Snow24:

Hi NewKSmum


Exactly has similar encounter the maid promised to use hp at night after chores completed. Now she is charging hp and secretly using during the day. Showering take very long as she is using hp inside the toliet. Bedtime still not sleeping texting on her hp past midnight. Next morning unable to wake up in time, cannot finish her chores.

Did you managed to hire any good maid without giving you problems due to hp usage etc ?

Snow24:

Hi EA_Happy

Poor you to bear with this kinda of maid.

My maid recent months has started to Hse hp till very late and it affected her work performance the next day.

When we talked to her about work performance the next two days she will try to show improvement but after a few days back to the slack work again.

Was wondering whether is she really here to work or not. The helper contribution can either help or family our family. For them is just a job at the end of the day if it don't work out they can just leave your house.

EA_Happy:

My maids is ex Singapore maid, previously worked for a very rich Indo Chinese family of 4, and she was 1 of the 7 maids in that family.


Now she returns to sg again and working for me, just with an ordinary HDB house with normal food.

When we first interviewed her at the agency, she said she didn't want to use hp and no off days. She was so comply until the 3rd months she with us. Suddenly she is asking can she starts using the hp? I was like...huhh? You told us you do not need to use hp in the first place. Then she replied, bcoz I dont know ma'am and sir personality yet, so after I observed, I find two of you should be okay if i ask for it.

Well, out of sympathy, my husband and I agreed will pass her the hp and to let her use it every week weekend nites (Fri, Sat and Sun) since we have 2 boys age 4 and 1. Weekend, my husband and I still can manage the kids and let her to use her hp to call her family members.

Nightmare started since that, after she starts communicating with her family members, she can't sleep and eat everyday. She kept thinking about what her husband told her that he missed her so much. She came to SG is bcoz she was having bad relationship with her husband in Indo, and she ran out from the house just to scare her husband. Is really drama. She cries all time. That time, my second boy is just 6 months old, and we all are working full time, no in laws and parents help at all. I have to leave my poor boy to her in the day time. Can you imagine how I feel everyday before I leave the house in the morning and go to work. I'm crying in my heart everyday. I can't concentrate in my work bcoz her unstable emotion really affected me.

My 1st boy right arm was broken by my 2nd Indo helper when he was 5 months old. Yes, when he was 5 months old. Same thing, I have no choice and I got to work full time. So left my 1st boy to the helper, and accident happen. She was retained in SG for 10 months just to go through all lie test. In the end, police officers asked us whether do we want to proceed to sue her? We just let her go. Bcoz even you sue her, she will be in jail, and my boy's arm won't be perfectly fine anymore.

Back to my current maid. So, I was so paranoid all time, whenever I leave my 2nd boy to her. The phobia stress is really challenging me. I am glad that I didn't turn mad after so long my mindset being torturing. So, this was last for 3 months, which she is with us for the 6 months. I console her everyday all time. And reminds her, my boy still young, please don't let her emotion and affected the safety of my boy. After 3 months she continue with her unreasonable emotion shown, I can't take it anymore. I pay her to work for me and help me to take care my boy, not to come to my house and stress me out and my husband. So I confronted her, asked her whether she still wants to continue to work or not. She said yes, bcoz her loan is not finished yet. She promise will stable her emotion and work as per normal. Huh, the next day, she just like normal, unstable emotion all gone.

Okay, think things go smoothly. The following months, she is so fine, and I back to work as per normal again. One day, I out of sudden went home early, at 2pm, I saw her steal her hp from my room, and hide inside the store room making a call. I can't believe what I have seen. She was so shocked too, and her lips turned pale immediate. I told her, I remember I have informed her, whenever she wants to use her hp, she can ask for it. Why she wants to steal it and make a black mark on herself? She replied, she also not sure why she did that. And I asked her, who did she call to? Guess who? Her SG 's maid friends. Faint~~

Her loan is finishing soon, Oct next month. Bad attitude starts showing everyday. Whenever after she used her hp at nite, the next day she will show black face to your request. She told me, after her loan finished, she wants to go back to Indo.She can't take it life without hp. She said the hp will distress her bcoz she is facing my son everyday.

My conclusion, hp...not helping them distress and work better for you, instead the other way round.

janet88:

Treat maids well as part of the family, they take your kindness for granted...when reprimanded for doing something wrong after a few times, the maid throws tantrums.

Treat maid as one, you don't know what she will do.

Don't give maids off, employers are seen as slave drivers.
Give a maid off, she loses focus and sloppy for the next few days.
Addicted to the mobile phone.

ashana:

I like this quote from Mr LKY and is quite applicable for the situation...


“I am often accused of interfering in the private lives of citizens. Yes, if I did not, had I not done that, we wouldn’t be here today. And I say without the slightest remorse, that we wouldn’t be here, we would not have made economic progress, if we had not intervened on very personal matters – who your neighbour is, how you live, the noise you make, how you spit, or what language you use. We decide what is right. Never mind what the people think.”
– Prime Minister Lee Kuan Yew, Straits Times, 20 April 1987

Sometimes \"human rights\" are meant for people who can discern the rights from wrong intellectually and ethically.

Snow24:

Hi


Find that giving maid off days and usage of hp create a lot of problems as some maids are not discipline during working hours they wanted to use the hp.At night even before finishing chores or settle the children to sleep wanted to use the hp.
After off day the next few days of work will be sloppy the work performance dropped. Going out on off days mixed with her Filipino maids frebs come back give employers problem. Sigh

joyistheflag:

I have told my maid she can use her phone at night - I don't think it is reasonable to bar them from using their handphones altogether. We would not be happy if we were barred from our hps/computers after all. She gets one off day a month, at her choice because she wants the money in lieu of the other off days. Agree that off days and hp usage may lead to problems but I think they should be treated fairly, as fellow human beings.

Snow24:

I noticed that when maid come home after off day, she will be very tired.The subsequent days after her off day, still in holiday mood and affect work performance eg forget to do this and that. Forgot to off heater and stove switches.Need to be reminded again.