<![CDATA[How do you not succumb to temptations?]]>In life, we are tempted in more ways than we know of… the latest techno gadgets like handphones, the latest toys for kids, the most fashionable statement-making outfit, the best golf clubs…etc…


But all these temptations are mild as at most it burns a hole in the pocket and you gotta slog hard to make it back.

Spinning off from the EMA and the marriage contract thread…perhaps you can share your experience of near-temptations that you have managed to overcome yourself.

In a way, these are minor victories that you have made for yourself as an individual but major victory you have made for your family.

Come share…even if it is others’ stories it is fine…we can learn alot from it… We like to see the "Strength of Mind at work"

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/8403/how-do-you-not-succumb-to-temptationsRSS for NodeTue, 21 Apr 2026 09:52:23 GMTThu, 21 Jan 2010 02:39:10 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Wed, 11 Aug 2010 07:16:49 GMT]]>i’ll just give the vibes, i would not be tempted. haha

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/237325https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/237325Wed, 11 Aug 2010 07:16:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Wed, 04 Aug 2010 08:21:26 GMT]]>Hi Insider,


Enjoyed your post about your P1 son having an admirer, your 18 years old daughter turning down a boy who liked her, and your son who disregards many girls who want his attention for the right one.

I hope that my children can be so sensible and selective, especially in their teenage years!

Like to ask… how did you inculcate the thinking in your children, to see the shallowness of teenage romances, to wait for the right person whom they want, and to realize that there are other matters e.g. achievements, opportunities more important than BGR?

There must be something that you did or said, that taught them?

Thanks for your sharing!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/231800https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/231800Wed, 04 Aug 2010 08:21:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:18:55 GMT]]>[quote]Wah EN, I'm waiting for the day someone thinks I'm not a mother..[/quote]
Don't ever wish for it. There is always two sides of a coin.

[quote]During my sec sch days, we already hear
of schoolmates being part-time social escorts.. [/quote]So far none of my school mate. But it was my close friend, a neighbour from the same block did it. Very sad. We grew up together but later chose different secondary school. She can easily blend in with my school friends and I even invited her to stay with my relatives in KL. But when I met her group of friends, I have to pull myself back. We tried (his parents, my parents, myself) but we fail to save her. My parents are still in touch with her family and I do hope to see her someday.

The very reason I am very fussy when placing my kids in school. Even then, I will aim to try to send and fetch them everyday.

So for all the temptations in the world, who cares, I have bigger problem in my hands.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116634https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116634Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:18:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:20:33 GMT]]>

buds:
Ya loh. :roll: Now you understand why if there

isn't demand, there wouldn't be any supply? 😛
so these publications fuel that demand by supplying more titilating stuff... :roll: downward spiral right?

Think it boils down to the same thing we were talking about earlier...it's all around. It just takes steel-y willpower to walk away!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116605https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116605Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:20:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:11:33 GMT]]>Ya loh. :roll: Now you understand why if there

isn't demand, there wouldn't be any supply? 😛

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116567https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116567Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:11:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:01:33 GMT]]>

buds:
I know watcha mean 2ppaam. 😛

Cos all of a sudden my own hubs
volunteered to sit through my hair
cut and hair treatment contented by
simply getting to browse the magazines.
:rotflmao: SEX sells! 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116557https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116557Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:01:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:58:49 GMT]]>I know watcha mean 2ppaam. 😛

Cos all of a sudden my own hubs
volunteered to sit through my hair
cut and hair treatment contented by
simply getting to browse the magazines.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116554https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116554Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:58:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:55:58 GMT]]>

buds:
During my sec sch days, we already hear

of schoolmates being part-time social escorts..

So, fast forward to the NOW (future), the nature
of similar jobs just got easier and pays better..
Yikes! Thanks for the headsup. I will definitely keep a look out for my boys and girls. Scare the wits out of me...

I have not read fashion magazines for decades now. Picked up one at the salon last week. I must say I was appalled by the contents! :!: :scared:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116551https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116551Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:55:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:51:00 GMT]]>During my sec sch days, we already hear

of schoolmates being part-time social escorts…

So, fast forward to the NOW (future), the nature
of similar jobs just got easier and pays better…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116549https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116549Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:51:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:49:20 GMT]]>Aaaah, see... you're out of your shell now.


It's all for the mah-ney.. since the girls have
started it, the boys too have since caught on.

We have student dancers turn night strippers
and then followed on with just the services,
since it's easier. :roll:

It's really not uncommon now. And it freaks
the hell out of me. Having 2 girls myself, this
trend is very unbecoming. Some kids seriously
need to be leashed! :!: The number of liberal sweet
young things posting up their nude or in skimpy clothing
or coverings are rising in blogs, social networks and various
other media, some even advertising services on free ad services.

It's really scary..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116547https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116547Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:49:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:39:43 GMT]]>

buds:
Actually, someone who can pay looks can also look like someone who

is hawt and can carry herself well too, not necessary the ah-soh kinda
desperate housewife. There are lonely rich tai-tais who specially look
for these kinda services of toy boys. Either that or you do have like
branded clothes, branded watch, branded car, residing in a branded
district, etc... there may have been some silent signs that the boy
may have caught on, 2ppaamm.
No lah, I happen to be the only older woman in the lecture theatre, the rest are young, pretty girls. I am the only old and possible target! :lol:

BTW it has never occurred to me that there are so many desperate rich women looking for toy boys... and it has never occurred to me well educated, good looking boys want to be toy boys. I must be in my tortoise shell all these while...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116542https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116542Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:39:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:34:45 GMT]]>

2ppaamm:
Er.. someone who can pay normally looks :!: like desperate housewife lah, thick thick makeup and wrong sized clothes... But I am so ordinary leh.

I think it is better to look like someone who can get paid, but have pockets like someone who can pay. Hm... the best of both worlds...
Actually, someone who can pay looks can also look like someone who
is hawt and can carry herself well too, not necessary the ah-soh kinda
desperate housewife. There are lonely rich tai-tais who specially look
for these kinda services of toy boys. Either that or you do have like
branded clothes, branded watch, branded car, residing in a branded
district, etc... there may have been some silent signs that the boy
may have caught on, 2ppaamm.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116540https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116540Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:34:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:07:22 GMT]]>

girlmum:
buds:

:rotflmao: Better to look like someone who can pay... :rotflmao:


:!: Rather than looking like someone who needs it! :!:

Agree & That's a good one. :rotflmao:

Er.. someone who can pay normally looks :!: like desperate housewife lah, thick thick makeup and wrong sized clothes... But I am so ordinary leh.
I think it is better to look like someone who can get paid, but have pockets like someone who can pay. Hm... the best of both worlds...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116530https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116530Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:07:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:04:27 GMT]]>

buds:
:rotflmao: Better to look like someone who can pay... :rotflmao:


:!: Rather than looking like someone who needs it! :!:
Agree & That's a good one. :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116529https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116529Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:04:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:01:42 GMT]]>:rotflmao: Better to look like someone who can pay... :rotflmao:


:!: Rather than looking like someone who needs it! :!:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116527https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116527Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:01:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:57:01 GMT]]>Wah EN, I'm waiting for the day someone thinks I'm not a mother.... :lol:


O, just share this little nugget. I mix with undergrads a lot, and there was once a student actually gave me a lot of compliments. I have no clue why. Now that years have passed, I understand a bit more. Some of these youngsters, at about 21-25 provide s** services to foreign tai tais for a neat sum of money.... maybe I looked like someone who can pay.... :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116520https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116520Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:57:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:42:21 GMT]]>

peapot:
Aiyo!! So nice...still got guys checking you out. As for me, I never had any guys looking at me even when I m dressed up!!???? Only my hubby managed a \"huh? ya....emnn....nice..nice\"


Pathetic....but there's one person who sincerely think I look nice. That's my gal. She says \" I like your dress. Can I wear it when I grow up?\" Ok, maybe its just the dress but its better than nothing.
Peapot, it's a blessing, don't think you want to be subjected to temptation.... Your dd is so sweet. :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116504https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116504Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:42:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:21:39 GMT]]>Aiyo!! So nice…still got guys checking you out. As for me, I never had any guys looking at me even when I m dressed up??? Only my hubby managed a "huh? ya…emnn…nice…nice"


Pathetic…but there’s one person who sincerely think I look nice. That’s my gal. She says " I like your dress. Can I wear it when I grow up?" Ok, maybe its just the dress but its better than nothing.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116488https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116488Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:21:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 06:50:16 GMT]]>

EN:
[quote]You caught me there by passing the credit back to me.........Think we have mutual positive vibes of

keke. :celebrate:

Just an update on silly young chap at work. Found out he is neighbour with the company COO. Before rumour, insinuation hits me, I get his mentor to tell him my age. There! Solve my problem.

I must thank the Giant's supermarket aunty for refusing to give flower to me on mother's day, insisting it was meant for mother's only. I was clueless liao, why there is always misconception. I already live like a hermit, clothing already okayed by dh & son (no short skirt, no low neck). Now I can work quietly surrounded by my well minded colleague.[/quote]You probably don't look your age at all....Post here and we help you to analyse.... :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116253https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116253Mon, 01 Feb 2010 06:50:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Mon, 01 Feb 2010 04:06:50 GMT]]>[quote]You caught me there by passing the credit back to me.........Think we have mutual positive vibes of [/quote]
keke. :celebrate:

Just an update on silly young chap at work. Found out he is neighbour with the company COO. Before rumour, insinuation hits me, I get his mentor to tell him my age. There! Solve my problem.

I must thank the Giant's supermarket aunty for refusing to give flower to me on mother's day, insisting it was meant for mother's only. I was clueless liao, why there is always misconception. I already live like a hermit, clothing already okayed by dh & son (no short skirt, no low neck). Now I can work quietly surrounded by my well minded colleague.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116189https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/116189Mon, 01 Feb 2010 04:06:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Sun, 31 Jan 2010 02:45:36 GMT]]>

EN:


There is no need to salute lah. You gave me a lasting impression. Of course I remember. Maybe, that is the reason why, very difficult to shake of that boy, despite your braces and all. 😛
:? A compliment? :oops: :oops:

You caught me there by passing the credit back to me.........Think we have mutual positive vibes of each other's post 😄 :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/115863https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/115863Sun, 31 Jan 2010 02:45:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Sat, 30 Jan 2010 15:52:04 GMT]]>[quote]But your memory not only remembers what you post, you remember what I post too!!!! [/quote]
There is no need to salute lah. You gave me a lasting impression. Of course I remember. Maybe, that is the reason why, very difficult to shake of that boy, despite your braces and all. 😛

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/115797https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/115797Sat, 30 Jan 2010 15:52:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Sat, 30 Jan 2010 01:30:56 GMT]]>

insider:
ks2me:

the only question I have is, you feel that such a focus on one's goal to stay from temptation is more of nature than nurture? Or did I misunderstand your statement?

I tend to believe more in nature than nurture.

Babies with so different temperaments, like kids with different level of IQ/EQ.

If born with certain qualities in nature, spend 10% effort can yield 90% reward. If don't have that kind of nature, it is not said that 'no hope' but then maybe 90% effort and yield 10% reward kind.

Some kids are just sensible. Don't need to talk much or talk once or twice they will know what to do. For kids who are not sensible, then can keep nagging and nagging and if lucky enough, can see them inch a few mm forwards.

Above is always my firm belief... (and I ever wrote an about 20 pages research report on that about Nature and Nurture).

Yes I agree..nature must come first before nurture can bring it up to its actual potential. To me, good attributes born naturally without proper nurturing is wasted, and good nurturing without naturally born good attributes hits its limitation after a while. A friend I know works with prisoners. Not all of them can be reformed as they are simply born with some limitations to cross over their own barriers. Took her many years and those cases simply have to be dropped eventually and she shared that if not for those successful cases, this is a very rough and tough path to travel for her, very draining on herself.

Would be good that when you have time to share more about what you wrote in your research about nature versus nurture.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/115525https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/115525Sat, 30 Jan 2010 01:30:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How do you not succumb to temptations? on Sat, 30 Jan 2010 01:23:27 GMT]]>

EN:

Braces and specs!! :faint: Think the guy must need to have his spec change.

Different lah. How to compare. Your post 1000 plus, compare, mine is very much lesser.
No lah...he needed eyes transplant. 😉

But your memory not only remembers what you post, you remember what I post too!!!! :salute:

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