<![CDATA[Is hubby overcalculative over kids education?]]>A Calculating person would think a lot of details. He or She will be attentive to details, think in advance, tend to remember events, dates, plan things properly etc., Over calculating over kids education for me is a good thing rather than getting problems with funds in the future. This way you’ll be prepared and you’ll not be cramming over your budget.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/92852/is-hubby-overcalculative-over-kids-educationRSS for NodeSat, 09 May 2026 21:04:03 GMTFri, 22 Mar 2019 02:10:59 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Sat, 23 Feb 2019 23:36:57 GMT]]>Adult has more experience than the kid, so see things from a different angle. What he thinks and does are for the kids’future. And sometimes what we ask from the kids are the things we ourselves are not able to fulfill.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1899490https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1899490Sat, 23 Feb 2019 23:36:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 13:08:19 GMT]]>

sky minecrafter:
MrsKiasu:

If high B then almost same as low A oso la..see which side of B you targeting


Try, target As...

For reference's sake, NgeeAnn Pri had uploaded a https://ngeeannpri.moe.edu.sg/qql/slot/u501/Achievements/PSLE%202017/PSLE%20Result%20Day%20%2824Nov%202017%29_final.pdf (dated Nov2017) pdf, documenting % of national-quality passes. Y2017 quality passes:- EL+MA ~44%; SC ~41%; CL ~68%
2Bs=bottom half of cohort?...

yalor 😓

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895854https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895854Wed, 23 Jan 2019 13:08:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:53:15 GMT]]>Think LadyEG is satisfied with Bs, as long as child is healthy and happy.


But her hubby has higher expectations…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895852https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895852Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:53:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:44:46 GMT]]>

slmkhoo:
MrsKiasu:

Ladyearlgrey, I read yr post again..you are targeting Bs..if can try to up it as that will not be very good when come to the psle calculation..my dd still have 2 Bs and I hope she could improve else she will be having her own set of problems..she is coming home quite late, I have no heart to push her anymore..I m waiting for around sa1, when hopefully cca/enrichment coming to end.


I prefer to set targets in terms of how hard they work, how they work etc. Eg. x no. of questions/pages per week, full (or fairly high level) of concentration, no \"forgotten\" homework, good attitude etc. Not every child is capable of getting A's, and if a child has already worked hard, been given good support and help, and still gets B's, then I would just have to accept it. But if the child has not put in enough work, shows a poor attitude etc, and gets B's - I would demand more.

you are right, slmkhoo..I agree.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895850https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895850Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:44:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:33:16 GMT]]>

MrsKiasu:
Ladyearlgrey, I read yr post again..you are targeting Bs..if can try to up it as that will not be very good when come to the psle calculation..my dd still have 2 Bs and I hope she could improve else she will be having her own set of problems..she is coming home quite late, I have no heart to push her anymore..I m waiting for around sa1, when hopefully cca/enrichment coming to end.

I prefer to set targets in terms of how hard they work, how they work etc. Eg. x no. of questions/pages per week, full (or fairly high level) of concentration, no \"forgotten\" homework, good attitude etc. Not every child is capable of getting A's, and if a child has already worked hard, been given good support and help, and still gets B's, then I would just have to accept it. But if the child has not put in enough work, shows a poor attitude etc, and gets B's - I would demand more.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895848https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895848Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:33:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:29:29 GMT]]>

MrsKiasu:
If high B then almost same as low A oso la..see which side of B you targeting

Try, target As...

For reference's sake, NgeeAnn Pri had uploaded a https://ngeeannpri.moe.edu.sg/qql/slot/u501/Achievements/PSLE%202017/PSLE%20Result%20Day%20%2824Nov%202017%29_final.pdf (dated Nov2017) pdf, documenting % of national-quality passes. Y2017 quality passes:- EL+MA ~44%; SC ~41%; CL ~68%
2Bs=bottom half of cohort?...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895847https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895847Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:29:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:26:55 GMT]]>

ladyearlgrey:
There's also one time when it's Maths exam day, and one kid is having a fever. I'm normally quite gancheong when they are sick so in the morning I quite panic when the child is feverish before going to school. I wanted to give him panadol so the fever might subside when he reaches school, and he might feel better to make it thru the exam. However the hubby stopped me from doing that...he said that panadol would make him drowsy, and he will not perform well for his exam and it will pull down his overall marks...if I'm gonna give him panadol, then might as well don't let him attend the exam (cos he's scored pretty well for his CAs).


I'm not sure how many parents here would have such 'farsightedness' but to me, that's totally new to me......maybe i'm too old fashioned or too kancheong, but i cannot imagine letting the child go to school sick to attend the exam without taking any meds? I mean, does everybody do this in this competitive era? Is this the norm? I don't think I can ever, ever learn to be so 'calculative' in my kids results and not sure how you guys would react or do in this situation? Thank you for reading my rants, any advice is appreciated..
If I were you, I would have taken my hubby’s offer and gave my kid the panadol and kept him at home. If my hubby insists that our kid must go to school without panadol, I will tell him that next time if my hubby has fever, he still has to go to work and he shouldn’t take panadol.

I think the priorities are wrong. Health first. Other things are not as important.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895846https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895846Wed, 23 Jan 2019 12:26:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 11:37:00 GMT]]>My relative's son suffered BRAIN DAMAGE when the mother scared to give him panadol when he was having high fever when he was 1+ year old. Now cannot talk, cannot sit, cannot walk, cannot feed himself. He cannot do anything. Scared of giving panadol? :stupid: :slapshead:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895840https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895840Wed, 23 Jan 2019 11:37:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:54:43 GMT]]>Try all As. My Nephew got 2As and 2Bs. PSLE t score is 200. Are you ok with 200?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895835https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895835Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:54:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:48:23 GMT]]>If high B then almost same as low A oso la..see which side of B you targeting 😂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895832https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895832Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:48:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:39:50 GMT]]>Agree with you, MKS. If possible, target minimum A. Anything less than 4As is not-good news...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895830https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895830Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:39:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:23:44 GMT]]>Ladyearlgrey, I read yr post again…you are targeting Bs…if can try to up it as that will not be very good when come to the psle calculation…my dd still have 2 Bs and I hope she could improve else she will be having her own set of problems…she is coming home quite late, I have no heart to push her anymore…I m waiting for around sa1, when hopefully cca/enrichment coming to end.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895829https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895829Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:23:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 09:00:33 GMT]]>

pirate:

PPS. If ladyearlgrey is talking about a primary school child, a B average at PSLE is what? 200? Less?
Ladyearlgrey,
Your hubby does his part (teach on weekends, mark assessment books, monitor progress etc) and I think he has certain expectations, I am not sure if he can take it if say, the PSLE results turn out to be below his expectations (200? Or less?).

Don’t you think he would be very upset? Would he blame you one day (SAHM and what are you doing the whole day at home?) Talk to him and hopefully, both of you can come to a common understanding.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895822https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895822Wed, 23 Jan 2019 09:00:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 08:46:25 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:
There are a few parties to consider: the parents, other parents, other students, and the child himself. If the child is sick, no matter how kiasu the parent is, there's a need to consider other children in the school. What happens if it is infectious? I think most parents will worry about that.


I think your hubs needs to look beyond his own family to understand his impact on society as a unit. Of course it is commendable that he cares and look after his own children. But what about other people's children? We need to look after them too!
Wait. Wasn't the hubby the one who said that if must take panadol, might as well DON'T let the child attend the exam? :?

PS. If the child is sick with fever, got take panadol or not, the child is still sick. It doesn't mean if no fever due to panadol the child is no longer infectious. Fever is just the symptom. Fever with 'no other symptom' often means viral infection.

PPS. If ladyearlgrey is talking about a primary school child, a B average at PSLE is what? 200? Less?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895818https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895818Wed, 23 Jan 2019 08:46:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 07:31:29 GMT]]>You are so ON..I need to hide 😂 my dh is the more relax one..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895806https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895806Wed, 23 Jan 2019 07:31:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 07:12:44 GMT]]>MrsKiasu: me too, I think one parent kancheong is enough... Too bad I'm the soft one... but i believe in not pushing and naturally let them enjoy what they are learning... The way we revise work with them is also quite different... Hubby likes to sit them down formally and go over assessment books, but I like to think of creative ways to revise with them, like eg. When learning about reproductive parts of flowers in P5 science, I'd actually go out and get real flowers, dissect and show them the real thing. 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895805https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895805Wed, 23 Jan 2019 07:12:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 07:02:38 GMT]]>I find it should be okay to have one a bit ganjiong and another a bit relax type provided not at the extreme end.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895804https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895804Wed, 23 Jan 2019 07:02:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 06:52:16 GMT]]>Zeemimi: thank you for sharing, will check out the drama 🙂


Zac'smum: yes I think hubby is stressed partly because during childhood he's compared to his sibling who's academically and professionally more successful.. Whereas even though hubby also went to uni, it seems it's with his mum's help who approached an MP for assistance or something like that.. Probably he want to push his kids to perform well in order to get back some 面子.. However he's not always like that.. Whenever he's stressed I'd try to voice out my, concerns, then he'd 'back off' a bit. Anyways I'm actually quite thankful he's always taking initiative to coach the kids himself despite being tired on the weekends.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895798https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895798Wed, 23 Jan 2019 06:52:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 02:40:35 GMT]]>

ladyearlgrey:

There's also one time when it's Maths exam day, and one kid is having a fever. I'm normally quite gancheong when they are sick so in the morning I quite panic when the child is feverish before going to school. I wanted to give him panadol so the fever might subside when he reaches school, and he might feel better to make it thru the exam. However the hubby stopped me from doing that...he said that panadol would make him drowsy, and he will not perform well for his exam and it will pull down his overall marks...if I'm gonna give him panadol, then might as well don't let him attend the exam (cos he's scored pretty well for his CAs).
Don't schools have makeup papers for students who missed their papers with valid MCs?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895738https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895738Wed, 23 Jan 2019 02:40:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 01:56:41 GMT]]>Watch Korean drama Sky Castle. Although it is fictitious, i thought there’s quite a bit to learn from the drama. And what you described is almost like a couple in the drama. Unless you realign yourself with your hubby or you can convince your hubby to realign with you, there will be constant struggle and tension in the family. It’s better to identify the problem early, work on some solutions than to sweep them under the carpet.

As for panadol, i thought the fever will make the child sleepy. At least that’s the case for me and kids. With panadol and the fever subsided, the tiredness is also lessen.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895728https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895728Wed, 23 Jan 2019 01:56:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 01:20:36 GMT]]>ChiefKiasu & Zappy: I can totally understand your concern, in my kid’s case it’s a normal fever (no other symptoms), so the issue here is I can’t get use to the fact that if I give him panadol (at least to let him feel better and get thru with his exam that morning) will actually pull down his grades if he geta drowsy because of it. If he’s having rashes or HFMD symptoms, will definitely quarantine him, exam or not…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895723https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895723Wed, 23 Jan 2019 01:20:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 01:06:00 GMT]]>There are a few parties to consider: the parents, other parents, other students, and the child himself. If the child is sick, no matter how kiasu the parent is, there’s a need to consider other children in the school. What happens if it is infectious? I think most parents will worry about that.


I think your hubs needs to look beyond his own family to understand his impact on society as a unit. Of course it is commendable that he cares and look after his own children. But what about other people’s children? We need to look after them too!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895720https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1895720Wed, 23 Jan 2019 01:06:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Is hubby overcalculative over kids education? on Wed, 23 Jan 2019 00:11:16 GMT]]>Thank you for all your reply, especially the non drowsy meds... Will definitely check it out at the pharmacy! 🙂

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