Communication with School

[mathsparks]

For pre-school, definitely, open communication, after all, parents pay $$$.


But in sec and parents keep seeing the teachers/principal to provide feedback, the child will be teased by his peers.

Or, even if it’s a one-off feedback, the teacher may question the child in class, making the kid embarrass again.

A lot depends on how receptive the school is to feedback. My 2cts.

[corneyAmber]

jedamum:

Will/have you openly communicate with the school/teachers with regards to school issues involving your child or the school's policy/teacher's conduct etc?


Or will/are you be more reserved for fear that your kid may be ostracized?

For me, it depends on what the issue is so my answer is a maybe. I don't have a fixed approach and I do not encourage a fixed approach.

Yes the fear is real but I would also let the school know at the risk of such a thing for my child, I have outweighed the change will stand to benefit the school and everyone more. Otherwise I will stand by my fear and find an alternative solution to my problem.

I believe it is also preferred to provide feedback as long as there is a constructive solution proposed at the same time. It is always easy to state problem statement but most people have no resolution and that actually put people in a spot. However, if the resolution is not accepted, we should not feel dejected either, at least we have tried.

[CJS]

Last year, my ds physics teacher skipped six (2 period each) lessons in one term because she needs to be involved in basketball CCA. :x The Physics lessons are scheduled in his class time-table. I complained to the HOD but all he said was tat she is the only teacher-in-charge of the CCA and tat he himself also do this at times. :stupid: However, he said he will talk to her and after tat she still \"pon-tan\" the class. :shock:

[CJS]

I have a question, maybe all of you can give me some ideas. Yesterday, I called my ds school and asked to speak to the principal. The clerk says he is not in. I asked for the VP but he is also not in. I asked her to let the principal call me back and she asked me for the reason. I gave the reason (it was a serious issue) and she says she is aware and she will inform the principal but does not take down my number for the principal to call. I repeated my request and she is still … till I got fed up and threaten to call MOE and then immediately she asked for my number. Why must the school only react when parents threaten to go to MOE ?

[jedamum]

CJS:

I have a question, maybe all of you can give me some ideas. Yesterday, I called my ds school and asked to speak to the principal. The clerk says he is not in. I asked for the VP but he is also not in. I asked her to let the principal call me back and she asked me for the reason. I gave the reason (it was a serious issue) and she says she is aware and she will inform the principal but does not take down my number for the principal to call. I repeated my request and she is still ........ till I got fed up and threaten to call MOE and then immediately she asked for my number. Why must the school only react when parents threaten to go to MOE ?

i feel that sometimes admin staff does not know the anxiety us parents are going through.
when met with such next time, just email the principal direct and cc to the VP.

[Amos2010]

ks2me:

I believe it is also preferred to provide feedback as long as there is a constructive solution proposed at the same time. It is always easy to state problem statement but most people have no resolution and that actually put people in a spot. However, if the resolution is not accepted, we should not feel dejected either, at least we have tried.

Agree. This is the case for me now.

[nani]

Hi


was just :?

How many parents here would speak up and question your child teachers/principals/authority when you are unhappy or to find out the rationale behind certain programmes/policies, etc.

If you do - do you FEAR that your child will be unduly disadvantaged due to your feedback.

Or would you let your child goes with the flow and follows what is so called RULES even thou not logical or value added.

[schellen]

If it is minor and doesn’t really affect my child and/or us much, then I don’t bother. If it is serious (affects safety/heath, etc) or goes against our beliefs, etc, then I will speak up. I understand the school system and how schools are run so perhaps, it makes it easier for me to broach the subject and with whom.

[jedamum]

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=1222&highlight=school

[blackberrycck]

actually what ive experienced was in schools be it staff or teachers, any issues raised by parents they will try to pacify u on the spot. And wan u to leave asap or they will use plan B : die of natural death. jus delay until u forget or the child promote or graduate.