janet88:

FishFingers:

Asked if the girls can come along as well to prevent tensions.

i only saw you guys jump into the water and the camera switched to the other group on land.

it's been so many years...your FIL has mellowed. bring the girls out when ah gong comes. they can break any form of ice between you guys.

FishFingers:

Asked if the girls can come along as well to prevent tensions.

janet88:

FishFingers:

It was quite a jumpy/nervy time for me as there were VIPs and everyone was watching.Butterflies in my stomach as I prepared to jump into the sea from the chopper.Had to keep wriggling my toes and fingers because my last time at the NDP was in 2002 as part of the navy contingent.Hope you guys enjoyed the whole thing because a lot of hard work went into it.

Hope you had a good time chatting with the missus.

even if you had butterflies or dinosaurs in your tummy...it's ok because you guys' faces were covered it was really cool to see the chopper flying so low. those people standing near must have had a free bath.

FishFingers:

It was quite a jumpy/nervy time for me as there were VIPs and everyone was watching.Butterflies in my stomach as I prepared to jump into the sea from the chopper.Had to keep wriggling my toes and fingers because my last time at the NDP was in 2002 as part of the navy contingent.Hope you guys enjoyed the whole thing because a lot of hard work went into it.

Hope you had a good time chatting with the missus.

zac's mum:

Hahaha yes, we have been having girl talk (errr, SAHM talk) with your dear wife.


My son's classmate was involved in the NDP this year (he was the boy in blue who carried the Singapore flag to pass up the mountain to Joseph Schooling) - so we were glued to the tv to cheer for him. This year's NDP not bad lah, floating platform is better than at National Stadium. Nice songs too. The naval divers did well! Jumped directly from plane into the sea right?

janet88:

FishFingers:

Hi,it has been a long time since I was here...


Been busy for NDP and trainings.Looking forward to spending time with my family.

No worries...we have been yakking with your other half while you were busy training.

FishFingers:

Hi,it has been a long time since I was here...


Been busy for NDP and trainings.Looking forward to spending time with my family.

slmkhoo:

FishFingers:

Well,I can help out with English and Science because they are my strengths.Wife can take Maths and Chinese.Both of them have been good in English since young because they love reading the English books that I bought for them like Roald Dahl and Enid Blyton.


They are reading the bilingual version of the Bible too.My wife is training them to do so.

That's good. However, do note that just being able to read and speak fluently doesn't mean they will necesarily write well, or that they will adapt to Singapore's English curriculum easily. Let them try some assessment books for P4, and see how they cope. My daughters were educated in US curriculum school for 6 yrs before returning to Singapore, and I had to coach them both before returning and initially - not because their English was poor, but because the requirements were so different.You should check if Malaysia and Singapore requirements are very different. And similarly for all subjects.

FishFingers:

Well,I can help out with English and Science because they are my strengths.Wife can take Maths and Chinese.Both of them have been good in English since young because they love reading the English books that I bought for them like Roald Dahl and Enid Blyton.


They are reading the bilingual version of the Bible too.My wife is training them to do so.

slmkhoo:

I'm moving this to FF's home thread:

FantasyLandDreams:

Alternatively, can also buy the P5 textbook as per booklist and start coaching them from end of August so that they will not be overwhelmed. Homeschooled them for 4 months I mean, and both mother and children get to stay at home to bond too. There is no English textbooks though, so probably have to buy P5 assessment books instead. And maybe a maths model drawing assessment book if they don't teach model drawing in JB.

Would advocate assessing what the standard of the girls are at then working up from there. In some topics, especially science, that could mean starting from P3. The techniques for Maths could be different, and the style of questions for languages. Since they are going into P5, the aim should be to grasp P4 material well, not start P5.

FantasyLandDreams:

Alternatively, can also buy the P5 textbook as per booklist and start coaching them from end of August so that they will not be overwhelmed. Homeschooled them for 4 months I mean, and both mother and children get to stay at home to bond too. There is no English textbooks though, so probably have to buy P5 assessment books instead. And maybe a maths model drawing assessment book if they don't teach model drawing in JB.

zac's mum:

Hi Fish Fingers,


I came across this article when kaypoh-Ong another thread about PSLE prep: https://sites.google.com/site/lexueeduservice/cope_with_p5

It talks about Chinese at P5 level. Maybe u can show it to your wife? It will give some insight about how to coach your girls for Chinese. They will have another year to strengthen their Chinese and get used to the exam format in Singapore (if it is different from in JB). Btw does your family speak Mandarin at home? If not yet, I suggest introducing bit by bit. Eg one method I use on my reluctant P1 boy is to turn in 88.3 Fm radio station when in the car. It is a bilingual station, so the protest is not so great. Half the time he gets to hear English and the other half is subtle \"immersion\" in Mandarin. The catchy songs also help to lighten the mood lah

janet88:

FF,

since you are (going to be) a father of 4 girls, i guess you will comprehend your FIL's anger when your wife, his daughter got pregnant at 19. through the years, your MIL sensed your sincerity and as such been putting in good words in front of your FIL. it's not easy for her and both you and your wife were so young then.

phtthp:

FishFingers:

I see no point at being angry with anyone now...even for those Malaysian relatives who hit me when I went to visit my FIL to let him know I am marrying my wife in Singapore 12 years ago.My MIL is the one who prevented more punches and kicks from raining down by shielding me and telling those relatives to get lost.

Let live and let it go.Just that sometimes bad memories come back sometimes.

Hi Fishfingers,

Each time the bad memories come to haunt u : let the pain go, and forgive your FIL. Each time when you forgive someone, your yoke is gone, u freed yourself from the burden and the pain.

If you try to put yourself into your FIL shoes 12 years ago back then, which loving parent would want their daughter at aged 19 so young, to be pregnant ? Hence, he hit you last time is because he love his daughter too much, don't dwell on it.

Each time memories haunt you, just reject them : tell memory to get lost, cast them away into the sea. Free yourself, from the yoke of memory. Instead, tell yourself : you have a very happy, blessed, united family now.
Treasure every moment, from now.

Also, Thank your FIL : for rearing all these past years, to give you such a lovely daughter, to be your wife.

FishFingers:

I see no point at being angry with anyone now...even for those Malaysian relatives who hit me when I went to visit my FIL to let him know I am marrying my wife in Singapore 12 years ago.My MIL is the one who prevented more punches and kicks from raining down by shielding me and telling those relatives to get lost.

Let live and let it go.Just that sometimes bad memories come back sometimes.

MrsKiasu:

yes ff just let go your unhappiness with your fil if can..to me, i just think that he has all the rights to be angry/disappointed etc. good that your mil conveyed your fil innermost feelings to you.

janet88:

FishFingers:

Both DDs are on 2 day MC due to the erratic weather.


Weekend ruined for the both of them.Wife is busy with tying up the loose ends of her work before leaving.

FIL is coming in 3 weeks to visit his wife,daughter and granddaughters except for his son-in-law.Good timing as I will be in the sandy plains somewhere in Australia.Rather look at kangaroos and koalas instead.

weather is terrible of late...but if haze returns, it will be worse.
son-in-law has to work, especially when there will be more mouths to feed in the near future.
FIL has done a lot for your girls.