<![CDATA[To those parents who coach your kids at home]]>

GeneL1976\" post_id=\"2012458\" time=\"1610953289\" user_id=\"182958:

Great seeing a lot of good tips here. Coaching can be hard but we as parents have to for their own sake
Exactlu. And homeschooling is actually parenting.

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GreyBear\" post_id=\"2007060\" time=\"1607281910\" user_id=\"189999:

I am just thinking about coaching. That is interesting to read answers
this is a tough one.
it has its pros and cons.
but if the child is still attending school, then coaching is something most parents will be doing - supplementing what is taught in school and revising topics with him/her.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2010669https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2010669Mon, 04 Jan 2021 00:51:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Wed, 30 Dec 2020 16:35:06 GMT]]>I am homeschooling my son. We started this year. It is a new adjustment, my son tends to be motivated with the homeschooling setup compared when he was in school. I gave him activities that are in line with the curriculum at the same time builds his interest. We learn together and I that’s how he gets motivated - knowing that I am with him through his learning. Even I am busy with housechores and with work, I set time for his homeschooling. So I think as parents we should sacrifice a lil bit and learn with our kids.


This covid thing is the only thing that stresses me lately. hehe

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CalvinS\" post_id=\"2006259\" time=\"1606807433\" user_id=\"165808:

For parents with 'homeschooled' kids how do you motivate them to study? I'm thinking of homeschooling my girl but I am hesitant she can adjust to it
How old is she, and is she willing? If not, why would you want to homeschool?

When we lived overseas, I did partial homeschooling. It's not a preferred choice for my family as my kids prefer to go to school where they get to meet friends and do things in groups. To homeschool successfully, both parents and kids have to be quite discipline and motivated. As a parent, you have to take on all the responsibility that we tend to leave to schools - PE, social activities, CCA etc.

How to motivate kids to study? They must be interested and inquisitive, and love learning for its own sake. Parents need to set an example. As I said, it's not easy to do well. Now with mobile phones and computers, it's very easy for kids to fritter their time away instead of learning unless they have good study habits and parents are watchful.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2006265https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2006265Tue, 01 Dec 2020 07:45:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Tue, 01 Dec 2020 07:23:53 GMT]]>For parents with ‘homeschooled’ kids how do you motivate them to study? I’m thinking of homeschooling my girl but I am hesitant she can adjust to it

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2006259https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2006259Tue, 01 Dec 2020 07:23:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Mon, 12 Oct 2020 04:01:31 GMT]]>daughter has been ‘home-schooled’ for the past 10 months…she has been on LOA for depression.

it’s been a tough period. before covid, she attended some subjects at tuition centres. then came CB and everything stalled. lessons switched to zoom sessions after that.

having her at home meant her emotional needs had to be handled with care. I planned her daily revision with flexibility, allowing time for fun and seeing the doctor.

nearer her N level, I told her I would need to ramp up her revision schedule. frankly I really feel like I’m the one taking exams.

kids who are home-schooled need to have social interaction with their peers…this will allow parents to have ME time while kids are out.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1998508https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1998508Mon, 12 Oct 2020 04:01:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Fri, 25 Sep 2020 10:33:15 GMT]]>Do agree, coaching them would help them be more responsible in life and be able to do right decisions.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1996346https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1996346Fri, 25 Sep 2020 10:33:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Wed, 16 Sep 2020 06:33:13 GMT]]>We make sure we come to an agreement when it comes to coaching our kids at home. She listens and I listen

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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1993261\" time=\"1598856600\" user_id=\"43981:

oic, so kiddo is in P6 now..ok then need be more ganjiong. Must sleep/rest well if can.. my gal I let her be and ended up not having enough rest and now she acknowledging that sleep is indeed important. I was so shag then as I need to wait for her to sleep at night or rather the next morning..and sometimes when I can't dong, I woke up middle of my sleep scrambling to find her.
Yes so true, now that u mention it, I also gancheong about their nutrition, food they eat and whether they sleep enuf >_<

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993492https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993492Wed, 02 Sep 2020 02:20:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Wed, 02 Sep 2020 02:04:36 GMT]]>Zac’smum: thanks for sharing this inspiring webinar! I loved especially the part where they say, "especially the mummies are the ones who feel they don’t do enough, the truth is, mummies out there, what you’ve done is really ENOUGH. "♥

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993490https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993490Wed, 02 Sep 2020 02:04:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Tue, 01 Sep 2020 12:42:05 GMT]]>Hi BlueCheese (and other mummies who coach their kids),


I watched this webinar on FB Live earlier today, found it very humorous & uplifting. If you need some encouragement & cheering up in the midst of this season of coaching your kids, I really recommend watching the video replay here. The hosts are tutors who are also mums. They are sharing more from the parenting POV and this is more light-hearted than their usual serious webinars.

Edit: correct link here

https://www.facebook.com/BlueTreeEducation/videos/648595789369340/

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BlueCheese\" post_id=\"1993258\" time=\"1598854171\" user_id=\"102877:

...Kid is now P6. ...
I can understand your husband's point of view if you are this close to the exam! I adjust how I teach and what I demand based on how close to the exam we are. By this stage, I would be insisting on exact conformity with whatever the \"standard\" is, even if I totally sympathise with my child. Kids of 12 are old enough to understand pragmatism: that sometimes you do things a certain way because it's necessary for the desired outcome, even if you think it's silly. They know I am much more flexible most of the time and that I agree that \"PSLE\" strictness is quite silly.

Does your husband demand exact conformity all year round? If so, you may need to talk to him about how you feel about it, your reasons for not liking that method, and reach some kind of compromise. But he may be just being pragmatic in these last few weeks.

If either of you absolutely cannot compromise, then one will have to take over completely and do it his/her way. But it's not a very good example to your kid if you two can't compromise at all.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993276https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993276Mon, 31 Aug 2020 08:01:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Mon, 31 Aug 2020 06:50:00 GMT]]>oic, so kiddo is in P6 now…ok then need be more ganjiong. Must sleep/rest well if can… my gal I let her be and ended up not having enough rest and now she acknowledging that sleep is indeed important. I was so shag then as I need to wait for her to sleep at night or rather the next morning…and sometimes when I can’t dong, I woke up middle of my sleep scrambling to find her.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993261https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993261Mon, 31 Aug 2020 06:50:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Mon, 31 Aug 2020 06:09:31 GMT]]>MrsKiasu: I’m sure your kids will find their own path independently with your backing… Competitiveness is also never in my blood that’s why I’m so laid back, much to the angst of the hubby lol… I do always ask the kids - how can I revise this with u? Am I clear enough? Need me to draw draw diagrams? To get feedback on how the info can be better digested by them.


Zac’s Mummy: I can totally relate what you say about the rigid way of marking especially Science which I’m coaching… It’s driving me crazy when different papers’ from each school + their own school answers differently. Kid is now P6. I always need to ask him back - will your teacher accept this answer?
Kudos to you for taking the initiative to look at psle seminars and info… My hubby is the one who’s really good at doing that (besides also looking out for supermkt promos and discounts >_<)

MerlionInGermany:
My kid IS already having tuition… Which is like a year after I started coaching him science and decided that i can only do so much… Better get a pro to teach him really HOW to answer to score which is really essential and which I can’t do cos like I said I hate drilling kids to study… #sorrynotsorry

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993258https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993258Mon, 31 Aug 2020 06:09:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Mon, 31 Aug 2020 04:03:02 GMT]]>What about sending the children off to tuition?

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BlueCheese\" post_id=\"1993225\" time=\"1598844278\" user_id=\"102877:

Zac's mum: thank u for your input, I'm very envy of your relationship. I already told my hubby I will try my best but he still insist I coach them and say 'there's no other way, you must coach them this xyz way then they will improve. If you don't like to do it, u also must do it. '
>…<
Not sure how old your kids are.

Mine is P4 and recently I complained to DH something similar. It is the PSLE exam marking that is too rigid. That’s why they only award marks to a fixed way of answering. I am also very sian, I don’t like to keep insisting on that fixed way & strain the relationship with my child. Otherwise there’s no way to improve his marks. I cried and vented. Child is not stupid or slow, but what to do, from A to A* this is what I have to insist on. It’s ridiculous that our system cannot be more forgiving & see that a wider range of answers can correctly reflect that a child understands & grasps the primary school syllabus well enough.

Maybe need to discuss with spouse the root cause of needing to score high. I did...we intend to relax our expectations a bit. Slightly lower grades are not a reflection of his intellect (not to us). If he cannot get into the course/school that we want, so be it. We’ll live with it. Love our child nonetheless.

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BlueCheese\" post_id=\"1993213\" time=\"1598842690\" user_id=\"102877:

MrsKiasu: your kid is v lucky to have both your moral support even if u don't coach them

Zac's mum: has it ever crossed your mind to 'persuade' or ask your hubby to try teaching it your way (which you are using and works with the kid & can see improvement) so maybe he will find it easier to teach? Do you think any lesser of him if he just 'surrenders' and 'gives up' because of frustration?
I can only say they are 'lucky' as of now. The road in front of them maybe tough. But I do hope that they could slowly venture into it with some stronger foundation built in areas other than academic..I hope I m not too wrong.. also I guess competitiveness is not in my blood and just too bad they see me 24/7.

Having both parents being so caring on kids studies is generally good but I find that having space within ourselves is important..probably both you and your dh have your own ways and views but dont neglect about the views from kids too..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993229https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993229Mon, 31 Aug 2020 03:44:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Mon, 31 Aug 2020 03:24:38 GMT]]>Zac’s mum: thank u for your input, I’m very envy of your relationship. I already told my hubby I will try my best but he still insist I coach them and say 'there’s no other way, you must coach them this xyz way then they will improve. If you don’t like to do it, u also must do it. '

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BlueCheese\" post_id=\"1993213\" time=\"1598842690\" user_id=\"102877:

MrsKiasu: your kid is v lucky to have both your moral support even if u don't coach them

Zac's mum: has it ever crossed your mind to 'persuade' or ask your hubby to try teaching it your way (which you are using and works with the kid & can see improvement) so maybe he will find it easier to teach? Do you think any lesser of him if he just 'surrenders' and 'gives up' because of frustration?
Er, no it hasn’t crossed my mind. We are both different personalities & different parenting styles. I guess we know where each others’ strengths lie. I wouldn’t ask/force him to use my method. Sometimes I feel tired shouldering all the burden for academics, then I go vent on him lor. He will pacify me & try to make it up in other ways like doing more household chores.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993216https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993216Mon, 31 Aug 2020 03:05:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Mon, 31 Aug 2020 02:58:10 GMT]]>MrsKiasu: your kid is v lucky to have both your moral support even if u don’t coach them


Zac’s mum: has it ever crossed your mind to ‘persuade’ or ask your hubby to try teaching it your way (which you are using and works with the kid & can see improvement) so maybe he will find it easier to teach? Do you think any lesser of him if he just ‘surrenders’ and ‘gives up’ because of frustration?

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BlueCheese\" post_id=\"1993183\" time=\"1598834804\" user_id=\"102877:

Can I ask a few questions :

1. do u mind if your spouse is more relaxed and not as kancheong as you regarding kids' results?

2. if you regularly revise with your kids and want to rope your spouse in, do u insist/force if your spouse say she's not good/can't teach/rather give moral support in other ways?

3. if you do managed to persuade in your partner to revise the kids' work with them, do u insist they do it your way (eg. You're very systematic 'drilling tuition teacher' style but your other half is more spontaneous (but still passionate)?

I'm a mum feeling stressed cos hubby wants me to follow his style but I'm more spontaneous, enjoy inspiring and exploring the fun bits with the kids (I'm in charge of science) and hate the drilling style, although it gets them more marks. Dilemma....
Hi, I’m a fellow mummy. DH is more kancheong than me about kid’s results. But he “outsource” the coaching of academic matters to me. He knows that my grades are better & I am more in tune with the current syllabus (I see it as my “job” to read up about the latest developments, whether on KSP or watch PSLE webinars by tuition centres etc).

DH did try coaching kid for Maths (his best subject) - always ended up shouting impatiently. Terrified the kid & always back to me again. DH surrenders and says he can’t teach. So he will trust me to do it. He doesn’t micromanage but he will help me nag the kid to work hard, improve his attitude, etc. So yes, he gives me the moral support. He is responsible for play time & sports. It’s ok if you can both agree on the duties & support each other.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993208https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993208Mon, 31 Aug 2020 02:27:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to To those parents who coach your kids at home on Mon, 31 Aug 2020 02:14:24 GMT]]>We are not in this category… I m bad and my dh is worse so I guess kids are lucky as of now.


On a more general advice, if me I will just ask him to do the coaching la.

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