<![CDATA[Changes In Children]]>Hi I need some help here. My DD2 is taking PSLE this year.


:? What to do if i have a child who has already shown symtoms like:
1. do things slowly when she used to do the same things speedily
2. start to loose competitive sense; she used to want to push herself greatly to achieve better results but now take things easy
3. her leadership roles in prefect and choir had taken a toll on her somewhat
4. lost interest in subjects like science and languages; all she wants to do is just maths (which she is still good at)
5. poor time keeping as she did the science paper with 8 questions in Section B blanks in Primary 5 SA2
6. she worries she cannot do well in PSLE eventhough she scored up to P5 at 83% average of 4 subjects
7. she prefers instead to shift her attention to piano, game play and 'talk back' to the mother a lot more than she used to

:?: Are these burnt out symtoms?
:?: how to bring her back to the right track?
:?: How to motivate her?

Thank you in advance.

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ksi:
:congrats: bear.w.me... Glad the dark clouds above you have moved on.... Your efforts certainly pay off..

Thanks KSI.
It is indeed a relief for me. Phew!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/281789https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/281789Mon, 25 Oct 2010 05:33:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Mon, 25 Oct 2010 02:01:24 GMT]]>:congrats: bear.w.me... Glad the dark clouds above you have moved on.... Your efforts certainly pay off..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/281534https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/281534Mon, 25 Oct 2010 02:01:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Mon, 25 Oct 2010 00:30:42 GMT]]>

daisyt:
bear.w.me, nice to read your update. Good to hear, at least her confidence level is up. Both of you deserve a good celebration. 干杯! :celebrate:

😄
Thank you \"daisyt\"
Cheers!干杯! :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/281490https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/281490Mon, 25 Oct 2010 00:30:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 22 Oct 2010 08:48:00 GMT]]>bear.w.me, nice to read your update. Good to hear, at least her confidence level is up. Both of you deserve a good celebration. 干杯! :celebrate:

😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/280698https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/280698Fri, 22 Oct 2010 08:48:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 22 Oct 2010 08:41:20 GMT]]>

daisyt:
Bear.w.me:

I would rather not talk about it anymore until after the PSLE. :oops:


Sure, no problem. I wish all the best to her, not only in her results but also her attitute towards life. :celebrate:

Thanks to all that offered their concerns over my problem with my child.
Now that PSLE is over for 2 weeks i am ready to provide some updates.

In preparing for PSLE, this old man encouraged DD to start jogging to help improve physical and mental stamina. Also, the muscles need to relax too. I find that it helped a lot.

DD has been offered a place in DHS via DSA. That eased the tension a bit. More importantly I managed to identify her phobia for topics like geometry and speed. I strengthen her science facts and revise languages with her (which she did not know how to prepare)....voila she managed to regain her confidence. Knowing what to cover between papers are key in protecting her confidence. As a result she enters every examination session with a cheerful heart.

After thought
Of course the easier PSLE paper this year would be a sort of 'barometer' for careless mistakes. I would say spread of T-score should be more moderate than last year but overall cut-off point for school may be higher for all school because more students will expect higher T-score.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/280691https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/280691Fri, 22 Oct 2010 08:41:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Tue, 23 Mar 2010 01:25:57 GMT]]>

Bear.w.me:
I would rather not talk about it anymore until after the PSLE. :oops:

Sure, no problem. I wish all the best to her, not only in her results but also her attitute towards life. :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/144855https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/144855Tue, 23 Mar 2010 01:25:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Mon, 22 Mar 2010 14:53:16 GMT]]>Thank you Blobbi. Not really sure if I can find any higher order questions from past years but will try anyhow. Frankly she did not have much problems until mid year of P5. Maybe a matter of training. Also, no point pushing too hard as it may back-fire. A lot of tender loving care is required here.


Regarding Daisyt's question, counsellor only helps in psychological sense...a way of lending listening ears and enlarging her perspective towards facing life challenges. In doing so I hope she is able to cope.

I would rather not talk about it anymore until after the PSLE. :oops:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/144748https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/144748Mon, 22 Mar 2010 14:53:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Mon, 22 Mar 2010 08:44:18 GMT]]>Bear.w.me, do you think starting at/going back to lower level (like p4, p5) higher order questions may give her the confidence she needs first, and then adding the P6 questions later?


I’m out of my depth here, but hope this suggestion helps.

All the best.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/144595https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/144595Mon, 22 Mar 2010 08:44:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Mon, 22 Mar 2010 07:06:28 GMT]]>

Bear.w.me:
daisyt:

Bear.w.me, hows your girl doing so far? Any improvement?


Thanks Daisyt for the concern. I deliberately slacken down my part and allowed her more space on her own. She is less nervous towards PSLE because she starts seeing school counsellor for some advice and that helps a bit.

We met the teacher for the CA1 results review recently...the teacher found that she has phobia towards higher order questions...wow that really caught us in a fix.

Anyway, i think no choice but to step up the accelerator and hope that the pedal won't get jam and causing un-desirable results. I can only cross my fingers and get the best results out of what time there is left for my child to prepare herself.

So, what is the teacher's suggestion on this phobia towards higher order questions?

Glad, to know the school counsellor is of help to her.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/144559https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/144559Mon, 22 Mar 2010 07:06:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Sat, 20 Mar 2010 04:38:14 GMT]]>

daisyt:
Bear.w.me, hows your girl doing so far? Any improvement?

Thanks Daisyt for the concern. I deliberately slacken down my part and allowed her more space on her own. She is less nervous towards PSLE because she starts seeing school counsellor for some advice and that helps a bit.

We met the teacher for the CA1 results review recently...the teacher found that she has phobia towards higher order questions...wow that really caught us in a fix.

Anyway, i think no choice but to step up the accelerator and hope that the pedal won't get jam and causing un-desirable results. I can only cross my fingers and get the best results out of what time there is left for my child to prepare herself.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/143961https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/143961Sat, 20 Mar 2010 04:38:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 19 Mar 2010 15:07:30 GMT]]>

daisyt:
Heard from the news on radio this morning, a country (cannot hear clearly which country) is introducing and selling small size condoms for age 12 to 14. I hope this would not be introduced here. 😞

How can this be legal? I thought having sex under 14 is illegal? :?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/143837https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/143837Fri, 19 Mar 2010 15:07:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 19 Mar 2010 08:46:36 GMT]]>Bear.w.me, hows your girl doing so far? Any improvement?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/143694https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/143694Fri, 19 Mar 2010 08:46:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Tue, 16 Mar 2010 01:54:00 GMT]]>You are right. abstinence is no longer exercise greatly in family values today.


Everyone is talking about ‘Just do it!’

Maybe apart from athletes or musicians less and less people exercise abstinence anymore…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/142143https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/142143Tue, 16 Mar 2010 01:54:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 05 Mar 2010 21:48:06 GMT]]>Yep, fodder for another thread but won't a parent teach abstinence :?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/137163https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/137163Fri, 05 Mar 2010 21:48:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 05 Mar 2010 09:05:48 GMT]]>Switzerland...I also think this is way crap.... :shock:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/136975https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/136975Fri, 05 Mar 2010 09:05:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 05 Mar 2010 08:41:39 GMT]]>

daisyt:
Heard from the news on radio this morning, a country (cannot hear clearly which country) is introducing and selling small size condoms for age 12 to 14. I hope this would not be introduced here. 😞

:faint: I hope there's no NEED. 🙏

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/136951https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/136951Fri, 05 Mar 2010 08:41:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 05 Mar 2010 07:36:01 GMT]]>Heard from the news on radio this morning, a country (cannot hear clearly which country) is introducing and selling small size condoms for age 12 to 14. I hope this would not be introduced here. 😞

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/136904https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/136904Fri, 05 Mar 2010 07:36:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Sun, 28 Feb 2010 00:38:53 GMT]]>Blobbi, PM you her name already. In my about 10 years of dealing with this generation of school teachers and principals from a parent’s point of view. Never met a more understanding and proactive teacher.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/132580https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/132580Sun, 28 Feb 2010 00:38:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Sun, 28 Feb 2010 00:34:05 GMT]]>

2ppaamm:
I met so many hopeless educators, I would have eaten some of them alive! But this week, one particular teacher changed my view completely. From our school lah. I really thought she has really done much to help the kids and she is there for them. Now I have a slightly different view.


Yes, majority still suck, but that one or two really makes this world such a better place for our kids.
So glad for your son and you that he has this teacher. Can PM me her name? I can watch out for her, hehe.

This P1 teacher, aiyo. Suffice to say, I was direct and effective, and now she knows I know and she knows I won't hesitate. So in the last couple of days, it's been a sea-change, hurrah!! I actually wrote her a thank you note on Friday because of her efforts :shock:. But like my son says, she'll probably revert when he leaves.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/132578https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/132578Sun, 28 Feb 2010 00:34:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 26 Feb 2010 13:20:32 GMT]]>[quote]2ppaamm wrote:

Wished more educators think that way as well. I spent a good week in school and I learnt a lot about school. There are different kinds of teachers, and there are good and better ones. There are some who truly want to help and don't know how, and some that go all out to help.




Ooh, I just spent the middle of the week chewing up a teacher I'm not proud of it but it had to be done. I've learnt to not nibble my fingers and hope that behaviour patterns will disappear on their own, and that sometimes, it takes a parent to stand up for his/her child. I'm going to be more proactive going forward.[/quote]Hmmm..such coincidence! I've eaten one alive too this week. Drastic changes in ds toward learning his second language. Usually ds loves a subject that he struggles because for him struggling means learning. But this teacher terrorizes students by giving corporal punishment, books although lightly, landed on kids head & telling students off why choose this language when they did not make an effort to learn.

These scenarios upset ds totally. He broke down while trying to re-call his homework. Met up the teacher with dh. As usual, I'm \"very nice\". Never attack the teacher directly. Enough hints dropped liao. I think eat is not the appropriate word. More like wrap him around my little finger ensuring that he understand what needs to be done to help ds & ensure other kids are not touch as well.

I wonder when the teacher is going for retirement. Totally old school.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/131932https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/131932Fri, 26 Feb 2010 13:20:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 26 Feb 2010 12:11:56 GMT]]>

Blobbi:
2ppaamm:

Wished more educators think that way as well. I spent a good week in school and I learnt a lot about school. There are different kinds of teachers, and there are good and better ones. There are some who truly want to help and don't know how, and some that go all out to help.

Ooh, I just spent the middle of the week chewing up a teacher :!: I'm not proud of it but it had to be done. I've learnt to not nibble my fingers and hope that behaviour patterns will disappear on their own, and that sometimes, it takes a parent to stand up for his/her child. I'm going to be more proactive going forward.

I met so many hopeless educators, I would have eaten some of them alive! But this week, one particular teacher changed my view completely. From our school lah. I really thought she has really done much to help the kids and she is there for them. Now I have a slightly different view.

Yes, majority still suck, but that one or two really makes this world such a better place for our kids.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/131886https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/131886Fri, 26 Feb 2010 12:11:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:27:53 GMT]]>

2ppaamm:
Wished more educators think that way as well. I spent a good week in school and I learnt a lot about school. There are different kinds of teachers, and there are good and better ones. There are some who truly want to help and don't know how, and some that go all out to help.

Ooh, I just spent the middle of the week chewing up a teacher :!: I'm not proud of it but it had to be done. I've learnt to not nibble my fingers and hope that behaviour patterns will disappear on their own, and that sometimes, it takes a parent to stand up for his/her child. I'm going to be more proactive going forward.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/131876https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/131876Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:27:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:17:07 GMT]]>

Si Si:


Well said Blobbi!!! :celebrate:
All kids are different and we just have to use our instinct to go and guide n lead them. I always told my son that I love him for who he is and not what he could achieve (for me or whoever). When he grabbed hold of this security n assurance from me...somehow the achievements just come before I know them. But of cos, this came after more than a decade of perserverance, hope n love. :love:
Si Si, You sound so experienced and so warm and loving. Hope to hear more from you as there is much to learn.

I kept my word since that post - it's been a very good few weeks that I've kept my cool and trusted. My son and I are very close and I feel that we are even closer as a result of a more benign environment. Yes, we must be good role models as well as good supporters of our kids.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/131872https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/131872Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:17:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Changes In Children on Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:08:30 GMT]]>Wished more educators think that way as well. I spent a good week in school and I learnt a lot about school. There are different kinds of teachers, and there are good and better ones. There are some who truly want to help and don’t know how, and some that go all out to help.


Saw that video and how we can make things fun for kids to learn. Really, if every educator does that, imagine how fun learning will be for our next generation. And, there won’t be a dull day at school.

Isn’t that what our children look forward to day to day?

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