<![CDATA[Counseling for secondary kids]]>Hi,

Any one has advice on good counseling or psychiatrist to recommend?

My son got attitude problem.. violence inclined (not in action yet).. and poor interpersonal skills...

Really need help on this :?: 😒 :stupid:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/9509/counseling-for-secondary-kidsRSS for NodeMon, 27 Apr 2026 05:50:51 GMTSun, 14 Mar 2010 02:33:38 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Wed, 15 Dec 2010 05:57:40 GMT]]>

peh-boo:
studies have proven that the 1st 6 years of a child's life n growth is the most critical - how u develop them.

and from 7-12 is known as maintenance years.
from 13 onwards, u may not see much of them anymore.
That is why it is worrying cos this is the stage they start to argue and have their own thinking..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313827https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313827Wed, 15 Dec 2010 05:57:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Tue, 14 Dec 2010 08:45:26 GMT]]>studies have proven that the 1st 6 years of a child’s life n growth is the most critical - how u develop them.

and from 7-12 is known as maintenance years.
from 13 onwards, u may not see much of them anymore.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313377https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313377Tue, 14 Dec 2010 08:45:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Tue, 14 Dec 2010 08:38:38 GMT]]>

KoalaMummy:
Hi millan, from your post, i somewhat identify with you, cos my son was just like what you describe your son to be... smart, optimistic yet not able to control his emotions. (I was also very disappointed that he didn't get into GEP. :stupid: ) My son going P5 next year and is undergoing school counselling. Lets do share and all learn together in this journey of motherhood. :celebrate:

Actually for me, I am fine he is not in GEP. If he is not there, then let it be. In fact I fall of my chair when my 2nd son went in. Comparatively, by character, my second son seems to be mre suitable for GEP as he is more 'sensible'. For my elder son, the school commented that they dun handle this type of case, I got to find my own, which is now I am waiting to sent him for diagnostic test on asperger...

He is 13 liao and yet still like bo chap. He just say that he just want to pretend that way but if needed he will be mature enough, but... such frequency is very lille leh haiz...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313371https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313371Tue, 14 Dec 2010 08:38:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Tue, 14 Dec 2010 07:43:38 GMT]]>Hi millan, from your post, i somewhat identify with you, cos my son was just like what you describe your son to be... smart, optimistic yet not able to control his emotions. (I was also very disappointed that he didn't get into GEP. :stupid: ) My son going P5 next year and is undergoing school counselling. Lets do share and all learn together in this journey of motherhood. :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313319https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313319Tue, 14 Dec 2010 07:43:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Tue, 14 Dec 2010 07:31:14 GMT]]>

Zann:
millan:

Sounds familiar, but he is pessimistic, he keeps saying he is a genius.... :stupid:


Was he from GEP ?

no, we thot he can go in , in th end the younger brother went in. Sometimes I test him to see if he feels not good abt it but he insists he is ok...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313308https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313308Tue, 14 Dec 2010 07:31:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Tue, 14 Dec 2010 07:29:55 GMT]]>

millan:
Sounds familiar, but he is pessimistic, he keeps saying he is a genius.... :stupid:

Was he from GEP ?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313306https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313306Tue, 14 Dec 2010 07:29:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Tue, 14 Dec 2010 01:16:05 GMT]]>

kaka:
Just want to share I have met a boy who is labeled as \"problematic\". I realized he liked to read books that are related to violence, death ... some books he read looked eerie to me as the cover showed blood, cemetary etc. He talked the world being cruel and unfair, that his mother caned him to vent her frustrations etc ... He is not physically violence but has very negative thoughts towards life. I share my thoughts with him that those books he read might influence his view of life and that he is probably misunderstanding his mother. Somehow later, I saw him reading more motivational books and has a better attitude. I dont think its me but I felt happy to see his improvement πŸ˜„

Sounds familiar, but he is pessimistic, he keeps saying he is a genius.... :stupid:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313043https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313043Tue, 14 Dec 2010 01:16:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:01:42 GMT]]>Just want to share I have met a boy who is labeled as \"problematic\". I realized he liked to read books that are related to violence, death ... some books he read looked eerie to me as the cover showed blood, cemetary etc. He talked the world being cruel and unfair, that his mother caned him to vent her frustrations etc ... He is not physically violence but has very negative thoughts towards life. I share my thoughts with him that those books he read might influence his view of life and that he is probably misunderstanding his mother. Somehow later, I saw him reading more motivational books and has a better attitude. I dont think its me but I felt happy to see his improvement πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310852https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310852Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:01:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Wed, 08 Dec 2010 00:59:37 GMT]]>

Otah:
millan:

[quote=\"millan\"]Hi,

Any one has advice on good counseling or psychiatrist to recommend?

My son got attitude problem.. violence inclined (not in action yet).. and poor interpersonal skills.

Really need help on this :?: 😒 :stupid:

Son is going for the thorough test soon, cost 1300 by IMH.

Anyone tried the test? My son read the Asperger book that I borrowed himself. he said he is not Asperger..

hi Milan, how old is your son. Was told around sec 4 the boys will be more settled. As parents we need to talk to them like adults and friends then they will not react like that.[/quote]13yrs old... I thot he will outgrow but not sure I shld gv it a chance. Inside my heart , I still hope believe he is ok. He is a very smart boy.. but maybe that is the problem..

The alarming thing is that he like violence, not physical but verbal, not passionate and self centered.. But there are times I saw him having a soft heart..and he dun know the boundary lor. If it is not written, he think can do it cos not agst the rules..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310363https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310363Wed, 08 Dec 2010 00:59:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Tue, 07 Dec 2010 16:21:19 GMT]]>

millan:
millan:

Hi,

Any one has advice on good counseling or psychiatrist to recommend?

My son got attitude problem.. violence inclined (not in action yet).. and poor interpersonal skills.

Really need help on this :?: 😒 :stupid:

Son is going for the thorough test soon, cost 1300 by IMH.

Anyone tried the test? My son read the Asperger book that I borrowed himself. he said he is not Asperger..

hi Milan, how old is your son. Was told around sec 4 the boys will be more settled. As parents we need to talk to them like adults and friends then they will not react like that.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310316https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310316Tue, 07 Dec 2010 16:21:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Tue, 07 Dec 2010 03:04:18 GMT]]>

millan:
Hi,

Any one has advice on good counseling or psychiatrist to recommend?

My son got attitude problem.. violence inclined (not in action yet).. and poor interpersonal skills.

Really need help on this :?: 😒 :stupid:
Son is going for the thorough test soon, cost 1300 by IMH.

Anyone tried the test? My son read the Asperger book that I borrowed himself. he said he is not Asperger..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/309917https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/309917Tue, 07 Dec 2010 03:04:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Thu, 22 Apr 2010 16:55:01 GMT]]>millan, it is human to err=) as vivi33 say do not take it too hard.


I cant say much as i am not a parent. But my parents too when they are angry they anyhow scold even when I am not in the issue. They cane me too. I believe most parents' parents here cane them when they are younger too. So don't think so much as to blame yourself.

If you have the time to blame yourself, why dont try to show him more love(not saying that you are not). When he is in a good mood bring him out and have a family day or something. Love definitely can solve things out. (Just buying things are not love :D)

I πŸ™ for you millan πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/165708https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/165708Thu, 22 Apr 2010 16:55:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Fri, 16 Apr 2010 09:53:01 GMT]]>

vivi33:
Dont take it so hard. No one is prefect including us parent. As long you do your best in guiding him, whatever the outcome is it, is it. This is my advise to my ds too. As long he tried his best, whatever his result I will be proud of him.

Problem now is more of his character....

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/161894https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/161894Fri, 16 Apr 2010 09:53:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Fri, 16 Apr 2010 03:00:15 GMT]]>Dont take it so hard. No one is prefect including us parent. As long you do your best in guiding him, whatever the outcome is it, is it. This is my advise to my ds too. As long he tried his best, whatever his result I will be proud of him.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/161642https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/161642Fri, 16 Apr 2010 03:00:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Tue, 13 Apr 2010 03:19:21 GMT]]>his school counselor. parent also must attend together for the first two session. but better talk to your dd first. some child don’t like it because if their friend see them go to counselor office mean something wrong.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/158970https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/158970Tue, 13 Apr 2010 03:19:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Mon, 05 Apr 2010 07:57:39 GMT]]>Hi,


Which counsellor did you goto ? My dd got the same problem as your ds. She always perform well in class lesson or common test, get good comments from teachers, but when come to exam or competition, she got nervous and panicky and can't do well.

Thanks.

vivi33:
millan wrote:
Mind if I ask what is the triggering factor to get a counsellor?

my ds is performing well in class lesson but not in exam since he is in Pri 4. Never thought of going for conselling till he is in sec 2. thought he is a late boomer since he is a year end baby. After conselling (about 6 months) then reliase he is not exam smart. after conselling things take a turning point and he become top few in class. Btw he is in neighbourhood school.

your son in SJI right? Heard they have very good consellor. πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/154049https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/154049Mon, 05 Apr 2010 07:57:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Sat, 27 Mar 2010 09:13:07 GMT]]>

KoalaMummy:
millan:

pai seh lor... not so productive :oops:


Nevermind lah...i understand... sometimes i also not free to post wat...


are you koala or penguin ? lolz

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/148151https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/148151Sat, 27 Mar 2010 09:13:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Sat, 27 Mar 2010 05:36:57 GMT]]>

millan:
pai seh lor... not so productive :oops:

Nevermind lah...i understand... sometimes i also not free to post wat...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/148038https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/148038Sat, 27 Mar 2010 05:36:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:37:53 GMT]]>

KoalaMummy:
millan:

Ya, not much time , you see the rest got high level belt, I still low... :0


haha...that's why i tho u join 3 days before me as your number of post and mine is about the same....

pai seh lor... not so productive :oops:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147647https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147647Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:37:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:31:53 GMT]]>

millan:
Ya, not much time , you see the rest got high level belt, I still low... :0

haha...that's why i tho u join 3 days before me as your number of post and mine is about the same....

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147638https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147638Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:31:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:29:17 GMT]]>

KoalaMummy:
KoalaMummy:

u join 3 days before me.. :celebrate:


oops, should be one year and 3 days... :!: didn't see the date properly... but u don't post often, do you??

Ya, not much time , you see the rest got high level belt, I still low... :0

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147636https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147636Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:29:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:26:34 GMT]]>

KoalaMummy:
u join 3 days before me.. :celebrate:

oops, should be one year and 3 days... :!: didn't see the date properly... but u don't post often, do you??

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147634https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147634Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:26:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:26:13 GMT]]>

KoalaMummy:
u join 3 days before me.. :celebrate:

no no 1 yr and 3 days but you are active than me.. πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147632https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/147632Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:26:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Counseling for secondary kids on Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:25:14 GMT]]>u join 3 days before me.. :celebrate:

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