Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects?

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Wed, 18 Dec 2019 07:52:07 GMT

melongyt — Wed, 18 Dec 2019 07:52:07 GMT

I am sorry, but no going to friend’s house unless it’s a party or some gathering (former teachers’ house etc). If want to do project or study, they can do it in school or to go library. I have seen enough of how mischief happens even small groups of friends with the same gender gathering around.

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Sat, 19 Oct 2019 05:38:58 GMT

cassT — Sat, 19 Oct 2019 05:38:58 GMT

I am a SAHM. I would ask my child to invite her friends to to my house instead.

I allow my child (upper primary) to meet her friends at library or public area such as mall.

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 17 Oct 2019 07:46:27 GMT

JassyT — Thu, 17 Oct 2019 07:46:27 GMT

I am allowing my p5 to go to her classmate’s house as long as there is someone with them and the parents of her classmate are also aware that they will do their school work at their place. This is one way to make her feel that I trust her and believe in her little decisions.

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 01 Aug 2019 04:47:44 GMT

CalvinS — Thu, 01 Aug 2019 04:47:44 GMT

I’m fine with my son going to a friend’s house for projects as long as I know the family personally and as long as I know that my son is safe. With monitoring him and sending him/pick him up, I think it is okay.

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:44:56 GMT

hurlyburly6.019192gmail.019192com — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 08:44:56 GMT

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Nebbermind> main concern of the hub is the kids may play online games / surf inappropriate content / up to something 'secretive' while cooped up with friend's place. When they visited their classmate's place previously, I noticed their doors are always locked when I reached and I have to knock to tell them I'm there to pick them up! I'm quite surprised most parents do not mind their kids & their friends stay in their rooms with doors locked on such occasions.. When my kids' friends came over, I make sure to tell them to leave the room door open or at least ajar...

hb> Other than the main concern as i stated above, if an accident breaks out, eg. fire, the helper/grandparents whom the kid or myself do not know are not obliged or may not be familiar with rendering help to my kid, and also the issue of sexual harrassment which I shall not elaborate here.. I am like you, with no concerns previously, but like what some forummers say it's better safe than sorry..

Thanks for all your valuable input! I guess in this hightech world parents need to put in so much more effort in child's safety. Being a parent is so tough these days... sometimes i wonder if i'm thinking too much ;(

I never thought of that! It doesn't get easier does it.

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 07:20:00 GMT

Nebbermind — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 07:20:00 GMT

Kfmummy1709\" post_id=\"1922536\" time=\"1564030279\" user_id=\"102877:

Nebbermind> main concern of the hub is the kids may play online games / surf inappropriate content / up to something 'secretive' while cooped up with friend's place. When they visited their classmate's place previously, I noticed their doors are always locked when I reached and I have to knock to tell them I'm there to pick them up! I'm quite surprised most parents do not mind their kids & their friends stay in their rooms with doors locked on such occasions.. When my kids' friends came over, I make sure to tell them to leave the room door open or at least ajar...

hb> Other than the main concern as i stated above, if an accident breaks out, eg. fire, the helper/grandparents whom the kid or myself do not know are not obliged or may not be familiar with rendering help to my kid, and also the issue of sexual harrassment which I shall not elaborate here.. I am like you, with no concerns previously, but like what some forummers say it's better safe than sorry..

Thanks for all your valuable input! I guess in this hightech world parents need to put in so much more effort in child's safety. Being a parent is so tough these days... sometimes i wonder if i'm thinking too much ;(

I also think these concerns are valid.
I would have checked if any adult (maid not included) will be at home and also if there's any sibling of the opposite sex. Then again, there wasn't many projects done outside of school when they were in primary school and such visits weren't really an issue

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 07:05:30 GMT

gardener — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 07:05:30 GMT

Hi kfmummy,

Your concerns are very valid.
Years ago, a friend shared her story: her P4 daughter went to friend's house to do group project. The kids ended up playing with occult activities, and the parents were at home during that time. 😟

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 05:17:48 GMT

phtthp — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 05:17:48 GMT

For Secondary school, cannot let girls go to classmates boy’s house alone do project, asking for trouble

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 05:03:49 GMT

Davischew — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 05:03:49 GMT

Kfmummy1709\" post_id=\"1922536\" time=\"1564030279\" user_id=\"102877:

Nebbermind> main concern of the hub is the kids may play online games / surf inappropriate content / up to something 'secretive' while cooped up with friend's place. When they visited their classmate's place previously, I noticed their doors are always locked when I reached and I have to knock to tell them I'm there to pick them up! I'm quite surprised most parents do not mind their kids & their friends stay in their rooms with doors locked on such occasions.. When my kids' friends came over, I make sure to tell them to leave the room door open or at least ajar...

hb> Other than the main concern as i stated above, if an accident breaks out, eg. fire, the helper/grandparents whom the kid or myself do not know are not obliged or may not be familiar with rendering help to my kid, and also the issue of sexual harrassment which I shall not elaborate here.. I am like you, with no concerns previously, but like what some forummers say it's better safe than sorry..

Thanks for all your valuable input! I guess in this hightech world parents need to put in so much more effort in child's safety. Being a parent is so tough these days... sometimes i wonder if i'm thinking too much ;(

Think too much is good, else we won’t be here as KSP lah.
My DS now P2, no project, so ask me straight - “can I go friends house play game?” Haha

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 04:51:19 GMT

BlueCheese — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 04:51:19 GMT

Nebbermind> main concern of the hub is the kids may play online games / surf inappropriate content / up to something ‘secretive’ while cooped up with friend’s place. When they visited their classmate’s place previously, I noticed their doors are always locked when I reached and I have to knock to tell them I’m there to pick them up! I’m quite surprised most parents do not mind their kids & their friends stay in their rooms with doors locked on such occasions… When my kids’ friends came over, I make sure to tell them to leave the room door open or at least ajar…

hb> Other than the main concern as i stated above, if an accident breaks out, eg. fire, the helper/grandparents whom the kid or myself do not know are not obliged or may not be familiar with rendering help to my kid, and also the issue of sexual harrassment which I shall not elaborate here… I am like you, with no concerns previously, but like what some forummers say it’s better safe than sorry…

Thanks for all your valuable input! I guess in this hightech world parents need to put in so much more effort in child’s safety. Being a parent is so tough these days… sometimes i wonder if i’m thinking too much ;(

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 02:37:26 GMT

hurlyburly6.019192gmail.019192com — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 02:37:26 GMT

Just curious - what’s the concern with P5/P6 kids going to a friend’s house with only a helper/grandparent around? My kid’s only 4 so this hasn’t come up, but I remember going to friends’ houses in P5/P6 (and in sec sch) for project work back in the day, and there wasn’t always a parent around (I think - don’t really remember, but my impression is that no-one had a stay-at-home parent).

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 02:12:48 GMT

MrsKiasu — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 02:12:48 GMT

dd2 I m more worried…She likes friends and going to neighbor’s house. So far these neighbors have no worries as the mom/maid are at home and the dad (only male) in household will only come back after work…our neighbors like to do sleepover/attending kids parties… I have politely declined sending my kid over for playdates (1 to 1) without me tagging/ other mom offered to bring my kid to another condo’s party. I told them many times…dont ever try their luck to ask permission to go to friends place for sleepover…

hw I believe can be just asking through WA… practising for certain thing, they can agreed on days & time then call…

project work for maybe later at secondary I guess should be in school/library ba…

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 02:05:56 GMT

ankhlet.06013gmail.06013com — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 02:05:56 GMT

Generally ok since I usually do know the SAHMs well enough. Only once have i encountered group project work conducted at a home where the only adult around was a maid. But DC was in P5 by then, and had a handphone so could call me anytime for rescue. Also, group project work usually over a morning or an afternoon, span of 3-4 hrs.

However, would prefer DC to study at home as ‘study’ dates invariably turn into chit chat dates, unless the other child is the studious type. So if DC wishes to study outside of home, it has to be a library or library like environment when talking is discouraged.

Anyway this year P6 in single gender school. Next year let’s see how

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 01:54:41 GMT

Funz — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 01:54:41 GMT

I also prefer for them to meet in school or stay back in school for any project work than to go to other people’s house. That was when they were in primary school. It might be a challenge at times as other kids’ parents may have different thinking and prefer that all gather at their house instead. So sometimes, need to be flexible.

As for homework, which was not much to begin with, they usually do it in school when they have pockets of time or at home, no such thing as going to a friend’s place just to do homework together.

Once they go to sec sch, it is a different ballgame altogether. Have to let go and trust our kids.

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 01:54:20 GMT

MerlionInGermany — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 01:54:20 GMT

In primary school, many of them take the school bus so they could not stay back. Group projects were done over google docs at individual homes in the evenings. If they needed to do a model or a poster, class time would be scheduled for that.

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 01:46:48 GMT

sharonkhoo — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 01:46:48 GMT

My kids always met in school. Better safe than sorry.

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 01:27:41 GMT

Nebbermind — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 01:27:41 GMT

What is the main concern of the hub?

Reply to Are you ok for your child to go to his friend's place for homework/projects? on Thu, 25 Jul 2019 00:49:18 GMT

zac's mum — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 00:49:18 GMT

If you feel uncomfortable about it for any reason, trust your instincts and just say no. And may I suggest you teach your kids this principle too. In case anybody tries to influence them to do funny things.

For me, I go by how much I trust the other adult. And trust is built over time and plenty of interaction & observation. Works both ways.

You are correct, group work can be done in public places like in school, library discussion rooms etc. where there’s more accountability.