The journey with dementia is challenging for both the person with the illness and their caregivers. Remember to be kind to yourself and to seek out support when you need it. This community is a safe place to share your experiences and ask questions. It’s so important to connect with others who understand what you’re going through.

chenlaoshi\" post_id=\"2079325\" time=\"1661149901\" user_id=\"162894:

《妈妈！》，a movie about 85 yr old mum taking care of 65 yr old daughter who contracted Alzheimer's disease.

The actress who played the role of the mum won the Best Actress award in the 12th Beijing International Film a couple of days ago. Would be nice if we can catch it in local cinemas.

Hendon\" post_id=\"2079355\" time=\"1661159092\" user_id=\"142376:

where can one find such films online?

chenlaoshi\" post_id=\"2079325\" time=\"1661149901\" user_id=\"162894:

《妈妈！》，a movie about 85 yr old mum taking care of 65 yr old daughter who contracted Alzheimer's disease.

The actress who played the role of the mum won the Best Actress award in the 12th Beijing International Film a couple of days ago. Would be nice if we can catch it in local cinemas.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pMXNN8J5FlQ][youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cdARJ4_GMgI]
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eYbnqDZO4I4]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2079273\" time=\"1661099615\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2079273 time=1661099615 user_id=195250]
After my father got stroke many years ago, maybe part of his brain has died during stroke, he became having poor memory, impatient, like to complain everything, suspect everyone surrounding him, ...etc.

I agree some of these are his innate personality and I was angry and also argued with him. Then one day, DH said to me \" As you know your father got stroke but not you. Why you need to be calculative and angry with him?\" Therefore, whether it is from his innate personality or brain damaged during strike is not important. Since father has already fell ill, we just tried our best to forgive and tolerate him.[/quote]

Hendon\" post_id=\"2079256\" time=\"1661075402\" user_id=\"142376:

We like to think there is innate personality but really it is which part of the brain dies first and how it progresses to the rest of the brain. Nothing linear here.

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2079108\" time=\"1660958507\" user_id=\"17023:

Very true!

My deceased MIL who had dementia could grumble non-stop for like 10hours every day (less meal time). She was also quite paranoid since young. Her psychiatrist told us that a dementia patient could no longer control their minds, thus, her paranoia was amplified 100 times.

For example, in the past when guests came to our house, maybe she didn’t welcome them but would still can put up a smiling face. But when someone loses the ability to control their minds, those who are already paranoid in the first place would ask outright whether the guests were here to steal our money. Quite scary because can no longer control the mind to say and behave appropriately.

Only after my MIL passed on, did I realize those things I read on internet about dementia are only half truths, like stereotyping dementia patients. How each patient behaves is still pretty much based on their innate personality.

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2079104\" time=\"1660956334\" user_id=\"28674:

Make a habit of positive thinking and develop a generous spirit now, and hope that this persists even into dementia? Not sure if that works. Based on a small sample of people I've seen or heard about, it seems that the basic personality is what determines a person's attitudes when they get dementia. People who are genuinely nice remain nice, even if they haven't a clue who you are or what you are talking about; selfish or grumpy people just get worse as the veneer of social graces wears off.

manorway\" post_id=\"2079097\" time=\"1660926120\" user_id=\"9303:

Worse is remembering only the bad memories from the past and forgot the good ones. And forgetting all the present new memories. Darn. How to change that!

janet88\" post_id=\"2077717\" time=\"1659956850\" user_id=\"12950:

Sad thing about dementia is remembering the past but forgetting the present.

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2076972\" time=\"1659310971\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2076972 time=1659310971 user_id=53606]
Dementia patients choose what they wish to do and more at new facility offering new care model

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/community/dementia-patients-choose-what-they-wish-to-do-and-more-at-new-facility-offering-new-care-model[/quote]

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2075169\" time=\"1658212046\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2075169 time=1658212046 user_id=53606]
Gosh, so troublesome?

Today DH and I went grocery shopping at Sheng Shiong while MIL was still sleeping in. Thought just forgo the seniors discount since she couldnt meet our timing.

But who knows, Cashier told him the elderly doesnt need to be present at all. Next time we just bring her MG card and show to cashier can already. Wish we had known earlier.

SS prices already very cheap. With ~$5-6 off our $100+ bill, it is quite big savings.[/quote]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2075162\" time=\"1658208626\" user_id=\"14025:

Related to seniors as I dont know where to park this info:

Anybody has been buying groceries for seniors at NTUC?
Now you need to produce a Seniors Discount Card and his/her PG or MG card.

Complete the below form and attach relevant documents to show the senior has limited mobility:
https://help.fairprice.com.sg/hc/en-us/articles/360021708812-Seniors-Discount-Card-Form

sushi88\" post_id=\"2072086\" time=\"1656379512\" user_id=\"100857:

Thanks, we just have to accept that it is part of the aging process in her case. We have a helper helping her movement in the house so it's fine for now.
Playing with friends can involve real money or just the chips if all are in agreement. Even for real money, it can be really small amount, it's really up to the players to define.