<![CDATA[Why does MUM has to make all the Decision?????]]>Sometimes...i wonder if it is because MUMMIES are more kaisu or simply more concern about the children's future?


Why does mum has to be ONE TO...decide...

Which preschool or primary school to send the children to, the type of enrichment class, which brand of milk (to make them smarter and healthier..aahaha..) and the list GOES on and ON.

All the daddy has to do is
1) Say \"okie\".. (after you have done all our research) OR
2) Give some suggestion and expected the mummy to ACT on it.

ahah...do i sound that i am complaining or WAT? :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/98/why-does-mum-has-to-make-all-the-decisionRSS for NodeFri, 17 Apr 2026 08:38:23 GMTTue, 29 Jan 2008 08:48:27 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Mon, 22 Nov 2010 13:25:44 GMT]]>I prefer that my husband NOT make any major decisions.

My mum keeps joking that his first major decision was already a huge mistake (marrying me).

Anyway, I prefer that my husband leaves it to me to make the final decision though he will bring up some concerns and other possibilities for me to think about.

And, I like that he will just go along with what has been planned instead of kick up a fuss about it.

If I really want him to decide on something, I will tell it to him straight that he has to decide and I will go along with anything he decides.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299345https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299345Mon, 22 Nov 2010 13:25:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Mon, 22 Nov 2010 13:03:45 GMT]]>

MummyThreeStreams:
I guess mummies feel the extra pressure coz somehow we are always worrying about our kids. Not that the daddies don't think about their kids, but not ALL the time!


We practice specialization in our home. I take care of the day to day running of the household a keeping track of kids's schedule, when to do laundry, what groceries to buy, etc. But my hubby takes care of our finances - budgeting, making sure bills are paid, investments etc.

We make decisions jointly, but usually one party has to do the research and the rest of the leg work and present the options for discussions. It's usually the one who is more knowledgeable or anxious about it (eg I did research on music class, he did research on soccer class). I must confess though, sometimes when I have done all my homework and have identified what I think is a brilliant solution, then he'll throw up other concerns, questions and options. And I get so annoyed because I just want him to rubber stamp the decision and not make me go and do more work to address those concerns! But in the end, we usually reach a better outcome.

I'm generally happy with the arrangement, though I will complain to my DH that I do a lot. if i'm overwhelmed i ask for help. and when I really feel unappreciated, I just stop doing his laundry This helps me let off steam.
Well... you are lucky. My dh usually can't make decisions when it comes to ds so I have to do it. All I need to do is just keep him informed. When it comes to kids he really don't know what to do. He thinks being a SAHM is easy work. Actually I am always worrying about ds sch work & stuff like this. Sometimes, I just tell him why don't he stays home while I go to work so he will understand how it feels to make all those decisions alone. :stupid: :x

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299332https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299332Mon, 22 Nov 2010 13:03:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Mon, 22 Nov 2010 04:44:11 GMT]]>Hello ,


I like your last statement...stop doing his laundry....hahaha

For me, if make me angry, I will spend his money away...(lol)Actually, its stop being too thrify.


cheers

MummyThreeStreams:
I guess mummies feel the extra pressure coz somehow we are always worrying about our kids. Not that the daddies don't think about their kids, but not ALL the time!

We practice specialization in our home. I take care of the day to day running of the household a keeping track of kids's schedule, when to do laundry, what groceries to buy, etc. But my hubby takes care of our finances - budgeting, making sure bills are paid, investments etc.

We make decisions jointly, but usually one party has to do the research and the rest of the leg work and present the options for discussions. It's usually the one who is more knowledgeable or anxious about it (eg I did research on music class, he did research on soccer class). I must confess though, sometimes when I have done all my homework and have identified what I think is a brilliant solution, then he'll throw up other concerns, questions and options. And I get so annoyed because I just want him to rubber stamp the decision and not make me go and do more work to address those concerns! But in the end, we usually reach a better outcome.

I'm generally happy with the arrangement, though I will complain to my DH that I do a lot. if i'm overwhelmed i ask for help. and when I really feel unappreciated, I just stop doing his laundry This helps me let off steam.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/298895https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/298895Mon, 22 Nov 2010 04:44:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Mon, 22 Nov 2010 04:35:45 GMT]]>I guess mummies feel the extra pressure coz somehow we are always worrying about our kids. Not that the daddies don’t think about their kids, but not ALL the time!


We practice specialization in our home. I take care of the day to day running of the household a keeping track of kids’s schedule, when to do laundry, what groceries to buy, etc. But my hubby takes care of our finances - budgeting, making sure bills are paid, investments etc.

We make decisions jointly, but usually one party has to do the research and the rest of the leg work and present the options for discussions. It’s usually the one who is more knowledgeable or anxious about it (eg I did research on music class, he did research on soccer class). I must confess though, sometimes when I have done all my homework and have identified what I think is a brilliant solution, then he’ll throw up other concerns, questions and options. And I get so annoyed because I just want him to rubber stamp the decision and not make me go and do more work to address those concerns! But in the end, we usually reach a better outcome.

I’m generally happy with the arrangement, though I will complain to my DH that I do a lot. if i’m overwhelmed i ask for help. and when I really feel unappreciated, I just stop doing his laundry This helps me let off steam.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/298885https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/298885Mon, 22 Nov 2010 04:35:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Mon, 22 Nov 2010 01:11:13 GMT]]>

Mathmaniac:
I'm a dad and I'm making most of the decisions. I enjoy being in control though but there are some people who disobey my rules! :x

Good that some of you dads are taking control of your children's lives. However, not all dads are like this. Your wives are really lucky....they did not need to make any major decisions regarding children unlike most of us here... 😞

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/298687https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/298687Mon, 22 Nov 2010 01:11:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Thu, 11 Nov 2010 09:38:33 GMT]]>I’m a dad and I’m making most of the decisions. I enjoy being in control though but there are some people who disobey my rules! :x

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/292985https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/292985Thu, 11 Nov 2010 09:38:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Wed, 10 Nov 2010 07:17:01 GMT]]>

Mrs Ang:
3Boys:

[quote=\"AuntieKiasi\"]
I think most men either subscribe to this saying...\"Mums know best\" or they simply*bochap*

err.....no

Lol so 3Boys which position are you holding at home?[/quote]Chief finder-outer for enrichment classes

Chief parent volunteer for P1 priority enrolment

Chief family holiday planner

Chief English and Math coach

Chief tennis and badminton coach

Chief taker-carer of DW 😉 (most important role, really)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/292223https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/292223Wed, 10 Nov 2010 07:17:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Wed, 10 Nov 2010 05:10:11 GMT]]>

3Boys:
AuntieKiasi:


I think most men either subscribe to this saying...\"Mums know best\" or they simply*bochap*

err.....no

Lol so 3Boys which position are you holding at home?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/292124https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/292124Wed, 10 Nov 2010 05:10:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Wed, 10 Nov 2010 01:18:44 GMT]]>Wow - kudos to the Mums that hold so many positions! Make sure that you also hold the ever so important - Minister of Finance position too! 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/291921https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/291921Wed, 10 Nov 2010 01:18:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Wed, 10 Nov 2010 01:12:35 GMT]]>

AuntieKiasi:

I think most men either subscribe to this saying...\"Mums know best\" or they simply*bochap*
err.....no

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/291916https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/291916Wed, 10 Nov 2010 01:12:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Tue, 09 Nov 2010 14:43:45 GMT]]>

Mrs Ang:
AuntieKiasi:

[quote=\"duriz\"]
A mini parliament in your house.
Cute :celebrate:

LOL...quite true :lol: ...aka o.m.o parliament :lol:

:lol: there must be one mini parliament in every household[/quote]I think most men either subscribe to this saying...\"Mums know best\" or they simply*bochap*

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/291788https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/291788Tue, 09 Nov 2010 14:43:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Tue, 09 Nov 2010 09:42:49 GMT]]>

AuntieKiasi:
duriz:

[quote=\"AuntieKiasi\"]Hi angelight,

wow, good leh..ur DH can look @ \"big pic\". I not only Minister of home affairs (take charge of all DS school work & stuff)...I'm also Minister of Foreign Affairs (plan where to bring DS for holidays)... I'm also Prime Minister (must shape DS future)....also Minister of Health (make tonic drinks for DH & DS)....Minister of Info & Arts (ensure DS don't watch show not suitable for him)...Minister of Env (cleanliness of the house)...Minister of Law (discipline matters & rules of house)...Minister of Finance (marketing)....Minister of Education (DS tuition & DS homework checker)...Minister of sports (bring Ds for swim lessons)...etc....

A mini parliament in your house.
Cute :celebrate:

LOL...quite true :lol: ...aka o.m.o parliament :lol:[/quote]:lol: there must be one mini parliament in every household

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/291692https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/291692Tue, 09 Nov 2010 09:42:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Wed, 03 Nov 2010 01:06:44 GMT]]>

duriz:
AuntieKiasi:

Hi angelight,

wow, good leh..ur DH can look @ \"big pic\". I not only Minister of home affairs (take charge of all DS school work & stuff)...I'm also Minister of Foreign Affairs (plan where to bring DS for holidays)... I'm also Prime Minister (must shape DS future)....also Minister of Health (make tonic drinks for DH & DS)....Minister of Info & Arts (ensure DS don't watch show not suitable for him)...Minister of Env (cleanliness of the house)...Minister of Law (discipline matters & rules of house)...Minister of Finance (marketing)....Minister of Education (DS tuition & DS homework checker)...Minister of sports (bring Ds for swim lessons)...etc....

A mini parliament in your house.
Cute :celebrate:

LOL...quite true :lol: ...aka o.m.o parliament :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/288176https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/288176Wed, 03 Nov 2010 01:06:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Tue, 02 Nov 2010 01:35:49 GMT]]>

AuntieKiasi:
Hi angelight,

wow, good leh..ur DH can look @ \"big pic\". I not only Minister of home affairs (take charge of all DS school work & stuff)...I'm also Minister of Foreign Affairs (plan where to bring DS for holidays)... I'm also Prime Minister (must shape DS future)....also Minister of Health (make tonic drinks for DH & DS)....Minister of Info & Arts (ensure DS don't watch show not suitable for him)...Minister of Env (cleanliness of the house)...Minister of Law (discipline matters & rules of house)...Minister of Finance (marketing)....Minister of Education (DS tuition & DS homework checker)...Minister of sports (bring Ds for swim lessons)...etc....
A mini parliament in your house.
Cute :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/287384https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/287384Tue, 02 Nov 2010 01:35:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Mon, 01 Nov 2010 14:23:16 GMT]]>

Tinkerbelle:
AuntieKiasi:

Hi Tinkerbell,

what to do? DH is a very soft type of man. Cannot make big decisions. So, I've to take over, right? & when decision is made, I'd to tell ppl, it is his decision. sigh...

Hi AuntieKiasi,
If it's any consolation, maybe your DH has a great deal of respect for you, that's why you get to make all the major decisions. Very noble of you to give him credit for the decisions you made...... :ugogirl:

tks tinkerbelle.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/287204https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/287204Mon, 01 Nov 2010 14:23:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Sun, 31 Oct 2010 19:09:15 GMT]]>

AuntieKiasi:
Hi Tinkerbell,

what to do? DH is a very soft type of man. Cannot make big decisions. So, I've to take over, right? & when decision is made, I'd to tell ppl, it is his decision. sigh...
Hi AuntieKiasi,
If it's any consolation, maybe your DH has a great deal of respect for you, that's why you get to make all the major decisions. Very noble of you to give him credit for the decisions you made...... :ugogirl:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/286357https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/286357Sun, 31 Oct 2010 19:09:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Sat, 30 Oct 2010 11:42:06 GMT]]>Hi Tinkerbell,

what to do? DH is a very soft type of man. Cannot make big decisions. So, I’ve to take over, right? & when decision is made, I’d to tell ppl, it is his decision. sigh…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/285941https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/285941Sat, 30 Oct 2010 11:42:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 18:44:09 GMT]]>

AuntieKiasi:
Angelight:

Hi cherrygal,


That's the exact title DH gave me - Minister of Home Affairs! 😄

Basically, I just make all the decisions with regard to home affairs. But DH has the final say on the bigger decision like family investing, big budget purchase like car, and family vacation (though I get to give him a few choices on holiday destinations).

It works out fine for us as hubby is the type that looks at 'big picture' and me 'the tiny details'.

Hi angelight,
wow, good leh..ur DH can look @ \"big pic\". I not only Minister of home affairs (take charge of all DS school work & stuff)...I'm also Minister of Foreign Affairs (plan where to bring DS for holidays)... I'm also Prime Minister (must shape DS future)....also Minister of Health (make tonic drinks for DH & DS)....Minister of Info & Arts (ensure DS don't watch show not suitable for him)...Minister of Env (cleanliness of the house)...Minister of Law (discipline matters & rules of house)...Minister of Finance (marketing)....Minister of Education (DS tuition & DS homework checker)...Minister of sports (bring Ds for swim lessons)...etc....

:rotflmao: Well said Auntiekiasi. My sentiments exactly. To add on, I'm also Minister of Transport (drive the kids to school, piano lessons etc)..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/285789https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/285789Fri, 29 Oct 2010 18:44:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 17:17:25 GMT]]>

Angelight:
Hi cherrygal,


That's the exact title DH gave me - Minister of Home Affairs! 😄

Basically, I just make all the decisions with regard to home affairs. But DH has the final say on the bigger decision like family investing, big budget purchase like car, and family vacation (though I get to give him a few choices on holiday destinations).

It works out fine for us as hubby is the type that looks at 'big picture' and me 'the tiny details'.
Hi angelight,
wow, good leh..ur DH can look @ \"big pic\". I not only Minister of home affairs (take charge of all DS school work & stuff)...I'm also Minister of Foreign Affairs (plan where to bring DS for holidays)... I'm also Prime Minister (must shape DS future)....also Minister of Health (make tonic drinks for DH & DS)....Minister of Info & Arts (ensure DS don't watch show not suitable for him)...Minister of Env (cleanliness of the house)...Minister of Law (discipline matters & rules of house)...Minister of Finance (marketing)....Minister of Education (DS tuition & DS homework checker)...Minister of sports (bring Ds for swim lessons)...etc....

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/285786https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/285786Fri, 29 Oct 2010 17:17:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Tue, 26 Oct 2010 02:40:39 GMT]]>:rant: hahahahhaha......

Why when DS need to settle an issue in school
like getting a meeting with school and such.....

Mummy is the kan cheong one ......
😢 😢 😢 😢

Mummies are all Octopus ...FTWM, full time work at home mum,
full time teaching DS mum..... 😢 😢

but then having said all that DS run to me everytime he has a problem
this is what Mummy love right :love: ....our darling :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/282339https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/282339Tue, 26 Oct 2010 02:40:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Fri, 15 Oct 2010 10:41:39 GMT]]>Hi cherrygal,


That's the exact title DH gave me - Minister of Home Affairs! 😄

Basically, I just make all the decisions with regard to home affairs. But DH has the final say on the bigger decision like family investing, big budget purchase like car, and family vacation (though I get to give him a few choices on holiday destinations).

It works out fine for us as hubby is the type that looks at 'big picture' and me 'the tiny details'.

cherrygal:
It is really taxing on us IF we have to work full time, cook, do groceries, clean, take care of the children AND still do everything else. That's quite unfair. But when I become a SAHM, maybe I will be more receptive to take on more of the nitty gritty and become the minister of home affairs! ahahah

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/277306https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/277306Fri, 15 Oct 2010 10:41:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Thu, 14 Oct 2010 07:01:33 GMT]]>but I think most of the dads here are the more proactive lot.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/276423https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/276423Thu, 14 Oct 2010 07:01:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Thu, 14 Oct 2010 03:39:59 GMT]]>

cherrygal:
It is really taxing on us IF we have to work full time, cook, do groceries, clean, take care of the children AND still do everything else. That's quite unfair. But when I become a SAHM, maybe I will be more receptive to take on more of the nitty gritty and become the minister of home affairs! ahahah

Yeah, when I was working full time, I had to do all the stuff. And I know it is quite difficult to get my hubby involved because of his hectic schedule. But it was very tiring for me so in the end, I quit my job to make life more manageable for myself.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/276239https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/276239Thu, 14 Oct 2010 03:39:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Why does MUM has to make all the Decision????? on Thu, 14 Oct 2010 03:12:47 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
Not all moms cook. I know of one who only has to think of where to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner everyday.


As a SAHM, we gotta do everything...including buying toiletries and groceries (I enjoy doing this). Oh yes, not to mention being the 'in-house doctor' as well.
Almost all mummies have to do all these lah. Be it SAHM or FTWM, these are choices that we have all made.

And because we tend to be the ones handling the day to day stuff, naturally we are the ones making the decisions. If gotta wait for the hubby to make every single decision, think a lot of things will not be done. In any case, where I am concern, DH will say up to you lor.

I also know of a SAHM who does not cook. Not because she doesn't want to but because her family basically begged her not to. Hahah. They prefer to eat out. And I know of a FTWM who wakes up at 5am every morning to prepare breakfast for her family and the day's meal before heading to work. And was studying part time 3 times a week and was at that time preggy with her 2nd child. No idea where she find the energy.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/276197https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/276197Thu, 14 Oct 2010 03:12:47 GMT