<![CDATA[Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction]]>

Snow24:
Hi

Sometime I feel the pinoy maid is just acting dumb.So that they can made you fedup and inside their heart they very happy.

I also quite fedup with the maid after her off day the next few day she will be in 'holiday mood \" otherwise ya ya papaya.
my last Filipino acted stupid...she can't hide for long because I faced her the whole day. in order not to be boiled up and fall for her act, I just ignored her...the worst maid I ever had compared to the Indonesian ones earlier. actually these Filipino ones are the 扮猪吃老虎...damn cunning.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/82308/tips-to-handle-maid-who-don-t-follow-instructionRSS for NodeTue, 28 Apr 2026 21:09:46 GMTFri, 22 May 2015 02:22:33 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Thu, 21 May 2015 06:48:31 GMT]]>Hi

Sometime I feel the pinoy maid is just acting dumb.So that they can made you fedup and inside their heart they very happy.

I also quite fedup with the maid after her off day the next few day she will be in 'holiday mood " otherwise ya ya papaya.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1510458https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1510458Thu, 21 May 2015 06:48:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 20 May 2015 14:00:59 GMT]]>I hate it when the maids behave like yaya-papaya…it doesn’t work on me because I didn’t pay for person to act like some smart alec.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1510034https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1510034Wed, 20 May 2015 14:00:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 20 May 2015 08:51:47 GMT]]>

Snow24:
Hi there


Anyone can share, how do u tackle maids that don't follow instructions despite reminders.
If the mis-behavior is due to poor work attitude, I don't think reminders work.

The maids that I have dealt with so far, especially Fillipinos, only care about their own benefits. Thus, I normally correlate their work to their benefits.

For instance - I would check whether they have completed all works stated in their daily routine after dinner. Anything not being done properly, I would make them finish before going to bed.
Gradually they will know the importance of handling all work properly, or else they will be late for their rest.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509899https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509899Wed, 20 May 2015 08:51:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 20 May 2015 04:24:08 GMT]]>I foot the medical bill twice within 2 weeks mounting to hundreds of dollars… better send her away before more trouble…

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AdonciaTang:
TheAnswer:

I sent my first maid off within 6 weeks. Try to be funny. Get lost!


what did she do?!!

Sick.. she told me she has underlining health issue.. kidney trouble if I am not wrong.. fingers shaking.. she hurt her back before.. cannot do chores.. only 6 weeks into the employment I took her to my private doctor twice within 2 weeks.. Doc found nothing wrong..

Want to try to be funny.. send away immediately.. no prior notice.. call agent immediately pack up n go...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509725https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509725Wed, 20 May 2015 04:23:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 20 May 2015 04:08:01 GMT]]>

TheAnswer:
I sent my first maid off within 6 weeks. Try to be funny. Get lost!

what did she do?!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509705https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509705Wed, 20 May 2015 04:08:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 20 May 2015 03:50:00 GMT]]>I sent my first maid off within 6 weeks. Try to be funny. Get lost!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509683https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509683Wed, 20 May 2015 03:50:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 20 May 2015 02:58:27 GMT]]>unwilling to listen…off she goes.

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janet88:
AdonciaTang:

U need to tell them ur rules before they even start their first day. and make it very clear to them. if not they will think they can d anything they want.


cannot be nice or else they climb on top of employer's head...especially once their loan is settled. before their loan is cleared, they are afraid of the employer, to some extent...after their loan is settled, their wings are set to fly.

yup! thats why set the rules with them and let them know they r replaceable. 3 mistakes and off they go.

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AdonciaTang:
U need to tell them ur rules before they even start their first day. and make it very clear to them. if not they will think they can d anything they want.

cannot be nice or else they climb on top of employer's head...especially once their loan is settled. before their loan is cleared, they are afraid of the employer, to some extent...after their loan is settled, their wings are set to fly.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509560https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509560Wed, 20 May 2015 01:40:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 20 May 2015 01:21:43 GMT]]>

hugomum:
My pinoy maid also, never follow instruction, recently i have a short surgery and not able to eat rice so had told her to cook porridge separately for me, on the 2nd day, i went to look for my porridge during dinner time but can't find and asked her, her reply was,\" Today i cook rice and soup, so you can put the soup on your rice....!\" My blood was boiling....this is just one example, too many and so on. Am sending her back after she repay me the money i personal loan to her. Can't believe i can tahan her for 8 months and keep giving her chances. They just simply don't know how to appreciate.

Did your hubby help you to control your maid?

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hugomum:
My pinoy maid also, never follow instruction, recently i have a short surgery and not able to eat rice so had told her to cook porridge separately for me, on the 2nd day, i went to look for my porridge during dinner time but can't find and asked her, her reply was,\" Today i cook rice and soup, so you can put the soup on your rice....!\" My blood was boiling....this is just one example, too many and so on. Am sending her back after she repay me the money i personal loan to her. Can't believe i can tahan her for 8 months and keep giving her chances. They just simply don't know how to appreciate.


wahaha.... so daring ah? u r too kind to keep her for 8 months.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509554https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509554Wed, 20 May 2015 01:13:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Tue, 19 May 2015 16:44:38 GMT]]>U need to tell them ur rules before they even start their first day. and make it very clear to them. if not they will think they can d anything they want.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509451https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509451Tue, 19 May 2015 16:44:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Tue, 19 May 2015 15:37:21 GMT]]>

zbear:
Is it becos your maid don't understand or simply refused to obey yr instructions?



Think its deliberate.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509407https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509407Tue, 19 May 2015 15:37:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Tue, 19 May 2015 06:47:13 GMT]]>My pinoy maid also, never follow instruction, recently i have a short surgery and not able to eat rice so had told her to cook porridge separately for me, on the 2nd day, i went to look for my porridge during dinner time but can’t find and asked her, her reply was," Today i cook rice and soup, so you can put the soup on your rice…!" My blood was boiling…this is just one example, too many and so on. Am sending her back after she repay me the money i personal loan to her. Can’t believe i can tahan her for 8 months and keep giving her chances. They just simply don’t know how to appreciate.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509122https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1509122Tue, 19 May 2015 06:47:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Mon, 23 Mar 2015 22:08:41 GMT]]>Is it becos your maid don’t understand or simply refused to obey yr instructions?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1480921https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1480921Mon, 23 Mar 2015 22:08:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Mon, 23 Mar 2015 17:16:24 GMT]]>Hi


Is there any ways or methods that employers can try so that the
Maid can listen to instruction?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1480913https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1480913Mon, 23 Mar 2015 17:16:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Fri, 13 Mar 2015 06:40:43 GMT]]>Last filipina maid was so dumb that she didn’t know Fridge from FREEZER so I put big A4 note with sign saying FRIDGE, FREEZER,

I wrote on white board but she would only mange to read what she want to see and later if asked p
Say " I didn’t see" … Well she no longer works for me after many month of bad attitude but really it’s Maid’s Attitude in the end of the day.

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milkbun:
at the end of the day, it's their attitude. If they dont want to work, even with notebook is useless cos they'll try to test you and make you angry.


Also, a helper is suppose to be there to help you, not a burden. If she's a burden, then it's time to get a replacement.
Agree with what milkbun said.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1475877https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1475877Wed, 11 Mar 2015 16:23:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 11 Mar 2015 15:04:06 GMT]]>I type out the general Do’s and Don’t in English and their native language and give them a copy when they first start work. Told them to read through it daily before they sleep.


For day to day instructions, they write down in their notebook in their native language.

Recipes can be typed out in English and their native language as well.

I don’t have much variations in their daily routines and I try to keep things standard and routine for their easy understanding.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1475857https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1475857Wed, 11 Mar 2015 15:04:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 11 Mar 2015 13:28:57 GMT]]>Some maids are dumb. Tell them many times, they still don’t get it.

Write down instructions step by step, onto a piece of paper.
Ask them read aloud, follow
Don’t understand : ask until they understand

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1475817https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1475817Wed, 11 Mar 2015 13:28:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 11 Mar 2015 12:33:54 GMT]]>at the end of the day, it’s their attitude. If they dont want to work, even with notebook is useless cos they’ll try to test you and make you angry.


Also, a helper is suppose to be there to help you, not a burden. If she’s a burden, then it’s time to get a replacement.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1475801https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1475801Wed, 11 Mar 2015 12:33:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Tips to handle maid who don't follow instruction on Wed, 11 Mar 2015 10:28:44 GMT]]>I gave my maid a notebook for her to write down things so she can refer when she needs to. E.g. when she first come, we realised she is not good at Maths so she found it hard to estimate the amt of rice to cook for different people. So have to write down for her specifically 2 people eating cook 1 cup of rice. 3 people eating 1.5 cups. 7 people 3.5 cups. She didn’t understand 0.5 cup for 1 person. Now she gets it and even corrects me if I tell her wrongly…haha.


We also realise she doesn’t understand Eng well so have to speak slowly. And I ask her to repeat to me the instructions so as to make sure she gets all of them right. This I do even now e.g. if I tell her 4 dishes to cook for dinner she always forgets the fourth especially if I tell her when she is busy doing something.

When it comes to cooking I write down the steps for her or print the recipes which she keeps and refer when necessary.

What kind of instructions do you have to keep reminding your maid about? My maid doesn’t forgets instructions intentionally so no attitude issues but there are instances she may forget to do something repeatedly. I will then get DH to speak to her and if it is serious enough, we both will speak to her formally at the dining table (like a pep talk).

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