Tips to achieve good results?

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Mon, 16 Dec 2019 06:55:27 GMT

Estéema — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 06:55:27 GMT

We all try to do our best as parents.

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Mon, 16 Dec 2019 06:12:02 GMT

CMF — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 06:12:02 GMT

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I know the author. MPOV it’s a combination of her parenting style & one kid having some special needs. I wish she had been more u’stand’g to the needs of both her kids in their early years as both kids by nature learn differently. ...

Neither of the author's kids has special needs - just different learning styles (just as most siblings have). In her case, I believe that she catered & addressed them respectively as best.

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Mon, 16 Dec 2019 06:11:57 GMT

Nebbermind — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 06:11:57 GMT

her son is definitely not special needs…just kind of ordinary when compared to the sister who had achieved more academically.

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Mon, 16 Dec 2019 04:58:19 GMT

zac's mum — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 04:58:19 GMT

It was not mentioned in the story book that Monica Lim’s son had special needs. From the way she described his personality, I thought it was fairly typical boy behaviour.

Several mums who have read the book also told me their sons are like that.

I hope it’s not some symptom of special needs.

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Mon, 16 Dec 2019 04:16:31 GMT

newbieks — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 04:16:31 GMT

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No not Pamela. I don’t know Pamela

Special needs.. you referring to her daughter in GEP?
http://hedgehogcomms.blogspot.com/?m=1

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Mon, 16 Dec 2019 03:52:28 GMT

Estéema — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 03:52:28 GMT

No not Pamela. I don’t know Pamela

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Mon, 16 Dec 2019 02:02:11 GMT

Nebbermind — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 02:02:11 GMT

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zac's mum\" post_id=\"1953286\" time=\"1576416768\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=1953286 time=1576416768 user_id=53606]If you have never read this book before, I highly recommend it. It tells the story of how different 2 kids from the same set of parents can be.

I laughed and cried along with the book. It tells the tale of our typical parenting journey with primary school kids in this grades-oriented system.

https://postimg.cc/MMxjDdgZ
I know the author. MPOV it’s a combination of her parenting style & one kid having some special needs. I wish she had been more u’stand’g to the needs of both her kids in their early years as both kids by nature learn differently. Guess we learn to write our own parental guide (only for each individual child). I ‘fought’ with her of her opinion how I should guide my own kids in my early years.

As parents we can’t treat them all the same & causes stress to poor kids who by nature are just different & need more space & love rather than push for ‘intelligence’ and follow our adult rules. Some kids can take very strict discipline, some just can’t till they find their footing or cld nvr. As parents, were their 1st educators, their cheerleaders, their first encourager, their first gentle critic ...

Most impt of all - whatever I say or other ppl who hv no vested interests in yr child says is NOT IMPT. Your instinct as yr child’s mum is the most impt. Hear yr child out. Try working out every step in yr child’s journey to help them discover their special abilities & areas of passion. I must say, our edn’l system has not been inclusive but I’m happy to see positive changes. But these takes time - for the system to change (old sch teachers, gradual removal of grading system, provision of variety of routes to recognize every child so nobody is left behind), for parents who’ve been used to the old system to slow down the old gear & change to be more accommodative to the new approach, for wise parents to push for the effective implementation of the inclusive system.

Grading system is mostly for the bz-minded. The UK and US grading system was borne out of Asian parents chasing a way to recognize where to send their kids to (esp in the paying UK system as a foreign income which Aussie edn’l system chase after later years).

The Germans & some European professors refuse to be drawn into this grading system, but preferring to encourage the joy of learning & pursuing knowledge for the pure sake of knowing out of curiosity to learn deeply. Had seen how my frds’ kids enjoy themselves in sch in Austria & I rmbr how when the kids moved fr SG system to their current schools & their exclamation was “our sch is not a sch! It’s a big playground with many playmates & the teachers play with us”. [/quote]

I think that's another woman...the one with kids entering uni in their teens...Pamela Lim?

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Sun, 15 Dec 2019 14:53:36 GMT

Estéema — Sun, 15 Dec 2019 14:53:36 GMT

zac's mum\" post_id=\"1953286\" time=\"1576416768\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=1953286 time=1576416768 user_id=53606]
If you have never read this book before, I highly recommend it. It tells the story of how different 2 kids from the same set of parents can be.

I laughed and cried along with the book. It tells the tale of our typical parenting journey with primary school kids in this grades-oriented system.

https://postimg.cc/MMxjDdgZ[/quote]

I know the author. MPOV it’s a combination of her parenting style & one kid having some special needs. I wish she had been more u’stand’g to the needs of both her kids in their early years as both kids by nature learn differently. Guess we learn to write our own parental guide (only for each individual child). I ‘fought’ with her of her opinion how I should guide my own kids in my early years.

As parents we can’t treat them all the same & causes stress to poor kids who by nature are just different & need more space & love rather than push for ‘intelligence’ and follow our adult rules. Some kids can take very strict discipline, some just can’t till they find their footing or cld nvr. As parents, were their 1st educators, their cheerleaders, their first encourager, their first gentle critic ...

Most impt of all - whatever I say or other ppl who hv no vested interests in yr child says is NOT IMPT. Your instinct as yr child’s mum is the most impt. Hear yr child out. Try working out every step in yr child’s journey to help them discover their special abilities & areas of passion. I must say, our edn’l system has not been inclusive but I’m happy to see positive changes. But these takes time - for the system to change (old sch teachers, gradual removal of grading system, provision of variety of routes to recognize every child so nobody is left behind), for parents who’ve been used to the old system to slow down the old gear & change to be more accommodative to the new approach, for wise parents to push for the effective implementation of the inclusive system.

Grading system is mostly for the bz-minded. The UK and US grading system was borne out of Asian parents chasing a way to recognize where to send their kids to (esp in the paying UK system as a foreign income which Aussie edn’l system chase after later years).

The Germans & some European professors refuse to be drawn into this grading system, but preferring to encourage the joy of learning & pursuing knowledge for the pure sake of knowing out of curiosity to learn deeply. Had seen how my frds’ kids enjoy themselves in sch in Austria & I rmbr how when the kids moved fr SG system to their current schools & their exclamation was “our sch is not a sch! It’s a big playground with many playmates & the teachers play with us”.

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Sun, 15 Dec 2019 13:32:48 GMT

zac's mum — Sun, 15 Dec 2019 13:32:48 GMT

If you have never read this book before, I highly recommend it. It tells the story of how different 2 kids from the same set of parents can be.

I laughed and cried along with the book. It tells the tale of our typical parenting journey with primary school kids in this grades-oriented system.

https://postimg.cc/MMxjDdgZ

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Sun, 15 Dec 2019 11:24:18 GMT

Iluvmygals — Sun, 15 Dec 2019 11:24:18 GMT

What to do to get good results depends on which level the child is in now.

If the child is in lower primary, the focus should not be on the results but rather on cultivating good learning habits.

If the child is already in upper primary, then the focus will shift towards techniques, identifying weaknesses, practices and mental strength.

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Sun, 15 Dec 2019 10:24:48 GMT

floppy — Sun, 15 Dec 2019 10:24:48 GMT

First tip: there is no tip.

Second tip: ignore every tip.
Third tip: see first and second tip.

Every child is unique and different. What works for one, may not work for another. Some child are discipline, some are not. Some understand concepts easily, some don’t. Some child are drilled to get 90+, some child will fail because of too much drilling.

Therefore, the only real suggestion is to understand and find out what works for your child. If nothing works, just accept that not every child is engineered to score 90+. The child may have other talents that do not involve scoring 90+ academically.

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Sun, 15 Dec 2019 09:05:31 GMT

okboomer — Sun, 15 Dec 2019 09:05:31 GMT

I think its important to do past year papers.

One effective way I tried is to look at the paper first, then after studying that particular topic, attempt the question in the paper.

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Sun, 15 Dec 2019 08:30:00 GMT

Estéema — Sun, 15 Dec 2019 08:30:00 GMT

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wandervale\" post_id=\"1953162\" time=\"1576330657\" user_id=\"140887:
Dear parents,

Please kindly share any tips on how your kids achieve good results. (above 90)

Many thanks! :rahrah:

#1 tip: control phone usage

Absolutely agree! Mine never hv use except weekends (Sat & Sun), 15 min each on condition of firstly obedience & secondly completion of sch required hmwk & then tuition hmwk. Denied use if not complied to parents’ rules.

But, I give surprises (really surprises with no other prior carrot dangled). If I do decide kids behave & did follow rules & complete hmwk, I give surprise rewards. So, kid will play tt 15 min on Sat e.g. and I will say “u can play ano 15 min since I’ve done well in completing hmwk or had been extra thotful to grandparents, etc. This gives them a sudden leap of joy & no entitlement mentality. None of my kids can use emotional blackmail on me.

Just my way to help them focus fr very young. Right fr kindergarten. Don’t deny them completely, or them rebel or go underground worst.

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Sun, 15 Dec 2019 07:43:02 GMT

Zappy — Sun, 15 Dec 2019 07:43:02 GMT

wandervale\" post_id=\"1953162\" time=\"1576330657\" user_id=\"140887:

Dear parents,

Please kindly share any tips on how your kids achieve good results. (above 90)

Many thanks! :rahrah:

#1 tip: control phone usage

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Sun, 15 Dec 2019 00:52:50 GMT

zac's mum — Sun, 15 Dec 2019 00:52:50 GMT

For lower primary maths, if child has no learning difficulties, getting 90++ is simply a matter of practice, practice, practice…build the familiarity with the various types of questions that can come out for each topic. From basic type to challenging type. Past year exam papers helped a lot in our practice.

Other subjects, really no idea cos not 90+

Reply to Tips to achieve good results? on Sat, 14 Dec 2019 15:05:28 GMT

zac's mum — Sat, 14 Dec 2019 15:05:28 GMT

wandervale\" post_id=\"1953162\" time=\"1576330657\" user_id=\"140887:

Dear parents,

Please kindly share any tips on how your kids achieve good results. (above 90)

Many thanks! :rahrah:

Every child is different.

Some are born with personality that likes to study. Some are born with personality that likes to please.

Some are born with play play play on their mind.

Some are born with slower processing speed or poor memory or other learning difficulties.

There’s no one-size-fits-all solution to get 90++