My initial post was this: http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum ... 49&t=61238


This is an update
This maid gave me a LOT of headache

1) She was hurting my daughter who is 8 years old. Digging her long nails into my child's head. She will also tell my daughter constantly that she is not good and selfish. She'd say a lot of bad things to my daughter and scare her that she will leave her alone in the flat. Sometimes, when my daughter is calling me she will grab the phone from her and ask her to go to her room. She also scolds and shouts at my daughter.
2) She doesn't follow my instructions. When I tell her to do something that is on top of her daily workload (example ask her to clean cieling fan which is only done once every two to four weeks), she'll ignore me. As if she didn't hear anything. She will not do the task unless you tell her again. Then she'll act angry and ignore me the whole day.
3) She broke a lot of things at home without telling me. SHE broke my convection oven, the dish rack, pans. containers and plates. She even broke the sink and pipes and we had to replace it. Costed S$380.
4) She doesn't return the reciepts to me after grocery. Recently I noticed that grocery is fewer. And the brands are not the ones I taught her to buy. When ask where is the receipt she'll say she put on the draw box.
5) She became very rude to us when she doesn't get what she wants. We limited her wifi access to her phone only and removed laptop and tablet access. She insulted me in this and insisted that I am no good because I did not give her other gadgets access to wifi. This happened about 3 weeks ago.
6) She doesn't clean the flat as per expected. She also doesnt wash the clothes as scheduled. She doesnt follow the cleaning schedule that I gave her and the menu that I gave her.

Worst...
7) She got a bangladesh boyfriend. He always calls her. They are always talking on the phone. I discovered she also taking some kind of pills from indonesia. She told me these were contraceptives she buy from her friend.
She was making excuses to go out when I was working from home to see her boyfriend. She even asked me to give her friday night (until saturday morning) as additional day off to see boyfriend. This is on top of her current day off schedule.
9) She stole some of our personal things and use it as her own. SHE NEVer asked permission to use these things. It is ok though if she asks. But she didnt.
10) She want her salary to be increases to S$800. I hired her at 500. Increased her salary to 550 after 6 months. Then gave her another increment of 50. These are salary increases because i wanted her to be inspired to work better.
11) If I talk to her in a nice way to correct her work, she doesnt folllow. If I scold her, she doesnt follow. If I text her, she doesnt follow. She will only do what she wants.

And so many more. Overall, she was very stubborn, rude, hurts our child and doesnt work as per expected.

A few days ago, I told her to clean something. She got mad and told me to bring her back to the agency. (sigh!). So I did. I brought her back.

Then I sent a feedback to MOM about her performance (good points), problems that arose during her stay with us and also the priveleges that she had at home.

I hope that the new employer will be wise enough to check that out

Whoever is interedted to know just send an email to me. [email protected]. I will reply with details.

Pom Pee Pee:

New maid loans for 6-8 mths depending on agency n how much they borrowed. Ex spore maid only 4 mths loans to clear.. Think u pampered ur maid too much til she 爬到頭上了啦。Very often, it doesn't mean that when u r gd to the maid, the maid will be gd to u n family. That's what happened to me also.

Yes I agree. Now I realized that when you are good to them, doesnt mean they will be good to you and your family too.

Thanks for all your input.


I have tried every single approach for her to appreciate her work at home. She can rest in the morning from 10am till 2pm until my kid comes back from school. She can also rest in the afternoon at 3pm until 6:30pm while my child sleeps. At night, I ask her to sleep at 10pm since she needs to wake up to prepare breakfast. For me, this is already a good arrangement since we need to work atleast 9-12 hours non stop every single day.

Also had a talk with the agency and even mom. But you are all correct. The best way to solve this is send her home. I have actually already started to call around for a new maid.

I would rather teach a new maid then retain this one. And again, you are all correct. She is not here to work. It feels she is out here for fun. Hubby even said that she is like having a vacation at home.

I want to just cancel and pass and send her home and give feedback to MOM so atleast if there is a new employer here, they will have a chance to read my report to MOM.

I have employed a filipina maid last december. She seemed nice and had worked for a family for 3 years before her employer just suddenly sacked her after an argument.


Anyway, I dont mind her not being too thorough in cleaning the flat. But what I noticed is that she is lazy. She initially will change towels, curtains and sheets after more than a month. She always have her nails long even if I already told her to cut it short. We also agreed that her curfew from day off is max 10pm but now she doesnt adhere to the agreement. Even if I already talked to her about it several times. She doesnt follow the rules
I gave her when she first came to my home. She would even make me look stupid when I told her she didnt do the cleaning. She’d sometimes say that the vacuum might have splattered the dust. (SIGH!).

I pay her 550 SGD per month. She shares a room with my sister. She also has internet access. She has a HP, a tablet and a computer. Also, every day off, she says that she goes to disco at Orchard Tower or Bugis. But she also told me that she wants to find a boyfriend (indian) because they give her money.

Yes. This sounds like rants but I do not know how else to make her understand that she is a maid. She even cook my daughter’s food for her own consumption.

I dont like to get into arguments or lecture her because after I do that she treats my daughter badly. My daughter always complains.

If you be kind to please give me your insights and thoughts. I am just getting tired of her excuses.