<![CDATA[Friend wants to borrow money]]>If it’s an emergency and she needs it so badly, I’d prefer to give her the best amount I could give…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/91662/friend-wants-to-borrow-moneyRSS for NodeWed, 06 May 2026 07:54:09 GMTFri, 22 Jan 2021 05:12:27 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sat, 16 Jan 2021 21:41:48 GMT]]>:moneyflies:

skii\" post_id=\"2012284\" time=\"1610760216\" user_id=\"82603:

Maybe I old enough.
Or not old enough.


Losing $$ is more painful than losing friends. Hahahahahahah.

$$ is for my family (one)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012349https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012349Sat, 16 Jan 2021 21:41:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sat, 16 Jan 2021 21:41:19 GMT]]>:celebrate:

AceTutors123\" post_id=\"2012272\" time=\"1610733485\" user_id=\"20245:

Zeal mummy\" post_id=\"2009545\" time=\"1608837952\" user_id=\"58173:[quote=\"Zeal mummy\" post_id=2009545 time=1608837952 user_id=58173]I will only lend money that I don’t need. My expectation is always that it will not be returned... that way I will be happy if it’s ever returned!
I have the same mentality as you do, I wouldn't expect the money to be returned if I agreed to be lending it out. This way I wouldn't lose sleep over it.[/quote]

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012348https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012348Sat, 16 Jan 2021 21:41:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sat, 16 Jan 2021 01:23:36 GMT]]>Maybe I old enough.

Or not old enough.


Losing $$ is more painful than losing friends. Hahahahahahah.

$$ is for my family (one)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012284https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012284Sat, 16 Jan 2021 01:23:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Fri, 15 Jan 2021 17:58:05 GMT]]>

Zeal mummy\" post_id=\"2009545\" time=\"1608837952\" user_id=\"58173:[quote=\"Zeal mummy\" post_id=2009545 time=1608837952 user_id=58173]
I will only lend money that I don’t need. My expectation is always that it will not be returned... that way I will be happy if it’s ever returned![/quote]
I have the same mentality as you do, I wouldn't expect the money to be returned if I agreed to be lending it out. This way I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012272https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2012272Fri, 15 Jan 2021 17:58:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Wed, 13 Jan 2021 08:04:09 GMT]]>Most of the time money can destroy relationships including friendships

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2011977https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2011977Wed, 13 Jan 2021 08:04:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Thu, 24 Dec 2020 19:25:52 GMT]]>I will only lend money that I don’t need. My expectation is always that it will not be returned… that way I will be happy if it’s ever returned!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009545https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2009545Thu, 24 Dec 2020 19:25:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sat, 30 Nov 2019 13:15:52 GMT]]>If its a good friend, and he/she is credible. its ok to lend. however, if u know they do not have a good reputation, its best not to bother yourself with unnecessary trouble

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1950806https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1950806Sat, 30 Nov 2019 13:15:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sun, 22 Sep 2019 14:38:59 GMT]]>Its really a tough question to consider. My elders (Father and uncle) got burnt badly before, I intend not to lend money as far as possible.


Will be willing to help a close friend in times of need

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1936597https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1936597Sun, 22 Sep 2019 14:38:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Thu, 05 Sep 2019 09:51:05 GMT]]>Some people, when you let them borrow the first time, they will borrow all over again. And will never stop unless you say NO the next time. And some will make you the bad one when don’t let them borrow money

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1933875https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1933875Thu, 05 Sep 2019 09:51:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sat, 31 Aug 2019 06:17:36 GMT]]>

Vanz\" post_id=\"1931885\" time=\"1566971434\" user_id=\"165801:

When I let a friend borrow money, I see to it he/she can repay but if I know they can't repay me, I'll let them borrow just a small amount so it doesn't hurt that much
if a friend wants to borrow money, I prepare for that person not to return.
agree...just a small amount so that it won't hurt if he/she really doesn't return. what i'm afraid is borrow and return first time. then borrow again but bigger amount.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1932851https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1932851Sat, 31 Aug 2019 06:17:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Wed, 28 Aug 2019 05:50:34 GMT]]>When I let a friend borrow money, I see to it he/she can repay but if I know they can’t repay me, I’ll let them borrow just a small amount so it doesn’t hurt that much

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1931885https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1931885Wed, 28 Aug 2019 05:50:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sun, 25 Aug 2019 14:05:25 GMT]]>if you are willing to lend, be mentally prepared to lose the money.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1931299https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1931299Sun, 25 Aug 2019 14:05:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Mon, 17 Jun 2019 03:09:07 GMT]]>Diplomatically Say No to Friends and Family That Want to Borrow Money – 6 Tips

https://freefrombroke.com/lending-money-to-friends-family-saying-no/

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1914738https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1914738Mon, 17 Jun 2019 03:09:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Wed, 22 May 2019 05:30:54 GMT]]>I lent around a few thousands $ to a childhood friend when she was poor and betrayed by her husband, she needed $ to feed her 3 young kids. That was many years ago and now her kids have grown up. She had separated from her husband. Life is getting better for her but she didn’t seem to have any intention to return $ to me. I saw her fb that she traveled so frequently for holidays! Then one day I asked her on the $ and the reply was next month, then one month after another…no more news from her and she blocked me from her fb! This is a friend since we knew each other at 7 years old and now we are both 50+…A few K ended the friendship !

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1911432https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1911432Wed, 22 May 2019 05:30:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Mon, 20 May 2019 08:16:32 GMT]]>Seems like many of us have similar experiences 😢

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1911146https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1911146Mon, 20 May 2019 08:16:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Mon, 20 May 2019 04:08:10 GMT]]>I have lent money to friends and family members and borrowed money from family members and friends, and neither situation worked out very well. I learned a lot from both experiences. Most importantly, I learned that I’ll never loan money to friend or family member again. It will just ruin the relationship you had with them.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1911126https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1911126Mon, 20 May 2019 04:08:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Wed, 15 May 2019 05:34:16 GMT]]>@ pokoyoko You’re not being cold, just wise.


S’times there are ways to way rather than give direct cash. The boy who had leukemia & whom my buddy & I was helping, we helped clean up & pay for paints for new coat in his room & directly paid their medical needs amongst a few frds who joined us.

I learnt not to contribute w/o thot when in my teen, a frd often shared how he wld firmly inform those flag sellers he has his own choice of donation targets. He knows exactly how his contribution works which which charity receives his aid.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1910398https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1910398Wed, 15 May 2019 05:34:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Wed, 15 May 2019 05:02:13 GMT]]>

What The\" post_id=\"1870061\" time=\"1535175921\" user_id=\"144146:[quote=\"What The\" post_id=1870061 time=1535175921 user_id=144146]
medical Expenses can be settled through the hospital so do not give to the Friend directly?[/quote]
Yes some times you need to suss the person out. If they do not want you to pay straight to organisation, why not?
Quite recently I had an acquaintance who was cold calling every person in our circle. Said his family member was sick and desperately needed funds. This person became upset with me when I probed more. Said I was casting doubt on his character because I was asking questions... Answers are not consistent with his story.

Just in case you think I am very cold... I am not! I am still very willing to help someone who needs it. I just make sure I am going in with my eyes wide open to actually help them and not throw them into a deeper pit they cannot crawl out of? :?:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1910388https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1910388Wed, 15 May 2019 05:02:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sat, 25 Aug 2018 05:45:21 GMT]]>medical Expenses can be settled through the hospital so do not give to the Friend directly?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1870061https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1870061Sat, 25 Aug 2018 05:45:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sat, 25 Aug 2018 04:05:39 GMT]]>Every year, my family sets aside an amount of money to help in case any of our friends need emergency cash. We do emphasize the money is a one-time gift, and that we do not expect that the friend will pay us back

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1870023https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1870023Sat, 25 Aug 2018 04:05:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Mon, 13 Aug 2018 15:35:15 GMT]]>

janet88:
pokoyoko:

When people are desperate for money they will say anything. Sometimes it is hard to say what is real and what is not. Personally I choose not to believe... If they cannot borrow from you they will go on to the next person... somebody will become a victim don't let it be you.. the softest heart will give in first.


that's so true. they are capable of saying anything to get hold of the money and the person who lent the money will become a beggar getting him/her to return the money.

Once bitten twice shy... unless I'm so rich or it's a nominal sum I can afford to be without... but it is a slippery slope if a person goes down a path already deciding not to pay back....

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1866724https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1866724Mon, 13 Aug 2018 15:35:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Sat, 11 Aug 2018 03:04:34 GMT]]>

pokoyoko:
When people are desperate for money they will say anything. Sometimes it is hard to say what is real and what is not. Personally I choose not to believe... If they cannot borrow from you they will go on to the next person... somebody will become a victim don't let it be you.. the softest heart will give in first.

that's so true. they are capable of saying anything to get hold of the money and the person who lent the money will become a beggar getting him/her to return the money.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1866156https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1866156Sat, 11 Aug 2018 03:04:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Friend wants to borrow money on Wed, 08 Aug 2018 03:32:53 GMT]]>When people are desperate for money they will say anything. Sometimes it is hard to say what is real and what is not. Personally I choose not to believe… If they cannot borrow from you they will go on to the next person… somebody will become a victim don’t let it be you… the softest heart will give in first.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1865338https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1865338Wed, 08 Aug 2018 03:32:53 GMT