16:18:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Wed, 19 Jan 2022 15:16:18 GMT]]>

shisan\" post_id=\"2056114\" time=\"1642502079\" user_id=\"145867:

Im facing this now. My 11.5 yr old was so flustered that he had a wet dream, so kan cheong he kept cleaning the bed at 2am. I also dont know how to talk to him or what to say. Or are we supposed to even have anything to say to him? So he doesnt feel like he’s strange?
And this age is too young to have wet dreams, no?
From your posts here and in the Roblox thread, I found that your DS is very easy to Kan Cheong over small issues. It may becuase he has set a very high standard behaviour for himself and others and never accept when he fail to comply these standards. You may talk to him and let him know that \"the sky is not going to fall\" even things turn out is not as he expects. Actually, it is good for your DS to have such self discipline but have to guide him when it is time to let things go. If this still not work, you may consider to bring him to visit some psychiatric to see whether any medication can help.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2056339https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2056339Wed, 19 Jan 2022 15:16:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Tue, 18 Jan 2022 10:34:39 GMT]]>Im facing this now. My 11.5 yr old was so flustered that he had a wet dream, so kan cheong he kept cleaning the bed at 2am. I also dont know how to talk to him or what to say. Or are we supposed to even have anything to say to him? So he doesnt feel like he’s strange?

And this age is too young to have wet dreams, no?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2056114https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2056114Tue, 18 Jan 2022 10:34:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Mon, 01 Apr 2013 14:49:37 GMT]]>The winner sperm! :rotflmao:


I felt sad watching the video. It is just a lot of hard work for the. Whole pregnancy to take place, be established, developing from a tiny single cell to embro to zygote to feotus and then eventually a baby's birth. Each of our birth is just such a miracle. And yet, we still hv people who are aborting for selfish or senseless reasons :faint: or worse, abandoning newborns irresponsibly.

My sil just suffered a miscarriage. She was already in her second trimester. I remembered when I was in my second trimester, I could feel my son's movements, his blowing bubbles already... :sad:

Whenever I feel the miracle of life/procreation, I appreciate my winner sperm more.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/978614https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/978614Mon, 01 Apr 2013 14:49:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Mon, 01 Apr 2013 03:56:21 GMT]]>

tankee:
DS asked about it when he was 8


I spoke to him factually and scientifically, then I shown him the following video. And told him that he is very special, being 1 out of the 300 million, and contains both mummy's & daddy's gene.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_5OvgQW6FG4][/youtube]
That was very informative for my DS. He watched it a few times.
And he declared that he was the \"winner sperm\" :faint:

There is another Ted talk we saw Conception to birth -- visualized , its sort of the next part . The visualisation part starts at 2:00 min

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKyljukBE70][/youtube]

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/978277https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/978277Mon, 01 Apr 2013 03:56:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Fri, 29 Mar 2013 17:19:00 GMT]]>

Apricot:
I chanced upon this good article in Reader's Digest. Though titled `Talking Sex with Teens', I think the tactic employed could be use for younger/older kids and for other purposes. 😄



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Hi Apricot
Thanks for sharing !! 🙂
yeah probably will try that when its time to explain .

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/977311https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/977311Fri, 29 Mar 2013 17:19:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Thu, 28 Mar 2013 11:57:49 GMT]]>DS asked about it when he was 8


I spoke to him factually and scientifically, then I shown him the following video. And told him that he is very special, being 1 out of the 300 million, and contains both mummy's & daddy's gene.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_5OvgQW6FG4][/youtube]

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/976829https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/976829Thu, 28 Mar 2013 11:57:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Thu, 28 Mar 2013 10:14:05 GMT]]>this happened recently.

DS: what is sex?
me: :yikes: how do u know this?
ds: my friend talked about it. he said it is a gross thing. so what is it?
me: i will tell u when u r in P6. (he is 8 years old)

weeks later

dS: i asked father what is sex. he told me but i dont understand what he means.
me: :yikes: what did he say?
ds : i dont know...something about kissing and other stuff...
me: :slapshead:
ds: is that why u didnt tell me? cause i wont understand anyway?
me: yes yes 😓

after that i asked dh what he told ds. he said he told him word for word \"its a procreation process. When 2 person in love, express their love physically\"

no wonder he doesnt understand.

anyway 8 yrs old need to explain in detail about sex? i am thinking wait till he reaches puberty.

so when did your children asked u and what was ur answer?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/976796https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/976796Thu, 28 Mar 2013 10:14:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Tue, 07 Aug 2012 13:40:15 GMT]]>Dd said I did a good job in talking about sex with her...


I would like to be the one to talk to ds too.... 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/815992https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/815992Tue, 07 Aug 2012 13:40:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Tue, 07 Aug 2012 13:30:36 GMT]]>I chanced upon this good article in Reader's Digest. Though titled `Talking Sex with Teens', I think the tactic employed could be use for younger/older kids and for other purposes. 😄



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]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/815982https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/815982Tue, 07 Aug 2012 13:30:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Tue, 24 Jul 2012 05:41:03 GMT]]>

Sun_2010:
ImMeeMee:

Any good books to recommend to 8 year old girls to understand about birds and the bees?


TIA

I found this book very useful for DD
http://www.amazon.com/Its-So-Amazing-Families-Library/dp/0763613215/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1343031184&sr=1-5&keywords=Puberty
Its available in the Nlb .

the author anticipates our shyness/discomfort and handles it with some humour , at the same time keeping the facts right and non-judgemental.

thanks will check it out. 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/803828https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/803828Tue, 24 Jul 2012 05:41:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Mon, 23 Jul 2012 08:23:01 GMT]]>

ImMeeMee:
Any good books to recommend to 8 year old girls to understand about birds and the bees?


TIA
I found this book very useful for DD
http://www.amazon.com/Its-So-Amazing-Families-Library/dp/0763613215/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1343031184&sr=1-5&keywords=Puberty
Its available in the Nlb .

the author anticipates our shyness/discomfort and handles it with some humour , at the same time keeping the facts right and non-judgemental.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/802972https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/802972Mon, 23 Jul 2012 08:23:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The Birds and the Bees on Mon, 23 Jul 2012 08:06:22 GMT]]>Any good books to recommend to 8 year old girls to understand about birds and the bees?


TIA

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/802955https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/802955Mon, 23 Jul 2012 08:06:22 GMT