<![CDATA[How to handle child who talked back]]>Take it easy. Throwing out negative emotions on your child will not correct their behavior. On the contrary, it can serve as a role model –t. That is, the child will copy exactly the behavior that you do not like.

Do not be rude in any way. Both you and your child need to calm down in this situation. If you can’t do without this, then go to your room for a while, and then return. Answer the child’s remarks calmly.
Try to think about what is behind what was said, and keep in mind that most likely the real reason for the child’s behavior has nothing to do with you.
Highlight what is unacceptable and explain to the child why it is unacceptable. If possible, suggest an alternative. If you are sure that disciplinary action is necessary, then use a simple method: deprive the child of some pleasure. Do not forget that such behavior may be just a consequence of the child’s desire to conduct an "experiment": to see how others will react to his certain words and actions.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/82505/how-to-handle-child-who-talked-backRSS for NodeMon, 27 Apr 2026 04:04:26 GMTFri, 12 Feb 2021 11:16:38 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Tue, 19 Jan 2021 05:35:59 GMT]]>Here's your three-step strategy: Monitor your own language and model respect as you interact with your child, even when they sass you. Don't take it personally. When your child speaks hurtfully to you, calmly confront their hurtful words or tone and set a clear expectation for respectful communication.

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]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012538https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012538Tue, 19 Jan 2021 05:35:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Wed, 13 Jan 2021 08:02:03 GMT]]>How to Handle Back Talk and Disrespect Like a Parenting Warrior

https://themilitarywifeandmom.com/how-to-handle-backtalk/

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2011975https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2011975Wed, 13 Jan 2021 08:02:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Fri, 08 Jan 2021 07:50:43 GMT]]>These are all very good advice, I learned something new today.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2011318https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2011318Fri, 08 Jan 2021 07:50:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Tue, 03 Nov 2020 09:42:43 GMT]]>4 Steps To Stop Kids From Talking Back

http://singaporeschild.com.sg/4-steps-to-stop-kids-from-talking-back/

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2001209https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2001209Tue, 03 Nov 2020 09:42:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Tue, 03 Nov 2020 07:44:25 GMT]]>

pleasinglypoised\" post_id=\"1486492\" time=\"1428390871\" user_id=\"127371:

Before we look into how to handle a 6 years old from talking back, I think it is important to find out the root cause on why he/she talked back? Was it that when the child was trying to communicate something across, he/she was often ignored? Or was it that the adults (be it parents, teachers, uncles/aunties, etc) whom the child often associates with have the tendency to talk back at others? Many times, children mimic the adults without we realising it. As adults, we have to watch our own manners and behaviours and ensure we do not subconsciously talk back at others and thus, show bad examples to the child. I prefer to talk sense to the child instead of going into any form of penalization. When the child talks back, we need to educate him/her https://www.baloune.com/guide-sante-chiens/ immediately that it is not right to do so. No one loves rude children and we know that every child longs to be loved. Share the need to be polite to others, and to show respect to one another. Being respectful is to show care and consideration to others.

Such education needs to be reinforced time and time again. Over a period of time, you may realise that the child is slowly learning the need for good behaviour.

Of course, every child is different and we may not be able to generalize a single solution for all. At the end of the day, we all agree that good manners start from young and as far as possible, we should instil the right behaviour to the child starting from a young age.
Our children are our responsibilities, not our parents, and definitely not some outsourced vendors.

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oh Siong\" post_id=\"1992648\" time=\"1598426336\" user_id=\"185560:[quote=\"oh Siong\" post_id=1992648 time=1598426336 user_id=185560]
when a child talks back / argues rudely, actually best is
tell them i am stopping this conversation if you are going to be rude
let them know that you are still in control, higher hierarchy from him/her

but let the child know that you acknowledge his feelings (anger/frustration/sadness etc)..... but you are only going to continue the discussion if they back down on their tone..
and when they do, affirm them their willingness to backdown, then continue the discussion
let them know why it is important that they do not argue/be rude at you..........

and like mentioned, use the LoveLanguage to feed their \"emotion tanks\" regularly. ...[/quote]
Yeah! It's so important to be able to set boundaries!

Another thing that could help is noticing your child's feelings (\"Hey, I noticed you raised your voice, you must be feeling very angry\") and trying to understand what is going on for him or her. When our children feel heard, it's much easier for them to trust you and accept what you have to say.

Once you have listened empathetically and understood your child's feelings ask your child what they'd like to accomplish in relation to the problem you've identified.

Perhaps your goal is for your child to pack their bag ahead of time so they don't forget their homework file. On the other hand, your child's goal is to have enough time in the evening to relax. To them, packing their bag immediately after finishing their homework encroaches into their \"chill time\".

You can see that your child's goal is not in conflict with yours ー after all, your ultimate goal is not for their bag to be packed by a certain hour. The time isn't as important to you as their responsibility and organisation habits.

Straightening out your goals and being clear about what is important will help you think of ideas. It also serves as a basis for common understanding allowing the both of you to brainstorm solutions together!

This might sound unfamiliar and complicated, which is usually the case when trying to learn something new. If you want to read a bit more about it you can check out this blog post! https://letsbramble.com/blog/collaborative-problem-solving

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1995924https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1995924Tue, 22 Sep 2020 06:47:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Thu, 17 Sep 2020 04:17:25 GMT]]>

oh Siong\" post_id=\"1992648\" time=\"1598426336\" user_id=\"185560:[quote=\"oh Siong\" post_id=1992648 time=1598426336 user_id=185560]
when a child talks back / argues rudely, actually best is
tell them i am stopping this conversation if you are going to be rude
let them know that you are still in control, higher hierarchy from him/her

but let the child know that you acknowledge his feelings (anger/frustration/sadness etc)..... but you are only going to continue the discussion if they back down on their tone..
and when they do, affirm them their willingness to backdown, then continue the discussion
let them know why it is important that they do not argue/be rude at you..........

and like mentioned, use the LoveLanguage to feed their \"emotion tanks\" regularly. ...[/quote]
This is a good advice and I will try to apply it to my girl who loves to talk back. Thanks oh Siong

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1995356https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1995356Thu, 17 Sep 2020 04:17:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Wed, 26 Aug 2020 08:03:11 GMT]]>Yeah, good advice.


I use a very similar method. I simply say, “I find that phrased in a very rude way. I don’t like how it makes me feel disrespected. Please try saying it again but in a more polite way.

If you need time to calm down & think this through, I’ll walk away now & u can come look for me later when you’re ready.”

Once this basic training has occurred a few times, I can simply shortcut & say, “Try again. Rephrase please.”

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1992653https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1992653Wed, 26 Aug 2020 08:03:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Wed, 26 Aug 2020 07:18:56 GMT]]>when a child talks back / argues rudely, actually best is

tell them i am stopping this conversation if you are going to be rude
let them know that you are still in control, higher hierarchy from him/her

but let the child know that you acknowledge his feelings (anger/frustration/sadness etc)… but you are only going to continue the discussion if they back down on their tone…
and when they do, affirm them their willingness to backdown, then continue the discussion
let them know why it is important that they do not argue/be rude at you…

and like mentioned, use the LoveLanguage to feed their "emotion tanks" regularly. …

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1992648https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1992648Wed, 26 Aug 2020 07:18:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Tue, 21 Jul 2020 04:59:40 GMT]]>Making an agreement will work as well!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1986881https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1986881Tue, 21 Jul 2020 04:59:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Mon, 13 Jul 2020 06:23:43 GMT]]>Listen to their opinions and thoughts, when you think it is not right anymore. Talk to them in a way they can understand, scolding them might just worsen the situation

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1985481https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1985481Mon, 13 Jul 2020 06:23:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Sat, 11 Jul 2020 09:05:10 GMT]]>I think firstly parents have to think about what was difficult for them when the child talks back. Children at that age is gaining autonomy and control over their decisions and actions and it is normal for them to want to express their own opinions and thoughts. Probably parent would have to communicate with the child their thoughts and feelings after they understood better what was difficult for them when the child talks back.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1985312https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1985312Sat, 11 Jul 2020 09:05:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Sat, 18 Apr 2020 07:56:31 GMT]]>

Zeal mummy\" post_id=\"1971676\" time=\"1587193855\" user_id=\"58173:[quote=\"Zeal mummy\" post_id=1971676 time=1587193855 user_id=58173]
This reminds me of the korean sinking ship ... the children were told to stay in their rooms even when trouble was already on the way. None of the children dared to speak up or question why.[/quote]
Parent has to be Patient so that the Kid will not be a Patient
Willing to listen to them more..... honestly, it's easier said than done 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1971691https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1971691Sat, 18 Apr 2020 07:56:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Sat, 18 Apr 2020 07:10:55 GMT]]>This reminds me of the korean sinking ship … the children were told to stay in their rooms even when trouble was already on the way. None of the children dared to speak up or question why.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1971676https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1971676Sat, 18 Apr 2020 07:10:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Sat, 18 Apr 2020 06:51:04 GMT]]>As parents, when our child says \"You are not understanding!\", most of the time, we feel that the child is disobedient. To some it may be a 'Talk-Back\".

Parenting is never easy, There is no one size fit all solution. It's very Subjective. :scared: :scared: :scared:

IMO expecting kids to always accept our way of thinking is dangerous too. We may win the battle and lose the war. It may be just building a wall to our relationship.
:scratchhead: :scratchhead: :scratchhead: :scratchhead:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1971674https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1971674Sat, 18 Apr 2020 06:51:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Mon, 20 Jan 2020 03:29:57 GMT]]>Reverse psychology him or her

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1959920https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1959920Mon, 20 Jan 2020 03:29:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Thu, 16 Jan 2020 02:58:48 GMT]]>give them a statement that makes them reconsider their answers, it causes them to rethink and stop

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1959329https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1959329Thu, 16 Jan 2020 02:58:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Thu, 09 Jan 2020 19:22:12 GMT]]>

Pseow\" post_id=\"1955254\" time=\"1577202598\" user_id=\"182982:

Which is more dangerous: a child who talked back when you scold them if they did something wrong or a child who is just silent and never talk to you?
From experience, let the child speak out. Children, especially preschoolers are developing their reasoning skills that are why it is highly encouraged to let them talk to express what they know and feel. If they are used in an environment where people listen to them, they won't be shy and eventually realize as they grow older that there is an ample time to speak and not.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1958297https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1958297Thu, 09 Jan 2020 19:22:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Tue, 24 Dec 2019 15:00:57 GMT]]>Talking back, to me is more of voicing of different opinions from both parties … in a more impolite and loud ways?? like what you see from the family drama… talk loud/shout that kind of thing?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1955249https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1955249Tue, 24 Dec 2019 15:00:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Tue, 24 Dec 2019 14:59:12 GMT]]>…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1955248https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1955248Tue, 24 Dec 2019 14:59:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Tue, 24 Dec 2019 14:51:46 GMT]]>Can someone give an example of what is “taking back”? After 9 years of child-rearing, I still have no idea of what it means.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1955247https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1955247Tue, 24 Dec 2019 14:51:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to handle child who talked back on Tue, 24 Dec 2019 14:48:03 GMT]]>I find usually daddies will have more ‘power’ de…when dad is at home, dds auto bring own plates to kitchen after meals and make their bed…


As the grow, they will have own thoughts/opinions, most time I will tell them that is not right to go against…but sometimes I do ask myself if that is their way of conveying own thoughts/opinions…if that is conveyed using a better tone, would it be seen better? I am still learning…

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